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So Now, Is It Time To Die?

Updated on February 22, 2016

Sara B.

Sara B. is a pretty woman that is 5 foot tall, blond hair,blue eyes, and very petite. She has a pleaseant personality.Sara and I worked together for about 10 years. She retired at age 51 after she found out she has Non Hodgkin Lymphoma. This was a forced retirement as soon as the company found out she had cancer they fired her and she settled out of court. They are all heart today. She seemed to overcome that for 8 years and then one year latter developed Pancreatic Cancer. She had also suffered a heart attack from all the stress.

The Pancreatic Cancer is the worst. She stayed in the hospital for 2 months no visitors except her boyfriend John. The hospital did not want her around other people. It was one terrible situation. I talked to her only on the phone. She finally made it home and I visited her. Not many people survive Pancreatic Cancer,but Sara B.did.

They had to reroute a lot of her organs and she once again survived. Sara was beating all the odds that were stacked against her. I finally got to visit as we are very close, I was her first visitor. She actually looked good for all that she had gone though these last 10 years.

Sara B. never talks religion nor believes none of that religion stuff. She has always been a good person and has helped a lot of people especially in her own family. I have always had respect for others she does the same for me. It has always been a good relationship we have had these years. I knew she had been raised Catholic, because she had told me she had gone to church. I never questioned her about any of the church stuff. I just hate to see her so terrified. Everyone, has some fear, but is not terrified of death.

Where Are We Going?

We all one day will have to follow a road home.
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The Good News

The live in boyfriend called to tell me that Sara B. came from her checkup and was cancer free. I was so happy for Sara. That night I thanked God for all he had done for Sara. I also asked him to help me approach Sara the right way if the need came again. I had the nagging thought that I am suppose to do this, no matter how mad she might get. I had a daughter that had cancer and I learned it can come back. I was so happy for her.

She was finally getting a break from doctors and treatments and really given a new start. I did tell her God was good to her, and let it go. Sara was cancer free after years of hell.

Death

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Beautiful Heaven

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Here It Comes Again

Three months at home and the news today was not good. She went back in the hospital for her blood pressure it was down too low. She is in terrible pain, the kind that is excruciating. She can not sit, stand, or eat. They tell her she has been on pain killers for so long, she needs to be just on Tramadol. I did not think this made much sense. I went down to get her some flowers. My daughter followed the boyfriend out and he was in the hall crying uncontrollably. Sara was never told, and she is home now. She now has lung cancer.

I know in my heart that she knows the truth. All she does is cry and tell me she is in pain. It is hard for me to watch her. That is my own selfish thought, and I am sorry I let it get in the way. She told me she is not getting any better and how she is so afraid to die. I asked her if I could pray for her and was told I could. She seems to be getting worse.

Today, I wanted to know if she believed in God and she said she did. If she is still here in the morning I am going to pray with her. I will ask her in the morning.

Summary

Ask if you can pray.

If no answer you can hold their hand.

Ask if you can do anything for them.


There was a wonderful book I was given by a friend of mine. The book is called "On Death and Dying", by Elizabeth Kubler Ross. I read it several years ago, but decided to look at it again. Ross,gives five stages of dying. It may help if you or someone you know is dying.

Update 8/28 Sara B and I prayed together and she is sleeping, she is out of her pain. I am glad I asked if she wanted prayers. We prayed together and I could see the fear leaving her face. She is finally at rest now and at peace. The only thing I regret is waiting so long to ask her.

Some Survival Rates

Type Of Cancer
 
Survival Rate
Hodgkin Lymphoma
 
10 years or more
Testicular Cancer
 
98% survival
Pancreatic Cancer
 
Only 1% survival
We can see by the chart that the survival rate for pancreatic cancer is not good compared to the rate for testicular cancer where 98% can survive. The source of this information comes from the Cancer Research UK,2012.

No Death

This is a great book that helps us to take the fear out of death. Death was made as a necessary end and we will all experience this sometime. The book will instill courage and show how death is a great plan. Think of how death brings an end to people who are suffering on this earth.

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    stella vadakin 12 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Anita, thanks for reading and your comments on this hub. I am glad Sara is no longer in pain. My husbands son just passed a few weeks back, he really was in pain. It was good you were able to help your husband. Blessings

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    Anita Hasch 12 months ago from Port Elizabeth

    Thank you for sharing. My husband died of cancer. He had cancer right through his body and they could do nothing for him. After reading your hub I realize now that he must have been in pain and yet he never complained. He just used to ask me to hold his hand at three 'o clock at night because he thought he was dying. That was the last month before he died. I'm so glad you could bring peace to your friend before she died. Blessings.

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    stella vadakin 17 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Nadine May, Thank you for reading and the comments on my article. Yes it is hard to watch some one in so much pain. We need to enjoy life while we are here.

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    Nadine May 18 months ago from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa

    Its so sad when we see our family and friends suffer like your friend. Its hard for many people, also the nursing staff and the doctors. I do recall what it was like to be around people in the hospital where I was a nurse, many years ago. Often I so dearly wished I had the power to heal, or at least take the pain away. I helped my mom to let go...that is was OK to leave us, her two daughters. She was also in a lot of pain...

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    Dora Weithers 19 months ago from The Caribbean

    Stella, thank you for sharing this story of sickness and suffering which we do not speak about enough. It was also a story of a good friendship between you and Sara B. Glad you finally prayed with her. Yes, God's presence is comforting.

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    stella vadakin 22 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    moonlake, thank you for reading my article. That was a terrible thing to tell your husband. They must of forgot we are not suppose to judge people, that is not our job. Stella

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    moonlake 22 months ago from America

    Very nice that you prayed with her and I'm sure she wouldn't have minded you doing that before you did. So sorry for your loss of your friend.

    Before my husband passed away he got a letter from a good friend telling him he was going to hell because he didn't believe in Jesus Christ. I have no idea where he got that from unless it was because we were Catholic.

    They are no longer friends.

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    stella vadakin 23 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    AuFait, Sara passed away in August and is finally out of pain. We prayed together and she passed away shortly after. Thanks for coming back to ask, I really appreciate your thoughtfulness. God Bless, Stella

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    C E Clark 23 months ago from North Texas

    Came back to see if there was anything new on this situation. I hope your friend found peace regardless of the outcome. Hope all is well with you, too, Stella. Take care . . .

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    stella vadakin 23 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    word55, thanks for the comment and reading my hub. I will certainly stop by and read your hub on vegan eating. After reading the hub on the glue used in meat, I am less likely to eat it.

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    stella vadakin 23 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Deborah, Thank you for stopping by and your comments.

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    Deborah Demander 23 months ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

    I have lost several close friends lately, to long term illnesses. While I may pray quietly for them, I always hold their hands and listen to their fears. As I sit, I offer love, peacefulness and joy.

    Thank you for writing this article.

    Namaste

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    Word 23 months ago from Chicago

    This was very good ladygp, you should also read my hub on why we don't have to die and my ideas on vegan eating. I think you'll be inspired for dear Sara. I enjoyed this.

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    stella vadakin 24 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Marie, Thank you for your visit and your comments. I believe that we do go on and we all have a true purpose on earth. I like to think that those who suffer so much from pain, will be the greatest and pain free in their new life. Thanks, Stella

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    Marie Lawrence 2 years ago from New Hampshire

    A beautiful hub that causes us all to confront this most important reality in the lives of ourselves and others that we love. I enjoyed your very expressive and heartfelt writing Stella! The video is also a wonderful addition to the hub which helps make the transformation of leaving this world so much easier not only for us but for those close to us. I do believe that our lives do go on in some form or another. Whether in the form of another living being or in an ethereal form, and we intuitively know they are around us to guide us and help us deal with the finiteness of life here on earth, they live on. And of course, they always live on in our beautiful memories of them and what they taught us in their former lives here.

    Thank you for sharing your keen insights on this topic, Stella. I really enjoyed reading this exceptional hub.

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    Susan Britton 2 years ago from Ontario, Canada

    You are welcome. I will always miss Marylou but I know she is at peace, free from pain and also in a better place. Every once in a while a memory comes from know where and I realize she is still with me in my heart.

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Suzzycue, thank you for your visit and your comments. I really miss Sara but know she is better off without all that terrible pain. Thank you, Stella

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    Susan Britton 2 years ago from Ontario, Canada

    I also had a very close friend of fifteen years pass with cancer. Marylou was quiet and seemed at peace knowing I was beside her. The Palitive care nurses always commented that whatever I was doing keep doing it because they never seen someone as peaceful about death like Marylou was. We never talked much. I was there, the last three months in her home with her and her son, where she wanted to be at the end. I know she was in a lot of pain, she cried out every time someone touched her, so I could not hold her hand, but I gave her meds on time and it was all ok. You did the best thing for your friend that, you did not, let her down. You were there.

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    grand old lady, thank you for your comments. It was just a hard situation, but we all will go through it. Thanks for reading, Stella

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    Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 2 years ago from Philippines

    Thank you for sharing your personal experience with Sara. This is so lovingly written, and by posing your own questions we ask ourselves the same questions, too. I appreciate that you said that you were glad if you asked her if she would like you to pray for her. That is a lesson for me, too. Thank you so very, very much.

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    old abion, thanks so much for your comments. Really if we think about this, holding a hand is all we can do. Stella

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    Graham Lee 2 years ago from Lancashire. England.

    Hi Stella. I know your friend is grateful for your unwavering support. I lost my sister to Lung Cancer. Months of pain and the last 5 days were hell for her. Hold her hand as often as you can, the touch of another can mean so much at this time.

    Graham.

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    Patricia Scott 2 years ago from sunny Florida

    No regrets, Stella. You gave her the gift of love and compassion and your caring and company in her last days. She knew she was loved and while she may not have accepted God so that you knew, none of us really knows what the other person is feeling and doing in their hearts.

    You were a good friend..

    Angels are on the way to you and no doubt one special Angel is looking over you

    ps

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    StormsHalted 2 years ago from Karachi, Pakistan

    The world is a temporary place ...... everyone has to die ....... come with empty hands ...go with empty hands.......

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Mel, Thanks for reading. She is not in terrible pain anymore.

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    Mel Carriere 2 years ago from San Diego California

    The best sermon we can preach is just being a good friend, and you have certainly done that. I am sure she has made peace with her maker in her own quiet way. Very sad story, and I can tell you poured your heart out into it.

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Carolyn, thank you for reading and your comments. You have already done the best thing you possibly could by visiting your mom. In my experience so many just want to be visited by their family.

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    Carolyn Fields 2 years ago from South Dakota, USA

    I read your hub because I just visited my Mom, who had her 92nd birthday. She is in very good health, and keeps excellent care of herself. Still, I know that everyone dies. It's only a matter of time. She could leave us tomorrow, or it could be several years. She could go out in a flash, or linger in pain. It's the lack of "control" that seems to be the worst part. Also, as a daughter, what can I do or say to be of the most comfort. That is what is on my mind today. Thank you for sharing this story. Also, the comments are very insightful.

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    Patricia Scott 2 years ago from sunny Florida

    Hi I think I may have read this before...did not scroll through to see...being there is so important when someone we know and love is nearing life's end Just being there to listen and let them know you are there....

    well done....

    You were a gift to your friend....Angels are on the way to you this morning ps

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    promisem, Thank you for your comment, and Sara did have a good life, even with her share of health problems.

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    Scott Bateman 2 years ago

    It is traumatic to watch and care for someone close to you as they lay dying. I hope Sara had a full and meaningful life.

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Michael-Milec, Thanks for your comments and reading my hub. I am so glad Sara is in no more pain. We all are going to face death so it is time to prepare while we are here if we can. Life is so short if you think about it. Thanks , Stella

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    Michael-Milec 2 years ago

    During the most desperate need, everyone would like to have a friend who feels, cares, prays and expresses deepest appreciative regards. This Hub-article is testimonial how you have it done and how the love of Him who has redeemed us back to the Father can be shared passionately. You have gone an " extra mile'' with Sarah. She is at better place because of that- my believing tells me so. . . Have personally witnessed near-to-departure from this planet people who for different reasons lack peace with the Creator - none of them wanted to go to hell forever... "Yes" to the resurrected Lord is being accepted even if comes with the last breath... We are only instruments of obedience.

    Thanks Stella. May the blessings of the Almighty be with you.

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    JLauren Angel, Thank you for your comments, know that I really appreciate the time you took to write them. I will take seriously the things you have mentioned. Sara would have been there for me if it was the other way. She had a big heart and was a good person. I must tell you there are people that still help others and go out of their way. Some I know 0n this site, you can feel good thoughts from these people. Thank you, Stella

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    Web Junkie 2 years ago from Arizona

    The biggest thing I see is this is a personal article, which Hubpages is now objecting to, unless it pertains to something one the internet which is very popular or has been recently escalated to "trending". I tried posting one of my own personal articles, but they refused mine too. I would ask that you copy and paste this to word and remove all the "that's" in the article. That is a filler, when we think like we speak. Its a place holder for "ah". The information has no facts in it, other than detailing the life of a friend you used to work with, of which you were close to regardless of the boyfriend, in a nut shell; respectively. There is a poll in the middle of the article which should be at the bottom, there is only one or two pictures randomly placed, I would start off with the picture of the sky first, then keep the bridge picture in the middle and maybe add a bunch of flowers at the end, just an idea. Posting stats on types of cancers and the rate of people who survive them would be an idea. Use a graph or picture of some sort to convey the seriousness of the cancers. Hubpages has changed, when I first started with them many years ago, they were all about any type of article, not touching on prayer, religion or God, gets your hubs immediately returned.

    Your empathy, compassion and desire to help your friend is so rare, I can't tell you how many people lack these feelings. Everyone is about themselves now, not others. It's very heart warming to see another so interested in helping out someone other than themselves. May your days continue to be bright, cheerful and full of many blessings, in his name.

    Best,

    JLauren

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Missy Smith,Thanks for the comments. You are right Sara was a real fighter right till the end of her life.

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    Missy Smith 2 years ago from Florida

    What a story. Your friend has fought through a lot. What a fighter! You are a great friend ladyguitarpicker and I am glad she let you pray for her and finally set her soul free to believe in our Lord.

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Au fait, thank you for your comments, they are greatly appreciated. Sara passed away and she looked very peaceful in the end. We did get to establish she felt there is a God and she was sorry for her sins. The boyfriend, was the one who objected for her to have visitors, and the hospital followed his wishes. I hated it but I could do nothing. I am grateful he did not object to me staying the weeks before she passed away. Thank you

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Jackie, thanks for your comments and visiting. There are people who have power from Jesus to heal. I have seen 2 people healed and are still doing good after 2 years. I know both of them for years. It does happen. Your sister-in-law did the same as Sara, every day for 34 days she cried she did not want to die. Jesus knows you did the best you could, somethings we just have to let go.

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    Ralph Deeds 2 years ago from Birmingham, Michigan

    "Being Mortal" by Atul Gawande is the best book I've read on this topic. Gawande is a professor at Harvard Medical School, a surgeon and a medical writer for "The New Yorker." I read the book last year and have given several copies away to relatives and friends. Highly recommended.

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    Jackie Lynnley 2 years ago from The Beautiful South

    I couldn't vote any of your answers but what you did was perfect. To let anyone know God loves them and Jesus died for them so they do not think they have to be perfect for we all know we are not. I use to have such a fear of dying but just lately I had major surgery and went in not caring if I lived or died and not in any bad way. I knew I was ready and it was a wonderful feeling.

    Your friend is so lucky to have you helping her with this. My sister-in-law died of cancer and we were in different states and I hated so bad I could not help her; especially in those last days. The day before she died she called me telling me she didn't want to die as if I could keep it from happening and that still bothers me but she was not really in her right mind by then and nothing I said could have helped her. It will just always weigh on me heavy even knowing there was nothing I could do. I had been to see her and knew her time was very short. Makes one wish you were like someone in the bible who could lay your hands on them and the disease would be gone. Wouldn't that be so wonderful? With the power of Jesus in our hands. I wonder if those days will ever come again.

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    pstraubie48, Thanks for your visit and the comments. They mean a lot to me as I will miss Sara. Yes, I would feel better if she would have been a believer, but it was about her and seeing that fear leave her. She was at peace, you could see it. Praying for your family, Stella

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    Patricia Scott 2 years ago from sunny Florida

    O sorry that your dear Sara had to suffer so. Watching and feeling powerless is such a difficult, gut wrenching journey for us.

    Thinking of death may be frightening for some but it is after how life ends. Planning for it is important so that those we leave behind are not caught in a whirlwind of sorrow and on top of it challenges as to what to do.

    You did the right thing for Sara. You were there...to offer comfort to someone who told you they were fearful of death. And no, you did not wish to be there, but you WERE. What a gift you gave to her.

    Angels are with you this morning, dear Lady ps

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    C E Clark 2 years ago from North Texas

    Forgot to mention that I shared this with followers. Best wishes with this situation . . .

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    C E Clark 2 years ago from North Texas

    I've written a couple of articles on death and dying. I think it's ridiculous that people have an aversion to talking about death. We all face it eventually. If your friend is still alive it isn't too late for her to develop a personal relationship with God/Jesus.

    Why did the hospital object to your friend being around other people when she was suffering pancreatic cancer? Cancer almost always comes back more ferociously once a person has it if it isn't treated quickly enough.

    Wish you and your friend the best. Realize that you can talk to Jesus just like you would take to your best friend -- because He is. No need for formal prayers that may not say precisely what you want/need to say. Ask Him to help her with all of her fears, and He will.

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Cat on a soapbox, Thanks for your comments. I am glad she had peace in the end. I tried during our time together but never got her to consider the Lord. She was never at peace and I hated that, but I am glad she does now. Thanks,

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Cat on a soapbox, Thanks for your comments. I am glad she had peace in the end. I tried during our time together but never got her to consider the Lord. She was never at peace and I hated that, but I am glad she does now. Thanks,

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    Catherine Tally 2 years ago from Los Angeles

    Hi Stella,

    I'm sorry for the loss of your friend Sara. I think feelings of helplessness are shared by those of us who have tended to the terminally ill, and, even though we think we are not helping, we do by just being present with them. There is really less need to talk than to listen or to sit quietly to keep the fear away. Faith isn't something that everyone has, some ignore it and others may dismiss it completely, even angrily. Many only accept God at the very end. Prayer is still powerful even if we pray silently, and it brings a much needed sense of peace. Bless you for being there for your friend through her fear and pain and your own anguish. I will pray now for you. Thank you for sharing your story.

    Cat:)

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Ebonny, Thank you for your comment and yes I have to take care of myself. I am glad she had found some peace, this makes me feel better. Thanks for your thoughts on this matter. Stella

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    Ebonny 2 years ago from UK

    There's no definitive way to know the best course of action in such difficult circumstances and I guess we all have to make sure to do what we believe is the right thing to do at the time. What a blessing for Sara B to have a friend like you with her at the end - and throughout her illness to support her.

    A great example to us all and please remember to take good care of yourself in your grief, as I feel sure Sara would want.

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Cornelia, thank you so much for your comment. I am grateful that Sara finally found some peace and lost a lot of fear. I am glad and hope you never have cancer in the family. Blessings, Stella

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    alexadry, Thanks for reading and your comments.

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    Suhail Zubaid aka Clark Kent 2 years ago from Mississauga, ON

    Stella,

    That was the most emotional hub that I have read in ages. I just don't know what to say.

    My mind says that if a person is good to all creation of whoever is above then he/she is truly blessed and shouldn't be afraid of crossing the rainbow bridge, or what have you.

    I have read about many faiths and have interacted with the leaders and followers of many faiths, including Islam and Christianity and their various sects and denominations, and in the end I have formed my own belief that I expressed above.

    Once again,in the end, for me at least, it is going to be being good with other creation (both humans and animals) that will bring peace to one on his/her death and after.

    Needless to mention, you did what was the best for Sara B. I salute you for doing that.

    And thanks for writing such a powerful and heart tearing hub.

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    Korneliya Yonkova 2 years ago from Cork, Ireland

    It is so sad, we have never had cancer in our family but I am frustrated when hearing that so many people suffer. This is horrible. In many cases doctors are just helpless and we have nothing left but to prey to the Almighty. Hope your friend will be cured and happy. God bless!

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    Adrienne Janet Farricelli 2 years ago from USA

    So sorry to hear about your friend affected by all these health problems. It is great you have been so supportive at such a difficult time.

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Denise, thank you for your comment and I am glad I could ask the question. I have seen it go both ways, so I am blessed to hear her pray with me. Thank you, Stella

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Kiss and Tales, Thank you for your comments and support. I found the Bible verses very comforting. Sara told me she had not prayed in years. I am glad she left in peace. God takes care of everything and I learned a lot from this experience. I will never hesitate to ask if I can pray with someone. I was really surprised. Thanks, Stella

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    Denise W Anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

    It is hard to know what to do when a friend or family member is suffering, especially if in the past, they have refused to talk about God. I have found, however, that most people come to accept his existence when they are facing death. It just doesn't make sense any other way. I'm glad that you were able to be brave and ask if you could pray with her. Prayer works miracles. Hearts are softened, and fear is abated.

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    Kiss andTales 2 years ago

    Lady from my heart I am truly sorry that you have experienced this sadness, there is always comfort from the one who

    our souls lay in his hands with, we feel so helpless as humans because we can not stop what is in pogress . Yet our existence came, and it can return from the one who gave it to us. My best friends mom just past away this morning , she was 97, from

    Alzihimer .You are a great friend that she had you by her side. So wondeful that you can be their when she returns.

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Faith, Thank you for your comment and prayer for Sara. She is at peace now, and we did get to pray together, I was surprised, she said yes. I think there is going to be more hope for cancer patients. They have so many new things going on. Peace and thanks, Stella

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    stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Larry, Thanks for stopping by and your comment.

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    Larry Rankin 2 years ago from Oklahoma

    Such a difficult situation. It takes a special person to sit with someone in their final days.

    Very moving hub.

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    Kiss andTales 2 years ago

    I am so sorry to hear of your mental suffering for your closest friend.

    I lost my closest Aunt from the same disease , pancreatic cancer. And as you have said painful is this type of cancer.

    I can give you and your friend this wonderful comfort.

    Re 21:4 And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.”

    1Co 15:26 And the last enemy, death, is to be brought to nothing.

    Isa 33:24 And no resident will say: “I am sick.” The people dwelling in the land will be pardoned for their error.

    They will build houses and live in them,k

    And they will plant vineyards and eat their fruitage.

    Isa 65:21They will build houses and live in them, And they will plant vineyards and eat their fruitage

    The future is a very bright and promising good things to come,

    Notice, 2Pe 3:13But there are new heavens and a new earth that we are awaiting according to his promise, and in these righteousness is to dwell.

    Also the opportunity for many who are just resting in death will soon return.

    The Heavenly Father will return generations of residents in the earth or graves back to life.

    Just as we birth into this world we can re enter if we should die. It has been paid for.

    Death is nothing to the Heavenly Father , nor Jesus , because we are in their memory.

    Joh 5:28 Do not be amazed at this, for the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice

    Joh 5:29 and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, and those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment.

    This is our future , this is truth,

    Mt 19:26 Looking at them intently, Jesus said to them: “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

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    Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

    Stella, you are a good friend. Your friend has certainly been through so much. It is a miracle that she survived Pancreatic cancer, as I have always known it to take people pretty fast. I will pray for you and your friend for comfort and peace.

    I just read on the web about how scientists have discovered a way to stop the cancer cells from growing. It is a miracle but not sure how long it will be before they allow such to be actually used for cancer patients ... It is very hopeful though.

    Peace, blessings and love