The Best Times of our Lives
Yes, you often hear people say –“college or school days were the best times of my life.” Even when we were in school, adults said, school days are the best times of your life. But the reality is- every phase in life is as good as you make it and anything that is occurring in the present is rarely as rosy as the future or the past. It is the thinking that makes it so.
are school days the best times?
When you are growing up, you feel bound by restrictions placed on your freedom by parents, teachers, school rules and what can be done and what not and what times to adhere to. People say, all you need to do is study, listen to your parents and follow the rules and you will be fine. But the child’s mind dreams of a carefree life sans restrictions and a life of bliss. But of course, little does the child know that you can’t survive on fresh air and sun and that you need money to eat and have the good things in life and to do that you need to have a good source of remuneration and in order to have that you need good grades and qualifications! So, scoot it and hit the books!
is it when you start earning?
Well, that is the irony of life, isn’t it? What you have is never enough, what you want is hard to get and once you have it, you have other desires. It is the Pandora’s box of troubles and the vicious circle called life itself.
But indeed, the best times in our lives are the ones that we make. The point is that people should try and enjoy every phase, from teens to graduation to the first job, to getting married. It is that waiting for “when I have a Mercedes, I would have arrived in life” moment that ruins the time of your life you could have had right now. Living in the present is something that is a privilege of the few who understand and know that the destination isn’t the moment, it is the journey that is as important and beautiful that make it worthwhile.
is it when you get past a certain age?
It is important to be thankful for being able to live through different phases in life..what about people who died young or folks who never made it past their thirties? Did they miss the best phase of their lives? Certainly not. Life is what you make of it and how you define ‘happiness’.
it is none of the above..
Every age has its trials and tribulations and joys and sorrows. If high school studies and peer pressure are stressful, then so is doing a post doctorate. If people think that somebody who landed a job with a famous brand has got it all, then they are being very myopic in their view. Life is not totally about what you have and what you got. It is also about what you did and tried to do. Being single and young is fun, but then we reach an age when being settled and married has its own comfort fuzzy feel. Raising children is tiring but ask the couple who are unable to conceive a child.
So is it just perspective that makes the positives and negative or is it a reality? Well the choice is yours; it is how you define what makes you happy and what you do about it.
Just remember..don’t wait for the unreachable point of bliss, enjoy each moment, each phase and cherish it.
Do not look back on happiness or dream of it in the future. You are only sure of today, do not let yourself be cheated out of it. ---- Henry Ward Beecher