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Its Not Easy Being Shy

Updated on March 31, 2013

Its Not Easy Being Shy

Shyness is fear and not being able to speak out. Shy people are timid and avoid other people, and social situations. Shy people are withdrawn and tend to avoid other people and crowds.There are people who are painfully shy and find it difficult to socialize with others. Shyness is the fear of not being able to speak out. Shy people have a hard time thinking of things to say. Extroverts are most valued in nations that value extroverts. Some nations don't value people who are the shy and quiet types. Schools, religious institutions, and workplaces are all designed for extroverts.

The people who are shy suffer from discomfort and embarrasment. Shy people feel awkward in a crowd and don't know what to say. They're afraid that they'll say something stupid, or their words won't come out right. Shy people worry about what other people think about them and feel that they may be judged negatively. Shy people will withdraw from social situations. Shy people may feel that they are being rejected and aren't acceptable by other people. People with shyness have few or no friends. Shy people, then, suffer from being lonely, and, also, shy people may make a poor fit with a family where all of the members are extroverts and love to talk.


People, who are shy, can be seen as things that they are not, for example: cold, distant, arrogant, and aloof. In other cultures, a shy person may be seen as thoughtful, intelligent, a good listener, and being more likely to think before speaking.

Shyness usually starts early in life. A person could be biologically prone to shyness when they are born, their environment and how they are raised could have an affect on their shyness. Child abuse and emotional abuse can affect shyness. Mental and physical abuse, including ridicule can severely affect a child's shyness and reinforce it.

What Shyness Means

1. Shyness means not being valued in a society that values extroverts.

2. Shyness means discomfort.

3. Shyness means not knowing what to say and feeling awkward.

4. Shyness means worrying about what others think of you (negative judgements).

5. Shyness means withdrawing from social situations.

6. Shyness means the fear of not being accepted by others.

7. Shyness means low-self esteem.

8. Shyness means having few or no friends, being lonely, and feeling left out.

9. Shyness means not fitting in with family members who are all extroverts.

10. Shyness means feeling embarrassed with other people, not being able to communicate in conversations that most people take for granted.

How to Overcome Shyness?

How do you overcome shyness? Is it possible to overcome shyness that is life-long? There is a lot of information about shyness on the Internet and in libraries that can be easily found, to find out more. Finding the right kind of help might help anyone, who has a shyness problem. Shyness can be short or long-term. Children, who are shy may grow out of it, or it may last a life-time. Shyness leads to low self-esteem, and can hinder anyone, who suffers from it, keeping them from reaching their full potential.

Dogs and cats can be shy, too, just like people.

The Brown Recluse Spider is Painfully Shy

The "Brown Recluse Spider" is a spider that is painfully shy, but it has a nasty bite. Its bite causes skin necrosis-causes the skin to die rapidly. Fortunately, the spider is reluctant to bite, as it is so painfully shy. It instances like this-shyness can be a good thing, especially for people who live in the southern mid west and southern states, or anyone who visits there.


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      Gail Louise Stevenson 5 years ago from Mason City

      Hi, I sure did--I found it easily on youtube and added it.

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      jagerfoods 5 years ago from South Carolina, USA

      Hey cool! You added the video link.

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      Gail Louise Stevenson 5 years ago from Mason City

      That sounds like a good song. Its good to remember, after coming along a long way. Your welcome and thanks for commemting. I should look up the song.

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      jagerfoods 5 years ago from South Carolina, USA

      "I am the son

      I am the heir

      of a shyness that is criminally vulgar

      I'm someone else

      but nothing in particular."

      - The Smiths

      I remember hearing this song for the first time and thinking, he get it! I've come a long way myself personally but I still remember how introverted I really was. Thank you for this wonderful post.