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The Secret of Life: The First Secret

Updated on June 19, 2013

IN SEARCH OF…..

Philosophers have wrestled with this topic for centuries. What is the secret of life? Related to that is the question concerning the secret of happiness.

There are so many unhappy people in the world. This should not be a shocking revelation to any of you. Go outside and walk the streets of any town or city in the world, and you will see unhappiness etched on the faces of those you pass by.

Of course they have their reasons. Some are facing marital problems; some have lost their job or are unhappy with their place of employment. Others face financial ruin while some have ill-health. All valid reasons for unhappiness….or are they?

During my sixty-four years on this planet I have known, quite obviously, many people. Some for sure were unhappy, while others seemed to be happy each and every time I saw them. Why were some smiling constantly while others had seemingly forgotten how to smile? Surely we all have problems; how is it that some people manage to find happiness despite their problems, while others are weighed down so drastically that they can barely function?

Those questions are at the heart of this series of articles? Without a doubt, happy people must possess the secret of life and happiness. Of course they have trials and tribulations in their lives, but they have managed to use certain principles and beliefs and with them mold a happy life.

What do they know that others do not?

Today, after many detours and after many missteps, I believe I have finally figured it all out, so I’d like to share with you what I believe are the secrets of life and happiness. Each part of this series will discuss, in some depth, one of those secrets.

We have an infinite capacity to love....we can literally love thousands if we have it to give
We have an infinite capacity to love....we can literally love thousands if we have it to give | Source

THE MOST IMPORTANT OF THEM ALL

We begin with the most important secret of them all.

Love!

Without love, what is there? If love is not the single-most defining characteristic of your personality, I do not believe you will be truly happy. Of course there are those who would argue that point, and I respect them for their opinion, but for my money, love is crucial for happiness, contentment, and fulfillment.

We are a unique species in that we have the ability to love. It can be argued that a mother dog loves her puppies, but is that love or is that some genetic bond that really does not encompass the nature of love?

Merriam-Webster tells us that love is:

a (1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties <maternal love for a child> (2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3) : affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests <love for his old schoolmates>

Whatever definition you hang your hat on, I believe love is what defines us as a species.

To give of yourself completely; to sacrifice for another; to become so bonded as to feel incomplete without the loved one; those are the characteristics that make love the straw that stirs the drink of humanity.

The Beatles told us that “money can’t buy me love,” though many have tried to purchase it in one shape or form. Unfortunately, once one attempts to buy love, or happiness, we are delegating those things to the status of mere possessions, and possessions by their very nature are transitory. True love has no marketable value; it cannot be held, weighed, or dissected. It simply is, an ethereal reality that is priceless in and of itself.

I have spoken in the past about my adoption. I had been shuttled from one foster home to another for the first nine months of my life, and during those nine months I had remained blind. The doctor’s called it “Failure To Thrive Syndrome,” a unique occurrence where a human being does not develop because of a lack of bonding. Once I had been adopted, and once I had been shown love, my sight came within two weeks.

The power of love!

Love, though, has a dual-nature, and I would be remiss if I did not talk about the other aspect of this most important quality.

The toughest lesson....love thyself
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LOVE THYSELF

Those who are much wiser than I will tell you that it is impossible to love another human being without first learning to love yourself, and I believe that to be true. It is crucial for our development, as a loving human being, to embrace our uniqueness and love who we are. That is the key to self-love, the realization that there is only one of us; we are the most precious of all creation, and as such we are lovable.

Loving oneself is not ego-driven, but rather a humble embrace of our individuality. It is to realize that at this very moment we are one of a kind, and our future will be filled with moments of discovery and achievements that can only be ours.

Once we have opened that door and seen our uniqueness and our value, we then have only to step through the door and welcome self-love.

And once we have passed through that threshold, we will be capable of giving love to others.

INFINITE POSSIBILITIES AND OPPORTUNITIES

One of the incredible facets of love is its ability to never become depleted. Just as a teacher dispenses knowledge and yet retains it all, so too does a lover have the ability to love many and still retain that love. We have an infinite capacity for giving love, as long as we have love to give in the first place. We are capable of loving literally thousands, and yet in doing so we will never run out of love. Isn’t that remarkable? Each one of us is a vessel carrying unlimited cargo, and even when our ship docks, and we unload, we leave on our next journey will a hold full of love.

Perhaps it is time for us to unload some of that cargo.

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BECOMING WHAT WE SHOULD BE

Psychiatrist R.D. Laing has written: “We think much less than what we know, we know much less than what we love, we love much less than what there is, and to this precise extent we are much less than what we are!”

In other words, there is a part of us that is lying dormant; there is a potential in each of us that has not been realized. It makes no difference if we are brilliant with an IQ of 180, or challenged with an IQ of 80. It makes no difference if we were born into poverty or born into wealth. It makes no difference if we were born fat, thin, tall or short. None of us has achieved our potential, and there is so much more of us than any of us are aware of.

Thus, each of us should be on a journey of self-awareness and discovery. We should be plumbing the depths of who we can be, and that encompasses every aspect of our life. We are capable of so much more. We are capable of being a better person, a more compassionate person, a more empathetic person, and yes, a more loving person.

This is our own personal challenge….our own personal Odyssey….the journey of self-discovery. We have no competition along this journey for we are each unique; it is a personal challenge to become all that we can be.

And it begins with love!

Make no mistake about it: love can be painful. Love can be rejected! Love can be ridiculed, and love can be used as a weapon against us. Love can be snatched from us by death, and love can die a natural death from neglect or apathy. Still, we are human, and as such we need love and human interaction.

Do you doubt it? Think of the child who endures parental abuse and does not run away and in fact still loves his parents. Think of the teenagers who change their appearance and alter their personalities for peer approval. Think of the strangers in a bar, drinking with those who they do not know, just to be in proximity with another human being.

We need love and human interaction!

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SO GO FORTH AND LOVE

That is, in fact, your challenge….your personal quest! The need to love and be loved has been imprinted on our DNA since birth. It is as natural as breathing for a human being, although many have forgotten how because they have not developed that ability, but rather allowed it to atrophy.

There is no better time than now! We have the ability to love, and we have an unlimited supply of it. Perhaps now would be a good time to begin sharing that most precious of gifts.

To borrow from my novel.....love alters reality!

Love one another….love yourself….and learn the secret of life in the process!

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jamie, if I start isolating then you can count the days before I go back to drinking. I'm just talking about myself of course, but for me that is a no-no. :) Thank you my friend. I guess part of what I do on HP is counsel in my articles. I try to break life down to the basics. I think we all make things too complicated when really life should be very simple....live....love,....laugh! Life is good my friend; I wish for you happiness today and always.

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      Jamie Brock 4 years ago from Texas

      You are so welcome, Bill. Here on Hubpages I try to only show a good and productive side to myself but when I read your hubs, they just make me think about what is important and they make me want to open up as these days I tend to just keep stuff inside and really don't talk about it because I isolate myself so much. I think I 'hide' in my crafts sometimes. I bet you have that effect (or is it affect?) on a lot of people. I think you would make a wonderful counselor or therapist! Hope you and Bev are having a great weekend :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jamie, your self-realization is important. No matter what we see when we look in the mirror, it's important. Thank you for sharing so honestly. I understand, of course.....you know I do. Thank you my dear.

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      Jamie Brock 4 years ago from Texas

      Bill, I arrived at your hub The Secret of Life part 4 and decided I needed to come here and start from the beginning. The words ran deep.. brought tears to my eyes. As with so many others, it's been a life long struggle for me. I learned to smile for the first time (really smile) the first treatment center I went to. It was a wonderful place called Valley Hope. Anyway, I started understanding what love was. One particular time when I got sober, it finally sunk in that I could forgive myself and I finally for the first time could look at myself and just be okay with who I was. But it was fleeting.. and when I quit doing the right thing it went away. I've yet to get it back... but I know it's still there. I feel part of my problem is that I'm terribly critical... of others, and of myself. I hate admitting that but what the heck. It's the truth. I've been me for 39 years and that is something I've come to realize about myself. Going to keep reading each hub in this series... This is a wonderful hub with such an important message :) Thank you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Adrienne, I have to believe that is true; if not, then none of us has any hope for the future. Thank you for your kind words.

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      Adrienne F Manson 4 years ago from Atlanta

      It is so true without love we are nothing. The sooner individuals discover love is the true foundation to peace and happiness the better off they will be. When we give away love to everyone along life's journey is surely makes our surroundings full of joy. Thanks for another wonderful article!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Wayne! I can't imagine life without love.

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      Wayne Barrett 4 years ago from Clearwater Florida

      "Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all" -Alfred Lord Tennyson- I can't wait to read the next series.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you for the input, Ann, and I agree with you. Believe me, the hardest lesson I had to learn was to love myself. Once I got that worked out everything else followed. Have a great weekend yourself my friend.

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      Ann Carr 4 years ago from SW England

      So true that one has to love oneself first; only that way can we recognise our feelings and others'. However, it's easy to find things about ourselves to tampen that love. I like the idea of the 'vessel with unlimited cargo', a brilliant analogy. Concentrating on love is a great quest and it shouldn't be difficult, but sometimes it is. Sometimes, though, it's better to concentrate on loving others and the returns make you see that you can be a loveable person yourself. Have a great weekend! Ann

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Maria my dear friend, I believe it to be the toughest lesson to learn...that it is alright to love ourselves...in fact, it is crucial for happiness. :) Why is it so hard to learn? Sigh!

      Thank you as always; sending hugs and love your way.

      love,

      bill

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Bill,

      I think of the Bible... Fath, hope and love ...and the greatest of these is..

      LOVE is all you need... and the Beatles

      And I could not agree more with this way of thinking, dear friend. As I teach my burnt out students, self-care is NOT selfish...it is self love and we must take care of ourselves in order to care for...about anyone else.

      Voted UP and UABI...the secret is OUT and I am glad!

      Love, Maria

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Leslie...happy....bravo! Despite the events of today, there is still reason to love life. That's what I keep clinging to my friend.

      love,

      bill

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      'Love hurts'...and heals - is there any sharper double edged sword? (other than politics...sigh..)

      I agree Bill - the one basic secret to being happy - is to love - and like - yourself! Without that - all the money and fame and talent in the world won't MAKE someone happy..

      And almost nothing that life presents to a 'happy' person - will be able to keep them down for long..

      it all begins with the man/woman in the mirror!

      I'm so 'happy' you wrote this...LOL...

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Rajan! I will have the next installment this week.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Excellent as ever and will be following this series closely. Voted up my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, I have finally found it and I'm not going to give it up. :) Thanks my friend and have a great week.

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      To truly love, is to stop at nothing to put a smile on the face of another human being.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith, enjoy that sunshine! :)

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Yes, that would be lovely no doubt!!! It is a beautiful sunny day here in southern USA.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith, thank you so much! Maybe we can resurrect the Love Movement of the Sixties, and make some converts. Wouldn't that be lovely?

      You are always appreciated my dear friend; thank you for the visit on this gray Saturday morning.

      love and blessings,

      bill

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      You have this right . . . Love is the answer no doubt. When the hearts of men change and they are actually able to love others, the this world will change. One really must love oneself first to even begin to love others.

      Let us all love each other truly. My prayer is that God changes the hearts of men from evil to filled with love for other across this whole world. Oh, what a lovely world it would be then indeed!

      Beautiful message here Bill!

      Voted up +++ and sharing

      Blessings and love your way, Faith Reaper

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Linda! You are such a great supporter. I just write what I feel; not sure if it is terribly wise, but if it helps anyone then my writing has meaning. :)

      love to you Kindred

      bill

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      Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

      Wise words once again from the master of inspiration. Learning to love oneself is never easy but admitting that we have accomplished it is even more difficult. When did we start to allow ego to prevent us from saying "I love myself"? But, as you have so eloquently said, the secret to loving does start with loving ourselves. This was beautiful Bill.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, you are always welcome here and your opinion is valuable...thank you for sharing it. A little known fact: I studied to be a priest for six months....now I don't go to church. There is nothing that a church can give me that I cannot find myself if I live my life correctly.

      Thank you again!

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, why is something that is so basic so hard for people to understand and live? The Golden Rule is pretty darn basic; there is no room for misunderstanding in it.....do all things with love, and treat everyone as you would treat yourself. It's amazing that many who profess to believe that rule do not live it.

      Peace and love to you my friend

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Eddy! Your personal story is right on with the theme of this hub! There are annoying characteristics of my personality, but in truth, if they don't harm anyone, then why worry about it? They are a part of who I am and today I love who I am.

      My goal is to not harm anyone and to do all things with love; take me or leave me, but this is who Bill is!

      love to you from Olympia

      billy

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Beckie, I am a firm believer in the crucial aspect of nurturing at a young age. This is so important to human development. There were more examples I could have used from studies, but they all point to the fact that without bonding we wither and die.

      love to you as well kind lady

      billy

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Alicia, thank you for saying that; that is actually my favorite part of this hub as well. :) Have a great weekend!

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I made an addition to my comment but it didn't post. I wanted to say that i have not always known love and i have not always given love. I think my enlightenment occured when i started writing on HP. I was all ' woe is me ' writing about my childhood hurts and marriage was truly a cartharsis cleansing for me. I always believed in God, yet, feared him, ( My Grandmother preached hell and damnation and everything was a sin. ) Through thoughtful prayer and meditation i lost that fear. I am not a church member, i was for years, even taught Sunday school, but was never completely happy with the doctrine. I believe in total inclusiveness. We all are one and equal in every way. Thank you for allowing me to give my opinion. Thank you...

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I believe ths best example for love is The Golden Rule, Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. When you think about it, that is love. When you hurt yourself or others, there's no love. People who harm themselves with anything that harms their body, they're void of love, the same when you hurt another. The mouth can do more harm than a physical attack. I love the lyric, " You can't buy me love. " Money can't bring happiness. Love is the key. Wonderful start to a valuable lesson...Peace and love...

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      Oh yes my dear friend. Another to sample and again it fits like a glove.

      You are spot on and I look forward to a follow up on this subject so precious ;the subject of love and more importantly to love ourselves !!!

      I spent the first four decades of my life being whoever those I loved wanted me to be ;and as I look back I realise that I had no idea who 'ME' was !!

      During this past decade I have learnt slowly but surely who I am; I have never been to counselling or anything of the sort (this being my own personal choice and not what I think everyone should do)I have found 'ME' mainly through my writing.

      One of my challenges for this new year was to carry on with a writing course I had enrolled to around five years ago. I sent in two assignments but it just didn't feel right ;I had this feeling that the whole course was gong to change 'Me' so it drifted to the back of beyond. However these was no time limit on this course and I am happy to say that I have reinstated myself. Today I know who I am and I know my writer's voice. The first part of the course is non fiction which I could do with being polished up a little on and I am confident enough to take on board their constructive criticism ;to be honest I am looking forward to it.

      This little tale of mine seconds all that you have stated in this hub Billy and today I know that I can be annoying ,maybe a little moody at times and terribly stubborn but I still love myself.

      Thank you once more my dear friend for being you!!!

      Lots of love from my little corer of Wales.

      Eddy.

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      Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Billy, While reading your experience as an infant, I was reminded of a study I read about newborn babies. Babies who were loved, nurtured, spoken to and coddled thrived yet babies who received the bare minimum of affection had a difficult time and were wrought with sickness.

      The other thought that kept running through my head was "without love, there is no forgiveness." I learned that having the ability to love means having the ability to forgive as well.

      I send my love to you.

      Beckie XO

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      Linda Crampton 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is a great hub, as always, but my favorite part is the idea that we can never run out of love to give to others. What a beautiful thought!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pearl, I was at a point one time in my life where it seemed like love was gone forever. Yes, despair is the perfect word. What a difference love makes!

      Thank you as always and have a wonderful weekend.

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      Connie Smith 4 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

      Billy, it sounds like such an easy and simple task: 'love yourself', but most people don't know where to start! If they have felt negatively about themselves for a long time and for whatever reason, how do they begin to erase the bad stuff and embrace the good? I think you have really hit the nail on the head, though. Without love what's left but despair! Voted Way Up, my friend.

      Pearl

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Melissa, love is grand indeed! I'm a big fan of love. :) Thank you my friend from the frozen north.

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      Melissa Propp 4 years ago from Minnesota

      Beautifully written, as usual! I'm sure I'm going to enjoy this series and the rest of your secrets. Love is pretty grand, ain't it?

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      PS, I was going to say I can't imagine living life without love, but I guess I was pretty close to doing just that in 2006. I'm happy to report I have found my way again. :)

      Keep those angels coming my friend, and have a great weekend.

      hugs,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Debbie, and blessings to you always!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Indeed, Vinaya, there is that danger of becoming narcissistic....that is why humility must be added to the formula. :)

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      Sharing the love...gotta' do it. Great what to end this, Bill. Love is the key, after all, isn't it? Yet there are those who for whatever reason have not learned to love others because they do not love themselves. As you point out, loving ourselves is a 'first' step.

      As usual I am never disappointed when I come by...hope you have had a lovely day...

      Sending you more Angels on this 18th day of 2013. :) ps

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      Bill another great hub.. Love IS the most important thing.. If there is hate in our lives then we will never be happy.. and forgiveness we got to forgive.

      great hub.. Bill .....many blessings my friend

      Debbie

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Moesky, wouldn't that be wonderful if we are in fact growing up as a species? It's about damn time! LOL Thanks for the visit!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Russ, I love that line from Les Miserables....and so very true! Thank you Sir!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you toknowinfo....and you are right in everything you say! I know it completely changed my life for the better.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Everyone from the Messiahs to the philosopher, writer and even commoners talk about love, yet there is so much hatred in love. I love the idea of love thyself, however, we cannot have too much of it. It will just make us narcissist.

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      Moesky 4 years ago

      "...This is our own personal challenge….our own personal Odyssey….the journey of self-discovery." The challenge of mankind is to take up this personal challenge, each and everyone - that will be the mark of radical change and growth in the world, and I believe that is the phase that mankind is only now really entering. A "growing up" of our species. There's hope on the horizon.

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      Russ Moran 4 years ago from Long Island, New York

      Wonderful hub Bill. Recall the beautiful phrase from Les Miserables: "To love another person is to see the face of God." Thanks for your inspiration, and for speaking the truth.

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      toknowinfo 4 years ago

      A wonderful hub. Love is such a powerful force. Love helps ward off illness and keeps us strong. Love is a great motivator, and mover of mountains. Love sustains us. Love heals us. Love helps correct our humanness. Love helps us feel gratitude, contentment, and happiness. Love transcends time and our natural world. Yet we often are afraid to talk about loving ourselves, as if it is taboo. Loving our selves is the most important thing we can do for ourselves. Thanks for writing about this.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Paula, you should have written this hub; your words are beautiful. Love truly did save me from myself; without it I shudder to think what would have become of me. :) Thank you my friend and have a great weekend!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mark, I truly believe that it can. :) Thank you!

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      Mark G Weller 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Another of those intangible things that can not be measured, seen, heard, touched or bought. But it is the most important part of our lives, Love can change realty!

      Mark

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      bil....Truth in all it's beauty and wisdom...LOVE....such an incredibly powerful 4-letter word. I've always clung to the belief that 'Love" is the one force in our life, that consistently saves us from ourselves.....because it cannot falter, be fought or ignored. It is steadfast and purposeful....and without it, we're just as lost as we can possibly be.

      Love nudges us, remind us and teaches us.....that without it? We are nothing. Thank you for this fabulous read.....UP+++

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nancy, I believe that to be true. Thank you for saying it so that others might consider it and learn.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Vellur, you are so right! It took me sixty-two years to find it; of course, I was finally receptive because I had learned to love myself. :) Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Liz, what a lovely comment; a rare serious moment from you. LOL I do appreciate it, and you make an interesting point, that we see the things we do wrong....are we programmed to do that because of our past lives? I'm not sure I'm smart enough to answer that question; I only know it is crucial that we learn to love ourselves.

      Have a great weekend #2!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      msperfecthealth, you are very welcome! Thank you for the visit.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pooja, it is indeed the secret of life. :) Thank you for your kind words; enjoy your weekend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Or, from the Beatles...."and in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love....you make."

      Thanks Eric and have a great weekend.

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      Nancy Yager 4 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      Do you know that love is the key to all healing and creation? It takes no energy to love someone but takes immense energy to dislike them.

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      Nithya Venkat 4 years ago from Dubai

      Great write, first and foremost we must love ourselves and be proud of who we are. There is true love out there in this world, we just have to find the right one. It is just a matter of time and patience.

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      Liz Davis 4 years ago from Hudson, FL

      I'm glad you brought up the subject of self-love. It's interesting how we automatically think of someone who is full of themselves and narcissistic when we see the words "self-love", even thought these are examples of self-loathing.

      It's so difficult to love ourselves! We see everything we do wrong and minimize the things we do right. But the truth is we need to love ourselves in order to purely love others. Like Kamal Ravikant says in his book "Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on It", it's like the oxygen masks in an airplane: you need to get yourself breathing before you can truly help anyone else.

      Thank you, my lovely friend!

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      Edie 4 years ago

      Very nicely put. Many thanks for your insights.

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      poojasd7 4 years ago from India

      What a wonderful message, Bill! It is straight from your heart. :-)

      Loving and forgiving the people who matter a lot is an essential part of overall well-being. It includes loving and forgiving oneself too.

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      My most favorite quote from the bible was not written and only implied:

      "love your neighbor as yourself" --- if you were he.

      Love love the magical thing

      they more you give the more you bring

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks, Michelle! We can always hope, right?

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Doc, I believe they are as well.

      I hope you have a wonderful weekend my friend; thank you as always for your loyalty and friendship.

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      May everyone treat each other with genuine love and respect. That's what makes life. Thanks for sharing, BIll.

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      A very powerful message. Many people believe that happiness comes from having material possessions, but deep down inside they are empty.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Reba, the most beautiful of all loves....the unselfish giving of oneself. Hopefully we will see an increase of this in the years to come. We will begin small....you, I, and several others....and nurture the movement from those humble beginnings.

      love to you

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, it does indeed. You are at it early today....well, okay, your time is not early, is it? Anyway, of course I agree with you....without love....what is there of any importance?

      love,

      bill

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      Dancing Water 4 years ago

      You are exploring a very important topic, dear Bill! Perhaps the most important topic in the universe. Beautiful, beautiful hub! Thank you! May your writing inspire all of us to continually seek to live and be love.

      The way I see love is that it thinks only of serving__not of getting anything in return, though it is always gratifying to do so. I think of King Arthur's knights' quest for the Holy Grail. The only one who achieved it was the one who asked, "How can I serve?" When I start my day with that question deep in my heart and earnestly quest to find the answer, then I am acting from a place of love.

      Bill, I believe that you are one who asks that daily. It shows in what you are sharing with the world in your writing. You serve us well, dear friend.

      Love to you on this day and every day,

      Reba

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Janine, I'll get a song like that stuck in my mind and it will be with me for days.....so you are welcome! LOL

      Thank you as always my dear; I hope you have a restful and peaceful weekend, although I know the odds of that are slim. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ah, Carol...love makes the world go round. I understand your comment about there being so many kinds of love...not sure I agree with it, but I understand why you wrote it.

      Thank you and have a great weekend.

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      Bill, what a beautiful beginning to your next series. Love is the foundation upon which we build ourselves and the world around us. As such, love must begin in and for ourselves in order to build up. As we build ourselves up, we build others. We have so much love to give, as you say, that we can't possibly keep it to ourselves. Love is meant to be shared just as we are meant to share all that we are and know about life.

      Life is a wonderful journey and it all begins with the fuel that love provides.

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Beautiful post and message. All I kept hearing while reading this was "All You Need Is Love" by The Beatles. You know how much I love them as a group and their music. So thanks for making me think of them and now I can't stop singing the song. But seriously awesome post Bill and as always have voted way up and shared all over. Have a great weekend!!

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      Love makes the world go around...at least in our lives. I have always said that money does not buy love, but it does buy some romance. Lots of good thoughts here..Why do some people fall in love at first sight? What makes people love each other? There are so many kinds of love. Great hub in exploring this amazing subject. Up and share.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you jainismus; you were fast today!

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      Mahaveer Sanglikar 4 years ago from Pune, India

      Nice description of love and its importance in life. Voted up and shared.