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She is Envious Toward Me
The Cruel-eyed in green
I like being me, simple, easy going, confident, and very interesting in my own way.
Over the last year, I have become acquainted with a trophy wife. We are from two different worlds.
This woman is envious, and cold toward me, it makes me scared of what she can be capable of.
I understand her situation in comparison to mine.
Her life from the Balkans, and I am South African of Indian origin.
My lifestyle is totally different to hers, and that makes us unique in our own ways.
I grew up having basic needs, and a bit more, and had a very easy standard of living.
On the other hand, this woman has been through a rough part of the world. She knows more than I know of what it is like to be without a good life.
After an arranged marriage to a very wealthy man, her life changed in a good way.
A kind of life she never had before, and suddenly has everything she could ever dream of. It all came too easy to her.
The focus is on money, and spending lavishly.
Her comments are sometimes frustrating as she has no clue of my past life and only sees my life presently.
Whatever I buy she makes sure to have the same for herself.
Be it earrings, shoes or clothing, she tries her best to buy any item to match my belongings.I see her envy through and through, and don't care much for her attitude.
It feels good to write about it. Her behavior did trouble me in the beginning. The way she talked on and, on about her life was bearable, and also annoying to me.
I have not had in my life such an envious person, and at times I don't know what to say to her.
A woman who does not know what is the true meaning of enjoying life.
The type who does not know how to laugh truly. Her way of showing happiness is in going shopping, and in receiving gifts from her wealthy husband.
I have noticed that whatever she had bought, and had specifically shown to me to make me know he had bought for her, is not worthy of me.
Nothing she has that can make me feel out of place, or envious at all.
I have realized this woman would go to great lengths and try to dress like I.
On many occasions she tried to be something she is not and that is really sad.
She can't be me!
What to look for in envious individuals?
Individuals feel hurt and uncomfortable in their zones.
The efforts made by you can trigger envy in others.
When that individual lacks what you have they feel completely broken up.
Admired qualities in you can trigger an emotion in an envious individual.
An envious person enjoys talking about you to others.
Ignore the envious person if they are harmless.
The whole concept of envy is you wanting what the other has, and in my situation this woman tries her best to have the same as I do.
In my case it is exactly how it has been for a year.
She wants what I have, and that is my way of life.
Jealousy and Envy
Unfortunately that is not possible!
Her life is nothing like mine, and in seeing this daily it has come to a point where she is has made herself most unhappy and greedy.
What I have she will never have. I am not sure if she really understands the situation.
A few days ago it was rather cold, so I decided to wear my woolen hood. I was outside sweeping up the dried leaves away from my front door. I saw the envious woman, and was quite surprised of the way she starred at me. I saw the look from the corner of my eyes.
It stunned me!
I just laughed to myself.
A day or two later I saw her wearing a similar kind of woolen hood that I have and that surprised me.
I did not expect it to be that soon for her to have woolen cap too.
Her behavior has been in this way for a while, and I am speechless about the attitude she shows me.
I sometimes notice her cold stare toward me when at her place, it is hard to believe that someone can be that cold.
How I cope with envious?
I ignore her behavior.
I was raised differently, and know different that is what makes me special, and unique.
She was rejected once in her past life, and felt ashamed by that experience.
Nobody is perfect, and this individual doesn't show me any different.
She can't accept her life for the way it was and for what is. Instead, chose to focus on money to make her happy. The way I see it, without the wealthy man in her life she would be left penniless and sad.
All she sees is what makes her happy, and that is her materialistic lifestyle.
You can have many friends, and lots of money, but if you are not happy where does that leave you?
People are faced with all kinds of problems, no matter what background they come from or where they live. It is how one chooses to handle these situations is a major part of solving that problem.
What is the Power of Envy?
I learned that the power of envy lies within certain individuals, and in most individuals.
The values and lifestyles of individuals trigger the emotions of others.
Showing off what you have can cause many issues with the envious person.
I have accepted her behavior, and ignore her conversations.
I feel even greater when I see her.
I allow her envy to go back to her soul in showing her what she does not have.
My politeness and great personality puts her back down in her place.
I have the power to not recognize her behavior.
I listen to her conversations, and don't take her words to my heart.
I analyze certain conversations and let that pass by.
I don't allow envy to grow on me from her or to be that person she is.
I know not to allow envy in my life.
It is not easy to get rid of envy once you have it.
I am fully aware of her actions.
Envious people will do anything to hurt you. The best is to address the problem if you think it has become a serious one, and is affecting you uncontrollably.
The other way, is to ignore their behavior if you feel the envy is harmless.
I discovered her sudden improvement financially.
She feels on top of the world in her all of a sudden fortune gained in this marriage.
It is unexpected, and now her life all seems too perfect.
Her envious ways has shown me nothing but the hate she has for me, and of how she pretends to like me.
Envious people don't admit their secret emotions to anyone else, except to other envious people.
I feel sorry for such characters.
What matters to me?
To be happy from within.
Meeting up with my goals.
To always think and do powerfully.
To be confident.
To be positive in my actions.
To know myself better than others.
To love myself first and then others.
To stand on my own two feet.
To be friendly and live for today.
I buy what i like and take pride in what I do.
My strengths have helped me override my weaknesses.
My greater personality shows me in the most strongest of ways.
My best quotes
Envy blinds men and makes it impossible for them to think clearly.
Deal with Envy
Envy shows hate
How would you cope with such Envy?
Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.
© 2015 Devika Primić