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Steps On Getting Yourself Clean And Sober

Updated on April 10, 2012

Everything we do in life, we need to take certain steps in order for everything to work as planned. We can not just rush into things haphazardly thinking everything will turn out fine. There are many things in our life that are delicate and need to be thought through carefully so that there are no mistakes or something that you didn't what to do because you were in a rush to get it done. Be persistent, but don't rush into something and be sorry in the end.

Now, getting clean and sober is something we really need to think about, because if you are not ready to surrender then there is no use in even starting on that road to sobriety.

Many people that are addicted to alcohol try to get clean and sober only because they may have been forced into it or threatened into it by possibly their spouse or the law. That is not the way to get clean and sober, although it just may help you think for a while and hopefully being clean and sober for some time will make you realize that if you stayed clean and sober for ex amount of time then it is very possible to stay clean and sober. The question is, do you really want sobriety in your life again or are you doing it to keep peace among all?



Step One

Steps on getting yourself clean and sober can be very simple, only if you have sobriety in your heart and soul. Anything is possible in any ones life if you give it a chance.

Step One - Ask yourself, " are you happy with the life you lead right at that moment?"

  • Can you think of ways to make your life and everyone that loves you better?
  • Are you willing to throw your crutch away and walk on your own two feet without your addiction holding your hand?
  • How much do you love yourself and your life?
  • What are the pros and cons of drinking alcohol?
  • Can you think of anything good coming out of drinking alcohol besides getting drunk?
  • Do you have the power inside to beat your addiction?
  • Do you believe in yourself enough to say, " I surrender?"
  • Can you make a promise to yourself that you will never pick up an alcoholic drink for the rest of your life? If NOT, your sobriety will not work if you can not make this very important promise to yourself!
  • Are you willing to stand up to your demons?
  • You have to get clean and sober all the way and not for just a few weeks or month. It has to be long term sobriety and I mean the rest of your life.
  • Ask yourself, " am I embarrassed of my addiction to alcohol? I bet you would say YES to that question, as I did almost 2 years ago.
  • Do you think you are living in denial, or is the rest of the world wrong about your addiction?
  • Can you honestly say you are proud of yourself and the way you live your life?

So, you may ask, "what are the steps to getting clean and sober?" I have just listed some things you should ask yourself and see what answers you get, but you must be perfectly honest with yourself.

The biggest question is, " Do you think you have an addiction to alcohol and if so, what are you going to do about it. Are you going to sit back and let this addiction continue to ruin your life and others or are you going to take massive action to change your life for the better by surrendering to your addiction to alcohol once and for all?"

The world and your addiction are in your hands, so stand up to it and get clean and sober and stay that way for the world is out there for your taken and you will see through your own sober eyes what you have been missing out on all those years of drinking alcohol.

Take it from me, the word is a wonderful place when you live in it clean and sober.

If you are interested in knowing just how and why I started to drink alcohol and how I finally quit drinking then check out my new eBook titled My Life of Alcohol Addiction.




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    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ Thomas Andrews- sorry for the delay in my relay to your comment.Thank you for commenting and I am so sorry to hear about all those that you knew and passed away from this horrible addiction. yes it is so depressing to see people just throw their lives away.

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      Thomas Andrews 

      6 years ago

      Unfortunately not a single person I have personally known has faced their addiction. Of all the people I knew whom had a serious drinking problem, more than 36 in total now, only one is still alive. Not one of them had a problem, yet all of them were impossible as people. Missing from work, relationship problems, violence, narcissism and scapegoating. All the negatives you can imagine, they did it all. Marital rape, killing people in street traffic, jettisoning the tip tanks on a fighter aircraft above a residential area, petty theft in a grocery store drunk, harassment on the job, break and entry, you name it. Most of these people were treated with kit gloves and pampered. Not just one, but many were sent on paid for drug rehabilitation by their employers, all of them relapsed and drank themselves into comas. Reliability, none whatsoever. One was a professional musician, broke his guitar on stage and set fire to an electrical panel by falling into it with a wine bottle, also electrocuting himself. I am tired of human weakness as an excuse for excessive lifestyles and spoiled inhumanity. These people thought that life owed them something. In a social setting, their mask of friendliness fell apart. Not good, not honest and very depressing.

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ April, Sorry it has taken so long to reply to your comment. You are not powerless April. You need to stand up to your addiction and get start living with a positive attitude continuing to tell yourself that you can beat this addiction you have. If you read through most of my hubs you will see how I got sober and what it took for me to make up my mind once and for all that I needed to change before it was too late. Please read some of these hubs and I think it will help you make that huge life change that you need.

      God Bless you April and stay strong, believe in yourself and stay positive every minute of the day.

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      6 years ago

      i am addicted to opiates. i have accepted I am powerless to my addiction. I just dont know how to change it. I know what I need to do but dont know how to do it. Any suggestions???

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      7 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Denise I am so sorry it has taken so long (24 hours) to reply to your comment. Thank you so much for being there and being supportive to me. I do realize that this is new and you are so right, all in do time the word will be out and maybe touch that one special person with an addiction problem. Thank you for your comment Denise L:)

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      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Mark-well written, as always. I can certainly relate to the desire of wanting to know first hand if anything you are writing makes a difference in anyones life in becoming clean and sober. But, keep in mind that this is still a young talent of yours. You may never know the depths of how far reaching your words and wisdom are until much later. In the meantime, it is important to keep in mind how much those who have been directly affected by your recovery feel, such as your family. You have much to be proud of and so do they. But, I know you are aware of that. Great job, Marky. Keep it up. :)

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      7 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Seeker7, Thanks so much for your comment and I do hope some of the information I have provided will help someone that is addicted to alcohol or drugs.

      Thanks again for your kind words!

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      Helen Murphy Howell 

      7 years ago from Fife, Scotland

      An excellent hub and source of very in depth information that will go along way to helping anyone who has or does suffer from an addiction. Excellent piece of writing.

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      7 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Beth, Every time I read your comments each and everyone touches my heart. You make me feel as if I am really doing sometime to help those in need with their addiction and that is exactly what I am trying to do. You and so many others give me the inspiration and the willingness to keep the keys on the keyboard moving in the right direction, if that make any sense, but you know what I mean. I wish someday someone would write to me and tell me that something I wrote helped them become sober. That my dear would make me the happiest guy in the world, just knowing I helped even one person. May be one day I'll get that email telling me so.

      I love your peace and light Beth, means so much to me and I appreciate everything you say and I appreciate you !!!.

      Thank You Beth



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      7 years ago from Canada

      The greatest, hardest and first step is admitting to yourself that you are an alcoholic or addict. Until then, you have not begun your journey. Mark, you have provided solid advice and advice that works. Once you have become clean and sober, and can maintain it, the next step is to conquer co-dependency. As a well respected (and highly loved) counsellor once said -- an addict who isn't on the take is a co-dependent until they learn why.

      I'm proud of you Mark! For your courage, bravery, and willingness to change. You set an example and you have proven to many that an addict can change. You are an inspiration to all - whether an addict or not.

      Peace and light,

      Stay strong.




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