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The Boy Teacher and the Father Student #86 The relationship

Updated on June 25, 2020
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Eric started working with children when he was still one himself. He taught first aid through Scouting. All the way to preaching to youth.

I Love Grandmas

Just another day in paradise. But I have no memory of where paradise was.
Just another day in paradise. But I have no memory of where paradise was. | Source

Hey! How are You Doing?

Sometimes looking into your child is a bit like looking into yourself. Scary. But with a child you kind of get “redos”. You can change course. For us old farts the course was set back when we were that child. We must be always on our toes to help them set the right course for themselves. Now let me include pets in that bag of tricks. We have to raise them right also.

F: What is on your mind son? Thanks for making that cool card for the food people.

B: Thank you dad it was a good idea to thank them. But you work over there for the food.

F: Yes, isn’t that cool. They need a strong back and some friendship and I got both.

B: And they have the best food. Even if we cannot pronounce the ingredients, hihihihi.

F: Well that kind of went out the window with the covid.

B: When will we get back to organic and healthy food, I kind of miss it, and don’t lecture me on shelf life.

F: I did some yesterday. Those berries and lemons. We have to eat them right away because without the chemies they go bad quick – oops I have said that 2 billion times – sorry.

B: Our second garden is slow this year. Should we add fertilizer?

F: We could but it is this sucky June gloom that is hiding the sun for too long of a day. Give it another week or so and it will be July blue skies. But then it will get good and.

B: Seasons are so boring. They are always just the same.

F: I know what you mean, leaves off the trees, beautiful light green leaves, then dark green and then all kind of colors, boring!

B: You know what I mean.

F: I am just joshing wit you boy. I really cannot say I get anticipation of the seasons all that right. Sometimes I am all negative and don’t look forward.

B: We all know you are a bit crazy so that is OK.

F: Do you think I am really crazy or that I just talk about the inside?

B: You lose that one dad. It is crazy to always talk about deep stuff.

F: What is for lunch and why are you wearing that shirt? See I can do normal.

B: You lose again dad. That kind of talk is crazy for you.

F: It is a brutal world son.

Your Call

Thanks Big Guy

Let Freedom Ring
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What about that space stuff? Isn’t it cool. I wonder what marvels they have provided us with through experiments and such up there. I wonder, it really is International. Like Europe and Russia and us. Japan and Canada are part of the deal. I got no idea what the Chinese are doing but I suppose it has military, conquer the world weird stuff. Sorry but that place is crazy. My friends who emigrated from there are salt of the earth nice. They do not have “politics” there. They only know power.

There is some serious power stuff going on with Father and Son. Lest you think it lopsided consider this; a son has the power to break his father down and make him weep. He can create an infectious smile and belly laughs and so much love to be passed on. I am just saying my children ultimately have more power over me than I over them. By about 7 they figure it out. I am lucky I reckon as they have not turned it against me.

F: What makes you cry?

B: When I fall at the rock hopping garden you made.

F: You don’t come around crying anymore about that. I sneak peeks and have seen you fall hard. And get up pissed off. What is up with that?

B: If I let mom see, she says to stop doing the rock hopping. And you just say, “Damn that must of hurt, what did you do wrong, were you day dreaming?”

F: Fair enough. I get your point. That full concentration deal is tough.

B: How come that the better I get at something the less I concentrate on it?

F: That is the difference between a pro and an amateur. It is not about the money but about that level of commitment that is required to stay focused on tasks, and sometimes more than one at a time.

B: So the pro does not need to concentrate he just does it naturally?

F: No. Just assume that two guys are both naturally talented at something. What makes one win and the other lose?

B: Luck I guess. But I know kids at school who try really hard but still can’t get things right. It doesn’t seem right that one kid is lucky all the time.

F: Sometimes it is not luck. Sometimes hard work is not enough. And sometimes natural talent is not enough.

B: Like you can do math but you are not the best at it.

F: Well now that is true. But also I am better than most at math logic. But I had and have to work really hard at it. I call it the “if this then that” skill.

B: That idea about skill and talent is tough. God gives us talent but hard work gives us skill?

F: Good thought. Maybe a mixture?

Just Let Ring!

Pictures of Grandmas

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I Just Don't Know

So twelve weeks stuck with each other. Truly I use the word stuck as that is what it is. My wife and I have a routine, she stays up real late and I go to bed real early. So she has her space and I have mine. It provides a “break”. Let us face it 10 hours a day together in a home is plenty. The boy is in the middle so time with all three of us and time with either one of us alone. Works around here.

F: What is up with starting piano lessons during the middle of stay home stay safe?

B: Mom checked it out and my cousins go and it is very safe, just one on one.

F: But don’t they have to sit next to you? Are you going to take her temperature first?

B: Dad you don’t even worry about that stuff, you are just giving me a hard time.

F: No boy, it is like this. What your mom doesn’t want done she says no because of the covid. What your mom wants done is fine because of precautions. Get it? She can go to the dollar store with you but you can’t go to the hardware store with me.

B: Don’t say it, I know it! “Pick and Choose”. Or you say another one like “judging”. Like you really don’t judge on what you say but what you want.

F: Cool dude. “Justification”.

B: Ya that is it, “you can justify anything”. You say that to me with excuses. Hey what is the difference between an excuse and a justification?

F: That is for you to figure out on your own. You will know the difference. I can’t pull weeds because it is too hot.

B: Do you think that with me staying home I am dumber or smarter?

F: What do you think?

B: I think that I think more like you and mom than kids my age now.

F: Hmm. Perhaps we get to soon old and too late smart. So maybe.

B: I think you used to talk down to me a bit, now we just talk.

F: Is that age or circumstance I wonder. I just don’t know.

B: Me either.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hey thanks Dora. We will try some taping. It could be fun to start with though I reckon it may end there.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Right on Manatita. I like both numbers and numbers. I mean mathematics and statistics. But that number "one" is the best. We are in the truth all one.

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      Dora Weithers 

      11 months ago from The Caribbean

      Eric, both you and your son share insights that make us think about or agree with. You need to start taping for a reality talk show.

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      manatita44 

      11 months ago from london

      Indeed!!

      Yet numbers matter, in the sense that the soul has a greater opportunity to progress ... evolve, while in this field of manifestation. Some souls seem 'dead' souls, so perhaps they need replenishment in heaven, but 'aspiring' souls are continually growing and glowing, from the flame of a candle to that of the sun. Peace.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Manatita.

      I was just thinking about whether or not the numbers really mean much. Each person is unique yet part of the whole.

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      manatita44 

      11 months ago from london

      So sorry to hear.

      Today my faith was reassured by the fact that evil is a part of God's Love, even as wrath also comes from Him. It is just a question of intensity. We see that the cocoon hangs from the tree, yet it paves the way for a most astonishing miracle called 'butterfly.' Even so, you have my prayers. Peace.

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      Devika Primić 

      11 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Eric looks like you have it under control there and staying home with is a better option

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Flourish for reading and commenting, it means a lot. Yes we were a night owl and a before sunrise couple anyway so we just went with it.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      11 months ago from USA

      This was entertaining and reflective. I like the way, too, that you and your wife have split up your sleep schedules. It shows adaptation and creativity on your parts to this new challenge.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Manatita,

      It is impossible to know exactly what is going on here. Our media is so slanted that they run agendas and not facts here. Every outlet is more like a tabloid.

      But our testing is way up and so the infection rate looks way up. Deaths are becoming less and less of a percentage. The politics of reopening is almost funny to watch.

      A statistic I kind of measure things on is availability of routine medical visits. After months I finally get to see an oncologist in two months. So that tells me we have the medical personnel and beds available. And so....

    • manatita44 profile image

      manatita44 

      11 months ago from london

      You seem to have the routine figured out. I guess with kids it comes eventually. Another interesting chat. What's the Covid thing like there?

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Vikram our home is a great deal multi-lingual. ESL for my wife. We live on the border so Spanglish is common and my son is nearly literate in his mother's native tongue and we get a lot of laughs.

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      Vikram Brahma 

      11 months ago from Assam, India

      Hey Eric, I remember I use to do lots of talking with my grandparents and uncles when I was small. In India, people speak many languages. So I use to speak one language and my grandparents use to speak another so we use to have funny miscommunications. Thanks for sharing, Eric.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill we are needing to do some behavior modification today. And I really want to avoid "because I said so".

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise it is amazing to have the time to watch it grow. There seems to be a real connection when new words are learned new concepts need to be hashed out.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby I thank you. It is hard to tell about cause. As he is growing up so fast. Let us see what he comes up with today.

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      William Kovacic 

      11 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Very educational and entertaining, my friend. Thanks for letting us in on your conversation. Hey, it's just another day in paradise!

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      Denise McGill 

      11 months ago from Fresno CA

      I can remember conversations with my girls like this. They could get pretty deep at times, and thoughtful too.

      Blessings,

      Denise

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      11 months ago from Southern Illinois

      Each day Gabe stays home with you, he learns more than at school, soon he will be the teacher, so you better get ready! I always enjoy your questions and his answers, or visa versa.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well I did not see this coming but it hit our team square in the face. "Ask a ten year old questions" Formatting will be easy as it will be about a 400 word dialogue that will fit in.

      I hope to see you for this next venture as we look into the mind of our young children. It will include at least some of "Well CJ says".

      Gabriel Dierker will be the commentator.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Linda -- hey that is a great idea. Not me, him. No help at first. His little search engine deals somehow take kid's words for things and it works out. Amazing -- Oh I am excited as to what we find. I bet it will be in this next episode.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I am behind you a decade Bill I am still waiting on the Midnight Special.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Mary the cool thing about his smarts is that if it is nature or nurture I still get the credit and make sure he knows it. But wow is his mother a strict at home teacher. -- Today a half hour of a second language and beginning music lessons. We will still make time for fixing the soccer net and transplanting a small tree we are growing somewhat Bonsai style.

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      Linda Lum 

      11 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, you sure packed a lot into one article. I love these conversations. You and Gabe should research what innovations we have because of the space program. You'd be amazed.

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      Bill Holland 

      11 months ago from Olympia, WA

      "Too late smart" perfectly describes me. At least I finally arrived at the station, you know? All aboard!!!!!

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      Mary Norton 

      11 months ago from Ontario, Canada

      Eric, your boy is smart. I am sure it is because of being with you most of the time. I like his comment, "you used to talk down to me a bit, now we just talk."

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Pamela, he took some clippers I was using to open some wood glue and said "here let me do it, you don't even have glasses on." Let's see what project he snags from me today. I hope he does not want to play chess ;-)

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John thank you for coming by and for that poem. He laughed the whole way through --- at me as much as the poem.

      And thanks again for reminding me that he is to write a poem a day. Maybe I should make that a choice of read or write?

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      11 months ago from Sunny Florida

      Eric, Your conversations with that precocious boy who seems to have insight into his own abilities as compared to the other kids in school is impressive.

      I always enjoy reading about your conversations and I do think you are raising a fine boy. I pray yu all stay safe and healthy.

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      John Hansen 

      11 months ago from Queensland Australia

      What a great conversation. so true, we can steer our child on the right course, and fix things if they go astray, but it is hard to change our own set ways. Oh, did Gabe get to read the "grumpy" poem? Just wondering what he thought lol.

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