How to Get Outside Your Comfort Zone
Explore yourself: outside your comfort zone!
10th October was World Mental Health day and I was so eagerly waiting for this day to tell you all the story behind me getting out of my comfort zone and accepting change for better. I strongly believe in this phrase that ‘change is the new constant’ but also to add to this that 'change occurs when we choose the change and when we accept it positively'. I would have never been the person I am today if I would have wept at the situations and circumstances in life. Acceptance is difficult but is the key and I can say that by my own experience. So I would like to share some of my experiences and ways about how to get yourself out of your comfort zone.
Life turning events: my story
I lost my cat during my 10th grade and just after two years I lost my granny as well when I was in my 12th grade. Both of them were really close to my heart. My parents used to come home late from work and hence my cat and my granny used to be with me the entire day. It was a tough time to cope up with myself. I couldn’t really express myself out about what I always felt during that tough time. But somehow I stood strong due to my support system, which are my parents. They have always been very protective about me. They never let me do any work at home. I never thought I would have to go away from home, but yes I had to. After my 12th grade I got admission in a college in new city. Parents were more worried than myself. They had never let me out alone for anything.
Moral- Life will give you challenges, events that you had never expected to occur, things you will have to go through forcefully.
Acceptance and facing it
In these situations, somehow we all had to stay strong. Otherwise I would have always been a pampered and a dumb kid. Also somewhere that change was necessary as I would have been more depressed staying home, feeling lonely and missing my granny the entire day. And that’s how started my life in a new city.
Moral- When you accept the changes positively, it gives you an entire new perception and helps you create solutions to how you can mould yourself to it.
Challenges in new place (out of my comfort zone)
I still remember how my parents had come to drop me till my hostel. My mom arranged my bed and cupboard for me in my hostel room. They were really very protective and specially during that moment when they had to leave me all alone. I just smiled and waved a goodbye. I realized that they both were feeling more sad than me. Being the only child they were never used to staying without me. It wasn’t just a change of myself but a huge change for them too. It was hard to accept initially that hostel was going to be my home but it was even harder to absorb the fact that I am no more staying with my parents. Even today these questions pop up in my mind. What if I would have secured admission in my hometown? What if rather than accepting and adjusting we would have felt depressed ?
Moral- when finally being out of your comfort zone get you actually experience difficulties and challenges.
Learning from turning points
But again destiny has it’s own way to help us learn about ourselves, our life and yes, I learned it too. With all hopes and faith in myself I was set to start a new journey in a new place and with new people. I did face little challenges but also overlay them. I feel every person or rather a person who has been staying in comfort and protected zone, should step out and experience life outside. You will learn more than you ever learned in a classroom. It is completely and all together a new adventure. Yes you will face good and bad situations equally but ultimately you are going to turn out completely into a different and a stronger person.
Pune city- New city, new environment, new people and new lifestyle. And yes that helped me create a new me! Adjusting to environment wasn’t that difficult. Infact I realized that once you accept it, it becomes easier to adjust anywhere. Today when I look back I feel that I could do it because I trusted myself and I trusted the process. Right now that I am writing my first post here, it feels really blissful to narrate everything I went through, good and bad experiences. Many realizations, many adjustments, my self evolution, changing for a better version of myself. It is really amazing and feels so wonderful how everything falls to it’s place so perfectly! How every incidence and every situation teaches us something that makes us smarter and help us reaching to our goals. After five years of living outside my comfort zone, I have learned that universe gets you everything not what you want, not what is beneficial, not what is momentary but what is good for you and what will make you achieve your long term goal.
And now these coming 30 days I am going to narrate to you 30 ways I explored myself. My experiences, kinds of people I met, my downfalls and struggles, my uplifts and everything what created me. I would like to share with you all how you can find yourself and come out of the toughest situations in your life if you stay strong. I had read somewhere that “you are created by the what and how you were in your past”. I would like to add to this that “you are created by how you learn and imply from whatever you went through in past.” Think about this! It’s not that I had a very happening and luxurious lifestyle but I had a happy lifestyle and I chose this kind of lifestyle. I own it completely. For the first time I am not at all worried about my followers, my likes and comments. I just want all of you to feel and perceive what I experienced and what I learned. I just want you all to learn something through my writeups, through my experiences. I hope I will be able to touch your lives. As a physiotherapist I want to heal your illnesses but as a writer I wish to touch your hearts.
Moral- Your most difficult challenges can be turning points of your life which will lift you up and make you stronger and changed person!
So I would really love to have your feedback on how you felt reading my very first article. Please do keep reading these 30 days especially to understand more on how you can apply certain things to your life all by yourself without anybody’s help. And believe me our life is a beautiful school and our experiences are amazing teachers. Rather than complaining about good and bad changes, accept them try to understand what are they trying to teach you!
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2019 Natasha Tungare