Suicidal thoughts- how to avoid it and begin a new life
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem’-Phil Donahue.
Life is precious
Life is a god sent gift and it is your duty to live it to the full. You might face several traumatic experiences in your life and feel there is no end to your distress. If you are courageous, the fighting spirit in you makes you tide over your difficult time and you come out a more mature and bold person
But for weak minded, they feel overwhelmed by their situation and they want to end it by taking their life.
What are the different reasons for suicide?
- Loss of a dear one
- Financial debacle
- A sudden impulse to end life because of loneliness
- Love failure.
The reason for choosing this fatal decision varies from person to person, but the end result is sorrow and bewilderment on part of those near to you.
Suicide of the boy I knew due to love failure
I can never forget the suicide my neighbors’ son. He was in love with a girl who worked in his father’s office. There was lot of opposition for his love because the girl was lower than them in financial status. The boy tried to convince his mother, but she was adamant.
I saw him at twelve in the afternoon in the terrace and he smiled at me. Half an hour later I heard his mother wailing and we rushed to their home and I can never forget the sight I saw. He was hanging in the fan lifeless. What a loss of precious life?
Why should a young life be nipped in the bud?
It was because of his lack of fighting spirit and his mother’s adamant behavior. She will never see her son again and if only she had understood her son’s love and accepted the girl he loved she would have not lost her son. The boy on his part could have boldly married the girl he loved and later convinced his mother.
Financial debacle ignites the feeling of helplessness. If you are dispirited, it causes several mind shattering thoughts in you. You feel waves of hopelessness, tossing you into the abyss of depression. If you are in debt it adds fuel to your depressive situation.
I have to share the traumatic period in my life with you. During that harrowing period, financial stress joined hands with my husband’s renal failure. Those were the days I found it impossible to keep myself sane as I could not bear to see my husband suffering.
Faith in god made me take control of my feelings and I found an anchor in my daughter. She pulled me out of my depression and here I am today, my financial debacle a thing of past and the memory of my beloved husband my energy booster to fight against everything and come out unscathed.
One bad moment is enough
If you deviate from nurturing relationship you feel you have no one in this world to help you and this feeling makes you depressed. The thought of suicide gets engraved in your mind and one bad moment is enough for everything in your life to go out of focus and you make the fatal decision to taking your life. If only you had talked it out with a family member or close friend your life would be yours to cherish and live.
Loss of dear one
How do you feel when you lose the most precious person of your life?
- Do you feel like taking your life?
- Do you feel you can never see happiness again in your life?
It is true you cannot forget the person who meant so much to you. But you can make his memory meaningful and worthwhile. Strive to do something good in his memory, like donating on his anniversary as a fitting tribute to the departed soul.
When you feel overwhelmed by any situation, do not hesitate to talk it out. You should talk with a person who motivate you and make you realize how easy it is to overcome your problems.
Love is the remedy
Even the rich commit suicide, so financial drawbacks is not the only reason for suicide. In this modern world you are in a mad chase for money and in your hunt for money you trample relationship, resulting in deprivation of true love.
Without love everything is meaningless. Lack of communication is the cause of many mental problems as it leads you to a situation where you feel alone and lost. Today this loveless solitude is faced by many and that is why we see a spurt of suicide among even teenagers.
Impulse and rash decisions also contribute to suicide. You must think for a fraction of second and you feel you had been foolish to have even contemplated suicide. Nothing in this world is permanent. All sorrows, stress, financial setbacks and emotional deprivation will disappear into nothingness when you make efforts to overcome them. Courage, honesty, strong willpower and the guiding motivation of friends and relatives go a long way in getting you out of any dire situation.
‘To die in order to avoid the pains of poverty, love, or anything that is disagreeable, is not a part of a brave man, but of a coward’-Aristotle
Yes, it is utter cowardice to even contemplate suicide. Live your life to prove to the world of your resilience to outgrow any setbacks you might face. The traumatic experience you face is there not to destroy you, but to evolve you into a new person full of courage, raring to face the world with dignity and maturity.
© 2012 mathira