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The modern family, it's time to unplug and enjoy each other.

Updated on July 18, 2025
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Rebecca is passionate about sharing her knowledge of alternative medicine, holistic health, frugal living, animals, and all things joyful.

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Are you an automaton?

Ask yourself if this sounds like your typical day:

You wake up, reach for that much-needed cup of coffee, and get ready for work. You settle into a mediocre job, where the first things you do are check your email, phone messages, and finances. Then you scroll through social media or binge-watch videos to entertain yourself. Hours pass in a blur of tasks and distractions. After work, you rush home to juggle the demands of kids, prepare dinner, handle groceries, cleaning, and laundry, and take care of household maintenance. Then it’s time for a quick shower before collapsing into bed—only to start all over again the next day.

Rinse. Flush. Repeat.

If this sounds all too familiar, you’re not alone. This cycle of relentless busyness and screen time has become the norm for many of us. Technology was supposed to make our lives easier—cutting down on tedious tasks and opening up new possibilities. But ironically, it often has the opposite effect. Instead of connecting us, it distracts us from real social interaction, bonding, and presence with the people we love.

Sometimes, the sheer weight of life’s responsibilities clouds our ability to see how beautiful life can be. We forget to appreciate even the simplest gifts: a warm smile, a shared laugh, or the quiet peace that comes with taking a deep breath. We were not built to live like machines, mindlessly running through motions day after day.

But here’s the good news—small changes can bring more joy, vitality, and connection into your life. It doesn’t require a major overhaul or a drastic break from your responsibilities. It only requires awareness and a willingness to make a little time each day to unplug from technology and tune back into your family and yourself.

Start by observing your routines. When do you find yourself reaching for your phone without thinking? When do you feel most distracted or disconnected? Notice these moments and gently remind yourself that it’s okay to step away from the screen and be present.

Next, carve out intentional “unplugged” time. It could be just 10 minutes a day to sit down with your family without any devices nearby. Use this time to talk, share stories about your day, or simply enjoy each other’s company. This small ritual can strengthen bonds and remind you what truly matters.

Try to establish tech-free zones or times in your home—maybe during meals, before bedtime, or on certain evenings. These boundaries create space for real conversations, laughter, and even some playful moments. You might be surprised how refreshing it feels to disconnect from the digital world and reconnect with your loved ones.

Another way to invite joy into your day is to slow down and savor simple pleasures. Take a moment to appreciate the morning sunlight, the aroma of your coffee, or the sound of birds outside your window. These tiny moments of mindfulness help anchor you in the present and cultivate gratitude.

Incorporate small acts of kindness and gratitude into your routine. Tell a family member you appreciate them. Compliment a friend or colleague. Smile at a stranger. These gestures not only uplift others but also brighten your own spirit.

Physical activity is also a great way to boost your mood and energy. Even a short walk outside or a few minutes of stretching can invigorate you and break the monotony of a repetitive day.

Remember, life is not just about checking off tasks or surviving the daily grind. It’s about experiencing moments of connection, laughter, and gratitude that nourish your soul.

By making these small but meaningful changes—turning off devices, slowing down, appreciating simple joys, and fostering real relationships—you can transform your daily routine from a mindless loop into a vibrant, fulfilling journey.

So next time you find yourself caught in the rinse-and-repeat cycle, pause. Breathe. Put down your phone. Look around at the people who matter most. Make time for joy. Your family, your friends, and most importantly, you, will thank you for it.

Pick your battles

If you have OCD, this story might hit you hard. About a year and a half into my new marriage, I found myself suddenly thrown into the role of full-time parent to a lively five-year-old boy. This shift was massive. Before, I lived life on my own terms—my routines, my belongings, my schedule. I ate when I wanted and did what I wanted, without much interruption. My husband and I used to have his kids only every other weekend, so we had plenty of time alone together. But full-time step-parenting completely flipped my world upside down.

Before this change, my house was neat, clean, and orderly—the kind of space that made me feel calm and in control. But now, there was a small whirlwind running through every room, leaving mess after mess in his wake. Suddenly, my carefully curated order was shattered by little shoes kicked off by the door, toys scattered everywhere, clothes left on the floor, and crumbs on the countertops. Everything I thought I had mastered was upended by this new personality who had become the center of my life. Don’t get me wrong—he’s a blessing beyond measure. But the shock of this new life was profound, and it took me quite some time to adjust.

For about twelve months, I stressed over the chaos. I felt overwhelmed, frustrated, and often like I was losing myself to the mess and demands of this new family life. But eventually, I had a moment of clarity—I realized the stress wasn’t worth it. I had to shift my mindset. I had to accept that some things were simply going to be different, and that’s okay.

The key lesson I learned was to pick my battles. Laundry and dishes don’t have to be done immediately. It’s okay if they wait a day or two. You don’t have to do everything perfectly or all at once. Trying to keep everything spotless and organized while juggling family responsibilities will only wear you down and steal precious moments you could be spending connecting with your loved ones.

So, I made a conscious decision to stop freaking out over the little things—the crumbs on the floor, the clothes left unfolded on the couch, the toys scattered around the living room. Those things will always be there, no matter how hard you try. Unless, of course, you’re lucky enough to have a personal maid, shopper, gardener, or some kind of magical help, which, unfortunately, I am not.

Learning to let go of the need for constant order was tough, especially with my OCD tendencies. But the relief that came from giving myself permission to slow down, relax, and embrace the messiness of family life was worth every bit of the struggle. Life with a child is wonderfully chaotic, and finding peace in that chaos has been one of the greatest gifts I could have given myself.

If you’re in a similar situation—trying to maintain control but feeling overwhelmed—I encourage you to take a deep breath and remember that some things just aren’t worth the stress. Focus on what truly matters: love, connection, and the moments that make your family life special. The laundry will get done. The dishes will be cleaned. But the memories you make by being present and patient are what will last forever.

Unplug!

Limit electronic use

In today’s fast-paced world, it feels like we’re constantly plugged in. From the moment we wake up, we reach for our cell phones, check texts, emails, social media, and notifications. Throughout the day, laptops, gaming consoles, tablets, and countless other devices keep us connected but also glued to screens. While technology has brought incredible convenience and opportunities, it has also created an environment where real, meaningful connection with our families can easily take a backseat. That’s why it’s so important to consciously limit the time we spend on electronics and prioritize quality family time.

When you get home after a long, exhausting day of work, it might feel natural to immediately pick up your phone or turn on the TV to unwind. However, putting those devices down and stepping away from screens—even if only for a few hours—can transform the way you connect with your loved ones. Instead of drifting into the digital world alone, consider engaging in activities that bring your family closer together. Ride bikes around the neighborhood, explore a local hiking trail, or simply take a walk around the block. Fresh air, movement, and shared experiences help everyone relax and reconnect in ways that no screen can replicate.

Another wonderful way to spend time is watching family movies together. Turn off the distractions, snuggle up with some popcorn, and enjoy the laughter and warmth that comes from sharing stories on screen as a family. Cooking meals together is also a fantastic opportunity to bond. Let the kids help with simple tasks like stirring, measuring ingredients, or setting the table. These moments build memories and teach valuable skills, all while creating a sense of teamwork and togetherness.

It’s easy to convince ourselves that we don’t have time for these things or that checking one last email or scrolling through social media is necessary. But unless you’re dealing with a truly urgent work matter, you can absolutely afford to set those devices aside. Even just a few hours a day without screens can have a profound impact on your relationships and mental well-being.

When we make a conscious effort to unplug and be fully present with our families, we create a nurturing environment where everyone feels valued and heard. Kids especially notice when parents put down their phones and truly engage with them, which strengthens their sense of security and love.

Technology isn’t the enemy—it’s a powerful tool that, when used mindfully, can enrich our lives. But the key is balance. Prioritize moments where screens are turned off, conversations flow freely, and laughter fills the room. These are the times that make a house a home and create lasting memories for your family to cherish for years to come.

Eat together!

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The long lost art of a a sit down family meal

These days, schedules are hectic and busy, especially with most households having two working adults just to make ends meet. Despite the chaos, it’s crucial to prioritize at least one sit-down meal together every day. If breakfast or lunch isn’t possible, then make sure dinner becomes that special time. It doesn’t matter if the meal is something simple like Hot Pockets or TV dinners—what really counts is the act of coming together as a family. Sharing a meal is a long-lost tradition that fosters communication and gives everyone a chance to talk about their day.

In my household, I work first shift while my husband is on third shift, which makes finding time together challenging. Add a busy, energetic seven-year-old into the mix, and most days we’re all running on empty. But no matter how tired we are, we make it happen. Dinner is one of the few moments each day where we can all reconnect, catch up on what’s going on, and just be present with one another.

Having regular family meals does more than just provide nourishment—it teaches kids essential life skills like proper table manners. It also helps them feel a strong sense of belonging and family importance. Getting kids involved, whether it’s setting or clearing the table or helping with cooking, gives them a role and shows them that their contributions matter.

Even with all the demands of work, school, and daily responsibilities, carving out this time to eat together strengthens family bonds. It’s a small but powerful way to stay connected and support each other, reminding everyone that no matter how busy life gets, family time is sacred and worth protecting.

Build memories!

Play and plan a vacation!

Most people make excuses when it comes to planning a family vacation. I don't have the time. I don't have the money. It's to far away.

A vacation does not have to be rich and extravagant. It can be as simple as having a camp out in your backyard, catching firefly's, having a bonfire or stargazing. Most USA locations have great local campsites that you can quickly get away to for a short family vacation. The key here again is, building memories with the ones you love. Memories last a lifetime, most other daily grind activities do not!

Plan a staycation, a quick weekend get-a-way to a local hotel, water-park, or amusement park.

And if you have the money...take a real trip. Fly in a plane! Get out of town! You deserve it. Statistics show that employees are twice as productive 2 weeks before a vacation, and 2 weeks upon returning from one. We need to recharge our batteries and get off the hamster wheel of the daily grind.

The key to vacationing is start a plan! You are more likely to set time aside for traveling if you start planning it. Don't just talk about it. Plan it and do it!

Exercise!

Exercise together

It's a proven fact that that exercise improves health and reduces stress. It also elevates the mood, and increases self-esteem. For kids it helps them perform better in school,, learn how to win and how to lose, stay away from drugs, work with a team and follow-through on commitments.

You don't have to join a gym to make this happen. Set aside 1-2 nights a week to take a brisk walk together, ride bikes, even pop in an exercise tape. Cardio, Pilates, Yoga and Thai Chi are great for these, and you can do them in the privacy of your own home, or usually find a local community center or church to take classes really cheaply.

Date night!

Date night, VERY important

Just like a vacation, marriages need tender loving care and nourishment. Adults need time away from their children to focus on their marriage, friendship, and discuss life goals. And lets face it, when you have children in the home, wild spontaneous sex falls to the wayside. If you are not having sex in your marriage, then you and your spouse are friends, and that is a problem. I think it's safe to assume you did not get married to have a friend. You have friends. You need your lover, companion and best friend all to yourself sometimes. This is not selfish, this is healthy.

Invest in your marriage by planning a date night. Even if all you can do is go on a picnic or out to dinner, see a movie 1-2 times a month. Again...you don't have to spend money to get quality time in with your spouse. But you should focus solely on your spouse when you have a date night, rekindle the sparks that the every day grind puts a halt on. Remind yourself of why you married the person to being with. Get dressed up, wear that expensive perfume you have sitting in the cabinet, even if your kids are going to a sitter and you're on the sofa watching a movie together.

Ask yourself this...

Do you want to look back on your life and find that it's filled with loneliness and regret? Or coulda, woulda, shouldas? Probably not.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2013 Rebecca

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