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The Boy Teacher and The Father Student # 80; We Will Stay In Touch

Updated on January 25, 2020

Way Back

Early on I was smarter than him.
Early on I was smarter than him. | Source

First Contact

Certain circumstances require that one should not stay at home and burden the family with health issues. It would seem to this writer that the particulars of the condition are truly not relevant. We are in good hands with trusted and fantastic medical services, mentioning this particular condition would render sympathy and advice, to be quite frank that is not what we are after here. This is a little different than normal as it spans all four of my children.

This one from the eldest child in her thirties old daughter in D.C..

D: Dad are you OK?

F: I have 3 tubes going into me and am confined to bed with 24 hour care, I am still disoriented and in one of those gowns that reveal all from behind. But hell yes I am OK.

D: Dad the very sick thing is that I think you are. Shouldn’t you be all freaked out?

F: Hey have you not ever had a bed bath by a gorgeous nurse – put it on your bucket list. (Well handsome for you I hope)

D: I think I will fly out to be with you. I know it is too hard for Gabe to see you like that. He must be freaking out himself.

F: Easy does it there. He swung by enough to crack some jokes and do fist pumps. And I am getting better already. So no special trips from you.

D: Oh by the way did you change your will to give everything to me yet?

F: I was getting better but now you are killing me with laughter. LoL

Not My Time Yet

Many Moons To Come

There is no part of the day I do not look forward to.
There is no part of the day I do not look forward to. | Source

Hey Do Not Look Here

Elder Son

The next call was from my elder son 30 something. He leads a band and is a model so we do not mention age. San Francisco based. And we refer to each other as best friends. We both have degrees in philosophy so we love to argue.

S: Hey pops are you on your way out or back in.

F: As far as the hospital is concerned on my way out, as far as life I am all in.

S: Hay said you changed your will and left everything to her. LoL

F: The only will I have changed is my willingness to get out of here and come kick your ass for even making your innuendos.

S: Well I can tell you are doing fine by your typical ornery attitude. But actually you sound good.

F: Oh that. No that is just the special kind of morphine I am getting. Don’t tell anyone but that kind of makes it fun being here. Kind of reminds me of those LSD trips I swear I never went on.

S: Gabe’s mom tells me that they are kicking you out to a skilled care place for physical and occupational therapy.

F: Right. But call it what it is; a nursing home.

S: Horrible but I hear they have the best in the west physical rehab unit, the net says it wins awards every year.

A Road I Never Traveled

The Rounds

In the new unit my almost 10 son comes around and we stop by and visit the lonely folks who quite literally are there to die. The sight of a young one surely does brighten the days. We had some preacher type come by and mainly lead in cool worship songs. You would have to ask what “group” they were from as the setting was such that you needed to even relate to atheists who attended. Most gave themselves away though if you know your differing dogmas, which most do not.

The very first one made a bee line to me when done and told me there was purpose for why I was there. And he did not mean therapy. From that exact moment on I just let my overflowing of love and joyfulness runneth over. Did you know that in places like that they can forget your name by the hour but ask them what they were doing 25 years ago and off they go with the smallest of details? What great stories. Ask them what their children were like at 10 and you will get another ear full.

Turned out it was a wonderful place to be to give out more love than anywhere I have ever been.

Young Son

S: Why do so many look so sad?

F: That is an easy one – what do we have that they do not? Well it is faith and hope. Not to mention being alone.

S: That is sad. I would be sad too. So why do they smile when you and I come by? Wait don’t even answer that; it is because then they are not alone and we give them faith and hope through love.

F: Son I told you that you were too young to read my sermons.

S: Shoot dad, I even share them with my online buddies and they actually read some of them. And yes I do not write to anyone who I do not know from school.

S: You do know that they all think I am your grandson.

F: Heck if just a couple little things went different you could be my great grandson. Well almost.

S: You seem to like it here, so does that mean you are staying longer.

F: Exactly the opposite they would kick me out today but it takes them 3 days to do the paper work.

S: That is cray cray.

F: You will learn soon, about just how nuts institutions are. Just don’t try to fix them right away. Just accept it for what it is. Otherwise the grief is all on you.

S: Dad Addy said you are nuts and would even be happy in jail.

D: Do you believe her?

S: Well you are not normal and act crazy sometimes so maybe she is right.

F: Well now you kind of get this place. Crazy is their normal.

S: So that is why there are never any kids here.

F: Never thought of that because as you know I like crazies but they scare kids. Not you because you live with me.

Just My Boys

God is Good He even give rascals great sons.
God is Good He even give rascals great sons. | Source

How Grateful We Must Be

Children Shall Lead the Train of Love

Youngest Daughter

D: Dad I heard you got shifted to an old folks home. Do they blend and strain your food and feed you?

F: Very funny, and I have a private 24 hour a day hotty nurse and get pushed around in a wheelchair drooling with my tongue hanging out yelling to see my spouse who passed 10 years ago.

D: I knew you are just fine but stepmom said that maybe some were like that, how sad.

F: First day I was kind of freaked but in my own dorky way I smiled and did the whole “You look great today and I love that shawl”. And then they began to be real people and not maniacs to me. Boy you can believe there was not one second of “poor poor me after a day.”

D: How is your writing going? Are you still publishing?

F: I just got my laptop yesterday. I am saving my scribbled notes from before. It is kind of fun to see the improvement in my eye-hand co-ordination. Improve day by day. That one step forward and two back via the back space key. But improving.

D: Talk to you tomorrow Daddio. I am proud of you. Love you.

F: Love you more, good night.

And so that wonderful heartbeat of love has continuity no matter the circumstance.

(I left out the longer questions and answers about their lives but that might be overly invading their privacy. But a dad does have a right to live vicariously through their children.)

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise today was "occupational" therapy day. It has to do with just being able to do things. So we trimmed some of my roses. It was indeed therapeutic..

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      Denise McGill 

      18 months ago from Fresno CA

      I hope you get well soon. Sounds like you find the adventure no matter where you are. That's the way to live each day, I think. Keep up the good work.

      Blessings,

      Denise

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      FlourishAnyway I just looked you up. I knew there was something connecting your comment here. You are an inspiration to those of us needing to not just persevere but Flourish.I think we have known each other for about have a decade. Thank you.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      18 months ago from USA

      Take care of yourself, Eric. I’m glad you are back at it but don’t push too hard. I wish you live and all things good as you work your way through this.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Nikki my troubles are behind me. At least those ones. Now I must bargain that I get back into the shape I was in rather than this normality.

      Thank you for your support and encouragement over the years.

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      Nikki Khan 

      18 months ago from London

      Woohoo! Someone is getting better day by day. Well, best of luck for your road to recovery, Eric.

      I didn't know you were sick until I read William's post. Was heartfelt situation. But its good to know that you are improving.

      I loved reading your whole conversation. All expressions of love and affection for their Daddy. And the will part is the most interesting one. Lol.

      Get well soon, Eric!

      And take good care of yourself.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Chris I have a lot work to do to get ready for a good hike in April/May. Feedback from my family cheering section is awesome and you know I think of you as extended family.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Ruby. It was up there with one of the most interesting parts of my life. Today we narrow down the causes and it seems to be an imbalance do to a problem with communication with the three man parts of the ear. But fully treatable by working out. The exercises are strange at best.

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      Chris Mills 

      18 months ago from Traverse City, MI

      It was good to read this, Eric. I have known from some of your comments over the months that you were facing some physical challenges. Glad to read your ***** *** remarks to your kids. My best to you and your family.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      18 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I didn't know you were in rehab until William K. informed me. I see you haven't lost your salt and sugar. Whoopie! Get well and keep 'em' guessing about the will. lol

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Dora, I know the doctors and such took care of the small stuff but prayers and love took care of the big stuff, which to my mind is how it should be.

      Let me put it this way. My family sure is greatful for your prayers. Much love.

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      Dora Weithers 

      18 months ago from The Caribbean

      Eric, I have been missing you. Thanks for letting us know that you're in good spirits. You won't get my pity, but count on my prayers. Every line of these conversations is precious, and I'll be quoting this one: "I was getting better but now you are killing me with laughter." Continue to live, love and laugh, dear friend.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Heck Devika I am recovered, we are just re-learning how to do things right. OK and OK not really "recovered" but it sure is fun recovering. And it is great to get back in contact with great friends like you. Thanks for coming by and leaving a note.

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      Devika Primić 

      18 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Wow! Awesome sound like you are on your way to recovery. It is a great effort and you share so much of your experiences here.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lori I went and did it again. Push too hard too fast. So it is a down day. I like excuses for those. My PT said that if I don't stop acting like I was training marathon next week he would quit.

      Not a day has gone by where I did not give some praise for my friends here.

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      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Liz I think there is a lot of truth to that. I think I saw my full share of how it often does not work out that way. Maybe one of our callings is to be that child for someone else.

      Your comment is charming and moving, thanks.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Mel, it is good to be back in. This like testing the water with your big toe to see if it is to cold to jump in, even though for dang sure you know you are going to be jumping in anyway.

      Got more to be grateful for than just living.

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      Lori Colbo 

      18 months ago from United States

      I've been praying for you Eric. Glad things are improving. Now we can get more of your love hubs. We've missed you. God bless.

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      Liz Westwood 

      18 months ago from UK

      Thanks for sharing these conversations and insights into your family and your situation. It sounds like between you, your 10 year old son and yourself are being a blessing to those around you. We have four children. My husband used to joke that it was so they could visit when we were older. Those days are fast approaching.

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      Mel Carriere 

      18 months ago from Snowbound and down in Northern Colorado

      Glad to see you are back in the ring again, knocking people out with your mean right hook. I am envious of your daily sponge baths, but must go now and meditate upon it, for a bit.

      Sending you tons of cyber-love and best wishes.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill for some odd reason I thought of kings trumpets blowing to announce some giving someone some love. Like it was a huge deal just to be good to another.

      Wow that was weird. Bill it was truly a full on blessing.

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      William Kovacic 

      18 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Glad to see you back, Buddy! You've been missed here by many, but glad you had the opportunity to give to others. Loved the message you sent our way.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you John, it is nice to be back. Another cool thing is that it opens the eyes to more appreciation for each other. It is like a cloud 9 around here. That is a very OK with me.

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      John Hansen 

      18 months ago from Gondwana Land

      Eric, firstly welcome back home. I am sure you were meant to be in that nursing home to spread the love and brighten up the lives of the others there. God sure does work in mysterious ways.

      The witty conversations with your kids couldn’t fail to brighten up the situation and you have too much love for you not to keep roughing out the tough stuff and coming through stronger. Blessings my friend.

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      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Manatita the gowns are so funny. If you are in a health care facility - kiss you modesty to the curb. hahaha. A grumpy old man said he did not want any of my lemonade. I asked what he was talking about and he retorted. "lemons into lemonade and being stuck here and being happy about it". I told him I had some snake oil for sale and he actually chuckled. For me that is a great day.

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      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Devika one of the things I enjoy most is backcountry hiking with my sons. Not for a bit I am afraid but soon enough. We get the biggest thrill when it gets tough and turns into climbing.

      Getting through the tough stuff together is just the best of the best.

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      manatita44 

      18 months ago from london

      I know too well about these gowns that expose you. I have been trying to correct them for years! Not much changes.

      What's strikes me is that you have not lost the fun, the 'craziness., so you must be well.

      This is quite an informative yet witty piece. May Guruji continues to bless your loving Heart. So good to see you're back. Higher Blessings.

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      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Patty it was and is a remarkable journey. It makes me think of so many more things in a more positive life. Thanks for your support. Whahoo a short and soft game of football catch this morning. Every day is progress.

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      Devika Primić 

      18 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Impressive! Get well and share more of your awesome experiences with us. You have a lot to be happy for in your life.

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      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I prefer to think of it as a mishap that put me where I was meant to be at that moment. I also learned that being happy gets grumpy reactions sometimes. But almost to a one. A couple of times they seemed to enjoy my company. Holding a babies hands or a 96 year old hands is fully selfish on my behalf.

      Thanks for checking up on me in my absence. Your love shines through from a thousand miles away.

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      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Umesh It is nice to hear from you. I am going to do one on my children I honorarily adopted. Very fun times.

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      Patty Inglish MS 

      18 months ago from USA and Asgardia, the First Space Nation

      This is a very uplifting thing to read, Eric, and much appreciated in a chaotic world right now. How wonderful it is to read about your experiences, family, and new friends at the nursing home! God bless you with ever increasing health.

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      Linda Lum 

      18 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, you have been missed here, but it sounds like you were busy spreading the love in other places where it was much needed.

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      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Pamela we are already planning a trip back to the "skilled Nursing" facility. My boy says it will be much better than when I was a patient and sense I am doing so well. His idea though I was thinking about it.

      Thank you for showering us with such love and kindness. I promise to share it today.

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      Umesh Chandra Bhatt 

      18 months ago from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India

      Nice conversations with own children. Interesting. Wish you early recovery. All the best.

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      Eric Dierker 

      18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill thanks mucho. Love love the magical thing the more you give the more you bring. I have a couple of extra bucks in my wallet. I will go to the bodega with one of those machines for purified water. Of course some for home. But I will bring some quarts and quarters to give to the homeless that hang out there.

      And I will get ears full of stories. Just listening seems like what they really need.

      So I will pass on your love forward.

      Friends like you to remind me is what makes my world turn.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      18 months ago from Sunny Florida

      It sounds like you are on the road to recovery and still spreading love all around. I have missed your talks with your loving children, especially the youngest very smart young man. You have many people who obviously love you, so you are truly blessed. I enjoyed reading this Boy Teacher article. Keep up the good work! God bless you.

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      Raymond Philippe 

      18 months ago from The Netherlands

      I loved reading the conversations you had with your children.

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      Bill Holland 

      18 months ago from Olympia, WA

      You are one lucky s.o.b. and a blessed man. You know that, right? You've got way too much love coming your way. I think you should share some with a few people around you today. What do you think?

      Get better buddy...real soon. Selfishly I'm tired of losing people i cotton to.

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