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Techniques For Getting Rid Of Despair

Updated on May 4, 2012

Despair is a serpent that wraps around your neck, and strangles the life out of you. The thing that really makes despair bad is while you’re feeling paralyzed, time keeps passing, and your problems only get worse. The trick to dealing with despair is to stop thinking about the negatives in your life, and focus on the positives. By focusing on the positives you can keep making progress, and one day those negatives will be a thing of the past. The following tips will help you put this advice into effect, so pay close attention.

Spending Time with Friends and Family

One of the biggest blessings people have in their life is friends and family. We go through life working towards our goals; some of us even work two jobs because we are looking for material comforts that only money can buy. While we are busy complaining about how we can never get what we want out of life, because things just keep getting more and more expensive, the one thing that should give us the most joy has been there all along. Is a brand new flat screen TV worth all the time and energy you spend on it, when a good conversation with a friend or family member can keep you just as entertained.

Changing Things You Have Control Over

How many people lose sleep over problems that are out of their control? We spend so much time thinking about things that we can’t change that we forget all about the things we can. If you’re facing a stressful tomorrow, is it more effective to toss and turn at night thinking about all the problems you’re going to face, or get the proper amount of sleep you need so that you won’t have to face these problems at half speed. Worrying is a hard habit to break, so if you have found yourself in this situation try writing out a list of things you need to take care of the next day. Plan out a strategy of how you plan to take care of each problem, then put it under your pillow, and get a decent 8 hours of rest. You have no control over what tomorrow brings, but you can control how much energy you have to face it.

Rewarding Yourself for a Job Well Done

How many times do you feel like you never get thanked for the work you do? Whether it is a tough assignment at work or a demanding chore at home, once you have completed it, the thing you want to hear most is for someone to say “Thank You”. “Thank You” is a reward that people give you when they appreciate you, and when you don’t hear it you feel unappreciated, and sometimes worthless. If you have completed a tough task and no one says “Thank You”, reward yourself. Spend some time doing something you want to do, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for it. Too many times, people feel like if they don’t give of themselves completely they are being selfish, but if you have helped others and they have not thanked you for your help, who is being the selfish one in this situation. Enjoy your reward, because sometimes we have to do thankless jobs in life.

Despair is an emotion that does nothing to help you out of our troubles. No matter what kinds of hardships you are facing, despair should be avoided at all cost. Try implementing the techniques you have just read about and see how much easier life gets. Spend time with your family, change the things you can in life, and reward yourself when you do a good job. If you do these things every day, despair won’t be able to worm it’s way around your neck to start squeezing the life out of you.


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      IntegrityYes 5 years ago

      That rocks,Philly Dreamer. I voted up. Vinaya is right about meditation. It is especially good for the mind and heart.

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      Jose Velasquez 5 years ago from Lodi, New Jersey

      I never tried it. Next time I find myself feeling like this I'll give it a whirl.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Hello Philly,

      You have mentioned some good point here. By the way mediation also helps.