She is Envious Toward Me

I like being, simple, easygoing, confident, and very interesting in my own way. Over the last year, I have become acquainted with a trophy wife. We are from two different worlds.

This woman is envious and cold toward me, it makes me scared of what she can be capable of. I understand her situation in comparison to mine. Her life is in the Balkans, and I am a South African of Indian origin.

My lifestyle is different to hers, and that makes us unique in our ways. I grew up having basic needs, and a bit more, and had a very easy standard of living.

On the other hand, this woman has been through a rough part of the world. She knows more than I know about what it is like to be without a good life. After an arranged marriage to a very wealthy man, her life changed in a good way.

A kind of life she never had before, and suddenly has everything she could ever dream of. It all came too easy to her. The focus is on money and spending lavishly.

Her comments are sometimes frustrating as she has no clue about my past life and only sees my life presently. Whatever I buy she makes sure to have the same for herself. Be it earrings, shoes or clothing, she tries her best to buy any item to match my belongings.

I see her envy through and through and don't care much for her attitude. It feels good to write about it.

Her behaviour did trouble me in the beginning. The way she talked about her life was bearable and annoying to me.

I have not had in life, such an envious person, and at times I don't know what to say to her.

A woman who does not know what the true meaning is about enjoying life. Her way of showing happiness is shopping, and receiving gifts from her wealthy husband.

I have noticed that whatever she had bought and had specifically shown to me to make me know he had bought for her, is not worthy of me. Nothing she has that can make me feel out of place, or envious at all.

I have realized this woman would go to great lengths to try and dress like me. On many occasions, she tried to be something she is not and that is sad.

What to look for in envious individuals?

• Individuals feel hurt and uncomfortable in their zones.
• The efforts made by you can trigger envy in others.
• When that individual lacks what you have, they feel completely broken up.
• Admired qualities in you can trigger an emotion in an envious individual.
• An envious person enjoys talking about you to others.
• Ignore the envious person if they are harmless.
• The whole concept of envy is you want what the other has, and in my situation, this woman tries her best to have the same as I do.
• In my case, it is exactly how it has been for a year.
• She wants what I have, and that is my way of life.

Unfortunately, that is not possible!

Her life is nothing like mine, and in seeing this daily it has come to a point where she has made herself most unhappy and greedy.

What I have she will never have. I am not sure if she understands the situation.

A few days ago, it was rather cold, so I decided to wear my woollen hood. I was outside sweeping up the dried leaves away from my front door.

I saw the envious woman and was quite surprised about her staring at me. A day or two later, I saw her wearing a similar kind of woollen hood that I have and that I did not expect from her.

I did not expect it to be that soon for her to have a woollen cap too. Her behaviour has been this way for a while, and I am speechless about the attitude she shows me.

I sometimes notice her cold stare toward me when at her place, it is hard to believe that someone can be that cold.

How do I cope with envy?

I was raised differently and know differently that is what makes me special, and unique. She was rejected once in her past life and felt ashamed of that experience.

Nobody is perfect, and this individual doesn't show me any different. She can't accept her life in the way it was and for what is. Instead, chose to focus on money to make her happy.

The way I see it, without the wealthy man in her life she would be left penniless and sad.

She sees is what makes her happy, and that is her materialistic lifestyle.

She is not a happy person and does not love herself.

People are faced with all kinds of problems, no matter what background they come from or where they live. It is how one chooses to handle these situations is a major part of solving that problem.

What is the Power of Envy?

• I learned that the power of envy lies within certain individuals, and in most individuals.
• The values and lifestyles of individuals trigger the emotions of others.
• Showing off what you have can cause many issues with the envious person.
• I accepted her behaviour and ignored her conversations.
• I feel even better when I see her.
• I allow her envy to go back to her soul by showing her what she does not have.
• My politeness and great personality put her back down in her place.
• I have the power to not recognize her behaviour.
• I listen to her conversations and don't take her words to my heart.
• I analyze certain conversations and let them pass by.
• I don't allow envy to grow on me from her or to be the person she is.
• I know not to allow envy in my life.
• It is not easy to get rid of envy once you have it.
• I am fully aware of her actions.
• Envious people will do anything to hurt you.
• The best is to address the problem if you think it has become a serious one and is affecting you uncontrollably.
• The other way is to ignore their behaviour if you feel the envy is harmless.
• I discovered her sudden improvement financially.
• She falls on top of the world with her sudden fortune gained during this marriage.
• It is unexpected, and now her life all seems too perfect.
• Her envious ways have shown me nothing but the hate she has for me, and how she pretends to like me.
• Envious people don't admit their secret emotions to anyone else, except to other envious people.
• I feel sorry for such characters.

What matters to me?

• Intelligence.
• Happiness from within.
• Love
• Enjoy life.
• Meeting up with my goals.
• To always think and do powerfully.
• To be confident.
• To be positive in my actions.
• To know me better than others.
• To love me first and then others.
• To stand on my own two feet.
• To be friendly and live for today.
• I buy what I like and take pride in what I do.
• My strengths have helped me overcome my weaknesses.
• My greater personality shows me in the strongest of ways.