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The Top Five Regrets People Have When Dying And Why They Matter Before We Die

Updated on November 23, 2015
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Sallie is a retired mother and grandmother who has written short stories for most of her life. Her stories are from her heart to yours.

There is profound sadness in looking back and realizing how much you wish you could do it all over.

I read these top 5's linked in the below article, with a mixture of recognition, sadness and some regret.

We live our lives for so many wrong reasons. It seems we are programmed to shove down the things we wanted to do, to be, to accomplish in an attempt to satisfy someone else's expectations of us or our own idea of what someone else wanted.

The term "bucket list" exists for a reason. We get old. We recognize that life didnt always live up to our expectations. We got busy with what we were "supposed" to do/be and we forgot our dreams.

Most of us work too hard. We try too hard. We worry too much. We scramble around trying to perhaps fit ourselves into molds we were never designed to fit into. And one day, we realize that even tho our accomplishments were fulfilling, we often forgot the passions that drove us when we were young. We all had them. The painters, the singers, the actors, the nurses, the doctors, the professors who never were. Those of us who wanted to travel the world and see history, but settled instead for seeing our children's school plays or a backyard in the middle of summer with grandchildren running thru it.

Life isnt long enough. And our bodies arent sturdy enough to endure much more than most of us are going to live. But wouldnt it be wonderful if we could have it all? If we could raise a family, have a wonderful marriage, spend time in a career and then spend the next 50-75 years doing all the things we postponed those first 50 or so years?

Whatever we see in those top 5's, whatever recognition there might be when reading them, I believe its never too late. Perhaps climbing Mt. Everest, if that was your dream, might not be very realistic if youre 80 and reading this, but there are some things that matter more.

Number 4 and its message. Friends are important. Especially old friends...friends who knew you when. There is comfort in knowing someone who knew you before you became a cool adult. Someone who was there as you stumbled thru adolescence and pimples and your first broken heart. A friend who understood those years when you were too busy, too involved to bother even sending a Christmas card. And ultimately, a friend who welcomed you back with open arms when you realize that life isnt going to last forever and there is a yearning to reconnect to the past.

Relationships matter. Family and friends matter. Relationships need to be nourished and fed in order to sustain. And the rewards are great. Sadly, only realized, for some, when its too late. There are things that endure and they matter.

"It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships."


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