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Living Simple: Living Life As An Anachronism

Updated on August 26, 2012
Giving up value and virtues is a slippery slope
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Bev is an anachronism of the highest order
Bev is an anachronism of the highest order | Source
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This is where my set of values came from. | Source

So you might be asking yourself what, exactly, is an anachronism. A rough definition is a thing or person who is living in the wrong time period, or who belongs in a different time period.

I am an anachronism! Guilty as charged; pass down my sentence and I will gladly do the time.

What is my defense? I really don’t have one! I grew up during a simpler time, a time when there were values, a time when there wasn’t fear, a time when people were helpful and friendly. Somehow I became trapped in a time warp, unable to free my mind from that time. Forty years have passed but I seem to still be stuck in that time period.

I know, time marches on, and as the march continued many of my peers tossed aside the old ways and became part of the convenient society. I was left behind, willingly I might add, so I am guilty. Do with me as you please. I make no excuses and I offer no apologies. I’m just a grumpy old fart who refuses to play the game, who would rather “stack the time” than sacrifice principles that I believe are important.

What? You’re confused? What in the world am I talking about?

Perhaps this will go smoother if I explain some of those aforementioned principles. Then maybe you’ll see that I really don’t belong in the year 2012.

R E S P E C T…..FIND OUT WHAT IT MEANS TO ME…..R E S P E C T

I was raised to respect people. I can’t help it, that’s just the way it was when I was growing up, and it has stayed with me all of these years. Give respect and demand it in return. Pretty simple words to live by and I’ll be damned if I can understand why it isn’t done today. From the Halls of Congress to the street punks with hanging drawers, there is a general lack of respect in society today and I refuse to be a part of it.

How much effort does it take to say please and thank you? How much effort does it take to hold a door open for someone or speak in a respectful tone? How much effort does it take to…..act human?

SERVICE TO OTHERS….TRY IT, YOU JUST MIGHT LIKE IT

There is a technique I use every time I start feeling sorry for myself. It has never failed me and I have never seen it fail someone else. Do you want to know what it is? I help someone else who has it worse off than me.

This little trick was instilled in me at a very early age. Once a month our family would pile into the car and volunteer down at the church where clothes and food were handed out to the needy. When it snowed my dad would hand me a shovel and have me shovel the driveways of the elderly in our neighborhood. When a neighbor was sick you could count on other neighbors helping out with the yard work or running errands for the sick friend.

We did those things because it was the right thing to do, and the act of kindness carried a bonus, namely that you felt good about yourself after you helped someone.

A MAN IS ONLY AS GOOD AS HIS WORD

I remember a thing called commitment when I was growing up. If you said you were going to do something then you did it. If you made a promise you kept it. If you were hired to do a day’s work for a day’s pay, then by God that’s what you delivered. My parents came up during the Great Depression and they believed in the value of being a stand-up person.

You did not cheat someone out of money; you did not show up to work late or leave early, and if you said you could be counted on then you better be reliable and trustworthy. There was no wiggle-room in this; people were judged by their actions, and if their actions did not match up to their word they were considered a person of low character.

WHERE HAS HUMILITY GONE TO?

I have written about this before and I’m sure I’ll write about it again. This is, without a doubt, the most egocentric generation I have ever seen.

I can say this without any hesitation, and those of you who grew up when I did know it to be true. If I had walked around as a kid constantly talking about myself, I would have been in a fight daily. There was one sure consequence to bragging and that was a fat lip. I was told early on that a real man does not have to tell the world what he has accomplished; if it’s noteworthy the world will notice without you saying a word.

IS THERE ANY COMPASSION LEFT?

How many people do you know who have lost their job during this recession? Do you know anyone who has lost their home? Do you know anyone who has had a serious illness or a death in their family?

What do you think when you see a homeless guy on the street? Do you know anyone who is recently divorced? I saw my dad help a homeless drunk to get up out of the gutter one day; he then walked him over to a café and paid for his breakfast. I asked my dad if he knew the guy. Do you know what he said? He said no, but there were people who helped him during the Great Depression, and that’s just what people do for those who are down and out.

You don’t forget lessons like that one.

STRIVE FOR EXCELLENCE

When did it become fashionable to do a half-assed job at work? Or at school? Again, this is what I was told growing up: At the end of the day, Bill, only you will know if you gave it your best effort or you settled for mediocrity.

I’ve heard friends say that they don’t get paid enough to work too hard. I’ve heard students say that they don’t see what difference it makes if they fail or pass. There comes a time when all of those little acts of mediocrity become natural and a habit that can’t be shaken.

TO STRIVE, TO SEEK, TO FIND….AND NOT TO YIELD

Fortitude is the virtue by which inner strength is found to persevere despite hardships and tough challenges. Its step-sister is perseverance and I gotta tell ya, I’m seeing less and less of it as I get older. Having said that, I am blessed to know some very special people who have been hit by just about every hardship you can imagine and they are still standing tall.

Flip side…..as my teaching career waned I was seeing an ever-increasing number of kids who simply could not handle any kind of obstacle or hardship. I have major concerns when students begin uncontrollable wailing when they fail an assignment or rip a hole in their sweatshirt.

Challenges are a chance for growth. They test our character and define who we are. There is no test when things are going well; anyone can handle good fortune. Show me someone who is faced with serious complications and still maintains dignity and determination; that’s the person I want to have as a friend.

YEP, THE WRONG PLACE AT THE WRONG TIME

I don’t have a time machine so I’m pretty much stuck in this time and place. No matter how many times I’d like to beam back into the 60’s it isn’t going to happen. That leaves me with acceptance, my old nemesis. Since I happen to believe in fortitude, compassion, respect, service, humility and other virtues, I guess I’ll just have to remain an anachronism.

I’m starting a new club and you are welcome to join. It is called the Anachronism Club and it will be made up only of people who believe in a set of values that should define the human spirit. I would be proud to walk alongside of you, from this day forward, as proud members of this new organization.

Will you join me?

2012 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

For other Lifestyle Choices articles, see the following:

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/Lifestyle-Choices-The-Meaning-of-Integrity

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/Lifestyle-Choices-A-Matter-Of-Priorities

To purchase my Lifestyle Choices book on Kindle go to:

http://www.amazon.com/Lifestyle-Choices-ebook/dp/B007ZV9G2U/ref=sr_1_3?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1336064586&sr=1-3

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Raci, I believe you are correct. I do feel like that is my mission, so I guess I'd better get busy and write more hubs. Thank you my friend and have a wonderful evening in Cebu!

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      as I read your hub, i was reminded by the camel driver who told the young shepherd to live by the moment, but as i read further, i do get your point...but maybe the real reason why you are stuck in this time is because you have a mission to fulfill and that is to influence the people on the set of values you want to aspire...

      what a great hub indeed Bill...you always inspire me to aspire for more...

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, you will be one of the Founding Fathers??? of the club! LOL I'm on a mission to bring back the old values, and I could use the help.

      Thank you my dear friend!

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      Mary Craig 5 years ago from New York

      I am proud to say I too an an anachronism! Count me in the Anachronism Club...vaules, morals, please and thank you...have they gone with the flowers? Its time to bring them back!

      Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pickles, I have been gratified by the comments...I was worried I was the only one who felt this way. Thank you for giving me company. LOL

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Gypsy, me too...completely boggled. LOL Oh well, until they put me out to pasture I'm going to keep singing the praises of a simpler and kinder life.

      Thank you and enjoy your weekend.

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      picklesandrufus 5 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      I'm with you. Seems we are loosing a lot in meaningful ways, while gaining a lot in others.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 5 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Another great video another hub that provides much to think over. I was born at a very awkward time. Too late for the 50s, too young to join the hippies in the 60s. That left me the 70s onwards and I wanted to be in the 50s or 60s. lol This new century has me completed boggled.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Leslie, I couldn't agree more! We are a society that is facing forward and moving backwards. Nothing to do but bitch as much as possible and try to change it one person at a time. It's so nice to see you here; I've missed that sharp wit of yours. Hope you are well.

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      Karen Silverman 5 years ago

      This is simply brilliant Billy - and right up my alley! I am almost convinced we have passed the tipping point - the insanity is so blatant these days. people don't even bother hiding their greed, narcissism, rudeness, arrogance...etc..

      it blows my mind!

      i actually saw this coming when they made disciplining our children - against the law! It was then that the tail started wagging the dog - instead of vice versa - and it's only gone down hill from there! That's my opinion and i'm stickin' to it!

      voting across the board, sir! Wish there was more options!

      Oh, and - thank you very much for this! lol

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      ElSeductor, I do believe it. I heard an employer tell an employee that same thing once....you could have knocked me over with a feather when I heard it.

      Thank you for the visit!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kelley, excellent comment. I have seen more unhappy people in the last year than I swear I have seen in any ten year period before that....and the kids....they all seem to have scowls on their faces and they are mad at the world. I just don't understand, but your explanation makes as much sense as anything I have thought of. Thank you as always.

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      kelleyward 5 years ago

      From the look at the list of comments here I think you hit another topic right smack in the face! I'd love to join your club. Maybe it's a combination of technology, increased screen time, less time outdoors, and less one-on-one time with parents, outside of driving to and from events that has contributed to this generation of kids beings disengaged, disrespectful, and frankly displeased with life in general. It's so sad because at a time when we seem to have so much, we have so little of what is truly important. Voted up across and shared! Take care, Kelley

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Awww, Beckie, we are kindred spirits for sure. Is there anything about you that I don't like? Nope, can't think of a thing. Thank you my dear and hugs and kisses right back atcha. Hope you checked out today's hub.

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      Shining Irish Eyes 5 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Billy my dear friend.

      Please sign me up as a lifetime member of the Anachronism Club. The important lessons you have listed here are the reasons I hold our friendship so dear. It is rare to meet a human being such as yourself with your prestigious generational qualities. I often refer to the WWII generation and there is a reason why they have the distinguished title of "The Greatest Generation". My Dad and I used to volunteer at our local soup kitchen in the city. It not only brought wonderful frienships my way, it made me realize how we all walk the same path. There but for the Grace of God, go I.

      I appreciate this powerful and memorable hub and consider you a wonderful human being.

      Thank you for being you.

      Hugs and Kisses to you and yours. XXXOOO

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Andy, that's a great comment...."what are you doing about it?".....I would have loved that old lady. Thanks for the visit and for a comment that belonged in my hub.

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      Andy Aitch 5 years ago from UK & South East Asian Region

      Billy says: SERVICE TO OTHERS….TRY IT, YOU JUST MIGHT LIKE IT

      Ain't that the truth Billy. It's nice to be nice, and that benefits both the one giving and the one receiving the service or niceness.

      I once said to an old lady that I was grateful for my lot, to which she replied; "Are you Dear. And what are you doing about it?"

      At first I had no idea what she meant, but some years later I realised that she was telling me, in a roundabout sort of way, that gratitude is an action, and not just something spouted out to exercise the lips.

      So if it's so nice to be nice, one can't help but wonder why there are still plenty of folks in the world that exercise nastiness, disguised in so many forms.

      Andy Aitch

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Amy, you have outdone yourself with this comment. And, of course, it is timely and oh, so accurate not only for that store but many across the countryside. We have our share of them here in Olympia. I'm thinking of starting a blog to give notice to the retailers who are actually courteous in this town....although I'm concerned I would run out of candidates after two or three weeks. :)

      Thank you my dear; I will gladly fight the good fight with you any day of the week and twice on Sundays. Give your mom a hug for me, and here's one for you too.

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      Amy Becherer 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      I agree with the same prinicipals that you follow, Bill. Today, I took my mom on her weekly trip to Dierbergs for groceries. One item on her list was 2 loaves of whole wheat bread. Brownberry's version was more reasonably priced so I put two in her cart with her approval. At the checkout, after we put the groceries on the conveyer at checkout, I looked at my mom, who was wiping her nose with a kleenex to find one side of her nose and face smeared with what looked like mechanic's grease. I told her, of course, as the kleenex looked like her face, covered in the same grease, which was on her hands, her Japanese silk wallet, the sleeve of her shirt and also on my hands. I found the culprit on the packaging of the 2 loaves of Brownberry bread. I showed the checker and an assistant manager, who came to see. The checker sent a bag boy to get two replacements in clean packaging, which they gave to my mom at no cost. The assistant manager paged the manager on duty who would be waiting for us with a gift card to compensate for the damages, we were told, at the Customer Service counter. The groceries were bagged, including ice cream and we waited at the counter almost 10-minutes. The manager was confrontational and argumentive, challenging my statement that we were sent by the asst. mgr for a gift card. He told me in no uncertain terms that the asst. mgr was not authorized to make that decision. I informed him that I hadn't asked for anything. The asst. mgr offered the gift card as a store apology for the mess. He dismissed us saying we should contact Brownberry Co. I left angry at his disrespectful demeanor, with ice cream melting in the 100 degree temperature and, most disturbing to me, my mom very upset.

      When I returned home, I went to the computer and wrote a letter that I emailed to "Dierbergs", a small family owned franchise that advertises their stores as "the friendliest store in town". You can imagine what I said...respectfully. I summed up the letter with words to the effect that "Mike", the manager on duty, needs to be updated on the state of the economy and the importance of treating all patrons, especially longtime customers, like my mom, who shops exclusively at their establishment, with respect and the "friendly" philosophy they base their advertising on. I also said that, "After all, Dierbergs is now the only grocer, pharmacy and florist in town". I have a feeling I will get a response from upper management for the inexcusably rude, completely unprovoked nastiness we were on the receiving end of. Otherwise, it's easy enough to get the word out.

      I am consistently appalled by the utter lack of interest many employees bring to the employment table. Yet, they have a job! It is a mystery to me how they keep any job.

      Refreshing article, Bill, on a very relevant, important topic about the differences in the generations. It is not a myth. It is very real and I see it everyday. Thank you

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Keith, it's great to see you back and thank you! I agree completely and I'll stand by you every step of the way as we change this world one person at a time.

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      KDuBarry03 5 years ago

      Great people are always ahead of their times, so it seams...I am definitely an anachronism person! I, too, was brought up the same as you: learned respect, be kind, and be up for challenges. You are definitely right: so many people in my generation are very egocentric and absolutely selfish. Every time I work, you have no idea how many people come in always complaining about their life and their needs and not even worrying about others or what others may think! It's very rude and, to me, very childish. Us anachronisms definitely need to start sending out a message, and a lesson, of respect and dignity :)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      whonunuwho, I agree with you completely. I will do my part, I know you will do yours, and we'll grow a movement one person at a time. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      yoginijoy, great comment and I love your homework assignment. Sadly yes, it is a shame it has to be assigned. Thank you!

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      whonunuwho 5 years ago from United States

      Hey Bill, just wanted you to know there are some more of us in a different time warp right along beside you. Maybe it's up to us to bring back or share the values we each grew up with by writing about them and letting others know it's okay to have good values and not follow the wrong path in teaching our kids, nowadays.

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      yoginijoy 5 years ago from Mid-Atlantic, USA

      I'm in! I know exactly what you mean when you mentioned how students begin to cry and flail when they actually have to do difficult work! I say, bring it on! If you need tears to get revved up, here are the tissues!

      It is true that respect is lacking. However, I feel that by being respectful to others we can model that behavior and perhaps it will spread.

      One homework assignment I give frequently is to do something kind and unexpected and then report back to the class how the act was received and how it made you feel. The students love this exercise--in college! It is sad that it is not a part of their normal everyday lives.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Sign me up, Bill! Anachronism is my middle name. Sharing this and voted way up!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bruce, I'm just lucky enough to have some quality people see something in my writing that makes them follow me faithfully. I am the grateful one; if not for you and others like you I'd just be writing journal stuff that nobody would see. If you are TP then you are triple-ply! LOL

      I truly do appreciate you my friend; I rather enjoy being a "wise old fart" and I'm loving my stay here at HubPages.

      Thank you buddy!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mhatter, in truth I feel the same way you do. This is my time to do with as I choose; it would have been the same no matter when I was born. Thank you my friend!

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      Rev Bruce S Noll HMN 5 years ago from Asheville NC

      Hi Bill!

      Everything about your work screams "JOIN ME" "JOIN ME" "JOIN ME." Ordinarily Bill I would, especially since I'm an original member of OFA (Old Farts Association) but I gotta tell ya, I'm just not ready to give up the ghost.

      I will stand next to you anytime my friend, but I'm not ready to give in to what I believe to be a curable dis-ease or an unusually long, but temporary malady of the unconscious.

      In fact, it is writers like you and my fellow hubbers here that give this hopeless romantic pause to believe that every one of these near extinct traits or characteristics with return. Why?

      Because the pen "is" mightier than the sword and in the hand of a "WOF" (Wise Old Fart) it is even mightier.

      Want Proof!

      Look at your comments. You can build an army just by being you!

      Bravo my friend!

      PS

      Next to you I often feel like a roll of TP; always bringing up the rear!

      LOL!

      Voted up all over the place!

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      Martin Kloess 5 years ago from San Francisco

      Great article! from time to time I think if I was born at the right period in time. The truth is, I was born in the absolutely perfect time for me.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks lindalou!

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      Linda 5 years ago from Texas

      sgbrown... I am clicking 'like' on your comment! I, too, am a Nana and do my best to teach the same lessons.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      sbrown, thank you! I have no doubt that being raised in the South taught you values. All I know is it's not going to change because I'm complaining about it. I have to do my part and hope it rubs off on some people. Thanks for joining my club!

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      Sheila Brown 5 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

      Bill, I would be happy to join your "club"! I was raised by "southern folk" who believed in working hard and respecting everyone around you. As a child, if you were around other adults, you did not speak until spoken to and you answered "yes sir" or "no mam". Both my parents had a severe alcohol problem, but there was still dicipline, manners and respect taught at my house.

      My children are all grown now and have children of their own. My children show respect and manners and are very well liked by many people. When my grandkids complain about "watching their manners", my son will tell them...Your Nana taught me manners, and if you really want to know what manners are, I will send you to her house. It sounds like a threat, but they know that Nana doesn't put up with smart talk and rudness. They know how to act at Nana's house.

      I like your "club" and wish that everyone was a member! It was a much better time back when...I love your hub and vote it up and awesome!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Patty! No wonder I like you! :) I always appreciate hearing from my prolific writing friend!

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      Patty Kenyon 5 years ago from Ledyard, Connecticut

      LOVED this hub filled with virtues we should all live by without feeling we were trapped in a time warp!!!!! Truly, it is sad how life has changed since I was younger. I was taught to treat those how I wish to be treated, if you are going to do something--see it through and do it the right way the first time. Help those that help you, and always pay it forward--what comes around goes around. AWESOME JOB!!!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Julie, honestly, I have very few male friends and it is because of that reason....lack of humility. I am so tired of the posturing and male bullsh...! So I hang with the real people, the ones who have warts and aren't afraid to show them. Pretty much explains why I follow you, too. :)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pamela, I could settle for today if the virtues came back. I could live with iPads and cell phones and other conveniences if people would just be nice to each other. Sigh! I'll gladly walk alongside you my friend!

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      Blurter of Indiscretions 5 years ago from Clinton CT

      Excellent virtues you mentioned. You know how many men think the word "humility" is a curse word? This is especially potent when someone with your experience says, "hey guys- where's the virtue of humility in this world?" It sets a great example for us young whippersnappers who have forgotten about the bygone times when families ate dinner together, went to church, and learned not to talk back. Great job!

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      Pamela Oglesby 5 years ago from United States

      Okay Billy, I'm in. I was raised the same way, when a handshake meant you had a deal. I remember even in grade school standing in the school yard saying with Pledge of Allegiance, my heart bursting with pride because I lived in the best country in the world. Now many won't say the pledge and I wonder why they live here in that case. The changes we have seen over the past few years, gangs in the streets, joblessness, and so much heartache. I long for the days of old also. Absolutely and awesome hub.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Efficient, thank you, and those people get on my nerves too! I'm too old to change my ways, so nowadays I'm very picky about the people I associate with. Life is too short to spend time with people who don't have a set of values to live by.

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      Efficient Admin 5 years ago from Charlotte, NC

      I'm with you billybuc. I especially notice the lack of Keeping Your Word/Commitment. It's amazing how many people will tell you what you want to hear and then leave you hanging. There are some people where it's a hit or miss if they will follow through with what they tell you. That just plain gets on my nerves.

      Another great hub, thanks for sharing and voted up, ++

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Vox, without a doubt it's nicer if it goes both ways. We all need reciprocation in life. Thank you my fellow teacher; I hope you are having a great day!

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      Jasmine 5 years ago

      As a teacher, I must confirm that kids in school are not the way we once were. Yes, they do lack respect. Like you, I believe that appreciating others is more important than being appreciated yourself. Of course, it's always nice when you have both these points fulfilled in life.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Trinity, I can't think of anyone I would rather have by my side. You are, indeed, an anachronism; I knew it the first time I saw one of your comments and then read your profile. I'm still waiting for a hub from you about home schooling. I am very curious about your viewpoints on it.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Christy! I always deeply appreciate you visting. You are a great friend!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann, I think many of us have this affliction but didn't realize it. :) Thank you so much and I'll gladly fight the fight with you by my side.

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      Trinity M 5 years ago

      billybuc this is truly one of the best hubs I’ve read. I so agree with your sentiments. All the things you mention are the reasons we have chosen to home school our son. I see children running around screaming, no manners and an air of entitlement that I have no intention in instilling in my son. People have forgotten basic manners and courtesy is a thing of the past. I still write thank you notes for just about everything, say please and thank you hundreds of times a day and still believe in respecting your elders and in a sense of community… so I guess I too am an anachronism.

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Sometimes I also feel like I am in the wrong time period... I do like the simple moments the best. I am getting more tech-savvy now with business but I still love just going for a walk! Great perspective here Bill.

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      Ann1Az2 5 years ago from Orange, Texas

      Billy, I'd love to be a member of your club! Great stuff. Now I know why I get frustrated with today's society - I've been a anachronism and didn't know it! Voted up.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Beachbumaxp, isn't that the way it always is? Life is no easy trip, and we get so busy that sometimes we forget the simplest of lessons. I'm glad if my writing helps you in any way. Thank you!

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      beachbumaxp 5 years ago from Denver, Colorado

      That part about your dad wondering how much time he had left at 49...wow. Thanks for the continued inspiration. I've been finding good meaning in your writing. The messages are simple, yet often so hard to live by.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      rfmoran, I like that! Let's do that.

      Thank you my friend!

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      Russ Moran 5 years ago from Long Island, New York

      Sign me up Bill! Great Hub that really speaks to me. Shall we call ourselves Anachronistas?

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Pete, and I greatly enjoyed your hub today about dumb and dumber!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, there is much to be said about the barter system. Of course, no way in today's global society, but on a smaller scale, on an individual scale, it can still work. Thanks my friend; hope you are having a restful lunch.

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      Pete Fanning 5 years ago from Virginia

      Count me in billybuc, another great hub! Although I'm a little younger, I too understand the importance of respecting others. I've found that often times the ones complaining about being disrespected don't even seem to respect themselves. I'll be coming back to this hub in the future.

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      Shauna L Bowling 5 years ago from Central Florida

      Another wonderful hub that hits home, Bill! I've often thought I should have been born in the pioneer days, where everyone chipped in and the barter system was the way of life. I so wish we'd go back to the barter system. The almighty dollar has ruined people's values, morals, compassion - not to mention is the source of many people's state of depression and wanting to give up when you get in over your head.

      Shoulda, coulda, woulda. I wish I could click my ruby slippers.....

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Angel, I hear you and I agree. This has been a subtle shift over the years and now it has reached a point where there are days I can't believe I live in the same country. I am not happy about it and I'm going to do everything I can to change it. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Chrisin, all I can do is try to change things through my writings and by modeling good behavior. One person at a time.....try to change the world. Thank you my friend; greatly appreciated.

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      Amber Lynn 5 years ago

      I don't think you're stuck in the wrong time,billybuc,a dn I don't want you going back to the 60's!!!! I think people today simply don't think like they did back then. Parent's today lack either the skills or morals that parents back then had. Spanking is now child abuse. Children watch more televison and learn the wrong things from it. Parents don't correct their children and always supervise them when they should. I could go on and on about today's children, but I'm just going to stop there. I do agree with you on alot of points though, especially about respect...smart alec kids whose parent let them annoy me...

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      Ann-Christin 5 years ago from UK

      Another great hub. I have to agree with that society seems to have lost all it's values. I'm not sure why I guess it could have something to do with the media that doesn't seem to have respect for anyone and I suppose the youngsters copy this. I wish it was how it used to be I would quite happily travel back in time.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ronna, it is, indeed, a start. At least she wants to help animals, right?

      Thank you!

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      Ronna Pennington 5 years ago from Arkansas

      Hallelujah!

      I want to instill the spirit of public service in my daughter...who has no interest in helping anything but animals right now. I guess that's at least a start :D Great, thought-provoking hub!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Josh....LOL....the word is often mistaken for the spider reference....I had to be careful writing it so I wouldn't misspell it. Thanks buddy, for the great comment.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sounds good Steph!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dr. Pooja, thank you for that very kind comment. I would have liked your grandfather.

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      Joshua Zerbini 5 years ago from Pennsylvania

      Bill,

      Another insightful hub! It never gets old to talk about humility, because it is something we all fall into from time to time. Thanks for explaining anachronism, because my initial thought was something with spiders, and I was not sure how that was going to fit into you serious series on lifestyles! LOL

      Great hub Bill, have a great day!

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      Stephanie Hicks 5 years ago from Bend, Oregon

      Will do, Bill! Probably heading to Oly the second week of August. :-)

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      Dr Pooja 5 years ago

      Your hubs takes me back in time and I feel as if my grand father is alive and speaking to me again. Words of wisdom ! Thanks and shared your hub.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hippy, thank you so much! Love your online name!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mark, your membership has been paid for for quite some time. Glad to have you aboard!

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      Hippyhousewife 5 years ago from Rocky River Ohio

      Amazing loved the video thanks for sharing

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Debbie, I will proudly stand next to you. Thank you my dear friend!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      dwachira, thank you and it is sad. I still say by raising awareness and being a positive model, we can change things one person at a time.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Steph....being too polite???? Is that possible? Wow! I hope I never live in a world where politeness is a unique thing.....oh, wait, I already do!!!

      Thank you my friend; give me a call next time you come north.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      TT, it does sound like things you and I have talked about recently. Of course you can put it in your newspaper; I will assume the check is in the mail. LOL Go for it Sis, and thank you!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pooja, you are very wise for your age; that is wonderful to see and very encouraging. Thank you my friend and peace to you always.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lindalou, thank you for the visit and I hope you enjoy your stay at HubPages! Great comment; I really enjoyed your reflections.

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      Mark G Weller 5 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Bill, you and I are so much alike it is amazing. I feel exactly as you do and would fit much better back in the "Old" days!

      I'll join that club anytime.

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      Bill my friend.. I will be glad to join you!!! I believe in those values.. I was raised the same way.. God Bless you my friend..

      Debbie

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      [ Danson Wachira ] 5 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

      It is sad how we lose our values and principles just because society dictate and say so and we want to look like we are moving with time. I got the point billybuc but how many are trapped in the time warp? voted up, interesting and shared.

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      Stephanie Hicks 5 years ago from Bend, Oregon

      I finally found the word I was looking for! Anachronism! I recall being made fun of by co-workers at my first job working as a waitress because I was "too polite." Manners have gotten much worse - even gone - over the years. Apparently, no one knows how to apologize like they mean it, either. Rated up, Bill! Off to share! :) Best, Steph

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      Terrye Toombs 5 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

      Gee, Bill, this sounds like many of the conversations we've had recently! :) You have done an exceptional job of defining all that is wrong with today's society. If the "Pay It Forward" and the "Occupy Wall Street" movements can be grassroots movements, why can't this? All we need to do is spread the word. Hopefully, it'll catch on. VUMS everywhere I can post it. :) And if you don't mind, I'd like to put it on my little newspaper, too.

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      poojasd7 5 years ago from India

      This is a fast paced world. People just want everything at once. They hardly wait and ask themselves- Is this right? Am I a better human being by ignoring the less-privileged people? Am I humane enough to heal the people I may have hurt?

      No, they don't. All they crave for is taking credit for being smartypants and not working hard. This is due to instant gratification they seek through flaunting their so-called achievements and the instant sanction (of being-great) they get in return from their kind of flock.

      They do not understand how precious it is to stand firm on certain principles like- humility, humaneness and hard work.

      A great and enlightening hub,Billy.

      :-)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      tobusiness, I really try not to sound like a grumpy old man, but if people are not aware then nothing will change. Thank you for the great comment and for the visit.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Tammy, that may be the saddest for me, too; I no longer know who I can trust. Way too many people back out, or change the rules after agreeing to do something. It is discouraging for sure.

      Hey, you are early this morning! Get to work making those lovely craft items.

      Thanks my friend!

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      Linda 5 years ago from Texas

      Wonderful hub! I've often wondered what it would be like to live in a different era, so does that make me an Anachronism? I would say yes, probably so. I love the music of the 1940's and the clothes of the 1920's. But then, I also love the southern belle dresses of the 1800's and the castles of the 1400's... so where would I travel if I could go back in time? I think I would begin with my childhood before my Daddy passed away and try to get to know him better. And then the same with Mom and all of my grandparents. I would have to persuade Mom not to marry the step father, and if I could be successful with that, then I would stay there with my Mom and sister forever! It was certainly a more simple time. After I got all of this taken care of, maybe then I could visit places just to check out things.

      Enjoyed the hub... thanks for posting!

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 5 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Where do I sigh up?

      Billy as always well said. We seem to have lost so much of our humanity in this dog eat dog society where the question is always 'what's in it for me' It's good to remember a gentler time when people mattered.

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      Tammy 5 years ago from North Carolina

      This is an exceptional hub. I have seen this change in my life and I can understand why older people get upset with young people. The saddest thing to me is that people don't stand by their word anymore. Now I know there is an offical word for this problem. LOVED it!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cyndi, I love it! Yes, I often think I could have lived quite nicely in another time and place; things seem to have gotten too complicated for this boy, or people have tried to make things too complicated. All I know is there are some principles that cannot be compromised....and I won't....and I know you won't either.

      Thanks Sis; I appreciate you greatly.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sandra, thank you so much; your comment means a great deal to me.

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      Cynthia Sageleaf 5 years ago from Western NC

      I could live during the Renaissance in some forest off the beaten path growing herbs and lavender and being an earth mama. Oh wait...I live in the 21st century. There are some things that I love about the 21st century, but I idealize that time when people rode horses and lived in castles and everything unexplainable was magical.

      Sorry...that was a bit of a tangent.

      But, um, yeah, one of the things that drove me batty about teaching was that it was so difficult to appease the numerous students who just got mad and punched another kid just for the hell of it. You also had to be a constant entertainer or they would never find you interesting enough to participate in class. This was true both when I taught high school and elementary school. Countless days I went home traumatized after seeing a fight or people just being so horrible to one another. That ripped me apart. Alas, I'm comfortable in knowing that I "gave back" for six years, but the lack of respect, self-control, and so many other things just made me nuts.

      My mom took in a homeless man once. Then she employed people from Guatemala, Korea, Jamaica, Mexico, the US, and wherever else. I had the most multicultural respect-building upbringing ever. If I ever have a kid, I aim to raise he/she/it the way you speak of here and to hell with this lack of respect BS and not standing on your own two feet. :)

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      Sandra Busby 5 years ago from Tuscaloosa, Alabama, USA

      Let me be the first to compliment you on this hub and its inspiring contents. All the best.