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Things to Stop Doing to Yourself When You're Stressed

Updated on May 12, 2013
A quiet corner in your area can help you relax during stressful moments!
A quiet corner in your area can help you relax during stressful moments! | Source

Stress Begets Stress!

When we are stressed, we usually feel it in every pore of our bodies and it usually stresses us out more.This article will talk about recognizing the signs of stress and how to alleviate them.

Things to Start Doing for Yourself When You are Stressed

Breathe!

Take a break and assess your situation.

If possible, remove yourself from anyone or thing that is causing you stress.

Breathe!

Utilize the people who want to help by telling them how they can help you.

If you can't find ways to reduce your stressors, look for ways to deal with them better.

Breathe!

Find something that relaxes you. Make it your "go-to" in times of stress.

Count to ten.

Breathe!

Learn to establish a lifestyle that will help alleviate stress.

Things to Stop Doing When You are Stressed

Stop beating yourself up, literally and figuratively

Stop stressing out the people around you.

Stop perpetuating the stress.

Don't push people away (unless they are the cause of the stress!)

Stop putting yourself in the same stressful situations.

If you have no choice but to be in those stressful situations, change the way you deal with them.

Stop allowing your stress to dictate your actions.

Don't throw, kick or break things.

Don't drive a vehicle or operate machinery.

Stop allowing the stress to have control.

Using food to "feed" your stress.

Take a walk. Feed some ducks!
Take a walk. Feed some ducks! | Source

Recognizing Stressors in Your Life.

There are some very typical stressors that if we know they are coming, we can prepare ahead for them. They include:

  • Child moving out of the home
  • Divorce
  • Death of a spouse
  • New baby
  • Marriage

These are all things that cause many changes in a household. They may not be controllable but are often predictable. If these are things happening in your life, you can prepare for them to ease the transition. Sometimes, as in the case of the death of a spouse or a very early birth of a child, it is a surprise. Know that these are major life event changes. these are the things that cause or add to stress.

In addition, learn to recognize the smaller things that can cause you stress, like:

  • driving directions
  • being on time
  • long lines
  • traffic

And the many more daily frustrations we encounter.

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Scent is another great way to relax and think happy thoughts.
Scent is another great way to relax and think happy thoughts. | Source

Think Happy Thoughts

How many time have you heard, "Go to your 'happy place'" or "Think happy thoughts." In reality, these are true statements. Visualization is a great way to see you through many a stressful situation. This can be done in many ways, from formal techniques to a simple do it yourself way. When you get in the habit of practicing these techniques on a regular basis, you will be able to moderate your responses to stress much easier. Practicing ways to deal with stress on the spot will also help you to moderate your body's automatic responses. For example, if you are standing in a long line and the people around you are becoming pushy, you can tune everything out for a couple of minutes by going to a happier place. Where that happy place is, is up to you. It can be a beach in Hawaii or the bar bells at the gym. It can be a song or a poem. You can picture coming home to your beautiful family. It doesn't natter what it is. It only matters that you visualize something that calms you down.

Physical Conditions that Can be Caused by Stress

When we are mildly stressed, our body has an automatic response. It sets off a kind of alarm system that involves hormonal, adrenal and cortisol changes. These are changes that alert you and carry you through the stress. Your body will take of care of it with this "quick fix." Sometimes, the stress becomes constant and a quick fix isn't enough. It can trigger a whole lot more health conditions, including:

  • Heart Disease
  • Obesity
  • Sleep problems
  • Depression
  • Anger
  • Memory problems
  • Digestive problems
  • It can trigger already existing problems

Stop Thinking that Stress is the Norm

We have become a society of too much in too little time. Often, you will hear people discussing their levels of stress. It almost sounds like a contest. Do not be proud of your stress. Be proud of your ability to reduce it and try some of these easy homemade perfume recipes for women by SuzieHQ. They are a surefire way to help you relax. I'm on my way to stock up on these ingredients now!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Sueswan! We do live in stressful times! I do appreciate the votes! :)

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Sueswan! We do live in stressful times! I do appreciate the votes! :)

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      Sueswan 4 years ago

      Hi Randi,

      Thank you for sharing these suggestions on how to deal and manage stress. It is more important than ever in our 24/7 society.

      Voted up and awesome

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you so much, New Understanding! Welcome to hubpages and to my page! I'm looking forward To reading your hubs!

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      New Understanding 4 years ago from Northern California

      Hi Randi I'm new hubber and am impressed by your library! The article was very good. I am a true believer in thought management and knowing the signs of stress is the first step in relieving them.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, drjb! I love your idea. Desserts always make the hurt go away! :0)

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      drbj and sherry 4 years ago from south Florida

      Thanks for your realistic suggestions for combating stress, Randi. Here's another tip that works for me. When I become stressed I take a breather and remember that stressed is 'desserts' spelled backwards. Works for me! :)

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you bac2basics! You are so right! Anxiety is major!Maybe another whole hub? Your life does sound crazy right now! I hope it settles down for you soon. It sounds like one of those "Stop the world, I wamt to get off" moments. Try listening to Jack Johnson's Breakdown. It's a great song about needing an excuse to take a break. I truly wish you luck and hope to see more of you! You are always welcome to vent here! :)

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you so much, Lisa for stopping by my humble hubs! I agree with you.Every student should have mandatory stress 101! When I worked for the school district, we used to have a "health" inservice once a year. It included Yoga, guided relaxation and massage! I do appreciate your votes and share and look forward to reading your hubs!

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Hi Randi.

      I am fighting a battle against stress and anxiety ( you forgot to mention that in your list) because it´s been one major event after another in my life for quite some time now , and on top of all that I am planning a move back to the UK from Spain and attempting to sell my house ( another major stressor) Visualization does help if you can get yourself to that happy place. I also have a relaxation CD, and that really does calm me right down. It´s not just music, it´s awareness of what part of your body feels tense, then relaxation exercises, and then ways to work through a 10 breath exercise to relax your problem areas and calm the breathing etc. I would recommend this to everyone who finds it difficult to cope sometimes. Thanks for sharing your ideas, every little helps :)

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      Elizabeth Rayen 4 years ago from California

      What a wonderful and informative hub Randi! I feel that these tips should be offered in the work place as well as school. In today's society, we have to deal with so much added stress, both directly and indirectly pertaining to each of us. What a wonderful thing it would be if everyone practiced at least one tip every day to help relieve a portion of their stress. Well done!--Voted up+ and shared... Lisa♥

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Patricia for your wonderful comments and for you never ending angels. I do hope this time gets easier for you. Sending back angelas and hugs!

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      You are so right, Randi. There are so many ways we can seek to alleviate and prevent stress. Finding myself right in the middle of a stressful time I have sought to and still seek to use all of these suggestions that I know I should be using. Each day it becomes a little easier to let the stress fall away ....I won't pretend it isn't still there but learning to juggle it is becoming easier. Thank you for sharing this---I am so glad I found it at a time when I needed to remember to use this advice.

      Angels are on the way ps

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you point2make. I often feel like kicking or throwing something too!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you so much, Jadene! You are way too kind! I do know what you mean about things moving too fast. Sometimes I feel like a hamster on a wheel. I love the song Breakdown by Jack Johnson. It reminds me to slow down.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Eddy!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, kidscraft! It is sure difficult to slow down when everyone around you keeps speeding up! I may give good advice but sometimes I forget to take it! Thanks for stopping by and your welcome comments!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you so much, Kathryn! I appreciate the visit and wonderful comments! I can't agree with you more about Suzie! She is pretty amazing! I look forward to checking out your hubs!

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      jaydene 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Bravo, I think you have said it all so well, this is beautifully written and oh so true.

      I am learning that stress has to be balanced out. It is when we do not take time to offset the weights in our lives, we keep running on high and dangerous fears. I love the idea of slowing down, time out, and recuperation. Once again , fantastic article:)

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      point2make 4 years ago

      Stress relief is so important and can be so difficult to obtain in our daily lives. This is a very good informative hub that has a lot of great suggestions. I appreciate your efforts and I will try to follow the suggestions but I still like that "kicking something" solution from time to time.

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      Brilliant Randi and thank you for sharing.

      Eddy.

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      kidscrafts 4 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      Great article! It seems that life goes faster and faster and some people can't cope with the speed of things. And stress can come from so different places too!

      In my case, I know that one of my big stressor. So I decided now that I will deal with it head on to try to control that stress and not being controled by the stress.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this important subject!

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      This is a beautiful article, and useful to everyone! I don't have much stress in my life, but I don't think anyone can go an entire life without feeling stressed. I like your tips on what to avoid, as well as the ways to sidetrack your feelings of stress. The layout is visually pleasing, the photos are pretty and relaxing, and I love that you added Suzie's link. She is the best at writing hubs on how to make things that I would love to make myself, rather than buy!

      Have a wonderful Monday!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Suzie! Your comments are much appreciated! Sadly, I think we have more and more stressors in our current lives than ever before. Luckily, there are ways to alleviate them, even ward them off! Thank you so much for the votes and share!

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      Suzanne Ridgeway 4 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

      Hi Randi,

      What a great read and you have great ideas on relieving stress. It is something that has so many causes and implications. Financial worries are always a stresor too, particularly in today's economic climate. Thanks so much for your lovely link to my perfume, fragrance is a great way to de stress and can have many beneficial "feel good" factors too. Cheers for a great read, up ++++ shared!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Martin! I do know what you mean. Some of my best work happens when I am stressed!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Faith! I always appreciate your visits, kind comments and certainly appreciate your votes and share! I hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day and enjoyed every minute of it! Mine was very special this year, as our little baby decided to arrive a couple of weeks early to celebrate Mother's Day with us! Little Jace was born on May 8th at a whopping 5 pounds, 12 ounces! Mother and baby are both doing well!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Carol! Stress is a crazy thing and pretty much a constant threat for most of us. I have heard of tapping but have never practiced it. Have you?

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Mary! Stress seems to be a constant state around here! I appreciate your votes! Happy Mother's day!

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for this helpful insight. I, personally. got off on the release from a high stress situation.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Excellent and insightful hub here on how to handle stress, which can take a major toll on our health no doubt when we do not get it under control . . . "Breathe!"

      Great advice here and I know it will help all those who read to handle their stress.

      Voted up ++++ and sharing

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      Well done and stress sometimes comes with frustration and sadness. Some great ideas here for sure. Have you heard of tapping???

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      Very timely btrb, everyone has some form of stress it seems, more so than any other time in history and if we don't learn to handle it it will handle us!

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you so much, sparkly finger. Right there with you. It is hard to hold back and think happy thoughts when all you want to do is ram your car into the idiot in front of you! Good luck! It's nice to see you here!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Ah, Colin, you are so very good to me. You should come to sunny Az and join our menagerie! What's 3 more except for more hugs and laughter! Yes, there is a lot of anxiety and depression, bi-polar and ptsd in our family, as well. I have become a bit of an expert at self-soothing!

      Thank you, my friend, for always making me feel special! You are a good man! Love to you 3 beautiful friends in Canada from me and my crazy troupe in Az, 11:41 mountain time!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Ah, Jaye, thank you so much! What a compliment! I am notorious for forgewtting to breathe in a tight situation, so , for me, it is necessary to be reminded. For others, it may just be a reminder to slow down! I love your arsenal and will also try to do that before a stressful time so that I approach it relaxed it. Happy Mother's day, Jaye! I appreciate the votes and share.

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      Lynsey Harte 4 years ago from Glasgow

      Voted up, useful and interesting. I am awful for smashing things up when I'm stressed.... BUT, i think that is because i beat myself up about things over which I have no control. So very useful & interesting. Thanks for yet another informative hub :)

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Dr. Bill Tollefson! Much appreciated!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Lol, Bill! I'm not sure what it is but I get really good letters when I play with you. If it is any comfort, Susan Zuttatas is killing me!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you so much, Maria. I really appreciate the votes and kind words. A very happy mother's day it will be as our new little boy decided to arrive a couple of weeks early. We are truly blessed! Happy Mother's day to you! xo

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      My dear Randi , congratulations on becoming the 'hottest' grandma in de world - you always manage to get me all worked up, lol. And Happy Mother's day to one of the great mums in the world too for both two and four legged children.

      I suffer from anxiety, depression and stress as you know so I read your informative article very closely and will bookmark it along the picture of you that I keep under my pillow, lol.

      Thank you for being my friend and a most esteemed colleague too and supporting my writing. It is darn chilly here again after a week of summer like weather. I think it's fall again - even the heat came back on.

      Sending you 3 big Canadian hugs from Colin, Tiffy and Gabriel at lake erie time 1:00pm

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      Jaye Denman 4 years ago from Deep South, USA

      Randi--Your tips for recognizing and coping with stress are valuable. Music, humor, deep breathing and lavender essential oil are in my "arsenal" of coping mechanisms. (I love the way you kept inserting "Breathe!" into your list of ways to cope.) Sometimes we can't escape all of life's stresses, but how we react to them is what keeps us healthy or makes us ill.

      Voted Up+++ and shared

      Jaye

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      Bill Tollefson 4 years ago from Southwest Florida

      Such good information and written well. I am sure it will help many. Keep it up.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Great suggestions, Randi! Here's another one...when your name is Randi, and you are feeling stress, just play Bill in a game of Words....the victory will instantly relieve stress. LOL

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      So wonderful...so needed at this point in my life...such a fabulous reminder to handle our stress before it handles us...

      Wonderful work, Randi...thank you. Voted UP and UABI.

      Happy Mother's Day. Hugs, Maria