Sex; Important Tips And Advice For The Bedroom
This article is not suitable for children under 18. The sole purpose of this article is to educate couples and show why communication is important in the bedroom.
For many of us, sex is a very sensitive subject. Many men and women feel uncomfortable about bring up their sex life. More importantly, partners also fail to talk with one another about their sexual relationship. You are just like everyone else, you want to get the most out of your sex life with your partner. In my research, I have found that men and women often fail to communicate with each other in regards to their sex life.
Below, you can find the most common reasons why couples don't communicate.
- Afraid that partner will get angry
- May bring up trust issues
- Scared that partner will feel unappreciated
- Could be a turn off
- Strained for time
- Living with children or family
- Not interested anymore
- Fails to listen and understand
- Dealing with everyday life issues
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HOW COMMUNICATION CAN DO THE TRICK
Communication is the most important step toward a better sex life with your partner. In fact, communication alone can do the trick. Both men and women have to constantly communicate to one another throughout their entire relationship. The better you communicate, the better you understand and listen. The same can be said when it comes to the bedroom. Once you and your partner begin to communicate in the bedroom, you will be more willing to understand and listen.
So why is it so important to communicate in the bedroom? Well, why do we communicate with anyone in the first place? We communicate because this is how we associate with one another. You have to apply the correct communication skills in the bedroom so you are able to experience a better sex life, both physically and emotionally. This goes beyond "sex talk" per say. This is connecting on a comfortable level where you are able to communicate with one another without embarrassment, regret, or hurt.
Although this may sound difficult or be viewed as hard work to others, it is very simple. It is so simple, anyone can do it. There has to be an equal level of give and take. You will be able to enjoy the pleasure communication brings to your sexual relationship and you will be able to reap all the great benefits. In the process, you will also learn more about your partner in more ways then one. You and your partner have to be comfortable with one another and hide nothing. If you are completely comfortable, you shouldn't have to hide anything. Once you are, the two of you will be able to enjoy more and have increased pleasure.
ASKING THE RIGHT QUESTIONS
Now, what is the best way to learn about someone? Do you have it yet? It is simple, by asking questions! I told you this was easy. You and your partner have to be able to openly ask questions to each other. The both of you also have to openly answer the questions honestly. This is the only way it will work. In any partnership, you have to be able to work equal. The same is said in any relationship. If you both are willing, it will pay off in ways you never thought possible.
So what questions do you ask? This is where it takes on another level as each question you ask is very personal. In the simplest way that I can say, you want to ask what your partner likes and doesn't when it comes to sex. Many of you may have already asked questions, but you have to be completely honest with each other. Ask questions that you haven't asked before. Ask questions again if your not for sure. You can find a list of example questions below. Every man and woman are different, no two are alike when it comes to their sexual behavior. If you have had mutiple sex partners, you may tend to be "routine". This means that you are likely to behave in the same manner or perform similar sexual acts. You can't be routine because no two are alike in their wants and needs.
Example questions that you may need answers for:
I can't go into detail about the questions that you need to ask, but you can figure them out on your own time. The key is to learn everything you can about your partner sexually. What better way to get the answers you need then by asking questions. If you have been with your partner for some time now, you should at least have an idea of what they like and don't. Once again, you have to be honest with each other when asking questions and answering them also.
For starters, I know these questions can get personal and you may not be comfortable with asking them. But truth be told, the answers are very important to having a better sex life. Once you have a better understanding of what your partner likes, both of you have the chance to experience a higher level of pleasure. This can increase your arrousal or put you in the mood more then you currently are. You can only benefit from this once you and your partner are completely comfortable with one another.
Sex should be fun, interesting, and full of excitement. If you are not feeling this way, something is wrong. Those of you that have been in relationships for years may find this harder to do then younger couples. When you are with the same sex partner, your sex life can get strained and boring. This is not to say that you are tired of that person. It just means that you both need to try new things. Sex is just like anything else in life. If you eventually do it enough, it can become tiring. Don't be afraid to try new things and experience new adventures with your partner. When your with someone for so long, you have to put in an equal effort to keep your sex life interesting. At the least, use your imagination! Sex is just like everything else in your life, if it is done the same way, day in and day out, it will eventually become routine or boring.
I know this is a sensitive subject for many of you and it is something that most of you prefer to keep in the bedroom. The sole purpose of this article is to show you why communication is so important in your sex life. Take the time to talk to your partner and make sure both of you are comfortable with one another. Communication is the key to sexual happiness.
WHEN ALL ELSE HAS FAILED
It is possible that you have tried everything that you can think of and your still missing something in your sex life. If you have came to this point, you and your partner should once again communicate. You should try to exactly find what is missing and fix it. You may find it and you may not. But at the least, you and your partner should try. If the both of you don't try, you will never know what could have been.
If you and your partner have talked, it is possible that the two of you are not meant for each other. In order to have a happy relationship, you must have a healthy sex life. Both men and women have different needs when it comes to sex. It is your job as their partner to find out what those needs are. As mentioned before, no two men or women are alike in their needs and wants.
Remember, communication is everything. You have to communicate with one another to get the most out of your sex life. If you fail to communicate, your sex life will fail also. Sex is a very valuable act in one's relationship. This is how we connect to the one we love and adore. This is when two hearts, bodies, and souls become one. Don't frown upon sex like it is a sin. Sex is a beautiful thing when shared by a couple. If you take the time to communicate, you have the chance to experience things that you never thought possible. Give it a try.