Three Simple Ways to Look at Things Positively
You turn on the news and they are talking about global warming, famine and how your head of state is useless.
Someone sends an abusive video that went viral. And you can’t help but think that this world is miserable and there is nothing to be happy about.
But is it a miserable world?
If it is then your children wouldn’t be laughing and playing with each other. Everyone would be miserable. Not only you.
So, it’s pretty clear where the problem lies. It lies within you.
You chose to watch the news. You chose to watch the video your friend sent you. You chose to do it.
For many people, doing all this has become habitual. And breaking a habit is hard.
Let’s face it. Our brains are lazy.
This is why being positive is hard, because we need to break our old habit patterns.
A fight with a mind who refuses to change.
It is important to take steps that are simple enough for your mind not to rebel over. Your mind is like a sleeping tiger and you need to take small steps.
So, here are three simple steps you can take right now that can help you become more positive.
1. Stay Away from Negative People
If you find that being positive is hard, look around you. What’s making it hard?
Is it the news you are watching? The viral videos you keep getting. If you're on social media such as Facebook or Instagram, check out your feed.
What are the things that you like to watch or browse most often? If what you see are negative, get rid of it.
But how about the people in your life such as your spouse, your close friend or your boss?
In such cases, be mindful.
Make sure you do not get influenced. Question the information you got from them. Is it true? Where can I find the silver lining in this? And move on. Don't mule over it.
2. Be Nice
Be nice to people and feel positive. It’s that simple.
Compliment them, smile, avoid gossip.
What you do tends to come back to you. So, if you’re positive to other people, you’ll start feeling positive about yourself.
Avoid empty talks and gossip. Your life on this planet is finite. Make every second count. If you have nothing to say then a smile will do just fine.
He who fears to weep, should learn to be kind to those who weep.— Abu Bakr
3. Find One Thing You're Grateful For
When it comes to staying positive many recommend making a list of things you are grateful for. Making a list is not simple and we hate looking for a pen and a paper. So, a simple way is to find one, only one, thing to be grateful for.
It can be anything. Even waking up and looking at the ceiling.
You can take a moment to be grateful for having a ceiling above your head. Many people are homeless. If you have a ceiling over your head, you are one of the lucky ones.
Many times, we overlook the small things because we are so wrapped up in going after the big stuff. But the small things are where it’s at.
There are many things to be grateful for. Food on your plate, a place to call your home, your health.
Keep it simple.
If you can be grateful for the small things, you will live a happy life even when you don't have anything big.
Being grateful is one of the easiest steps you can take to becoming a positive person.
All these tips are simple and easy. No 7 things to do in the morning, or 8 things to do at night. No one has time for that. It is not by accident that I made 3 things. 3 is a small number which is easy to digest.
And all 3 tips are easy and simple.
Our mind does not like to do anything hard. If you decide to do something hard, your mind retaliates. And the mind is a force to be reckoned with.
When you get back to your old habits, you fail. And you feel bad and you become more negative than you’ve ever been.
These three tips are easy to follow and doesn't need you to make any drastic changes to your life. You can follow these tips by going on with your life the way you always do.
If you find any change to be hard (such as being nice or smiling) then don’t do so until you are ready. Don't feel obligated. Only do something which you are ready to do. Not ready to think of one grateful thing every day? No problem, make it every alternate day. But keep at it. In no time, you will see changes in your life.
© 2020 suraj punjabi