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Menopause - not the end!

Updated on June 1, 2012
celebrate your new path
celebrate your new path

The beginning of a new phase

Going through the menopause is not the end of the world, it's actually the start of a new phase of our lives. I'm a 44yr old woman and like most women my age or older, I'm aware that the menopause is not so far around the corner, so to speak. However, unlike alot of women the thought of this does not fill me with dread or feelings of despair. On the contrary, I'm actually quite looking forward to it! For me the mere thought of no more 'monthlys' will suit me fine thankyou very much. I've never wanted children and therefore the inconvenience of this part of my womanhood has been nothing less than a pain! I didn't even benefit from skipping sport at school as I loved it so much, whereas the other girls would constantly use this as an excuse not to participate in activities. My only consolation was the day my teacher announced to the class that it wasn't natural to menstruate once a week and those that were should be seeking urgent medical attention! You can imagine the little grin on my face as I looked on at the gloom around me.

Take a positive approach - Decide to take control

If you feel that the menopause is something that is going to 'happen' to you then you will most likely be in conflict with it. Instead choose to work with it and see the whole process as a natural part of the woman you are and the person you have become. I take this approach while having menstruation! This will enable you to take control and hopefully feel much better.

Turn everything to your advantage

Instead of beating yourself up, accept things as they are and look for the positives. Focus more on things that please you and get more involved. Pampering is a great way to give yourself a boost. Acknowledge the things that you've achieved and done well in your life, and be proud of them. Keep yourself informed so you can deal with changes effectively and as they may occur.

What is the menopause?

Officially the menopause is the day your menstrual cycle stops. However, you can't be sure you've passed the menopause until roughly a year goes by without menstruation or two years if you're under fifty.

The menopause also has other meanings too;

  • A time when hormones settle into a different balance. The production of oestrogen declines and other hormones also change.
  • The risk of certain health conditions increases.
  • A transition. The hormonal changes that characterize the menopause last for a few years most and afterwards the body settles into stability.

The menopause is not;

  • It does not have to be an ideal.
  • It is not the end of femininity.
  • It does not mean ill-health
  • It is not a pit of depression
  • It does not mean you have to slow down
  • It is certainly not the beginning of the end!

What are the symptoms of the menopause

There can be a variety of symptoms of the menopause, due to the changing levels of hormones. The most common is hot flushes but other symptoms may include;

  • anxiety
  • breast lumpiness and pain
  • clumsiness
  • constipation
  • headaches
  • mood swings
  • joint pains
  • fluid retention

This looks like a daunting list, but most women will only experience a few of these symptoms. It is important to remember that what ever you experience you're not falling apart mentally or physically!

Remedies and Treatments

There are a variety of treatments available depending on how this time in your life is effecting you;

  • HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy). This should be researched before committing, as it is not the right choice for everyone. HRT does exactly what it suggests, replaces the levels of hormones that reduce during the menopause.
  • Complimentary therapies; These therapies take a holistic approach and look at the whole person to bring the body into balance. Variations in this approach are;
  • Medical Herbalism
  • Chinese Herbal Medicine
  • Reflexology

Of course a healthy diet goes without saying. The better you eat the more healthier you're likely to feel.

See the world through new eyes
See the world through new eyes

Not the end - Instead - The Beginning

Try to begin a creative endeavour as the menopause can bring so much energy that could be channelled into something really positive. Do something to soak up the world around you and see the world anew through menopausal eyes.


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    • cherriquinn profile image

      cherriquinn 5 years ago from UK. England. Newcastle upon Tyne

      connieow, Ann, Tonipet Thankyou all for reading and for your comments. We women must stick together!Best wishes to you all.

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      Tonette Fornillos 5 years ago from The City of Generals

      Thank you for all these tips. I'm not getting all the signs yet but I feel I'm about to enter the phase. So glad to have stopped and learned the basics. I very much believe that attitude counts. Well-done cherriquinn. A must-vote and share! Happy days to you!

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      AnnRandolph 5 years ago

      I loved the "end of the monthlies" - Yes, and I've become more calm and focused. Alas, I do go through the night sweats.

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      Connie S Owens 5 years ago from El Cajon, CA


      What a great attitude about menopause. A wonderful start to crone status. You are correct, it is the third phase in our life when we should be celebrating our femaleness and the power of woman. Even the maiden years were to be celebrated. So never omit honoring those years.

      This time in your life is going to need extra support, especially nutrition. and your hub has inspired me to add another about our third stage in life as women.

      Thank you and blessings.