Living With the Enemy!
When it comes to an enemy, most people, usually, think of a person who hates you. That is a true fact, but it goes so much farther than that. From my past experience and the observing from a witnessing point of view, I learn that an enemy can be a close family member like a mother, a father, a sister, a brother, and a child. The enemy can be the person you trust the most and consider to be your best friend, and it can even go so deep and as far as, it can be you, yourself.
There was a time in my life when I was my very own enemy. It was not easy for me to admit that I was my own self enemy, especially since I was dealing with a lot all at one time, but I had to admit ultimately that I was living with the enemy.
I did not know this at the time when I first made the decision to take a giant leap of faith to own up to my contribution in my downfall, but that was the very first step to conquering my demon and dealing head-on with the enemy within me.
Of course, it took me hitting rock bottom and realizing I was low as you go, I had nowhere else to go but up, before I even decided to make a decision. Although I can truly say, I thank God when I did decide to make the choice to make a decision it was an intelligent one.
After discovering how deep an enemy can affect and destroy a person, I develop an obsession with defeating the enemy in every way, regardless of where and how it was coming into my life. I started with the words from the song by the late ‘King of Pop’ Michael Jackson, starting with the woman in the mirror.
Let define the word 'Enemy,' the English dictionary definition is a person who hates or opposes another person and tries to harm that person. The Latin word for 'Enemy' is Inimicus, meaning "hostile, or unfriendly."
Speaking from experience, it is not always easy to recognize when you are your own self enemy, but once you have, it's then when you can begin to see the inner villain as the number one cause of all your failures and downfalls.
There are several questions to ask to know if you are your own self enemy: does your method include you allow others to determine your worth? Do you find yourself believing and feeling that the world is against you? Do you sometimes put yourself down? When it comes to the different challenges of life do you give up easily?
When people or things in life disappoint you, do you constantly make excuses for people or what when wrong? Do you find yourself doing the same things over and over again, even though you get a negative result? Do you find yourself often being indecisive? If your answer to any, most or all of these questions is ‘yes,’ it is therefore proven that you are your own self enemy.
Although being aware you are your own self worst enemy is good and a major step, still, that is only half the battle. You need to be able to see and admit you are hurting yourself as the enemy, understand how being the enemy pertain to you and what areas in your life you need to rethink.
Besides, self-awareness is a significant part of the process, yet you also have to seek out all the ways you are a hinder to yourself. Sometimes you are not the only handicap in your life, there are others like a child, other family members or a person you consider to be a close friend, you need to eliminate out of your life.
As you rethink your life, be honest with yourself, look for your concerns, you should pay attention to where your mind tends to slacken, the things that run through your mind and upset you, the uncertainties, and barriers that manipulate your brain that's the areas you need to rethink.
It's good to think things through, you want to put a stop to any repeating of the same patterns you allowed in your life that brought about the negative result of finding a distinct solution. If you want to completely defeat the enemy you have to let go of any and everything that doesn't work anymore, don't satisfy or fulfill you, and they don't help you learn and move on, although it will not be easy.
You want to immediately start focusing on all your issues that deal with your problems, and you want to make sure you give yourself a reality check to reach a solution. Start by releasing all your frustrations and stop questioning the roads that turned and crossed and lead you into a path that had a sign up that said uncertainty road terminal.
This is the opening stage that will allow you to unleash the inner demons and get rid of self-doubt, to regain your lack of confidence to receive the best resolution. You deserve nothing less.
While finding a solution bear in mind that there is ultimately only one person who can reach a resolution, and that's you. Don't be afraid to push forward even when things get hard because when you stop trying, your odds of finding a solution remains zero.
While attempting a solution, if you fail the first time, don't allow that to stop you. Everyone fails, at least once, failure and making mistakes is a part of life. Step back to look at where you went wrong and remember "Winners never quit and quitters never win."
A person who quit will NEVER accomplish what he or she wants, but if you keep trying you will attain a way to get what you want. Besides, the most successful person has faced defeat, but when you keep trying the closer you are to achieving a solution.
Getting Out of Your Own Way
You need to understand before you can find a solution, you need to get out of your own way. When you are your own self enemy, you are allowing a monster within you to hold you down. When you are striving to fight a battle to get out of your own way, you need to face that monster head-on by asking yourself 'Who Am I and 'What is it that I want out of life.'
Asking these two questions is the main way to get out of your own way, reach deeper down inside yourself to find the courage to take the risks needed to get out of the way. When you learn to get out of the way, your life will expand... and boundlessly. Believe me, I know because I had to learn how to get out of my own way to bounce back from hitting rock bottom.
Fighting the Enemy That Lives with you
After getting out of your own way, the next thing you want to do is make sure you deal with the war going on inside of you and inside your head. Reason being, self-doubt tends to creep in at the weirdest times, at the times when you least expect it and all of a sudden and that when you have a real emotional battle on your hand, it can do the biggest damage if you don't deal with it up front.
A familiar quote on the enemy within you, “It is a man’s own mind, not his enemy or foe, that lures him to evil ways.” ― Gautama Buddha. This passage is so true as the enemy within you can utilize itself in many forms. It could be present through that small troublesome voice inside your head. The voice that will keep you paranoid or terrified of taking any necessary step to get rid of it.
It's a badly-behaved voice, but it can seem like a harmless opinion to assist you in any and every way. Although that’s not the case, the mind holds great power and it is more powerful than utmost knows, but face it, it has limits as well. It is very dangerous to gamble with the mind.
The enemy that lives within you exists through the mind. It's has a way of burning you out, and once you are all burned out. You can’t fight tired and weak; therefore, you will only give force to your enemy within to conquer you.
A one-man devastated in battle can be similar to a soldier drafted into the military to fight, he can’t win the war alone. To defeat the enemy within yourself, you will need assistance and support from a reliable family member or friend. As you lean on a committed and trusted person who believes in you. They will lend you a helping hand during the times you find yourself too tired to fight alone.
The End Solution: To stop living with the enemy, you have to be conscious of the rival inside of you, know it’s the inner cause of all the downfalls and they stem from your hands. Then begin the process of defeating your demons and destroying its disappointing and discouraging voice.
To overpower the voice inside of you, you have to understand the “nagging inner voice," is against you. Then separate what you want over of what others expect of you. You create your own future, rather than live one appointed to you.
Living with the Enemy!
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