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The Boy Teacher And The Father Student 5 (Letters Home, The Costs of Passion)

Updated on January 5, 2018
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Eric started working with children when he was still one himself. He taught first aid through Scouting. All the way to preaching to youth.

Feeling The Sun and the Son

Life is good around here.
Life is good around here. | Source


Dear son,

I am so sorry I have missed your ballgames. You know how I love them so. Please say hi to Gilberto’s and Angelo’s dads for me. Being away is hard. But at least I am not on deployment like Andrew’s and Ivan’s fathers. Tell them that I am their biggest fan.

Except for being away it is good here. Lately I wish they had someone else to do my job so I could come home. But there aren’t many guys who do what I do as a cultural government expert. Not even one guy comes to mind that knows eight members of the politburo. Westerners think that businesses make things happen here whereas here it is government.

Hey I hiked 3 kilometers up a mountain to see a Buddhist shrine in the mountains. It was too cool. But now they gave me a bodyguard to keep an eye on me, not sure it is to keep me safe. And don’t get all worried but a cook tried to poison me by feeding me a poisonous frog’s skin in my soup. I got real sick but only for a few hours. I hope they do not hurt the cook too much but I am sorry to say he is in jail.

I am up in a City they call Hanoi and some people still hate Americans. But that is my job, to make them not hate us. Silly huh? We are here to make people not hate us so we have to hang out with people who hate us.

My job is to help them accept the international internet and allow open communications and marketing with the world. Our idea is that it will create freedom of expression and theirs is that it will create influx of money. (look up influx)

Son, I love you so much and miss you even more. Be good to your mom and sisters. That will make you be good and feel good about yourself. Your picture is in my wallet and I pray for you each day. Please pray for me.

Love Dad


Something Going On!

Maybe Daddy is Silly

Maybe hard to learn from a silly man.
Maybe hard to learn from a silly man. | Source

Life Is A Bit Complicated

Please remember that school (not schooling me ;-) is a place to learn to learn not to be right. Once again you have made me think hard about what and why I do. Again I say to you, thanks for making me a better man.

Hey I will see you in about 72 hours – silly but I am counting them. I heard from your mom you will meet me at that crazy Los Angeles International Airport they call LAX. I hope I do not act too weird decompressing.

Love ya and see you soon.

Dear Dad,

Baseball is OK, I really like playing but maybe I will not get a scholarship. I can reach home plate now from centerfield with one hop. Remember when you took me to the emergency room when I got hung up on the right field fence? Man was mom mad you did not tell her until we got home. Girls still dig the scar.

Dad you always told me that you give a hand up and not a hand out. Sounds like you are giving a hand out. I think I need you more here than they need you there. There are some grandpas around who I heard call you a traitor. I thought we weren’t at war anymore and only know about Vietnam from school. Why do they hate you? And they hate you there too?

Dad that seems really bad. I don’t think anyone hates me. How can you handle being hated?

Please come home and safe. I need you.

Your son,


Dear Son,

I hope you like this on a post card with the beautiful gardens down here in Ho Chi Minh. They are everywhere and the streets remind me of our trips to Mexico. I hope you still practice Espanol? I hope you keep up as language builds bridges that others do try to destroy through hate.

Home soon with presents.

Give your sisters and mom a big hug, Com Ong.

Love Dad


I am going to school you. I heard today to; “Think globally and act locally”. That is pretty smart. I am planting some trees tomorrow with other guys on the baseball team. But dad it seems you act globally and think locally. Father Martin asked for more money again to make the church “better”. I think I will quit being an acolyte, I hope you are not disappointed.

Do you really think that you are making a good influence on the world? My history teacher said that all us students should ask our parents. I do not understand really. Seems real weird to me.

I love you and miss you,



Do you think you know the answers to your questions? Because I sure as hell do not. But please remind me.


(We meet and I am much the worse for wear. Tokyo meetings ended well but the process would make a major politician pass out. Somehow my son finds me and quickly gets me the hell out of there. He gets it and accepts me passing out for an hour or so. We pull into a lookout point at Camp Pendelton. Alright we are ready to rock. Hot coffee and a short jog around the place and view of the Pacific Ocean from “the other side)

I Just Like It

Just For The Fun Of It

Love | Source

What You Forget is Dangerous

F: What is new?

B: We are going to war with Russia and you are due in DC tomorrow.

F: How the hell do you know that son?

B: Fake dad, relax and chillax.

F: You are a dog son.

F: How is your Vanessa doing?

B: She is doing just fine with Zack.

F: Life is a bowl of cherries and each day is the pits.

B: Very funny Dad. Was your trip worth it?

F: Only if you do not have enough to eat.

B: Bullshit dad. You really saw kids with not enough to eat.

F: Let us move on. I need to forget it for a few days, go on a hike with you and do some beach time and work on that swing of yours. Fast hands.

B: No dad I want to get it. Do you mean that there is not enough food in Indo China?

F: Very cool son that you know the old name for South East Asia. You tell me son. Is it a matter of enough food?

B: That is global political science and easy. No it is the distribution and cost that creates for malnutrition. But I know you do not work on that so what gives? How does what you do help feed hungry people.

F: Thanks for nothing. Now I question my own worth.

B: Dad I know the answer I was just checking to see if you still believe in it.

F: Aren’t dads and sons supposed to talk about cars and sports and hiking and stuff?

B: You know nothing about cars, not much about sports nowadays and we go hiking not talk about it.

F: Alright, I was just stalling as I know you know. My work has to do with freedoms in a communist country. And I believe that freedoms help people reach their potential and that feeds their children.

Maybe I do not thank you enough for keeping it real. Thanks for reminding me of the goal and not just the day to day.

F: Now my turn, have you picked a University for next year?

B: Yes, I am accepted to UC Santa Cruz. The best philosophy school in Cal. Don’t make that face, your first degree was in philosophy.

F: And look where that got me.

B: Well it got you me!

F: Touche’, are you old enough to drink yet, I need one.

B: Dad when you need one is exactly when you don’t, remember you taught me that.


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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lawrence such a great comment. I am sure in was about fifteen years ago when my elder and I agreed that we love our lives, troubles and travails and all. So we cast blame. And we laugh at what was so wrong it got us here to near bliss.

      But we still play the ought a would a could a as a spring board toward being even better.

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      Lawrence Hebb 

      11 months ago from Hamilton, New Zealand


      really enjoyed this way that you show two approaches to life's 'issues'. One who's just getting to the big decisions, and wants to follow dad, but not sure he's going to 'make it' and the other who's a bit older, and not totally sure that the way he did things was 'the right way'

      At least that's how it reads to me.


    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Kari. We are blessed.

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      Kari Poulsen 

      12 months ago from Ohio

      I love these looks into your and your son's life. You make him think and he makes you think. What a wonderful relationship!

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Linda. I was wondering yesterday if this is cathartic for me. I think so. And at any rate it is helping me to listen more and with love.

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      Linda Lum 

      12 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, you did well with this son, and the little man you are raising now is (I sense) equally wise. You don't merely teach. You teach your children to think. And all of it given and received in love.

      Thank you for sharing bits of that wisdom and love with us.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Frank your support for my writing means so much to me. I thank you.

      I am working on making it less rough. My son the songwriter and poet and artist suggests I keep rough. Kind of like that "Proud Mary" song by Tina. Maybe I should stop looking for balance?

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Dianne. My mom used to say "it is not a matter of favorites it is a matter of giving each child what they need" Well you give me what I need and are a favorite of mine.

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      Frank Atanacio 

      12 months ago from Shelton

      finally getting notifications and I'm glad this was the first one I received.. this was a strong and emotional hub letters et al.. an amazing share Bless you

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Interesting. Who are we?

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      Dianna Mendez 

      12 months ago

      I shed some tears over the words written in the letters. I do believe that in the end, love will make a difference in any relationship. Great pictures and ones that will bring back many good memories over the years.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      12 months ago from Washington DC

      I am a "New Lander" (Native of the Americas) mixed with European, Asian and African so some of them all comes out at different times.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      You comment sounds very Navajo.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      12 months ago from Washington DC

      No disease has to be terminal, seek your own heart concerning what YOU HAVE NEED OF to overcome it and be open to hear and obey it, you may have the privilege of BOTH fathering and mothering for up to the 7000 years of replenishing the earth for Revelation 21's spiritual civilization.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Not in Vietnam but my crazed wife is still Vietnamese. She is one of those special people who immigrated payed all fees and costs and stood in years of lines.

      Now she thrives with everything she wished for as a little girl.

      The letter scenario is back about 2000. And actually pretty accurate with my elder son.

      Thank you for coming by it is always good to hear from you.

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      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Manatita I hope you had a good rail trip. When I was riding around Europe on a Eurail pass. It was well known that German trains were the cleanest and most on time.

      I always like hearing just where you are. May today find you happy and cheerful.

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      Mr. Happy 

      12 months ago from Toronto, Canada

      Never heard of Arlo Guthrie until today but I liked that guitar. Cool sounds. : )

      So, are You in Vietnam, or am I just confused because I haven't had my morning coffee yet? lol

      I love the correspondence. It portrays father and son relationship really well. Bless You and your family! Thank You for this post and Happy New Year as well! : )

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      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      May my love be upon you friend Elijah. It is such a balance between sweet as honey and hard as eating cactus. But I like it. Do not give me ease, I would rather overcome the disease.

      I am fathered by love. Terminal disease only brings me closer to that love.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      12 months ago from Washington DC

      That sounds like real communicating between philosophies [lovers of wisdom], an old one and a younger one just coming into the love of wisdom. I've found "it is sweet as honey in taste but bitter as gaul in digesting [bringing it to fruition]" as written.

      I enjoyed the reading.

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      12 months ago from london

      Dad looks as charming, cute and vibrant as the son. On a German train. Sorry I can't play the videos.

      Cool conversations.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      It is good to be back to normal.

      Sometimes it is hard to do things in a loving manner, but we try. And I think that counts for a lot.

      Thank you Bill, for your support.

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      Bill Holland 

      12 months ago from Olympia, WA

      We are back to normal with notifications.

      That first picture of your son is a classic picture of love.

      Nothing else matters! That boy will grow up knowing he was loved....and is love!

      Happy New Year buddy!


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