MANAGE YOUR ANGER
1) TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND PAUSE BEFORE ARTICULATING YOUR FEELINGS: Taking a minute to think about your response will put things into perspective and help you present your views in a reasonable, natural way. Count from one to ten slowly. If you are still angry, keep on counting, you may actually realize it is not worth the fuss.
2) WALK AWAY: When deeply aggravated, it is sometimes best to simply walk away, most likely the other party will feel ignored but it is the best alternative. The walking away will help you calm down, and you won't say things you were going to say. It is advisable to take a walk outside to calm your nerves and mentally rehearse an appropriate response.
3) MAINTAIN A CALM TONE: Most of the times when angry, we tend to raise the pitch and volume of our voices. That's when we get caught up in the raw emotion and that is when conversations will loose its purpose and become destructive. Keep your voice low and calm and it will also happen that the other party will most likely keep their voice low and calm.
4) KEEP SILENT: This really works so instead of shooting back at your boss or partner in anger, try saying nothing at all. Revisit the issue later when tension and tempers have cooled and both parties can talk calmly and reasonably.
5) SEEK PHYSICAL RELEASE: Let off the steam with a brief walk or jog around the neighborhood you can also work out for an hour in the gym, physical exercises releases feel good hormones that promote feelings of well being and helps clean out the negative thoughts
6) TALK TO A FRIEND: Venting your feelings to a trusted friend will help ease your anxiety and reduce your anger to tolerable levels.
7) PRACTICE REFLECTIVE LISTENING: This demonstrates that we care enough to hear the other person out rather than focusing on our own point of view.
8)LEARN HOW TO MANAGE ARGUMENTS:Sometimes the best way to end a fight is to change the topic or give positive affirmation.