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There is a Reason for Everything

Updated on November 15, 2011


"Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you. But if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder." Thoreau

Earth Wind and Fire - Reasons

Scrubs - Everything Happens For a Reason


I never believed in the old adage that things happen for a reason.  In fact I would get really mad when people would say anything close to those words.  I remember losing my job shortly after my husband and I got married.  I had worked for this CPA firm since I had graduated from college and was slowly moving up I had plans on the way things would go.  However I was dealt a blow when I lost my job on April 15th.  I was resentful that my boss had me work my butt off on tax day and then waited for the end of the day let me go; he was no dummy he wanted to make that money.  After losing my job I constantly heard there is a reason for everything and something better would come along.  That was certainly true and something better did come along but still I was not a believer.  It would take several years and a scary moment in my life for me to truly believe that everything does happen for a reason. 

I had finally found a new job that actually paid better and that I liked even better than my previous job.  My husband had a good job too and got an offer for a new job.  For this new job he would be a truck driver.  Something that was a perfect fit for him.  He loves to drive and being alone on the road sounded like more than a dream to him.  First he would have to go to truck driving school for four weeks and then he would be out on the road.  This was not, of course, a dream for me because it meant he would be away for long periods of time but I was ok with this and understood it was something that he wanted to do. 

My husband went through the four weeks of training just fine.  He tested well and was actually driving on his own early on in the course.  This job was truly perfect for him.  All he had to do was pass his physical and then he would start driving the following week; for his first trip he would be gone for about two weeks. I was so excited for him and he was excited too.  He had actually just had a physical and everything was perfectly fine so we knew that would be a breeze. 

My husband had his physical, waited for the results and for the call back from his new boss telling him when and where to report for work.  Unfortunately there was a problem with the physical; my husband did not pass the eye test.  This was not really a big deal, well it was to my husband, but it was not something that couldn’t be fixed.  The process would just take a bit longer and he would not be able to head out on the road right away.  All my husband would have to do is to get an appointment with his own eye doctor and then get a prescription if necessary or some type of clearance from the eye doctor.  No problem.  So we set up an appointment for the eye doctor and were able to get an appointment for the end of the week.  My husband’s supervisor let him know that as soon as he got the paperwork he could start the following Monday.  So my husband would only start a week or two later than the rest of his class. 
My husband went to his appointment and got the information that he needed.  Now all he had to do was wait for a few days until he had to report back to the truck driving company.  It was during this waiting time that things took a really drastic turn. 

The following day my husband started feeling really sick.  He wasn’t sure what was wrong with him but he was sick and achy so at first he assumed that he had the flu.  Then he became dizzy, passed out and had some other ailments going on.  At this time I was at work and when I got home he mentioned in passing that he had not been feeling well.  So I suggested that he go to the doctor the next day.  The next day my husband was still sick but was not able to see the doctor; there were no appointments available for that day. That evening again I got home and my husband was still not feeling well, so we went to bed early since I had to get up early for work the next day.  That evening my husband told me that he was really cold so being half asleep I moved closer to help him warm up but his body was on fire. So I jumped up and took his temperature, on my thermometer it was about 104F/40C. I immediately took him to the emergency room where they preceded to tell me that my husband was suffering from the stomach flu.  I tried to tell the ER doctor that I thought he was wrong and that it must be something else because my husband had be writhing in pain and could not be touched anywhere near his stomach or groin area without screaming in pain.  This was completely uncharacteristic of my husband.  The ER doctor told me that I was being an overprotective wife and that he should go home and rest.  Well of course this was not good enough for me but the doctor refused to admit him.  The next morning my husband went to the doctor and as soon as the doctor touched my husband’s stomach he sent him directly to the hospital.  The doctor’s suspicions were to be confirmed my husband was incredibly ill.  It was not the stomach flu.

My husband was immediately admitted to the hospital, while the doctors tried to figure out what was going on with him.  The team had gotten it down to three possibilities one thing that they were certain of was that he was in an extremely serious situation.  His colon and intestine were swollen so badly that a rupture was imminent.  A rupture would send toxins into his body and death would come shortly after, my husband had been admitted to the hospital just in time.

It was at this moment that I finally realized that things do happen for a reason.  If my husband had been able to go out on the road he probably would not have gone to the doctor or the hospital.  The situation was very obvious my husband was supposed to stay home so that he could be here to annoy me today and to bless me with three beautiful children. Although the reason is not always as clear as mine were things do happen for a reason. This is something that I fully believe to this day and although sometimes I have to remind myself I know that it is true.


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      Triplet Mom 7 years ago from West Coast

      Evelyn - Yes my family is doing well thank you!! I agree there is a purpose and reason for everything. Thank you for your comments.

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      EvelynW~OL 7 years ago

      It's been wonderful reading about this. A wonderful inspiration for a lot of us who suffer through what we have, unbelieving that events occur for a reason.

      Hopefully your husband is well now and so are your young children.

      I'm a high schooler myself and was just looking for ways to cheer myself up after doing quite badly in my current examinations. Math. :P A killer at times if you're sleepy. :) But there is always a purpose and reason for things.

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      Triplet Mom 8 years ago from West Coast

      Cris - Surrendering is probably the hardest part. I have finally figured that out. Thank you!

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      Cris A 8 years ago from Manila, Philippines


      I agree with you, we sometimes have to surrender everything to our faith. I'm glad to know you came through it. Thanks for sharing :D

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      Triplet Mom 8 years ago from West Coast

      AeriJ - That is a great attitude to have. Yes I have to agree it helps me to keep faith too. Thank you for your comments.

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      Ask AeriJ 8 years ago

      I am a firm believer in "things happen for a reason"... I have been through so much in my life... i have been to points were I thought it was going to be over for me... but some how, whenever i found myself at that point, God always found a way for me. Ever single time, the outcome of the situation would be a great one... the outcomes may be mysterious and it may occur in a way that you would have never thought possible... but still... that outcome is great... yes everything happens for a reason... its already planned...

      Knowing that helps me to keep faith and to try not the worry so much, it can be hard, but very possible... I really true not worry because things will always get better in due time.

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      Triplet Mom 8 years ago from West Coast

      DynamicS - Thank you so much. I hope your colleagues son gets better soon and they figure out what is going on with him. Yes you have to go with that gut instinct especially when its screaming at you as it was with me.

      G-Ma - It took me so long to figure this out but now I see it clearly. Everything does happen for a reason and the reasons are not always clear but they are still there.

      GiftedGrandma - They cut about that much out of my hubby too. I am so glad that you are still here to share the story. I am glad someone finally listened to you too!! Thanks for sharing.

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      GiftedGrandma 8 years ago from USA

      I have been there(the pain is unreal)..when my colon had a huge hole in it, my hubby kept trying to tell the Doctors. They wouldn't listen, he almost lost me last July 2008. THEY(Dr's) were some scared. When they opened me they cut out 14 inches. God isn't finished with me here on earth yet! :O)

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Oh My I have chills running down my back...and yes "things do happen for a reason" we may not see it right away but God knows...and thank God for saving his life...:O) Hugs

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      Sandria Green-Stewart 8 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Very nice Triplet Mom. Thanks for sharing your inspirational hub. It just goes to show that we should follow our instinct/gut. You knew instintively that something was wrong at your husband's initial visit to the Emerg and followed up the next day with your doctor. May people die because of the incompetence of a doctor who refused to listen to the patient or family member.

      Just yesterday a colleague's son went to the doctor for flu-like symptoms. The doctor did not bother to be thorough, (no blood works etc) he prescribed antibiotics. It turned out to be something more serious when he was admitted last night at the hospital. The doctors are still trying to detrmine exactly what today.

      Again, thanks for sharing...