New Year's Resolutions For Life
Taking stock in the New Year
It's that time of year again. Time to take stock of where we are in our lives and decide what we want to work on for the coming year. Each year we honestly believe we're gong to make drastic changes, be it to our health, our wealth or our wellness.
We have the best intentions and the knowledge of what didn't work last year. Often we find ourselves creating at bucket list of what will make us happier. Maybe the key to keeping those New Year's resolutions is making a list we can live with.Like many, I've made the list. We tend to focus on changing ourselves in drastic ways and maybe drastic change really isn't the best way to usher in the new year.
Each New Year's Eve you sit down and make a list of all the things you want to change. New Year's day you're gung ho and ready to get started. Sure you're excited the first few weeks and maybe even into the next month, but by about mid February the list looms ominously over our heads as we realize there's really no way we're gong to accomplish everything. The list that was once proudly displayed on the fridge has now made it down to the counter and soon it will be in the back of the drawer or accidentally tossed with that last pile of junk mail.
There's a reason for this, at least in my experience. We expect to reach large lofty goals without doing much more than writing them down on a piece of paper. Reaching large goals doesn't happen because we wrote them down with good intentions, they happen with planning small steps, taking them seriously and holding ourselves accountable.
This year my resolutions will include just a few well planned reachable goals. Not the auspiciously overwhelming list that only serves to crush those New Year's good intentions.
Top 10 New Year's Resolutions
What are the top 10 New Year's resolutions?
1. Lose weight
2. Help others/Volunteer.
3. Save money
4. Reduce debt
6. Learn something new
7. Get a better job
8. Find love
9. Spend more time with family
10. Quit Smoking
Accomplishing Our Resolutions
Whether your resolution is to lose weight or find a better job. It takes planning and small reachable goals to keep up the enthusiasm you need to keep that New Year's resolution.
Take time to focus on one resolution and parse it down to real attainable goals. If your goal is to reduce debt, don't jump in and try to take every dime you have to pay down an immense credit card bill. Do a little research on how to get out of debt and take small steps to reach your goal. This goes for any number of resolutions. Plan small, not big. Small measurable goals offer many opportunities to celebrate your success, while large unattainable goals only serve to sap our enthusiasm. It's not bad to set a larger goal, just ensure that you have small steps to drive you along the way.
Take any one of the above resolutions and find small steps that will give you encouragement. Even better find another person to work with you towards a goal. Share your triumphs and tribulations along the way.
You can find love, quit smoking and lose weight, but there's a lot more to it than just writing it down on paper.
What do all these resolutions really say about us? What is it we really want? We all want to be happy. Most resolutions are all about fixing the things that we think make us unhappy. Sans the ones that are really health concerns. If it's a health concern like morbid obesity or smoking, then by all means set yourself up for success by seeking help with your resolution. There are professionals out there that can help you set reachable and safe goals.
If however, your resolution is to do one of these things because you believe it will make you happy, you may be setting yourself up for failure. Happiness is attained from within, not through a better figure, more money or finding true love.
This year my resolution is to love who I am, appreciate the people I have in my life and stop everyday to remember that happiness is my choice. I wish you all a "Happy" New Year.