ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

"Stay-at-home mom depression" is a thing.

Updated on August 23, 2017

Reasons depression hit me as a SAHM:

  • The constant exhaustion of cleaning up and chasing after a child
  • The every day fight of trying to get your child to eat
  • The craving for adult converastion
  • The desire for mature socialization
  • The every day routine of doing the same things over and over
  • Going from having "you time" and "spouse time" to 5 minutes of quiet
  • Feeling as if you are not contributing financially

My story of being a stay at home mother through some pictures!

My daughter's first days at home!
My daughter's first days at home!

A note of positivity for all you stay at home mothers like me:

"I am a stay at home mom. That doesn't mean I am lazy, stupid, or uneducated. I work hard for 24 hours a day!"

This is why I do it!
This is why I do it!

Why I Enjoy Being a Stay-At-Home Mom:

  1. I get to spend all of my time with my favorite tiny human
  2. I get to watch her grow every day
  3. I am there for every milestone
  4. I bond with my child
  5. I get to sit down and teach my child number, colors, shapes, etc.
  6. I am never lonely or home alone when my husband stands duty
  7. Cuddles always makes you feel better!

"Half of the time I feel like I am running an insane asylum,

the other half I feel I belong in one."

Almost a year old!
Almost a year old!

My SAHM personal story...from the beginning:

I found out I was pregnant. I was still enlisted in the military and just diagnosed with generalized anxiety and situational depression. I knew I was susceptible to postpartum depression because well, I had depression already as well as my mother suffering from this disorder when she gave birth to my sister. Not only did I have these factors against me, but in adulthood my mother and father are both suffering from this disease presently. I had all of the factors against me. I struggled between work problems, situational depression, and hormones. I was preparing to recognize the signs of postpartum depression.

The calm before the storm:

I battled postpartum depression for months. My daughter turned 6 months, I stopped working, and my medication finally had my hormones and emotions under control. I thought to myself, "I am in the clear!" "I beat the depression odds!"

But man was I wrong.

I started realizing that as much as I loved seeing my daughter grow up every day, being there for milestones, not having to wake up to go to work every day, and being able to relax when my daughter did, I was missing something.

I was missing the mature, adult interaction. I missed contributing financially. As much as I love my daughter, I missed having "me time" and getting breaks. I missed being able to just "go out" to the store without carrying a car seat, having milk ready, getting a diaper bag ready, and planning trips around my daughters naps. I missed being able to spend money leisurely without worrying about pinching pennies or paying bills.

The Storm:

It hit me. All at once. Everything small in the past seven months turned into a big burden. I bottled it up because I was constantly up and down about being home. One day I am happy I am home and the next, I am looking up jobs and daycare centers just to feel as if I am making an effort to do something.

I felt as if this was normal. I started talking to other stay at home mothers and they absolutely loved it. They had no cons about staying home. They were all "pro stay at home mother." Now I am not saying I despise staying home. I am saying I am the type of person who always worked. I was the type of person who was always busy out and about with others. Now that this all changed, I was slowly hitting rock bottom.

Yes, I have a happy and healthy one year old!

Her first birthday party!
Her first birthday party!

Ways I Alleviated Depression:

According to research, exercising is the top way to beat depression.

  • I have found this to be true as I did Insanity workouts while at home and got out walking with the stroller. It made me feel more alive and full of energy.

Making friends is another helpful thing to do to beat depression.

  • I have made some amazing best friends and mommy friends. Having daily play dates, friends with much more in common than others, and people to turn to when you have child questions. Not only that, but friends to enjoy spending time with!

The last way to beat depression that worked for me was fresh air.

  • As much as I could, I went out and walked along Lake Superior. My daughter and I were outside as much as we could be. Being that at this time, we lived in Duluth Minnesota, it was pretty tough to get outside. Once we did and once we went to parks and out on walks, I felt better. I felt more confident with bringing my daughter out with me. The fresh air and the sunshine just for some reason, gave me more positivism.

My beautiful little girl!

She's my sunshine on a cloudy day!
She's my sunshine on a cloudy day!

"Hakuna Matata."

If you are a stay at home mom, here's a question for you!

How does staying at home every day with your kid(s) make you feel?

See results

Citation and Credit:

Pahr, K. (2017, January 13). Understanding and Combating Stay at Home Mom Depression. Retrieved from https://www.pastemagazine.com/articles/2017/01/understanding-and-combating-stay-at-home-mom-depre.html

© 2017 Dana Abbott

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)