WHEN A CHILD LOSES THERE MOM OR DAD

My friends 11 year old son was one of the most sensitive, smart,best-behaved child you would ever meet. He had been easy since he was born, and always did well in school. But when his mom and dad died in October, everything changed in an instant. He became a maniac. He never cried and never mentioned stuff about his mom and dad. If you tried to ask him how he was doing, he would not even answer, and would immediately change the subjectI bought him a journal and told him he could write to our dad there and express his feelings. He shared an entry wherein he'd written to our dad, "You will never know if I get married. We will never go to a water park or make that smoke bomb." He clearly knew that mom and dad were really gone.
On the day of the funeral, his behavior became almost unbearable. He was hyper and obnoxious and even urined on some grave stones at the cemetery after the service. He kept knowingly asking dumb questions and being really disrespectful to the family. He wouldn't follow instructions and was all over the place. He was having nightmares and wanted to sleep with my grandma. And he was challenging everyone around him. Everyone was grieving in their own way, but he was not overtly sad or depressed; he was just annoying.
When he finally met with a therapist, she told us that he was very depressed and that this misbehavior was a very common way that children expressed depression. She also said that although he wasn't the one not eating or crying or sitting in bed all day he may be worse off.

I WROTE THIS ABOUT A FRIEND ON MY OWN PAGE. SO IF ANYONE WROTE THIS IT WAS ME THANK YOU!!! 

HEATHER IRVIN©