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Signs you are Living in Denial

Updated on April 5, 2017

Denial hurts you


Living in denial

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Face Reality

Are you living in denial?

What is the meaning of living in denial?

A continued denial and they refuse to allow the other person to get the better of their answers.

The person doesn't acknowledge their actions are wrong.

For example:

A smoker will say they are not affected by smoking.

Bad habits are not good for the individual yet the individual won't admit their wrong actions.

They know how bad their actions are but prefer not to admit it.

This can be from excessive alcohol drinking, to the use of drugs, or gambling.

People in such cases, continue to live in denial and people live in denial daily.

It doesn't just happen to one specific type of individual.

Living in denial can ruin your good day, or your life.

So, are you living in denial?

You sometimes think you are the best of the rest and too smart in your group. You are living in denial.

You are superior to others, do you really think that?

You never want to be blamed for any of your wrong actions but others are blamed and are at fault.

Everything you do is with an excuse.

''I am not going to pay the bills today because I have other stuff to do,'' but so not true.

The excuses you have for everything is tremendous.

Stop fantasizing!

Everybody has an opinion and are intelligent in their own way. You on the other hand, are always clued up about everything.

Start seeing the world around you with a realistic view and stop living in denial.

When you reach a certain age you want to look younger and dress younger.

You are forty two and yet you still try to dress as a thirty year old.

Are you living in denial or what?

The truth is hard to accept.

You want to look younger and feel less overweight this is what goes through your mind.

Sometimes people find it hard to accept age and weight.

What is denial?

I often say'' face reality.''

Exactly what it means don't live in denial, instead face reality.

You must see the facts of life. You don't let yourself see reality, and don't accept what goes on in your life.

Bad habits are hard to accept by many individuals.

You avoid the truth and live with a lie to avoid hurting yourself.

What is wrong and harmful to you is not seen as a problem.

You deny the truth.

People don't seek medical help when they have health issues.

For example:

One who experiences anorexia or bulimia refuses to accepts their health problem.

Anything you experience in life from a mid-life crisis, to an addiction, and accepting that as part of your life is living in denial.

What are you doing to yourself when you live in denial?

You are self-sabotaging and self-destructive when you avoid the truth and don't accept reality.

The body does have a shock to the system when in certain health situations. You tend to feel different in showing the truth to yourself.

People experience tragedies and in these cases denial has a positive effect.

To allow a less painful effect one chooses to not see the tragedy from a broader perspective.

When a loved one passes on you don't react right away. You hide your emotions.

It takes time for you to actually come to terms with the death of that person.

What does denial do to you?

Denial helps people to live with the bad, and the good. In time people come to terms with their behaviors, actions and with tragedies.

You can block off the bad with denial.

When one lives continually with denial they don't recognize reality right away. Instead, they take time to see the reality in their actions.

I. too lived in denial when I first moved to Croatia. The experience allowed me to see the good in everything that happened over the years. I tried to handle challenges not to see how hurt I have been in not seeing my family.

The hard decision made did make a difference in my life, but I had to accept life's changes to get my act together.

The many changes hurt me and I didn't want to show that to anyone.

We can't deny that we are all living in denial, can you?

Everything you do each day is based on your trial and error.

Each day you get up and are grateful for getting out of that bed.

Your focus is what you must do for that day.

When you ignore problems you are definitely living in denial.

Denying feelings for your ex is living in denial.

Family members are affected by denial.

What is the First degree: Denial?

Do you know the Second degree of Denial?

You need to minimize the denial.

The degree of denial, the third one, here you admit to your problem of denial but not facing up to the consequences, in fact you deny the consequences.

The last degree of denial, you refuse to seek help for your issues.

The reason for denial is to avoid pain, to make an excuse, so that you are not affected by the truth.

When you forget, you are in denial, lying about what you know will hurt others or yourself, you don't want to remember what will hurt you.

You grow up with denial.

Denial is to cope with your emotions.

As a child, when you had something to eat but you were not allowed to have that snack and you were caught out with food smeared around your mouth.

Sometimes you delay examinations due to the fear of pain.

For example:

Most women don't visit their gynecologist for a pap smear. The uncomfortable exam sets them back.

It is easy to forget about a bad experience than to talk about it to a psychologist.

To take action is not easy, so you don't go there.

You become unhappy in your relationship and don't talk about the problems. The lack of courage allows for a poor relationship. You feel guilt and blame.

I can't change the way I am I would be living in denial if I did that.

Living in the past is living in denial. I chose to leave the past there and live for the present.

What is your opinion in living in denial?

Do you think living in denial is a helpful way for you to avoid pain?

As humans we are capable of good, bad and the ugliest.

Living in denial continually is a shame, and and others can be hurt through your bad decisions.

You block off pain and don’t want to face up to the reality of the situation when you live in denial.

Everything hurts and will always hurt blocking it off won't make much of a difference.

Denial affects dating, marriages, divorce, and everyday life situations. Usually, when you avoid the issue the problem gets bigger and you drown in your sorrows.

People who live in denial are closing off their world of guilt. It destroys their character and allows for an antisocial lifestyle. You don't allow others to know the problem and want to live in an isolated life.

Face up to reality and see what is required of you to be that true person.

Come out with it don't live in denial

Denial is a way to block off pain

Do you think living in denial is a helpful way for you to avoid pain?

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    • DDE profile image

      Devika Primić 24 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello tebo I too can relate to denial in some situations thank you for sharing your comment always appreciated.

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      tebo 24 months ago from New Zealand

      Hi DDE. You have managed to point out many areas of denial that we may not have considered to be denial. I can certainly relate to some of these as I assume many people can.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      denise.w.anderson thank you very much for commenting and so true of what you say here.

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      Denise W Anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Thanks for the reality check, Devika! I have a tendency to either live in the past or the future, and I think that both are a state of denial. Facing reality is not easy, especially when we are dealing with unpleasant situations. Accepting reality means we have to do something different and deal with what is right in front of us. That takes time, energy, and effort. We have to learn things that may be painful or difficult.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      swalia I so agree with you thank you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Shyron E Shenko thank you for commenting and the compliment. I appreciate it.

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      Shaloo Walia 2 years ago from India

      A thought-provoking hub! Acceptance is the key to live life meaningfully.

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      Shyron E Shenko 2 years ago from Texas

      Devika, you always write hubs that make people think.

      I like you new profile picture.

      Blessings and Hugs

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      purnasrinivas thank you for sharing your comment I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC To live in denial continually is a problem with many individuals. Thank you for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc thank you for commenting always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MsDora thank you very much for sharing that.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      emnge thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Venkatachari M Thank you greatly for commenting. I appreciate your helpful comments.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi sallybea So kind of you to stop always so helpful.Thank you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Ericdierker, thank you for commenting very much appreciated.

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      purnasrinivas 2 years ago from Bangalore

      A felt this hub to be quite interesting and it contains a lot of useful information.

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      Linda Crampton 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is an interesting hub, Devika. I'm afraid that I have lived in denial about some things. Thanks for sharing the useful information.

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      Rebecca C Mandeville MA 2 years ago

      Carl Jung, the great Psychologist, said this about denial: "Whatever we don't deal with, will deal with us." That about sums it up. Thanks for the article.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      All valid examples.....and yes, I have experienced living in denial, and it is definitely an obstruction to growth.

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      Dora Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Devika, this is a very important topic. We ignore reality so often and your warning to stop living in denial is relevant on so many levels. Thank you.

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      Madan 2 years ago from Abu Dhabi

      Nice post Devika, I always keep a look out for your posts

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      Venkatachari M 2 years ago from Hyderabad, India

      Beautiful hub. Most of us live in denial upto some degree; and do not have the courage to accept things as they are. We should try to overcome this weakness for success in life. Your hub is a great reminder of this fact. Thanks for sharing it.

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 2 years ago from Norfolk

      Oh yes, we all do it to some extent, acknowledging it is hard part and the next is finding the will to conquer whatever it is we are in denial about.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denial is a problem. Acceptance in reality is the only cure that I know of.