- Quality of Life & Wellness
What Does Talking To Yourself Mean?
Ralph Charell quoted "The inner speech, your thoughts, can cause you to be rich or poor, loved or unloved, happy or unhappy, attractive or unattractive, powerful or weak." What about when others could hear you talking to yourself?
All around us we could see people talking by phones with wireless cords or amplifiers that only they know it, but others will just see a person talking alone. It is also known that many people think orally. I have seen some rehearsing what they want to say. It seems difficult to judge insanity these days. Everything is alright when it is happening within the boundaries of mental health.
When to get help?
Taking only one "symptom or act" can not be used to declare mental health; besides the fact of what happened before a behavior and after has to be always considered (cause and effect), also check for frequency and length of the behavior; in this case the fact of "talking with no other but oneself hearing." the Imaginary world exists, but it also should be within healthy parameters.
Classic symptoms to be considered when to get help include: elevated mood (high for weeks at a time), depressed for weeks or months, moody, insomnia, irritable, moods that don't match circumstances (happy during serious conversation, sad during funny conversation).
Let's consider those we hear talking by their self. The Bible has the answer for everything. I do not take verses out of context but I try to apply them in every circumstance even in this theme of "Self talk"; James 4:11 says, "Don't speak evil against each other, dear brothers and sisters. If you criticize and judge each other, then you are criticizing and judging God's law. But your job is to obey the law, not to judge whether it applies to you."
The video I added is an example of the feeling others that talk alone could be having. I apologize for the profanity, but I invite you to get a close, deep look to the feelings that a person develops when no one seems to be there to listen.
What are the benefits of talking alone?
A study that it is being mentioned quite a lot is one published online in the Quarterly Journal of Experimental Psychology, from Gary Lupyan, of the University of Wisconsin-Madison, and Daniel Swingley, of the University of Pennsylvania. The study revealed that people who talk to themselves while searching for objects may be able to find them faster.
With my students I use the strategy of repeating the vocabulary or the lecture out loud for them to hear themselves and putting them into practice. I guess we all will find ourself talking to our own by different situations. The Bible has many verses in this theme meditate in James 1:22, it says:
"Keep on being obedient to the word, and not merely being hearers who deceive themselves."
The benefits of talking alone could include:
- Release inner stress
- Able to put problems into perspective and reflect upon past actions
- Helps to see yourself as how you wished to be seen
- There is somebody available when you need them
- Help in making a decision
- It compensates for what is essential that the surrounding can not provide
- Makes loneliness feel more bearable
I could understand the benefits, but if others are in the same home why is the need of talking alone become a daily action. We should judge ourself instead of criticizing or judging the own-self speaker, or seeking for their help. My hub titled Here To Hear has something in these lines if you have time, I invite you to read it.
Consider also the need of vitamins, since we are spirit, soul and flesh; every part of our being should be balanced. Prayers, good meals and entertainment is needed for a healthy balanced life style.
May the blessings of Our Lord be with all!
"For I know the plans that I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope." Jeremiah 29:11
© Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill