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New Years; Depression or Jubilee or Both

Updated on December 27, 2014

Sometimes we just get the blues.

Sometimes we celebrate.
Sometimes we celebrate. | Source

Let us talk about New Year's feelings.

This is really good to talk about all year long. New Year's just brings the matter into bright light. How we are "supposed" to feel and how we really feel are often two different matters altogether.

Many folks suffer great depression during the "Holidays". Many folks fake it as though they are as happy as can be. Still others are as happy as they can be. Probably most of us are somewhere in between and bouncing between extremes. Let us look at the one scenario that is complicated but normal this time of year. You are bouncing with joy and all excited for the holidays, all things for Christmas went well and a beginning relationship is looking promising. But your friend is alone for the holidays and is in the middle of a nasty divorce. Well the question is; which one of you is going to fake it when you are together? It would be nice to think all things are just rosy and that the upbeat feelings of one can bring the other up to a better level. But the truth is that sometimes we just have the blues and happy will just irritate us. And so it is that we empathize and share in some low down.

The good news is that that does not have to bring us down. We can stay constant in our good feelings.


Sometimes we cry.

You have permission.

Whichever way you are feeling, you have permission to feel that way. And know this, that sometimes the fluctuations can happen in just a moment's time. And appreciating them must happen in just that amount of time.

I would love to tell you that all depression is bad and that we must always try to climb out of it in a hurry. But that just is not real. "let me be blue, thank you very much", is a fair enough cry out. Sometimes we just have to get down and out. Sometimes we need to feel the pain in order to find the gain.

In my life I know one thing for certain: I have needed times of trouble to make me appreciate times of good. There is no more of a quick way to get a person closer to the spiritual than to give them pain in the day to day empirical. A heart that has never been broken does not know the release of the mend. We are not designed to be perfect. And so it just follows that life is not designed to always be perfect. We are to succumb from time to time to the wasteland of depressions. Especially during this holiday time of the year we may suffer melancholy. We may just be sad. Let it be, let it be.

(please note with care that I do not speak of a clinical depression for that is a whole other matter together and deserves our great attention to help to cure as soon as is practical)

There are deep valleys that can be beautiful.

Inspiration that can save another soul often comes from the pits of despair.
Inspiration that can save another soul often comes from the pits of despair. | Source

We do not want to wait too long for the miracle to come.

Be jubilant my heart.

Other times during this season we feel filled with jubilation and celebration and this we must embrace also. If we are in the mood we should not miss one opportunity to dance. We must dance to the rhythms of love and of joy. We must reflect kindly of days past and yet embrace the beauty of promises yet fulfilled. We must bring in a new year but at the same time dance and sing like there is no tomorrow. It is in this time that we must store up new memories and recreate old ones into positive and form the dreams of tomorrow into beauty and wonder. Now is when to assess our great accomplishments of yesteryear and pat our selves on the back.

It is important to take stock when we are on the upswing and be charitable to ourselves. Lest we do them in the low times and beat our selves up. You see when we are positive we can store up enough of the good to get us through the bad. We literally can fill our reservoir full of the good and drink of it when times are tough.

Great chasms can be crossed.

Even the jolliest can lend an ear to those feeling the lowest, what a gift.
Even the jolliest can lend an ear to those feeling the lowest, what a gift. | Source

There comes a time in most lives.

It is not that gaiety is lost and it is not that depression is conquered. They just somehow seem to melt into one. The highs and the lows become a constant. The man sat with his tea in front of the fireplace warming himself, he sat alone and he was at peace. But inside was he sad or was he jubilant? You see at some point he came to realize that those two impostors were just different sides of the same coin. Do not get me wrong there is still great joy to be had and there is still great pain to be felt. The difference is that through both now he is satisfied to sit and contemplate and fined the good in both.

For our man the holidays will be filled with the emotions of greatness and sadness. And he would not have it any other way.

I am in a good mood, but not that good of mood.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Vespa, I fully agree with you that the variances really do help us appreciate the "normal" times even more. At least they do for me!

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      vespawoolf 2 years ago from Peru, South America

      It´s true that highs and lows are a part of life. The lows make us appreciate what we have even more, especially once we come out of the "blues". Thank you for sharing!

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      You are killing me with kindness Ed. You leave me much to live up to in the new year. Chuc Mung Nam Moi!!

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Marcy -- Jubilado I believe and it is a great expression indeed. Thank you for showing your support -- not just for the hub but for the people that suffer from the stigma.

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      ahorseback 2 years ago

      Eric my friend , I've said it before , -I think! .....You are such a treasure , I'm putting you in for the Chaplain of Hub-pages ! I'm gonna get you a badge and everything ! lol Darn it all you are the best !.....Thank you and all the best for you , your beautiful family , this year !

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Theresa for this excellent addition to this hub. I agree wholeheartedly with you sentiments and conclusions. There should be absolutely no stigma attached to such periodic and episodal bouts of depression.

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      Marcy Goodfleisch 2 years ago from Planet Earth

      Eric - this is an important topic - good job in pointing out these issues and the fallout that can happen. Depression is serious, and has an unfair stigma.

      Related to the word Jubilee - the Spanish word for being retired is somewhat like our word "Jubilation." I love that!

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      Theresa Ast 2 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      Eric - A very reasonable and balanced approach to these things that come and go in our lives. I agree that Clinical Depression and SAD are serious and require outside assistance and intervention.... But I remember in my 20's and 30's every one (and every sermon, essay and book) seemed to be hysterically determined to defeat and wipe out all depression. I remember thinking (and saying to quite a few people), that there are times in life when "depression is the normal and appropriate reaction." There is loss, pain, confusion, suffering at times and the only "real" response is depression, and the person needs time, and understanding to work through it. They don't need to be told they are crazy or losers or pathetic because they cannot be instantly joyful in the face of great pain or loss. Excellent and needed discussion. Thank you. Sharing. Theresa

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you much Blossom. From our house to yours we hope you have a very happy New Year.

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      Bronwen Scott-Branagan 2 years ago from Victoria, Australia

      Such a lovely New Year message. Wishing you a New Year filled with accomplishment of your goals, joy and many blessings.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Eddy it is great to hear from you. Just loved your piece this morning and it sets a great tone for the final run!

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi John, merry merries to you. I could listen to those guys all day long --- wait a second, I do!

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Dora, that is one of my favorite concepts. I try to live day by day. My prayers are with you and yours for this season.

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      Eiddwen 2 years ago from Wales

      A wonderful message my dear friend Eric and wishing you a wonderful run up to your new Year.

      Lots of love from Wales.

      Eddy.

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      John Hansen 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Just returned to watch and listen to the music videos Eric,...Tom Jones and Van Morrison, and Leonard Cohen as well. Perfect...we must have similar taste.

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      Dora Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Great thoughts to reflect on especially as we look toward the beginning of the new year. My lesson from you, Eric, will be: "We literally can fill our reservoir full of the good and drink of it when times are tough." I know I will need it. Thank you.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ours includes so many from so far away that it continues through New Years. What is in one day anyway? Presents tomorrow with my eldest from DC and Tuesday with a best friend. Yahoo! Today I let myself commiserate with myself over years of old.

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      John Marshall 2 years ago from glasgow

      Hi Ericdierker,we had a fantastic Christmas,hope you had a good one to my friend.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I sure am glad I am old, I have been through all that and can now see it through the bottom of my tea cup. We need to lend a hand when it stops by our doorstep.

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      Perspycacious 2 years ago

      Filling the trough and drinking from it every time I thirst. In afddition to clinical depression, there is also Seasonal Affective Disorder. That too can and should be dealt with as soon as possible. It, like so many things, is just a case of "seeing the light."

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      We are still celebrating Christmas and loving every minute John, I hope yours was jolly.

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      John Hansen 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Wonderful article Eric, great message and true observations. Hope you had a great Christmas.

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      John Marshall 2 years ago from glasgow

      Thanks Ericdierker,Happy New Year to you as well.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Bill and I hope you are taking time to celebrate with your special lady. We have much to accomplish next year so we better be up for it!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      As always, a solid message my friend. I love your positive attitude about life. Happy New Year, Eric!

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you much John. Happy New Year to you and all your gals.

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      John Marshall 2 years ago from glasgow

      Great hub,enjoyed every minute of it.good subject matter depression,good to talk about it.