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Stop feeling sorry for yourself!

Updated on May 18, 2012

Self-pity: Are you a loser or a fighter?

Too many people are hiding in self-pity. We’ve all been there, everybody hits rock bottom sooner or later. You are sitting in this big dark hole, facing a black wall. Sulking in self-pity is somewhat comforting, an escape from reality. It makes you feel unique and almost perfect. Poor soul, let down and cheated by everybody else. You can blame Tom, Dick and Harry for your misery - everybody, but yourself. The hole gets deeper and you feel like you are drowning in it. Can’t get out, no future! Carry on sulking and the hole will get even deeper, making you feel lonely and isolated. This ain’t no life.

You wake up and start looking around you. The dark wall has steps and with a little bit of effort you can climb out and start all over again. You look at yourself and all your options, and all of a sudden the dark hole is forgotten. Along with the self-pity which you left behind.

You have a future, you have a life, all you have to do is live it!

Inspiration from a person who most of us would pity

Next time when that feeling is creeping up on you and you start looking at that big black hole opening up again, watch this inspiring video. You will probably have tears of self-pity running down your cheeks. But don’t worry, they are tears of embarrassment, of realization, of love and of hope. Some people like Nick are not as lucky as you are. They don’t have arms and legs, that help them climb out of their dark hole. But they have wisdom and faith and they love and embrace life.

They have a future, they have life, it may not be as perfect as yours but they make the most of it.

Nick Vujicic an inspiration for all of us

PS: I've been inspired to share this video with you, as I see far too many sad and desperate hubs on hubpages.


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    • rajan jolly profile image

      Rajan Singh Jolly 

      6 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Very interesting and inspiring write. Its too easy to get bogged down by negativity but repeated small efforts will go a long way to build positivity and self belief.

    • novascotiamiss profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Nova Scotia, Canada

      Rod, thanks for your comment. You are absolutely right, people who are stuck in a rut are more likely to be depressed. If you have plans for the future and try out new things you have a new outlook.

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      Rod Marsden 

      7 years ago from Wollongong, NSW, Australia

      I'll vote up. Sometimes it isn't enough to know that there are people out there worse off than you who are still enjoying life. To avoid the black hole you have to, every once in a while, change your routine or have a go at something you have never done before but have always wanted to do. My thoughts at any rate. Self pity only ever attacks me nowadays when I haven't laid down plans for my future.

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      Stephanie Das 

      7 years ago from Miami, US

      I have never seen anything about Nick before. He is an incredible inspiration. I feel so happy now...thank you, NovaScotia Miss.

    • fucsia profile image


      7 years ago

      Everytime I see Nick or people like him i feel inside of me a great energy and happiness. Thank you very much for this page.

    • novascotiamiss profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Nova Scotia, Canada

      Thank you James for your kind comments, especially about the man with no feet. We are so much concentrating on totally unimportant things these days that we sometimes don't see how well we actually have it. Your sentence says it all...

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      James A Watkins 

      7 years ago from Chicago

      This is a wonderful Hub to inspire. I used to cry that I had no shoes. Then I met a man with no feet.

      I enjoyed this piece. Thank you. Well done!

    • novascotiamiss profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Nova Scotia, Canada

      Alabama Girl. I didn't write this hub for people suffering from clinical depression who need professional help. I wrote it for the general public who quite often forgets to see the good things in life and concentrates on the negative.

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      7 years ago

      Very nicely done, although I feel I am missing some of the smaller points.

    • SanneL profile image


      7 years ago from Sweden

      Such an inspiring young man!

      There is so much self-pity in this world. I am actually very tired with people who are constantly crying and complaining over itty bitty things. There are many people out there who has all the justice in the world to complain or cry over certain situations, that has happened in there lives, either by sickness or losing a loved one, but I do admire those who dug themselves out from that hole and does not look for self-pity. They are true people to admire!

      Thank you for a very awakening and dynamic hub.

    • novascotiamiss profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Nova Scotia, Canada

      Cardisa, thanks for your kind comments. Guess who inspired me to write this hub? YOU! ... and of course when I received Nick's video from a friend I knew straight away that this should be shared. Life is too short to be sorry for yourself, people like you or Nick teach us how to make the most of it.

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      Carolee Samuda 

      7 years ago from Jamaica

      I really appreciate you Miss Novascotiamiss. This was very inspiring. I didn't cry for Nick...I felt so happy watching him, I felt like I wanted to hug and kiss him. I was bursting with joy, because I know I am happy.

      I was there in that hole, I dug myself out and now I am one of the happiest persons I know.

      Thank you for reminding us of the joy life has to offer, we just need to grasp it and stop feeling sorry for ourselves.

      I voted up and everything but funny!


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