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How To Vent Frustration Without Being Mean
Frustration Can Disrupt Anyones Emotions
It is not uncommon for anyone to become so frustrated that they are unable to deal with a situation with a rational state of mind. Reactions from frustration can lead to actions that result in damaged feelings.The recipient of such actions, often suffers irreparable emotional trauma. The end result leaves the frustrated person as well as the recipient in an even worse state of mind and the effect snowballs causing more problems, if left to fester. Venting is a normal way to rid ones self of frustrated feelings but it does not have to turn into a vicious attack.
Walk It Away
When the frustration builds to the brink of disaster I have found that my best bet is to take off walking. I have been accused of running away from problems and it might very well appear to be the fact. The truth is I would rather walk and walk and walk until I walk it all away. It is best to excuse yourself from the situation if that is at all possible, but if not, it is still better to walk than to stay and find yourself saying or doing things that you will regret later. My first response is ti turn and walk.
Strong Emotional Connections Usually Feed The Frustrating Fire
I believe that the strongest connections from the heart are the ones that can trigger the most frustration. That is to say that the more involved we are with the circumstance the more likely we are to become the most frustrated. This can be true even if the situation is job related as problems in the workplace can create financially insecure feelings. It does not matter what the circumstance is. The one thing you do not want to do is resort to running your head when you should be silent. There is an old saying that "loose lips sink ships" and it can be applied to frustrated reactions. Just shut up and walk away when you can not be rational.
It Works Best If You Can Walk In The Woods Or A Natural Setting
I would pick the woods if that is at all possible to set my frustrations free. There are not always woods available so the beach is a good second choice. The park is also a great place to walk away your worry but if none of these settings are afoot just head on down the road or sidewalk. Being outside is the ultimate but, that too, can be unavailable if it is storming or too hot or too cold. You can always try a mall that is indoors or if nothing else then go to the gym and do a treadmill. I STRONGLY Suggest Staying out of a vehicle.
Emotions are very powerful and demanding and it is not a smart thing to get behind the steering wheel when you are distracted by frustration. The distraction could cause anyone to not pay close enough attention to driving and result in an accident. The other reason that I think walking is great is that it allows the frustrated person to gradually become grounded.
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU WALK AWAY?
The initial feeling you might have is a sense of relief from whatever it was that got you so frustrated in the first place. Another old saying, "out of sight, out of mind". That is exactly the goal in making the break for a walk. It works wonders but there is much more to it than just forgetting the frustrating circumstance. Emotions are flailing and your mind is laden with all that has you worked up. The walk gives you time to rehash the situation in your mind. You will be going over and over whatever it is that has you going crazy.
You will question your own actions and anyone else who might have been involved. It could be that much was said that lead you to the frustrated feeling or it could be that you were trying to accomplish some sort of physical thing such as putting a project together and you just hit a brick wall. It does not really matter what the circumstances are that caused the frustration, what matters is that you deal with it in a positive way. My first response is to take a walk.
Walk Until You Forget Why You Were Out Walking
The steps you take are sure to benefit you in several ways. The first thing is calming your frustrated feelings. This will come as you think the situation over as you are moving. The walk will probably start out brisk as your emotions are running high. You might have even felt like running when you first took off.
It won't take long until you have things calmed down in your mind and you are starting to think of better ways to approach the problem. I have faith that most people will come to some solid ideas on how to solve problems if they are given enough time. Walk on. Do not turn back unless it is a matter of life and death. Walking will lower your blood pressure so it is a good thing.
Now that you are solving things as you walk you are becoming grounded. That is to say that you are tuning into the earth and becoming closer to that which surrounds you. This is when you really start to make progress. You might still be thinking about what got you so frustrated but you are now thinking on another level. You have graduated to a higher plane of being. It can be felt by a slower pace of movement. Your heart has slowed and much of the frustration has gone.
Before you know it you are walking and hearing the sounds that are around you. It could be birds or bugs or the wind pushing through the trees. Maybe the sound of running water in a nearby creek. Just keep going. Walk until you are thinking about your surroundings. Was that a Blue Jay you heard calling? Are those wild roses growing on the creek bank? Do those children realize how lucky they are to not have a care in the world other than playing and laughing?
Find A Place To Set For A While
I like to put my back up against a big tree. By the time I take a good seat I am totally thinking about the environment at hand. I like to study the light and how it falls on the ground. I listen to the Earth noises and close my eyes. This puts me at peace. I try to become one with all of it. I try to blend in and be hidden from the world. Now I have let go of all of the frustrations that brought me here.I do this by nature.
I have been doing it so long. I say that anyone who can walk can use my method to save face in the hands of frustration. Give it a try to practice it until it becomes routine. I do not think you will regret the benefits you find in a good long walk.
One Note Of Caution
I was living in Dallas for the first time many years ago and walked out the door rather than to argue with a friend. I had been in the area for only a few weeks and was not familiar with the area. I walked in my neighborhood for a long while. I was in a residential suburb and so involved in myself that I did not pay close attention to where I was going. Quite a bit of time lapsed before I realized that I was lost. I did not remember which way I had gone so I did not know how to return. I found my way but it took several hours. I had everyone worried and actually had myself worried. My point, know where you are going or drop plenty of bread crumbs to mark your trail. BEWARE OF HUNGRY BIRDS TOO!
Positive Venting Leads To Positive Solutions
Now that you have found a better way to deal with the emotional part of your frustration you should be able to look at the cause of it and, deal with everything from a better point of view. This will help in keeping any situation that causes emotional flare ups, to be handle with more rationality. Getting out of anger mode and into solution mode is half the battle won. I sure hope that this suggestion will help the next time you find yourself wanting to vent your frustrations toward somebody or some thing.