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My Own Life Lessons Learned
Introduction
Everyone of us has made mistakes at some point in our life. Making mistakes and learning from them is normal because that is what life is all about. Nobody is perfect and we tend to do big or small mistakes all that matters is that we as humans learn from those mistakes in a positive way.
Don't Lie
Lying is obviously always not a good thing to do to anyone. It can hurt that person's feelings immensely. I honestly have lied to my Mom several times and I have come to realize that is not a good thing to do because first of all you are loosing the trust that person has built on you. If you lie more often it is going to be hard for people to believe you. It has sometimes been hard for me to say the truth, because being the daughter of two strict parents who always say no to things would make me tell them white lies just so I can be able to do something, or go somewhere that I have always wanted to go.
But then again telling white lies is not always a good thing to do because you can also loose trust from that person. So my advice to you is to just say the honest truth, no matter how hard it is for you to say it, (I know how it feels) believe me in the end the huge weight you were carrying by keeping the truth hidden, will eventually go away once you are being honest with others.
Don't Lie!
The Black Eyed Peas- "Don't Lie"
Think Before You Speak
This is a big life lesson that I have been struggling with ever since I was a teenager. I remember when I would tend to just speak and not think thoroughly the same thing would happen when I would impulsively do something without thinking about it first. Doing things impulsively has gotten me into trouble and now I think carefully before doing, or saying something.
Listening first before doing something is essential if you want to learn new things or improve in something that you have been struggling with. Like for example it has always been a problem for me to not follow the directions correctly whenever I am cooking. I can sometimes just do it how ever I want but when you are doing a recipe you have to follow the rules and do it how it is supposed to be so that it can come out right.
I always have to think before I speak or else I will regret it later on.
Think before you speak
Make Your Own Choices Yours
Making my own choices on my own is something that I was weak on doing because as a teenager my parent's would disapprove on me when ever I would tell them I wanted to do this or go somewhere. Most of the time when my Aunt would ask me if I wanted to go with her to the church she attends to on Sunday's I would be afraid of telling her that I really did not like the church that she goes to and that I was already going to another church that I really like going.
Making My Aunt's decision as my own was the worst thing that I could of done because I was not being totally honest with her and second of all I was letting her control my own decisions and choices, which was not good of me to do. I had to tell my Aunt the truth, no matter how she reacted I knew that at least I had spoken my mind to her.
As humans in order to grow we have to learn to make our own decisions and choices no matter what others say or think about you. Having fear is normal but letting fear take over you is not normal, and that is when we should seek the help that we need.