What Do You Need to Know About Feelings

Do not be controlled by your feelings!

Feelings can control you if you allow these feelings to get into your head. Some couples choose to be together, with the acceptance of tolerating each other’s behaviours emotionally.

You learn more than you really understand. That is a complicated part of life that involves feelings. Your daily lives have feelings to deal with and it is up to you.

Relationships are not always rosy even up to this day. Some couples do strive for that perfect relationship. Like the rosier kind of relationship.

Unfortunately, they do not always get what they wish for in their relationships. When anger is the key to their relationships there is not much to do about such behaviours.

No matter who you are or where you come from anger can be the worst aspect of a relationship. Still, couples stay together and do not divorce. Seeing someone you care about go through great emotional pain can ruin you.

You have to understand the points of view of the other person before diving in and accusing and making your voice heard.

You need to be connected to know where the problem lies and with whom the problem lies.

How does anger affect partners?

Most couples expect too much from their relationships.

One partner can be the one in control and the other dependent on the one with the power. Anger is expressed differently in both partners. Partners are affected by anger verbally and non-verbally.

The one who holds the household duties together is the one who controls the other. Usually, that is the case, and in many situations, anger can build up. There is always anger with partners who want to gain control.

I know from my experience that without me not much can be done in my home. This includes documents and household duties. I do not have power or control. We live our lives differently.

I keep all the files up-to-date and know where to find any document if required. When I am asked for anything from a file while I am still in bed in the morning, I get annoyed and refuse to search for it.

This can become unhealthy if anyone keeps up such behaviours. I try not to stay with that kind of behaviour and know it is not good for me or my partner.

Keeping a secret from your partner is another situation that can cause anger for you and your partner.

When you fail to keep up to your values with the shame, and guilt you have in you then anger can creep up slowly.

Conflict causes anger and less agreement.

The pressure of what you do allows for anger to set in with many partners. One can learn to accept tolerant habits and can have a certain amount of control over anger. Most healthy relationships succeed with anger.

Do you think feelings can be controlled?

If you avoid your feelings it can affect your health and ruin your chances of a better life. In a healthy relationship you can feel your emotions and being able to feel your feelings is not a simple skill to act upon.

Why is it not simple to feel your feelings?

Feelings appear when you are in the middle of situations.

For example:

• You feel when you are experiencing a stressful moment, then you realize more than you have had before.
• Once you understand what brought up those feelings you will know more.
• It is normal to feel like your feelings are out of control.
• Sometimes you can feel attacked by your feelings.
• When you let your feelings take over you feel like you have run the marathon.
• The heart rate increases and you feel anxious.
• The focus here is to think with your body and not with your head.
• If you think with your head, you will surely allow your feelings to control you and that you do not need.
• Deep breathing allows for staying calm and a more relaxed mind.
• When do you have feelings?
• Feelings pop up during a bad time or a good time.
• You create these feelings during such moments.
• Feelings pop up unless you make them do.
• Make note of what made you create such feelings and follow that lead.
• I am less calm on certain issues, especially if I need to reason with someone.
• My created feelings get into action.
• I build up anger or sadness and nobody can do that for me or for me.
• Certain situations can create those moments and you can become helpless.
• When you have many mixed emotions, these emotions can last much longer.
• Feel free to make a note of what makes you that way.

• What caused you to be angry, or sad?

• What made you feel depressed?

• Who made you feel disappointed?

• Who caused you to be confident?

• In some cases, what you did not create can be the act of another.
• Holding in your feelings can make you feel emptier inside.
• If in the company of negative people, you too, can end up feeling the same way.
• One of my reasons for staying away from negative people is because of their contagious feelings.
• Happier people improve your feelings.
• The right connection with people can make you feel most fulfilled with life.
• The way you react to life is what feelings are and feelings are not factual.
• I know that there are no right or wrong feelings.
• I react to what my body tells me and to what I have created with great control.
• Every individual has a right to express their feelings and not to suppress their feelings.
• How they choose to react to their feelings is entirely up to them.
• People react differently to all situations.
• Some can remain calm while others may go into panic mode right away.
• Speak out your feelings holding on to secrets and bad experiences can damage you emotionally.

Be honest with your feelings.

If you don't speak up, your anger can build up and you can start to lash out at others randomly. Write to communicate the feelings that would certainly give you a better life emotionally.

There is no perfection in life. I feel anxious when I am expecting guests, and want everything to be perfect. I know that perfection does not come easy, and to live by perfection would spoil me.

I try to be simple and calm and relax my mind to think of enjoying the moment rather than expecting too much. I avoid the manifestation of my thoughts. Instead, I prefer to be normal and nice.

I don't allow such thoughts to control me. I believe that understanding is the key to any feelings and if you fail to understand feelings all can get lost in relationships.

Feelings are not always controlled as you let your thoughts control your mind and that affects your feelings.

You need to be confident and happier to have that calm feeling. People look at their lifestyles and complain but never think of how lucky they actually are.