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The contemplation of life

Updated on April 30, 2012

Life is....

Life is what you make of it... think positively
Life is what you make of it... think positively

You're riding high in April; Shot down in May

That's Life...

“That’s life. That is what all the people say!” as said by the great Frank Sinatra. But what is life? Have you ever really thought about it?

It’s the moments that take your breath away; the seconds that make you tick; it is the minutes that pass you by; it’s the hours that matter; it’s the days that never end; it’s the weeks you can’t wait for; it’s the months that stood the test of time; and the year that was over before you even knew it.

When you really look at life, how does it make you feel? Are you the person who wakes up daily to the sun shining even if it is raining outside? Do you view the glass as half full instead of half empty? These are the optimists. I really wish I could say I belonged to that group. Sometimes in life, it is hard to be the optimist. It is hard to see the sun and the stars. It is hard to not think that the glass is actually only a gulp away from being empty.

When life makes you the ground and keeps walking all over you, how do you cope? When you are standing on the top of ladder screaming for help and life cracks the rung and you fall to ground, how do you cope?

When you are in the middle of a room and no one sees you, how do you cope?

Life seems unfair. When you are down in the pit of despair, another shovel full of dirt is piled on top your head. Just when you see the light at the end of the tunnel, someone closes the door and suddenly you are in blackness.

I hate the way this makes me feel. I hate that my life is like stepping in quicksand, and with each lift of my foot I slowly fall lower and lower. I hate when I raise my hand, looking for someone to grab me up and pull me out, and there is no hand available for me to hold on to.

Some may call this depression; some may even coin this up to pessimistic notions. I laughingly joke that I am besties with Murphy. When people give me that strange look (which I am well aware you have that look on your face right now!), I explain to them the Murphy is Murphy’s Law. Whatever can go wrong, will go wrong; which lately has been my theme song in life.

Lately, I have been trying to brainstorm on how to get out of this funk, whether it is a mental funk or just life itself. After all, if fate has it that something bad is going to happen, what really can you do? The only thing you can do is stay positive that something good is coming your way. So the other day, when I was brainstorming, that song by Frank Sinatra came into my head. No other thought could push its way above my singing brain so I just kept repeating, “That’s life!”

In life, it is all about the ups and downs. When you are trying to stay positive, you have to think of that. When life gets you down, you need to stand back up and brush off your knees. You have to get back into that race. If that fails, start singing the song by Frank Sinatra. I find music from that era makes it nearly impossible to frown, even if it isn’t 100 percent positive!

I know that it seems a little unusual, but when life brings you down, you have to think positively. It is the only thing that will and can make things better. It seems like it is almost impossible to do, but it is something you have to force upon yourself. Take it from someone who is struggling with the exact same problem. It is difficult to lift your head up and smile. But, while your reading this right now… take a second… look up… and grin. Grin like you never have grinned before. Who cares who is around you. Just grin. Think of something great, something wonderful and grin. I just did.

Now on this journey of life, there will be bad times and there will be good times. Together we can smile at the downs. Here is to life and the journey it brings us on. And if you ever need that hand to pull you up, I only hope that I am so fortunate to lend you that hand!


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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      @Peggy W - In the end it always seems like everything works out. They may seem big but they do mold us into the person we are becoming. I wouldn't change a thing! :)

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      Peggy Woods 5 years ago from Houston, Texas

      I really like that song by Frank Sinatra and like you many songs of that era are good. I think that few people zip through life without setbacks of one sort or another. While some can seem overwhelming at times...often they spark changes in our lives that can ultimately be good or set us out on paths we never previously envisioned. When looking back at things...time seems to iron out some of those wrinkles that seemed so large at the moment. Just keep smiling! Hub hugs to you!

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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      @writeronline - I think some of the feelings are just the aspect of being a writer... we become so consumed in all the feelings that it can easily take over us. Yet, we try to enjoy life so we ignore it and put on our best face so others don't see it. It is like we are living a story inside of our heads. And you are very correct about the stand-up comedians - they take something that might not have been particularly great and make it into something hilarious.

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      writeronline 5 years ago

      'Think yourself well." Easy to say, much harder to do. If all those cliches were as easy to accomplish as they are to say, we'd all be card-carrying disciples for the Church of Fun! But your advice is sound nonetheless, BG. BTW, have you ever noticed, (I'm sure you have) how many of the people you know, who genuinely struggle mentally/emotionally are also the ones with the best smiles, the best sense of humour, the best sense of fairness; and the least judgemental?

      Not to mention, but there's hardly a successful stand-up comedian whose laughs don't come from hands-on experience of the less hilarious aspects of life.

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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      @Myth - Wow - this really brought me back. I find that I still go through the rollercoaster of life frequently and even though my bad days are hard to pull away from, I have had a very positive spin on life lately. I have made positive changes. Sometimes we need to make life what we want it. If we think negatively... it will be bad. It really does come down to the power of being positive! :)

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      mythicalstorm273 5 years ago

      I do not remember ever having read this before. It is very sad, yet very interesting. There is some amount of truth to it as well. Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to look on the bright side and just grin through it. In fact just putting a smile on your face even when you are sad automatically sends hormones through your body that makes you feel better. Soon the forced smile becomes natural as your happy hormones take over. Although I know you are in a much better state than you were when you wrote this it is a good thing to remember for those rough days when you just need to get through the day to remember the better ones!

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      Stacy Harris 6 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      I think I wrote this in one of my real down times... I was disgusted and needed a fresh start. It is thought provoking, but really, it is one of those things that some people seem happy on the outside, yet are dying on the inside. I hope people take the time to notice those who are faking it. If not, I hope I am there to pull them up. It kills me that so many go unnoticed.

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      Kelly Umphenour 6 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      C'est la vie! That is the ticket. I can see some of my own thoughts in there....especially. "if you ever need that hand to pull you up, I only hope that I am fortunate enough to lend that hand" now that's what I'm talking about:-)!

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      Christina Lornemark 7 years ago from Sweden

      What a great hub! Life is up and down for all of us, and we all need a hand now and then! Often we take ourselves to seriously, so to grin or sing can help us get another perspective. Great advice! Thanks for sharing!