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What Is Preventing You From Finding Success? A Moment With Bill Reflection

Updated on July 11, 2013

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THE INNER VOICES SPEAK

Frustration, although quite painful at times, is a very positive and essential part of success.

Bo Bennett

There is no escaping them late at night. That is the time when they come creeping into your space, poisoning you, draining you, sucking the positive energy out of you in a vampiristic display of gluttony…..

You are not good enough

You are a loser

You fail at everything

You don’t deserve to succeed

Your intentions are so good. You have watched others grab the brass ring in life and they do it so effortlessly. Why can’t you? Why are your good intentions continually sidetracked, hijacked and bushwhacked on the road of life? Why do others seemingly have a never-ending supply of “the right stuff” while you struggle daily to even remember where the “stuff” is?

Success…..why does it come easily for some and always seems to be just out of reach for others? Are you one of those who just can’t quite get their act together? Is success simply a seven-letter word that will always be defined as “fantasy” in your life?

Perhaps there are reasons why that is, and perhaps, if we better understand those reasons, we will be able to steer you back to the path of success. How can we expect you to change if you do not have the tools, and one of those tools is an understanding of what has held you back for so long.

Are you ready, then, to begin? Are you ready to take the first step towards self-reflection and thereby towards that elusive success you have long-sought?

Let us move on, then, to ten reasons why people do not succeed.

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Well worth a look

SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST PLAIN LAZY

As opposed to “fancy” lazy? Sorry, I couldn’t resist a little humor.

Seriously, folks, successful people are successful in part because they work their asses off. There will always be the one or two who are born into the lap of success, but by and large history is littered with the stories of success based on blood, sweat and tears.

Get off of your comfortable and ever-expanding butt and work towards your goal. It ain’t going to happen by osmosis.

NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING

Unless you are born into a royal family, you are entitled to nothing. I taught school for eighteen years and I was blown away by the number of kids who thought something was owed to them simply because they had mastered the fine art of breathing in and breathing out.

Forgetaboutit! You are owed nothing! The world owes you nothing! Your parents owe you nothing! Life owes you nothing!

I AM AFRAID

You are afraid of looking foolish. You are afraid of the opinions of others and you are afraid of failing. You are afraid of consequences and you are afraid of heartbreak and disappointment and the tears that follow failure….and so you do not act at all. You have been holding onto your dreams, and you have tucked them away for safe-keeping, and there they are, gathering dust, constant reminders of all that is just out of your reach, just out of your reach because of fear.

Some more motivation for you

GARBAGE IN/GARBAGE OUT

Your friends and family are sucking the life out of you with their negativity, and now you catch yourself finding negatives in situations where once you found the positives.

The life force is slowly being drained from your psyche. Negative people will do that to you.

Surround yourself with positive people. There is an aura of success that envelops positive people, and you need to cover yourself with that aura.

Adopt a new mantra: positive in/positive out…PIPO….think positive thoughts and positive actions will follow.

PARALYSIS BY ANALYSIS

Does this sound familiar? You take a look at every action and every decision like it is life or death. You consider scenarios and you consider outcomes, and you weigh this and you weigh that, and when all the weighing is over absolutely nothing has been done. The moment has passed and a new set of paralyzing decisions have to be made.

Time and opportunities wait for no man. Quit thinking and start doing.

NO PLAN MAN (OR WOMAN)

My apologies to the Beatles and this paraphrasing attempt at humor: No Plan Man, please listen, you don’t know what you’re missing…No Plan Man, the world is at your command.

How long can the average swimmer tread water? An hour? A few hours?

I know some people who have been treading water their entire lives. They think that their dreams and goals will just magically happen one day without any input or interference by them. They are sitting back and waiting for the lucky break that will turn their lives around, and it never occurs to them that waiting is a fool’s game.

Set goals…small, attainable goals….and then build on them as you work towards a larger goal. It’s the only way. “Winging it” or “playing it by ear” will give you over-developed wings and ears but nothing more.

My own thoughts on making excuses

STOP BLAMING “THEM”

There are no conspiracies stopping you. There are no clandestine meetings of people whose sole purpose is to ruin your life.

Look in the mirror if you want to see the reason why you have failed so far. The sooner you take responsibility for your actions, the sooner you will step onto a healthier path.

YOU DON’T HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO BE A SUCCESS

Bull! Please don’t tell me you aren’t good-looking enough, and please don’t tell me that you are lacking some important internal trait that means you are doomed forever to a life of mediocrity.

You were given the basic tools to succeed at birth. What you have done with those tools up to this point is on your shoulders. You can pick up those tools and make them work for you, or you can continue to bemoan the fact that life supposedly short-changed you in the lottery.

YOU ARE A TIME WASTER

Chasing your tail is more like it. You have perfected the fine art of “working at doing nothing.”

Successful people are constantly working towards their goals. Their actions are dictated by their vision of the future. They see success and they are constantly moving in that direction, and wasted movements are not in their DNA.

Set a schedule and stick with it. End the distractions and focus. We all only get one chance at this living thing; do you really think productivity arises from killing time?

YOU DO NOT BELIEVE IT IS POSSIBLE

Somehow and some way, you developed the belief that success only happens to other people. You managed to convince yourself that your lot in life is to just settle for the status quo, so you stagnated and got comfortable. In other words, you quit believing in your capabilities.

Finding success will not happen until you believe that you not only deserve success but that you will achieve success. If you do not believe in you, how can you expect others to believe in you?

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SO THERE YOU HAVE IT

Where are you on this list? Does one apply to you or several?

Now that we have pinpointed the exact problem, what are you going to do about it? That’s the big question, isn’t it? Knowledge is useless without action. Reflection is just so much mental exercise unless we kick it into gear and leave neutral.

One year when I was a teaching a new student came to our school. She was a 6th grader and she was one of those people that exuded defeat. She had no faith in herself or her abilities. By the time September came to a close it was obvious that she had already given up.

Can you imagine being eleven years old and being convinced that your life will never improve? That you will always be a failure? Eleven years old!

There is always time to change. You have the skills to succeed, and now that you know why you haven’t succeeded in the past you can do something about it.

Don’t you think it’s about time?

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

“Helping writers to spread their wings and fly.”

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Brandi, I have no doubt that is true. :) I would have liked your grandfather.

      Thanks for stopping by this Sunday evening. I appreciate it.

      bill

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      CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

      Hi Billy! When I was a young child, my grandfather taught me that I could do anything I wanted to as long as I put my mind to it.

      Determination. The problem I suffer from sometimes is pure procrastination. I only have myself to blame. But when I do put my mind to something, I go above and beyond.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      cfin, I wouldn't be here today if it weren't for some helping hands. Now I just try to give back some way each day. Thank you for your reflections.

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      cfin 4 years ago from The World we live in

      For me, I want to always be moving up. I believe it is imperative for us to surround ourselves with positive people who encourage us. We all have hard times, but to get through it, we do need a helping hand. WIshing you all the luck and support in the world billybuc :)

      cfin

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Glimmer, thank you so much. I'm happy that you are renewed and ready to hit the work force at a gallop. Good luck in the weeks to come.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      You should assemble a compilation of these hubs and market it as inspirational. As my daughter gets ready to enter middle school in a couple of years I am preparing to return to the work force and boy have those doubts been creeping in. Bookmarking to remember when the time comes to lace up my boots and get moving. Thanks and I am renewed after a vacation and summer break so I will be commenting a lot in the next few days. Have a lot of reading to catch up on.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Brian, always tomorrow for sure...until they run out of course. :) Thanks my friend....the answers are blowin' in the wind.

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      Brian Leekley 4 years ago from Kalamazoo, Michigan, USA

      This hub describes me today, but tomorrow is another day.

      Always tomorrow.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mike, you will be interested in knowing that it was uncomfortable for me to read as well. LOL I found myself a couple times in that list. Thanks buddy and I hope you are having a great week.

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      Mr Archer 4 years ago from Missouri

      Bill, I read this a few days ago while at some seminars for my job. This takes some thinking to decide just where I stand. Frankly, it was uncomfortable in places and at times. Any good hard look at oneself is destined to be uncomfortable, I suppose. At any rate, it was an eye opener, and a truth telling article. Very well done, and much appreciated. Thank you for your gift in this. Take care, my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well, Phoenix, I hope so. :) I'll be waiting.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mark, you are right on....blame gets us nowhere very quickly. Thank you Sir!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you vkwok!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Have a great Sunday Lurana!

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      I didn't have a hub in mind, but now that you mention it...

      I'll have to see how things play out. I suppose their could be a hub in the works. Hmmm.

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      Mark G Weller 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      All good points Bill. I think we all have seen those 11 year olds. It is sad to see that at a young age. On the other hand, a 50 year old that still uses the blame game etc. is every bit as sad. Thank you for this excellent reminder for us all!

      Mark

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      Victor W. Kwok 4 years ago from Hawaii

      Those is an awesome hub!

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      Lurana Brown 4 years ago from Chicagoland, Illinois

      Ha, that's right....you are the cheerleader! :-)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Lurana! Just consider me the HP cheerleader. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      True words, Deb! Thank you again.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      LOL...drbj, I love that quote. How true is that? Thanks for giving me a smile after a long day of yardwork.

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      Lurana Brown 4 years ago from Chicagoland, Illinois

      Very encouraging message, thank you!

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      It really is easy to do once you have an idea...

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      drbj and sherry 4 years ago from south Florida

      A very inspirational message, as always, Bill. My favorite success quote is from Winston Churchill: "Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm."

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rasma, I believe in your poetry and I hope you do as well. Keep writing with your heart and soul and I'll keep reading your work and cheering you on.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, I speak about nothing that I have no experienced.....and yes...I want to be that person on the sidelines enjoying the successes of my friends. Thank you so much my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Phoenix, I love it when that happens...someone says something and a hub is born. :) Enjoy your weekend my friend, and thank you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Leslie, in my book you are already a successful writer, and you will be more so with a few more years under your belt. Pull punches? That's for wimps and my friends are not wimps. :) Have a great weekend.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up. Inspirational as usual. You speak Bill and I listen. Sometimes it gets really rough and I fall out of my boat but I'm always getting back in there and hopefully one of these days it will come together just as it should. Passing this on.

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      I may have to change your title from sensei to coach! You are on our sidelines shouting out the plays and teaching us the rules....what more could we ask for? The best part...you speak from experience and knowledge, perfect for us.

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      @Nyamache - Very well said. So well said, in fact, that you've given me an idea. Thanks.

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      YOU are incredible, Bill and so is THIS! There is no escaping taking at look at ourselves here - you haven't missed a trick! I love how you pull no punches and direct us straight into the mirror, where all excuses and self-deception are useless..

      I must admit to being guilty of more than one of these 'excuses', but thankfully, they usually hit one at a time and don't last too long..lol..

      ps..i intend to be a successful writer! I get closer to this goal every day. Sometimes are harder than others...

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pamela, I think we all need these words from time to time. I'm glad it helped my friend and have a great weekend.

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      Pamela Oglesby 4 years ago from United States

      Another excellent hub with good advice. I like your definitiion for regret, as it is so easy to feel that way about failures on some kind. It is so self-destructive though. I think I needed to hear some of your words today. Thank you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dora, reflection is always a good thing. Thank you once again for the visit and have a wonderful weekend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nyamache, great point you raise....waiting for success is a long wait....get out there and control your own life instead of waiting for that big break that may never come. Thank you for that.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Asim! I appreciate you taking time to visit and comment.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Martin, you had a very nice ride of success. Bravo to you, sir!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Liz, I would accomplish nothing if I didn't get six to seven hours of sleep. I cannot write when I am tired and that's a fact I no longer fight. Good luck to you and thank you very much.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Cat! I value honesty very highly so I do appreciate your "open mouth" policy. :) Have a great weekend my friend.

      bill

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      Another good article causing me to reflect and to continue the pursuit of my goals. Thanks for a positive start to my day!

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      Joshua Nyamache 4 years ago from Kenya

      I appreciate this hub, good work. It has brought out informative information that should help those folks who are saying that they're unsuccessful. Why you haven't been successful? There are so many reasons. There are many students who graduate and only wait to be employed. Some remain to be unsuccessful because they haven't considered of employing themselves. They should quit thinking that the only way to be successful is to get employed. Stop wasting time waiting to be employed by a company instead apply the knowledge and your skills you have gained to employ yourself. Act now and you'll be successful.

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for this. My success started at 11 (years old) when I met teacher Johnny Land.

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      Elizabeth Parker 4 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      I like this saying: positive in/positive out…PIPO Perfect! This hub has a lot of helpful tips. If there are days when I'm not finding success, it's usually stems from a lack of time. I wish I could sit back and enjoy a day of laziness, but as you know, when a plethora of ideas flood your mind, it often seems like I'm 'working' round the clock. Not a bad thing though. The days I do exceptionally well is the ones when a-I get a lot of sleep and b- I think outside of the box. :) Voted up, Bill. Another great one.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Billy,

      Aw... thanks and you ain't an old timer yet! That's one thing I've always been guilty of; I speak my mind and rarely think before I do it. It's definitely gotten me in to trouble, but I can help being an open book. At least you know I say what I mean and I mean what I say.

      You're equally refreshing! Thank you!

      Cat

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      And Ruby that, I believe, is the key to this article...thank you for saying it so clearly. :) It took me 1400 words to say the same thing you said in what, ten words? LOL

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      My pleasure Alicia...thank you very much.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Vinaya, I haven't been on a vacation in four years....I don't know if I'm successful or not, but I'm having fun trying to be. :) Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith, I agree that the definition of success is key, but I have the feeling there are quite a few people who cannot even answer that question. They have the nagging feeling that they should accomplish more but they don't know what to do about it....the itch that cannot be scratched. :)

      Thank you for your insight my friend.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cat, what a sobering confession on your part. Bravo and I mean that sincerely. Few people are that honest in a public forum.

      People-pleasing....tough gig my friend, and impossible to accomplish....it's a bitch knowing you can never be good enough, isn't it? :) Of course it is nonsense, but it is also crippling and very real.

      Thank you my friend; you are very refreshing for this old writer.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      srsddn, you are very welcome, and thank you for taking the time to leave such a nice comment.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pearl, this started with Bev and I taking the test, and we both ended up with two things to work on....I think that fits for most of us.

      You are appreciated. Thank you!

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Suzie, it's hard to keep that passion in check sometimes. I hope I have enough time left to do all the things I want to do with that passion. :) Thank you dear friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      passionate, thank you so much. My former teachers in high school might not agree about my thinking abilities. LOL

      Have a wonderful weekend.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I loved your osmosis metaphor. You have the ability to connect through so many avenues. Thank's for reminding us that we can do anything, we just have to believe....

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      Linda Crampton 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Thanks for the inspiration and the excellent advice, Bill. Some of it I definitely need!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Bill,

      I make money by writing here and there. A year ago, I had not imagined that I could actually raise a living by writing. However, I'm far from what one would call a successful writer. I can pay my bills but I don't earn enough to buy a car.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dearest Bill,

      A lot to think on here. I guess for me, it is how does each individual define success . . . what success means to one person, will mean a totally different thing to another.

      If I have love in my life and for others and happiness, then I am successful. And if I am free to write what I love to write about, then that is success to me.

      However, when it comes to the financial aspect of writing, that is a whole other ballgame. You have provided much insight as to being successful in writing. I believe one's mindset must be that . . . "I am going to be successful" and then one will move on towards that goal and it will be realized one day after much hard work, but never, never giving up on the dream, if it is truly one's dream and passion in this life.

      Hugs and blessings, Faith Reaper

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Billy,

      This just might be one of my favorites of yours. So much you've said I've probably been either guilty of or witness to! One thing I can say is that I'm certainly not lazy! But, I am afraid, that is probably what stops me the most. I always worry... will every single person in my life be happy with this choice I'm making. Quite frankly, that should be no concern of mine. Once I realize that it's more important that I'm happy with a choice and stop worrying about pleasing every person I know... success will be unavoidable. Fear stops me dead in my tracks, there is nothing that will make everyone happy, I need to shake that!

      The draining negativity is an awesome point too! I try my darndest not to be a negative person or focus on the negative things, but it seems like we are in a time of moaners and groaners and its so easy to get sucked in.

      Awesome hub, Billy!

      Cat

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      srsddn 4 years ago from Dehra Dun, India

      billybuc, very nicely done. All of us face ups and downs but your ideas if implemented in letter and spirit can definitely be a key to success. Thanks for sharing your beautiful ideas. Voted up and shared.

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      Connie Smith 4 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

      Billy, this is a great 'wake up call', and you have skillfully told us all to get with it already! I am afraid that there are a couple of things on this list that apply to me. But I'm workin' on it!

      Thanks for the excellent push I needed, my friend ;) Pearl

      Voted Up+++

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      Suzanne Ridgeway 4 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

      Hi Bill,

      So much truth in every word you have written, we are the captain of our ships of destiny, we all need to start passing the buck, it is time to get real and start creating our own success. Definitely the reality check I needed for those times that a proverbial kick in the ass from Bill is just what the doctor prescribed! Well done my friend your passion oozes from this article.

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      passionate77 4 years ago

      excellent sharing Bill, every single word is true to the point, i really enjoyed going all through the insightful details and advices mentioned here, there is a lot to learn from this single post indeed, i book marked the page to remind me all over and over to stay motivated and focused. You are such a great thinker Bill. million thanks for sharing such a great creation. stay blessed dear!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Maria, what a sweet thing for you to say. Thank you so much my friend, and blessings to you and Greg always.

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      Artistry With Words (http://artistrywithwords.wordpress.com/about/) is such a great help. You sure are giving lots of jewels to us. I am trying, I am trying...this hub is so nourishing... You are that teacher that we all need in a friend. Thanks so much Billy you are not egoistic and helping us feels just so right.

      May God give you more than your desires for us.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jo, this actually came about by going over this list with my Bev....we discussed reasons and a hub was born. Glad you found it useful and thank you for sharing it.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jim, thank you...I think we all need a kick in the butt occasionally. I know I certainly do, especially when the weather is nice. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sheila, I played that mental game with myself when I first published a couple ebooks....then I came to the same realization that you had...I am a success! Period!

      Have a great evening my friend and thank you!

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      Jo_Goldsmith11 4 years ago

      A very insightful article with many truths in every word. I really enjoyed reading this. I checked off from this list, the things I am doing, and those I need to stop. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. Voted this Up +++ shared & tweeted.

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      Jim Higgins 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

      Another great and very "meaty" hub to help motivate us, push us along the road toward our aspirations. Thanks, Bill!

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      sheilamyers 4 years ago

      This hub is a great verbal kick in the butt. You told it straight and that's what some people need to hear. Most of the time I start feeling like a failure is when my books aren't flying off those virtual shelves. I take is as failure because I feel the lack of sells must be because I'm not good enough as a writer. Then it hits me. I'm measuring my success by other people's standards. I AM a success. I got books published and people read them ... not a lot, but enough so far.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Gail, it's my pleasure...I hope the kick was gentle. :) Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jo, I've been called much worse. Motivator I can live with. :) Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, you are the voice of experience and that carries weight with me. Thanks for giving your example of hard-earned rewards.

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      Gail Meyers 4 years ago from United States

      Bill, thanks for the motivation and swift kick in the behind. lol

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 4 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Bill, another excellent write, powerful inspirational video, you are truly the motivator my friend.

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      All so true and well written...From personal experience, whenever I have been driven I have succeeded. I had my 15 minutes of fame and enjoyed all fifteen minutes..which in reality was about 5 years. I went after what I wanted gently relentless..It works.. Want it, work for it and don't give up hen things are not where you want them to be.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Right on target, as usual. I love the mantra! Thank you Bill for always bringing to light that which should be right in front of our noses!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lady, regrets can be crippling and keep us from accomplishing so much...I'm happy to hear that you have worked through yours. :) Thanks for the visit my friend.

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      Deonne Anderson 4 years ago from Florence, SC

      Thanks for the reminder that we all need to "let go" of those things we regret in our lives. We all go that road of shoulda-coulda from to time. To get myself into a better place I remind myself that "I did the best I knew how at the time" and "I didn't stay down, I got back up." I enjoyed this hub, esp the videos. Great wisdom and writing. Thanks!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      DJ, a good ass kicking does help from time to time...I try to be gentle, but with steel-toed boots that is hard sometimes. :) Thank you so much for yet another visit.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Joe, good morning buddy, and just between you and me, you are walking rings around me. :)

      I am living large and lovin' life and I know of no other way to go about this daily business.

      Have a great walk, a great day and thank you as always.

      Aloha,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzy, at least you are consistent. :) Thanks my Dunedin Dynamo!

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      DJ Anderson 4 years ago

      Bill, another super Hub!

      Great motivation--and the kick in the ass did just the trick! ;-)

      DJ.

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 4 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      Wow! This article is jam-packed with great advice. I read it as an appreciative reader and as a discerning editor. On both counts, I marveled at how you artistically merged the personal essayist with the "technical" writer. This is what I aspire to and want to emulate in my own writing. Brilliant, Bill! I am so proud of you and proud to be your friend. Aloha, and keep 'em coming! You're definitely living large and loving the good life! And I'm inspired to do the same!

      Joe

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      Liz Davis 4 years ago from Hudson, FL

      Yes, I was that 11-year-old, and thirty years later not much has changed!

      I always enjoy these billybuc words of wisdom. Thank you, my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Purpose, it is my pleasure. Thank you for stopping by during your busy day.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Paula, I guess I could pull punches but where would the fun be in that? LOL Thanks my friend. I hope you are well and I hope you know how much I appreciate you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, good luck at the mill. Don't work too hard and remember to do something nice for yourself. :)

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      Yvette Stupart PhD 4 years ago from Jamaica

      Once again, thanks for the great advice Bill.

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Still morning.....and already I received a gift! Didn't even have to leave the house. Thanks so much, bro.....you spoil me. Thoroughly enjoyed the read.....and all 3 videos. Inspiring, invigorating, enlightening. So much point blank FACT....wam-bam WOW!!!

      Toss off the cloak of guilt.....and kick regret to the curb. We can only soar like an eagle, when freed of what weighs us down...........Superb, bill!

      Up+++ Up.....and away........

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      I had to chuckle at your "ever expanding butt" comment. That's exactly what has happened to me since I embarked upon a writing career. This is a very motivational hub and the video is outstanding. If that doesn't kick you in the ass and get your blood pumping I don't know what will!

      I'm off to the content mill. Talk to you soon, Bill!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michele, there is no reason to apologize.....and speaking just for myself, trying hard is not always guaranteed success....sometimes we just fail despite the best of efforts and intentions....and then we get back up and try again, as I know you will.

      blessings my friend and a big hug

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Janine, I was raised with the work ethic too, and I was also given the gift of parental support and taught to believe in myself...those things are sometimes lacking in others. :) Thanks so much for always being here.

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      Michele Travis 4 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      Sorry Bill, sometimes I don't know what to write in the comment section of a hub. There is a lot I am dealing with right now. I don't know if I should share it or not. Sometimes, I try very hard and still keep failing.

      This is an excellent hub.

      I hope you have a wonderful day!

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      I couldn't agree more with you and must say that to have any success you must not sit back and do nothing. Success does take hard work and in order to have even a measure of this you need to work for it. I was raised with this kind of work ethic and it is just truly ingrained within me from way back when. Thank you for sharing and hoping you are having a wonderful day!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eric, luckily they sell clutch kits at your local auto parts store.....put another one together and give her a test drive...as soon as you wake back up of course. :) Thanks buddy!

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Very good. I needed it this morning. But it wore me out reading it so I think I will go back to bed ;-) I wish I could find that balance between slowing down and charging fully ahead. I guess knowing the difference is wisdom. And I think my clutch is broke.