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Mistakes Happen: How To Recover and Move On

Updated on August 1, 2018
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FlourishAnyway is an Industrial/Organizational Psychologist with applied experience in corporate human resources and consulting.

Oopsie! Wrong Turn?

Don't sweat your mistakes!  You'll make lots of them over your lifetime.  Besides, the bigger ones provide colorful stories to share with friends -- and better lessons learned.
Don't sweat your mistakes! You'll make lots of them over your lifetime. Besides, the bigger ones provide colorful stories to share with friends -- and better lessons learned. | Source

Unfortunate Ditch Girl

Uh-oh! As a visitor to my mother's house pulled out the driveway, a sharp turn of the steering wheel was all that stood between the unfortunate ditch girl and some great Instagram photos.

As a bonus for her trouble, she received a tow truck, an insurance claim, and some chastising from her father. It was a faux pas she won't soon forget.

Although the ditch girl—bless her heart—wasn't me, I'd be the first to tell you I've done worse (like wreck one of my cars into the other in my own driveway, no less). Hey, mistakes happen. They're just part of living.

I've found that the bigger the mistake

  1. the bigger the opportunity to learn from it and
  2. the more interesting the story you have to tell your friends.

Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts
Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts

You'll see not only yourself but also friends, family, and everyone you know in this intriguing book. Using social psychology, it explains how even smart people can be duped and dodge responsibility when things fall apart. Lots of specific examples: bosses, politicians, authors, doctors, therapists, alien abduction victims. I've given this to several people who were taking themselves too seriously!

 

Go Ahead, Make Mistakes: No Shame, No Blame

As we negotiate our way around the potholes of life, mistakes can be terrific teachers. Over a lifetime we'll make too many of them to count.

Blunders expose

  • our lapses in logic, focus, and self-confidence
  • poor planning and wrong assumptions
  • gaps in communication and
  • our failure to consider alternatives.

How to Deal like a Champ

When you make a misstep, here's how the deal with the consequences without letting the situation get the most of you.

Feel the frustration, then prepare to move on. Things didn't go your way this time. Allow yourself to feel disappointed or upset, but don't dwell on it. Accept that even huge mistakes are going to happen to the best of us.

Few Things Are Unfixable

This was nothing a tow truck couldn't fix.
This was nothing a tow truck couldn't fix. | Source

Own your mistake. Mistakes are an essential part of a learning process. Rather than blaming others, have the courage to accept accountability and own what happened. Correct your error, if you can.

Saying out loud that you messed up isn't going to be the end of the world. Admitting that you're not 100% right, 100% of the time builds others' respect for you.

When you let people know the dirty little secret that yes, you're human, at least they'll know that you don't cover up your errors. No one trusts a facade of perfection. Relationships are built on trust, so people may even feel more comfortable sharing their own whoopsie stories with you now that you've let your guard down.

Don't equate your mistake with your self-worth. Understand that this mistake is one event, one data point, and that your track record consists of a lifetime of opportunities. This one event does not define you unless YOU let it.

Now that the mistake has happened, it's your choice in how you respond to it. Pick yourself up and move on. You can do this!

Analyze and learn. Mistakes can be very instructional. Examine why the mistake occurred. Determine the causes and ramifications of what happened. Assess whether your situation truly was a mistake, given everything you now know.

Consider alternatives—without beating yourself up—and allow yourself to learn from your experience. This will help keep you from repeating blunders.

In analyzing your misstep, here are some questions you might ask yourself:

  • What was the root cause of my mistake?
  • Did I make any erroneous assumptions?
  • Did I have the right goal? Was I trying to solve the right problem? Was my process well informed?
  • Could I have recognized bad assumptions earlier?
  • Given what I know now, what would I do differently?
  • How can I avoid getting into a similar situation?
  • What key takeaways or lessons learned does this mistake teach me?

Make amends, if needed. If your mistake negatively impacted anyone else, consider what you need to do to make the situation right. Some of the most meaningful moments of my life have come from situations involving simple acknowledgments of errors.

Mistakes teach you to identify your own vulnerabilities. They can also strengthen communication and relationships.

Use blunders to your advantage. Grow from them. Learn from them. And don't shun risk-taking in the future because you've made a few slip-ups along the way. Mistakes are part of life's journey. Learn to see them as teachable moments!

Mistakes: Did You Know?

  • Women are more likely to mistake the gas pedal for the brake, although men are involved in more traffic accidents.1
  • Smart people are more likely to make misjudgments due to overconfidence (called a "bias blind spot"). Consider Bill Clinton and Maj. Gen. David Petraeus as key examples.2
  • Women tend to settle for modest investment returns. Men are more prone to active investment trading, owing to their overconfidence.3 (Both low returns and frequent trading can be costly mistakes if you're trying achieve long-term growth.)
  • Adults over age 55 are more likely to mistake an untrustworthy face as trustworthy and approachable, due to age-related changes in the part of the brain that forms "gut feelings." This makes them particularly prone to financial scams.
  • Employees who work the night shift in any occupation are 30% more prone to errors than their day-shift peers.4
  • Preventable medical errors are now the third leading cause of death in the United States.5

Funny Mistakes In Our Favorite Movies

How to Fail Big ... and Keep Failing!

Surefire Ways To Fail
Time And Time Again
Have no desire to win.
Don't get enough rest.
Approach your goal through random hit and miss events, rather than a system -- or better yet don't have a goal!
Get distracted!
Have more confidence than competence.
Don't have a back up plan.
Be as careless and reckless as you can.
Skip the instructions! Who needs them?
Ignore feedback and past experience.
Don't plan or prepare -- just do it!
Tell yourself you'll fail.
Don't communicate with those who need to know.
Hide your errors.
Just give up if you don't succeed the first time.
Go in untrained and stressed out.
Deny accountability.

Elevator Overload in Paris: Trapped Between Floors

An elevator ride in France turned out to be a comedy of errors for my parents and I.  We learned the importance of reading signs and knowing your weight in kilograms.
An elevator ride in France turned out to be a comedy of errors for my parents and I. We learned the importance of reading signs and knowing your weight in kilograms. | Source

The Paris Elevator Overload Mistake

Some things you can only learn from experience. My parents and I discovered that the hard way while vacationing in France several years ago.

We had spent the morning walking throughout Paris, along with my husband and daughter. When we returned to our hotel, some of us were too weary to climb yet another set of stairs. Our hotel rooms were on the third floor, so my mom and I gladly hopped on the hotel elevator. (French elevators can be remarkably small by American standards.)

At the last minute, my dad decided he'd hitch a ride with us. We packed ourselves in, laughed at the tight quarters, and pressed the necessary buttons.

Mistake 1: People often remark that Americans lack proper perspective regarding their physical size. Supposedly, we just don't understand how large we are.

None of us saw the 225 kg weight limit sign until it was too late. It wouldn't have done any good at that point because we only knew our weight in pounds. With 225 kilograms being equivalent to about 496 pounds, we were well over limit.

Much to our surprise, the three of us ground the elevator gears to a screeching halt. I pressed the "open" button, and we saw what no elevator passenger wants to see: we were stuck halfway between the first and second floors. This only happens to others, right?

Mistake 2: My mother was packed tight against my dad and I, and she realized that the three of us were going nowhere fast. It was July and the elevator lights were hot. She freaked out and wanted her jacket off IMMEDIATELY. Her desperation made the elevator feel even hotter. She thought we all might run out of oxygen.

It was starting to feel like "The Three Stooges Take An Elevator Ride."

Mistake 3: I repeatedly pressed the emergency call button, and a hotel employee eventually answered. However, he spoke only French. Panic rose. I didn't know the French word for "HELP," and he sure didn't know any English. He hung up on me several times. This really was The Three Stooges.

Desperate, I started pressing all the buttons in rapid succession. Then I yelled and pounded on the inside of the elevator to get attention, all the while pressing all the buttons, too.

Luckily, my husband and daughter noticed that we had disappeared, and they heard my fits and commotion. When the hotel attendant was finally able to open the door, she was laughing, surprised that three people filled the elevator—and so completely at that. We climbed out to fresh air and safety.

The following day, as my family passed the front desk, we overheard the hotel attendant chuckle as she said to her coworker, "the Americans ... that's THEM."

Lifted To Safety

"I haven't been this close to her in years," my dad told people as he helped my mom climb out of the elevator.
"I haven't been this close to her in years," my dad told people as he helped my mom climb out of the elevator. | Source

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Did They Actually Say That on Air? R Rated News Bloopers

Tell us about your most memorable mistake in the Comments Section below.

Notes

1Hirsch, J. (2012, April 13). Women more likely to mistake gas pedal for brakes. Retrieved from http://articles.latimes.com/2012/apr/13/business/la-fi-mo-bad-women-drivers-20120413.
2Striepe, B. (n.d.). 10 Really Smart People Who Did Really Dumb Things. Retrieved April 7, 2014, from http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/inside-the-mind/human-brain/10-smart-people-dumb-things.htm.

3MacBride, E. (2011, August 2). How Men And Women Trip Up (Differently) As Investors. Retrieved April 7, 2014, from https://blog.wealthfront.com/investing-mistakes-men-women-library-congress/.

4Costa, G. (2003). Shift work and occupational medicine: an overview. Occupational Medicine-oxford, 53(2), 83-8. doi:10.1093/occmed/kqg045

5Binder, L. (2013, September 23). Stunning News On Preventable Deaths In Hospitals. Retrieved April 7, 2014, from http://www.forbes.com/sites/leahbinder/2013/09/23/stunning-news-on-preventable-deaths-in-hospitals/.

Mistakes Happen: Do You Know What I Mean?

After this unfortunate incident, Miss Teen South Carolina received so much ribbing that she felt suicidal. We all have terrible moments, so be more empathic of both yourself and others. You are NOT defined by your worst moment.

Quotes on Mistakes and Errors

"Never interrupt your enemy when he is making a mistake."

- Napoleon Bonaparte, French military leader and emperor

"The greatest mistake you can make in life is continually fearing that you'll make one."

- Elbert Hubbard, American writer

"Failure is the key to success; each mistake teaches us something."

- Morihei Ueshiba, Japanese martial artist

"Experience enables you to recognize a mistake when you make it again."

- Franklin P. Jones, American humorist

"The biggest mistake people make in life is not trying to make a living at doing what they most enjoy."

- Malcolm Forbes, American publishing magnate

"A lot of people mistake a short memory for a clear conscience."

- Doug Larson, American newspaper columnist

"He who never made a mistake, never made a discovery."

- Samuel Smiles, Scottish author and government reformer

"Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied."

- Pearl S. Buck, American writer and novelist

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    • FlourishAnyway profile imageAUTHOR

      FlourishAnyway 

      3 months ago from USA

      Doris - That's a good one! An HR director at the company I used to work for stood up in front of about 100 employees and meant to say that over the last year, we've worked hard and had a lot of success. She slipped and said we had a lot of sex. She just about died on the spot. It was great fun.

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      Doris James-MizBejabbers 

      3 months ago

      Flourish, wonderful hub and I'm so glad I found it. Mistakes, who makes them? :) Reminds me of when I was doing weather for a small TV channel in New Mexico. Somebody called me up and claimed that I said we had a "polar bear's ass" moving in (polar air mass). All I could do was laugh with them. Loved the elevator story. I had no idea they were so small in France and probably would have made the same mistake. I watched all your videos and laughed all the way through.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      12 months ago from USA

      Graham - Excellent comment. I've heard many excuses, many explanations. Honest ones are best. Hope you are well.

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      Graham Lee 

      12 months ago from Lancashire. England.

      Hi Flourish. A first class hub from you as usual. Yes mistakes are made. From a management point of view what must be recognised is the difference between an excuse and an explanation. There is a difference.

      Graham.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 years ago from USA

      Rajan - You've said it so well!

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 

      2 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Making a mistake is a part of life We all make mistakes but admitting it, and taking a lesson from it, is difficult, but the best way to go about it to feel good inside.

      This will help us stop critisizing others' mistakes as well.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 years ago from USA

      colorfulone - Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to vote and leave a comment.

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      Susie Lehto 

      3 years ago from Minnesota

      Well, this is a very interesting hub that has taken a lot of time and work.

      Voted up!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 years ago from USA

      Pawpawwrites - Sounds like a good strategy. Have a great weekend, and thanks for reading.

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      Jim 

      3 years ago from Kansas

      I have made plenty of them. I usually own up to them, and try like heck to never talk about them again, unless I'm trying to teach my children or grandchildren.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Sunshine625 - Oh, but it was that small! We Americans are also larger than we give ourselves credit for. Large bones, I imagine. That'll be the last time I ride one of those.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Audrey - Thanks so much!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      ologsinquito - Thanks for visiting and commenting. Mistakes are what you make of them. They make us human and sometimes make for fun memories.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I always laugh at my mistakes, I prefer to be one step ahead of others laughing at me :) I enjoyed your elevator story, I felt your fears! I can NOT believe the elevator was that small, I would have walked up 15 flights of stairs before hitching a ride on that thing.

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      Audrey Howitt 

      4 years ago from California

      I too love this! You make your points with candor and humor--both of which I love!

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      ologsinquito 

      4 years ago from USA

      This is a good reminder that we all make mistakes and that we need to forgive ourselves, as well as others.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Shyron - I sure hope you didn't hurt yourself seriously. Stay well and thanks for reading again.

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      Shyron E Shenko 

      4 years ago from Texas

      Flourish, I read this before and yesterday I thought of it in the grocery store. I worked outside and did some pretty heavy lifting, i.e. I bought a 4' X 8' sheet of laminated particle board for hubby to make some shelves and not thinking about how heavy it was I paid for it and had the workers load it on the truck.

      When I got home we were going to take it out of the truck and that is when we found out how heavy. So hubby rolled the table saw out to the truck and we slid the it on, that is where he cut it into shelves.

      What a mistake, it would have been easier to make them out of plywood.

      Oh well my shelves will not have to be painted and they will be easy to keep clean.

      What reminded me of this? I went to the grocery store, because the leg with the hip replacement was aching so I took one of the carts that you ride on. I presse the forward lever and it zummed out so fast I almost lost control. I don't even do that with my car or hubby's truck and I thought of this hub.

      Voted up, UAI and shared.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Tori - Your poor mom. I think the folks who write those instructions need some major help from writers like us. It could save people like your mom time and effort.

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      Tori Canonge 

      4 years ago from North Carolina

      It's so true that we all make mistakes. I have learned that I just need to laugh them off sometimes and move on with life. I have never gotten stuck on an elevator (thankfully), but I have misread signs before and that cost me. I guess that taught me to read things more carefully!

      A few months ago, my mom was putting together a desk she got from IKEA. There were 20 something steps to follow and she got to the second to last step before realizing that she made a mistake at step 2. She had to take everything apart and go all the way back to fix it after almost an hour of working on the thing.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Larry - Thanks for reading and commenting. Great quote. Mistakes are what you make of them.

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      Larry Rankin 

      4 years ago from Oklahoma

      "And bad mistakes, I've made a few. I've had my share of sand kicked in my face, but I've come through!" Queen, We are the Champions

      I loved the article. Everyone messes up from time to time. Best to just have fun with it, and those that are so critical are just prepping for the fall.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Shyron - We all sure have! Glad you enjoyed this. Thanks for reading, commenting, and voting.

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      Shyron E Shenko 

      4 years ago from Texas

      FlourishAnyway, this is wonderful, I have made major mistakes, and still trying to correct them.

      Like the poem goes.

      "I had a pretty brown eyed cow, who gave me milk and cheese and now I am sitting in my room with hoof in mouth disease." (more like foot in mouth for me.) That is one way to keep toes warm.

      Voted up across the board including funny.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Johnc911 - Thanks for the compliment!

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      Johnc911 

      4 years ago

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Better Yourself - Glad you enjoyed the videos in this hub!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Writer Fox - Thanks for reading and pinning! I feel badly for the teenage beauty queen. I think that was her 15 minutes of fame, the poor dear.

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      Writer Fox 

      4 years ago from the wadi near the little river

      Loved the Miss Teen USA Video! You've made some great points here and I could relate to the elevator story. Pinned your car pick and voted up!

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      Better Yourself 

      4 years ago from North Carolina

      Love this hub! Making mistakes can be very humbling which we all need now and then. You picked the perfect videos for this topic, well done!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      VioletteRose - Mistakes can even be funny or interesting learning experiences, if we let them! I appreciate your reading and commenting.

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      VioletteRose 

      4 years ago from Chicago

      Great hub. If we really look towards learning from mistakes, that can change the way we look at mistakes. Instead of getting disappointed every time someone makes a mistake, we can make those situations have a positive outcome. Thanks for sharing!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Purpose Embraced - Thank you for your kind comment. We all make mistakes. We can either choose to let them overtake us or learn from them and move right along.

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      Yvette Stupart PhD 

      4 years ago from Jamaica

      Wow! This is a great hub Flourish. I agree, it is important that we learn from our mistakes. It is so easy to blame others, and miss the marvellous opportunities to learn and grow. Of course, as you said, this takes courage.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Nell - Even when you make mistakes, a good laugh is always more welcome than most other reactions. Makes the stress a bit more bearable. Thanks for stopping by!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Liz - We definitely know the metric conversion now! Those French people are tiny indeed. The sign said it fit 3 people. Hmm.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 years ago from England

      Loved your dads remark! lol! I make loads of mistakes, and try to make sure I don't do them again, but being a clumsy sort of person, mentally and physically that doesn't always work! lol! I bet that lift was scary! I would have hit the panic button, not on the elevator, but my heartbeat! lol!

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      Elizabeth Parker 

      4 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      Oh boy- the elevator story! That scared me!! :) I'm so glad that all ended well there. You're right- mistakes are definitely something we as humans do. It's just part of life!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Christy - Thanks for stopping by! Mistakes are what you make of them.

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      Christy Birmingham 

      4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You make really good points here. Owning up to your mistakes and also making amends is really important. I like the personal photos too! Voting up!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Crafty - That's probably not the first mistake that doctor made. Glad you are better now. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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      CraftytotheCore 

      4 years ago

      What a great story about your parents and the elevator in France! The attendant sounds a lot like an emergency room doctor I saw last year before I had my gallbladder out. I went to the ER with severe pain and high blood pressure. Little did I know I needed surgery. He didn't either and decided that if I just lost weight all my troubles would go away. He said, "you Americans if you all just lost 50 pounds, you'd be fine". Anyway, my husband and I still chuckle about that today.

      Another great article Flourish!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Rajan - Thank you for you insight and helpful analogy!

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 

      4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      We all make mistakes and learn along this way. Like a child who has just started to walk, albeit unsteadily, keeps getting up and walking, inspite of falling down each time, we need to venture into the unknown and learn.

      Useful pointers, Flourish.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      BigBlue54 - Ditch girl was awful gracious to allow me to use her photos.

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      Brenda Thornlow 

      4 years ago from New York

      Excellent hub. I always try to learn from my mistakes and try hard not to beat myself up over them. Voted up!

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      BigBlue54 

      4 years ago from Hull, East Yorkshire

      I think ditch girls biggest mistake was learning to drive with Grand Theft Auto. :)

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Peg - We tend to focus more energy on our own mistakes than others do. There are so many of those movie errors that have escaped us all! Thanks for reading and commenting!

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      Peg Cole 

      4 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      This was really entertaining. On the movie video it was amazing to see the number of camera flubs that were made and went unnoticed even during editing. Blue jeans in the war scenes. Hmm, that rhymes.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      sujaya venkeatesh - Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment. Glad you enjoyed it!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Elliott - Thank you! Glad you liked it!

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      sujaya venkatesh 

      4 years ago

      a good share flr

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      Elliott Raggio 

      4 years ago from Hove

      enjoyed this hub very much!!! kudos

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      ologsinquito - This was one time I was thankful rather than annoyed that my husband was checking up on my whereabouts. Thanks for reading, pinning, sharing!

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      ologsinquito 

      4 years ago from USA

      That must have been a mildly frightening experience being trapped in the elevator. At least you and your family will have a great story to tell for generations to come. Voted up, pinned and shared.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Cherylann - Thanks for stopping by. I'm glad I was good for a laugh. Have a great day.

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      Cherylann Mollan 

      4 years ago from India

      The elevator episode certainly tickled my funny bone. Getting stuck inside an elevator can be terrifying, and if this happens in a country that speaks a different language, well! I love the message you've communicated here though, especially that part on what blunders expose. Lots of points struck home and set me thinking. :)

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Marie - I like your linkage of mistakes to crocheting. It's a fun craft; I learned some simple stitches as a child and have made a few blankets.

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      mariewj 

      4 years ago

      I enjoyed your lift story in particular since it reminded me of a similar situation though not nearly as funny as your retelling. I see mistakes as a necessary part of learning. Right now I am teaching myself a variety of different crochet stitches - I'm happy to make mistakes since I know that working out why a pattern is not working as it should helps me to become better at this craft. I see where I went wrong, unpick and try again. Making mistakes is giving me a much better understanding of crochet and that can apply to many life situations too.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Susan - You're right about nothing you can do about it -- just pick up and move on. Thanks for reading, voting, and commenting!

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      Susan W 

      4 years ago from The British Isles, Europe

      Mistakes really are what we make of them, though some are more serious than others. Unfortunately, I make many mistakes in life but do nothing but reflect on what I should have done and remember it for the future. There is no point dwelling on the past.

      I hate being landed in a sticky situation (such as getting stuck in the elevator) and think, "Why did I do that?". Your story of getting stuck in the elevator was hilarious but I am sure it wasn't for you and your family at the time. I would be so scared, of running out of air or having no one to come to my aid. I have been to Paris before and I have been shocked by the size of the French elevators. They are so small! At least we know to take the stairs from now on! :)

      I enjoyed this very entertaining hub, voted up, interesting and funny.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Heidi - Thanks for weighing in. I appreciate your perspective!

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      Heidi Thorne 

      4 years ago from Chicago Area

      I think this is also referred to as the "College of Hard Knocks!" Unfortunately, I have an advanced degree. :)

      Sometimes, mistakes are unfixable and we need to learn to live with the consequences. That is difficult to accept. But the greater acceptance is accepting that we all make errors in judgment or action and then balance that with courage and resolve to not behave in the same manner in the future.

      Another great hub and discussion!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Frank - I'm glad you were able to enjoy my whoopie and others' too! Have an awesome day!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Mindi - Thanks for the kind compliment. It was a trip we'll never forget!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Jo - I'm glad them gave you a chuckle or two! Thanks for reading and commenting!

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      Frank Atanacio 

      4 years ago from Shelton

      Flourish, I have to admit Ive never been so entertained while reading a hub.. you pulled it off loved it voted awesome and sharing.. sometimes we laugh at other folks' mistakes.. because we try to cover our own short-comings.. anyway, flourish fantastic!!!!

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      Amanda Littlejohn 

      4 years ago

      Hi Flourish Anyway,

      That's another outstanding hub to add to your cannon. Witty, wise and inspirational as ever - and I love the Elevator Story with your folks!

      Always a great read. I just figured out how to share hubs with followers ("duh!" as my kids would say) so this one is about to be shared, too.

      Bless. :D

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      Jo Miller 

      4 years ago from Tennessee

      Enjoyed these videos. A few laughs here just at bedtime.

      Wonderful article. Well done, as usual.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      WriterJanis - Glad you enjoyed the uh-ohs. We all make them. Thanks for stopping by!

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      Janis 

      4 years ago from California

      You've given readers an entertaining way to look at our mistakes and how to handle them. Loved the movie blooper video.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Sha - The only thing worse than making a mistake like she made is making it on camera live in front of millions of people where it can live on YouTube forever. Poor thing. But she did rebound. She became a model and appeared on the Amazing Race as a contestant. Glad you made it out of that elevator in one piece. Thanks for reading and sharing your story.

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      Shauna L Bowling 

      4 years ago from Central Florida

      What is up with Miss Teen South Carolina? Was she answering the question she'd hoped for??? Goodness!

      I'm so glad you and your parents finally got out of that elevator. I got stuck in an elevator once on a 4th of July. There were way too many people in it. Even though I'm claustrophobic, it wasn't until a baby who was in the elevator with us desperately reached for her bottle that I began to panic. Fortunately, we got un-stuck within about 10 minutes, but it seemed like forever! Lesson learned: if the elevator is full, wait for the next one or take the stairs!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Jackie - Talk about a confined space! I never believed it would happen to me. Stairs are worth the climb if you can navigate them. Thanks for reading and have a great week!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      MsDora - It was a ride we'll never forget. Thanks for reading!

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      Jackie Lynnley 

      4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Loved your stories and your bloopers! I have always been paranoid about elevators and many times they have been so full I have just gotten and now I know why! lol Thanks for such entertainment. ^+

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      Dora Weithers 

      4 years ago from The Caribbean

      The elevator story isn't funny, but it IS funny. Some mistakes make us laugh despite the consequences. With the right perspective, it would that way for all of them. Thank you for your insights.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      AliciaC - The elevator ride was enjoyable immediately after we got off! Lessons learned! Thanks for stopping by!

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      Linda Crampton 

      4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is an interesting, enjoyable and entertaining hub, Flourish, although I'm sure you weren't entertained when you were stuck in the elevator! Thanks for sharing the excellent advice about handling mistakes, too.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Faith Reaper - You are always so encouraging and supportive. Thank you for being so kind!

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      Faith Reaper 

      4 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, me, I have made so many different mistakes over my lifetime LOL, I am trying to figure out which one is my favorite. Wonderful hub, as we certainly are going to make mistakes and plenty of them as we are human, and that is what we do. I have learned from all of my mistakes and have learned to laugh at myself too. Thank you for sharing your funny story now, but may not have been at the time. Looks like you all handled it well. I would have been freaked out too, thinking about running out of air. I love the photos of your dad helping your mom out of the lift. I was stuck between floors in an elevator once when I was younger and living in Tampa, Florida, working for an insurance company, and thankfully we were not in there too long. Great advice to own up to the mistake and move on!

      Up and more, tweeting, pining

      Awesome hub once again,

      Faith Reaper

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Bill - There are lots of fun mistakes tourists can make with international travel, especially in France. You'll absolutely love Paris!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Hackslap - Make a great mistake and you'll never forget the lesson it teaches. Thanks for stopping by!

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      Bill De Giulio 

      4 years ago from Massachusetts

      What a great story Flourish. We are going to Paris this fall so I'll remember to read the elevator signs :) The point of your hub however is a great lesson for us all. We will all make mistake in life so why not learn from them and take them in stride. Great job.

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      Harry 

      4 years ago from Sydney, Australia

      What an amazing hub! .. Mistakes are truly the best teachers of our lives .. if you don't dare ..you won't ever learn!.. but if you're really smart .. learn from other people's mistakes...voted up!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Rebecca - Thanks for reading and commenting. Have a great day!

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      Rebecca Mealey 

      4 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

      This is a very well put together article on mistakes. To err is human! Great job!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Audrey - Thanks for stopping by!

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      Audrey Howitt 

      4 years ago from California

      What a great hub! Mistakes are just so needed to make progress and to succeed and I think we lose sight of that all too often!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Bill - I never imagined being stranded in an elevator, especially such a small one and crammed tight for space. Glad you've made a mistake or two yourself.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      The elevator thing would freak me out. I think all of you handled it amazingly well.

      As for mistakes...made a ton of them and I'm pretty sure I'll make some more today. :) Oh well!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Rafiq23 - Thank you for stopping by. Have a great week!

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      Muhammad Rafiq 

      4 years ago from Pakistan

      Useful hub FlourishAnyway! "Mistakes teach you to identify your own vulnerabilities." Great advice for everyone.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Jo - Thank you so much. If that poor girl could recover from her mistake, none of us can complain.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Suzane - I know exactly what you're saying. I was talking to someone recently who was still lamenting an investment they made in the 1980s. They invested in a small airline stock, and the company went bankrupt after one of its passenger jetliners crashed. The investor lost their money. I told them look on the bright side -- at least they weren't on the jetliner. It's only money.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Devika - It's just one type of mistake out of many. Overall, men are involved in more accidents. I guess it depends on the driver though -- and their training, level of attention and a whole host of other factors. Thanks for reading and weighing in.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      Jodah - It is a harrowing experience, isn't it? I cannot imagine being stuck for two hours in one with two children as well!

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 

      4 years ago from Lincolnshire, U.K

      Flourish, always exceptional. This is informative, funny and very useful. I believe people are much more likely to own up to their mistakes, where there isn't a culture of blame. You are spot on, we do learn from our blunders, those who don't, are deemed to keep repeating them. Don't you just love miss teen America 2007, bless her :)

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      Suzanne Day 

      4 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

      I agree with you that how you think about a mistake plays a part in how you will ALWAYS think about it and how you can learn/not learn from it in the future. I guess one of my recent mistakes was to put some money in the stock market with my ex, then the stock went down down down. We broke up and I managed to get the money out before it went down further, but still angry that I missed out on $18k extra, which I would have had if I'd cashed it out when I thought of it a month earlier. Next time I'm just going to trust my instincts. Voted useful!

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ''Women are more likely to mistake the gas pedal for the brake.'' this is what my son and I were talking about and he thinks women drivers are the most reckless I have to agree on that note.

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