The Benefits of Having Patience
A Reality of Life
It is a universal knowing that a person, no matter how old, never stops learning in life. In fact, there is so much to be learned to begin with, especially in life lessons. However the thing about life lessons is that they never stop springing out at you to teach you something new, despite how much you may think you've mastered them. The life lesson of having patience is one of those lessons that will always remind you of it's necessity. Here are a few benefits of having patience to seriously consider.
"Patience is a conquering virtue."
— Geoffry Chaucer1) Gives You Better Communication Skills
Unfortunately, good communication skills are not being taught as well nor practiced a lot in today's day and age. The only way to resolve a problem is to communicate, but to solve a problem quickly and efficiently, you need to communicate well. One of the key things to understand is that patience in any form communication, is needed because it will:
- Allow both parties to be heard. (no interrupting)
- Once a person is completely heard, it prevents any jumping to conclusions.
- Allow for a path of understanding.
- Allow for one to properly arrange their thoughts.
- Give time for tensions to lower.
"The strongest of all warriors are these two - Time and Patience."
— Leo Tolstoy, War and Peace2) Gives You Time to Introspect
As we grow older, our perceptions change and mature, giving us a better understanding of how the world is. While we are going through the different transitional phases, we may begin to get anxious for the imminent changes in our life, which brings a sense of great anticipation. It is in these vital moments that time seems to drag on but if you have patience:
- It gives you time to reevaluate your understanding of past events.
- If you are brave enough, allows an opportunity for you to look on some of the more emotionally intense parts of your past with a more seasoned understanding.
- It allows you to reaffirm your values and moral understandings, as well as change if need be.
- Gives you the time to really recognize your strengths and weaknesses in order to see how you can advance your self into becoming a better person.
- It helps you recognize and appreciate beautiful, defining moments in life so that you may not take them for granted and are able to more vividly look upon them in the future.
"Knowing trees, I can understand the meaning of patience. Knowing grass, I can appreciate persistence."
— Hal Borland3) It's a Necessary Tool for Raising Children
The beautiful thing about raising children is that you are incapable of trying to force an understanding on them until they are ready for it, at their own unique pace. Nothing gets learned by the child nor parent, otherwise. Even more than a grown person, you can not attempt to force knowledge into a child's mind without some serious eardrum-rupturing repercussions. However, when you do show patience:
- You teach your child this virtue through example.
- It gives you a moment to understand your child.
- It shows that you are firm.
- It gives you a moment to help them understand.
- It shows them that they are worth the wait.
"Trying to understand is like straining through muddy water. Have the patience to wait! Be still and allow the mud to settle."
— Lao Tzu, Tao Te ChingIt's the Little Things
Ultimately, having patience gives a person time to get an understanding of the more vitally profound things within life. Most of the time a person spends is on worrying about things, the hustle-and-bustle, and the next big sensation, but through this, important things in life pass by unseen. There is a richness to life to be seen, when you stop and take the time to recognize it like family, healing, togetherness, unity, the truth in sincere beauty, life it's self, and the journey. Having patience is facilitating that time before it's gone for good, and you get more out of life than can ever be had through instant gratification. It is the little things in life that matter and have the most in-depth impact on a person. Without having patience, you are unable to really stop and take a look at how far you have come. Having patience is the key to really start appreciating these things that will not only make life more enjoyable, but also help you learn a whole lot more in a truly appreciative, fulfilling way.
"It is very strange that the years teach us patience - that the shorter our time, the greater our capacity to wait."
— Elisabeth Taylor, A Wreath of Roses