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She is Envious Toward Me

Updated on October 21, 2016

The Cruel-eyed in green

Green with envy
Green with envy | Source
Avoid those long stares.
Avoid those long stares. | Source
Green-eyed with envy.
Green-eyed with envy. | Source

Envious People

I like being me, simple, easy going, confident, and very interesting in my own way.

Over the last year, I have become acquainted with a trophy wife. We are from two different worlds.

This woman is envious, and cold toward me, it makes me scared of what she can be capable of.

I understand her situation in comparison to mine.

Her life from the Balkans, and I am South African of Indian origin.

My lifestyle is totally different to hers, and that makes us unique in our own ways.

I grew up having basic needs, and a bit more, and had a very easy standard of living.

On the other hand, this woman has been through a rough part of the world. She knows more than I know of what it is like to be without a good life.

After an arranged marriage to a very wealthy man, her life changed in a good way.

A kind of life she never had before, and suddenly has everything she could ever dream of. It all came too easy to her.

The focus is on money, and spending lavishly.

Her comments are sometimes frustrating as she has no clue of my past life and only sees my life presently.

Whatever I buy she makes sure to have the same for herself.

Be it earrings, shoes or clothing, she tries her best to buy any item to match my belongings.I see her envy through and through, and don't care much for her attitude.

It feels good to write about it. Her behavior did trouble me in the beginning. The way she talked on and, on about her life was bearable, and also annoying to me.

I have not had in my life such an envious person, and at times I don't know what to say to her.

A woman who does not know what is the true meaning of enjoying life.

The type who does not know how to laugh truly. Her way of showing happiness is in going shopping, and in receiving gifts from her wealthy husband.

I have noticed that whatever she had bought, and had specifically shown to me to make me know he had bought for her, is not worthy of me.

Nothing she has that can make me feel out of place, or envious at all.

I have realized this woman would go to great lengths and try to dress like I.

On many occasions she tried to be something she is not and that is really sad.

She can't be me!

What to look for in envious individuals?

Individuals feel hurt and uncomfortable in their zones.

The efforts made by you can trigger envy in others.

When that individual lacks what you have they feel completely broken up.

Admired qualities in you can trigger an emotion in an envious individual.

An envious person enjoys talking about you to others.

Ignore the envious person if they are harmless.

The whole concept of envy is you wanting what the other has, and in my situation this woman tries her best to have the same as I do.

In my case it is exactly how it has been for a year.

She wants what I have, and that is my way of life.

Jealousy and Envy

Unfortunately that is not possible!

Her life is nothing like mine, and in seeing this daily it has come to a point where she is has made herself most unhappy and greedy.

What I have she will never have. I am not sure if she really understands the situation.

A few days ago it was rather cold, so I decided to wear my woolen hood. I was outside sweeping up the dried leaves away from my front door. I saw the envious woman, and was quite surprised of the way she starred at me. I saw the look from the corner of my eyes.

It stunned me!

I just laughed to myself.

A day or two later I saw her wearing a similar kind of woolen hood that I have and that surprised me.

I did not expect it to be that soon for her to have woolen cap too.

Her behavior has been in this way for a while, and I am speechless about the attitude she shows me.

I sometimes notice her cold stare toward me when at her place, it is hard to believe that someone can be that cold.

How I cope with envious?

I ignore her behavior.

I was raised differently, and know different that is what makes me special, and unique.

She was rejected once in her past life, and felt ashamed by that experience.

Nobody is perfect, and this individual doesn't show me any different.

She can't accept her life for the way it was and for what is. Instead, chose to focus on money to make her happy. The way I see it, without the wealthy man in her life she would be left penniless and sad.

All she sees is what makes her happy, and that is her materialistic lifestyle.

You can have many friends, and lots of money, but if you are not happy where does that leave you?

People are faced with all kinds of problems, no matter what background they come from or where they live. It is how one chooses to handle these situations is a major part of solving that problem.

What is the Power of Envy?

I learned that the power of envy lies within certain individuals, and in most individuals.

The values and lifestyles of individuals trigger the emotions of others.

Showing off what you have can cause many issues with the envious person.

I have accepted her behavior, and ignore her conversations.

I feel even greater when I see her.

I allow her envy to go back to her soul in showing her what she does not have.

My politeness and great personality puts her back down in her place.

I have the power to not recognize her behavior.

I listen to her conversations, and don't take her words to my heart.

I analyze certain conversations and let that pass by.

I don't allow envy to grow on me from her or to be that person she is.

I know not to allow envy in my life.

It is not easy to get rid of envy once you have it.

I am fully aware of her actions.

Envious people will do anything to hurt you. The best is to address the problem if you think it has become a serious one, and is affecting you uncontrollably.

The other way, is to ignore their behavior if you feel the envy is harmless.

I discovered her sudden improvement financially.

She feels on top of the world in her all of a sudden fortune gained in this marriage.

It is unexpected, and now her life all seems too perfect.

Her envious ways has shown me nothing but the hate she has for me, and of how she pretends to like me.

Envious people don't admit their secret emotions to anyone else, except to other envious people.

I feel sorry for such characters.

What matters to me?

Intelligence.

To be happy from within.

Love

Enjoy life.

Meeting up with my goals.

To always think and do powerfully.

To be confident.

To be positive in my actions.

To know myself better than others.

To love myself first and then others.

To stand on my own two feet.

To be friendly and live for today.

I buy what i like and take pride in what I do.

My strengths have helped me override my weaknesses.

My greater personality shows me in the most strongest of ways.

My best quotes

Envy blinds men and makes it impossible for them to think clearly.

Malcolm X

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My life and my experiences

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Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.

Buddha

© 2015 Devika Primić

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    • petenali profile image

      Pete 2 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Interesting hub. Let's face it, envious people are really just dealing with their own insecurities. People who are self-assured never need to be envious of others. There is ALWAYS someone who has it better than you no matter how good you have it - better looks, better spouse, better job, better car, better whatever. The secret is to be secure in your own worth and who you individually were made to be. Be the best you, not the best someone else!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It is an interesting situation. I suspect that most people are at least a little bit envious....I think it is human nature to be so...but what you describe is a bit overboard.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi petenali you are so right! Thank you for sharing your thoughts here. Envious people can be cruel and hate others who are better than they are. TI appreciate you stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billlybuc thank you for stopping by your comments do mean a lot to me.

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      ktnptl 2 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      Informative, we all humans are envious somewhere in our lives, it's in our nature. It is a nice hub that explain our emotions in a nice way.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 2 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Most people are envious sometimes. A feeling of being inferior is the leading cause. You dealt with the problem well and with dignity. Take care...

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      Dave 2 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Hello Devika, " to be happy from with," My strengths have helped me override my weaknesses" " My personality shows me in the strongest of ways", no wonder she is envious of you. Envy is a terrible { but unfortunately natural emotion}. Your article should be read and reread by such people and by anyone who is suffering from this type of problems. Voted up,useful and very interesting.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ktnptl thank you for stopping by and very true of what have mentioned here.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      always exploring Thank you very much for stopping by. I appreciate all comments from you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. I appreciate all comments from you. Thank you for the vote up, interesting and useful. Have a great weekend.

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      Mel Carriere 2 years ago from San Diego California

      Great quote by the Buddha. Envy is worse when it occurs within families, because it is not so easy to ignore he envious person. For example I know two twins, and one of them feels obligated to copy the other in every single way and to parade her belongings around to make sure the other twin knows she has them too. Great hub!

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      poetryman6969 2 years ago

      It is said the best revenge is living well. Sometimes we need to hold onto that truth with both hands!

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      Linda Crampton 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Envy is a sad and destructive emotion. I hope the situation improves with respect to your acquaintance, Devika.

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      Adrienne Janet Farricelli 2 years ago from USA

      Wow, this person almost seems like is spying on you and then copying the way you dress. It sounds disturbing, but you do good to ignore it. Hopefully this person will get a life and find better things to do.

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      Thelma Alberts 2 years ago from Germany

      Oh my! This sounds a creepy situation when she is following what you are wearing and so on. Have you not asked her why she did that? Maybe it will help her and yourself to know what problem she has.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Mel Carriere Thank you for stopping by I appreciate all comments from you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      poetryman6969 thank you for sharing your thoughts here.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi AliciaC Thank you for stopping by. I ignore her ways or habits I try to stick to my way of life. She doesn't have it. We are very different individuals.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi alexadry it is annoying but I ignore her behavior thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thelma Alberts So kind of you to stop by. Her problem is me she is just envious and thinks she can be something she is not. I ignore her behavior. Thank you

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Interesting thoughts in this hub! It is so easy to find such people in life.

      I like the way you are dealing with this.

      Thanks for sharing your experience and teaching something thereby.

      Voted up!

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      ologsinquito 2 years ago from USA

      At least you are aware that this is not a healthy relationship. Best to keep your distance.

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      Marlene Bertrand 2 years ago from Northern California, USA

      Such people really are annoying. I had a "friend" like that once. She would wear and mimic everything I wore or said. She even started trying to sound like me. She cut her hair the same as mine. But, I really started to get scared when I found her trying to get into my house one day. The only way I was able to get away from her was to move out of the area. I'm not saying your envious lady might be dangerous. But, don't be surprised if you come home one day and find her sitting on your couch.

      Thank you for sharing your story. It is a message that will help others understand what it is like to have someone envious of us and what to do about it.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ChitrangadaSharan thank you greatly for stopping by here I appreciate all comments from you and all votes.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ologsinquito thank you for stopping by I appreciate all comments from you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MarleneB, I know how such people can be so I chose to keep my distance from this one. It is unbelievable of how far one will go to even up with another. Thank you for sharing you story.

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      vespawoolf 2 years ago from Peru, South America

      Your experience is interesting. I feel sorry for this woman because she doesn't know the meaning of true happiness. I hope someday she can come to grips with her problem, but in the meantime I wouldn´t waste my time on her.

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      CrisSp 2 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      I have no time for envious people really. They are toxic and so I stay away from them. Thank you for sharing your experience. It's just another avenue for your readers to get to know you better too.

      Take care.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      vespawoolf thank you greatly for stopping by. I so agree with you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Cris Sp thank kindly for stopping by at my hubs. I ignore this person not worth my time either.

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      Sanjay Sharma 2 years ago from Mandi (HP) India

      Most of the people have pressed the button of - Ignore the envious person, but I have voted for- Address the problem. I think it is mental sickness springing up from insecurity.

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      ezzly 2 years ago

      That is a harsh situation for you , can you maybe not be around her any more her energy would seem to be very toxic !

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      Patricia Scott 2 years ago from sunny Florida

      How sad it is that someone loses minutes of any day being envious of another, DDE . Do not let yourself be troubled by that if at all possible.

      Angels are on the way to you this evening. ps

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      SAJAY LAKHANPAL thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ezzly I so agree with you and I try to ignore her. Thank you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      pstraubie48 I try to ignore this person as much as possible and don't let her sick mind bother me. Thank you for sharing your point here. God Bless!

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      Janis Leslie Evans 2 years ago from Washington, DC

      DDE, I enjoyed reading your thoughts about envy. It goes much farther in depth than my poem on envy. This was a good mix of your own experience coupled with your wisdom and advice to others. Very interesting story about that woman. She may be harmless but I'd watch my back if I were you. :-) She sounds a little obsessed in her envy of you. But I do understand it comes from her background. Great job, voted up, useful, and beautiful.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      janshares, thank you kindly for sharing your mind here. I appreciate all votes. I don't let her ways bother me.

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