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What this season means to a Fibromite

Updated on December 26, 2010

What This Season Means to a Fibromite

Aside from the glam and glitter of displays throughout the city and all over the TV is the dread we fibromyalgia patients have. The dread of not being able to keep up; not having anyone come over to see you (and the dread that they will, because we are not able to keep the house up.

Yes, we face a lot of fears due to our disease. Are we any better for having those fears? Absolutely not. We find ourselves sleeping the holidays away and not making those phone calls we used to make all the time. Then we're amazed when no one calls us! (fickle humans we are)

My friend, I am here to tell you once again "Fibromyalgia will NOT kill you." It may hurt like heck and you may for a nanosecond wish you were dead. But you don't really.

I have let Fibromyalgia rule my life way too long, along with other problems I deal with. (Most Fibromites have more than one health problem to deal with.

I read such a wonderful book that I recommend everyone on the face of the earth read (well, those who can). It's called What to Say When You Talk to Yourself" by Dr. Shad Helmstedder. It changed my life in so many ways.

Did you know you can actually talk yourself sicker? (Is sicker a word - hmmm) Well, according to Riverside Webster's II Dictionary sicker is not a word. So you can actually make yourself more sick than you are, simply by talking (in your head -or out loud if you really must).

There are 5 stages of self talk.  You have got to read the book.  I'm telling you... it will not only change the way you talk to yourself, but it will change the way you talk to others.

I'm always talking to myself when no one is around. Should I have admitted that?  Well, my family is aware of this constant conversation I have with myself, so I suppose it is no secret.

Fibromyalgia patients are so much better off if they push a little more each day to do something.  That something might just be open a can of soup.  At the end of the day, you will be able to say to yourself what you did that was positive and work hard not to dwell on those things left undone. 

If you have a task bowl (box, envelope, whatever) and put one task on a piece of paper and fill the container with tasks, as well as put them on a list, you can pull out a task when you are able to and once it is finished you can cross it off the list.  Each time you get discouraged you just look at the list.  It does help. 

What this season means to me is a big challenge, a time when I am trying to step outside my box for a few days.  Not necessarily two days in a row, but a few days.

Come and see what we can do, one thing at a time, day by day and we will welcome you with a smile. 

Smiles are sunshine inside one's heart.  I wish you many smiles  in your life!.

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    • Pixienot profile imageAUTHOR

      Pixienot 

      7 years ago from Clarksville, Indiana

      Oh yes, it is indeed the easy way to just quit. That is in the short run it is. In the long run it is the path to more pain and anguish.

      I write about Fibromyalgia a lot because so many folks are just getting diagnosed with it and scared. I am trying to bring them and anyone listening a glimmer of hope.

      Too many doctors are of little use once they give the diagnosis. It is such a mystery disease in so many ways.

    • granniesharon profile image

      granniesharon 

      7 years ago

      I didn't know you suffered from fibromyalgia - that must be painful. I totally agree about pushing yourself to do one more thing, its far too easy to give up.

    • Pixienot profile imageAUTHOR

      Pixienot 

      7 years ago from Clarksville, Indiana

      Thank you B and Jillian for your nice comments. It is encouragement I appreciate.

      And it does help me as much as others!

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      Jillian Barclay 

      7 years ago from California, USA

      Happy New Year, Pixienot! The holidays often come with stress, which increases the pain of fibromyalgia. So happy that you choose to fight through laughter and positive thoughts! It works! Not all the time, but alot! Plus people with the same illness get a boost when they read about other fibromites (love the word!) and their experiences. Makes us feel stronger to know we are not really alone! Keep writing! Helps you and the rest of us!

    • b. Malin profile image

      b. Malin 

      7 years ago

      Good for you, for writing such a positive Hub on this subject. I'm sure it will inspire others with this condition to try their best...Thanks for sharing.

    • Pixienot profile imageAUTHOR

      Pixienot 

      7 years ago from Clarksville, Indiana

      Thank you Darlin'!

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      Susan Mills 

      7 years ago from Indiana

      It's no wonder you're not feeling well, trying to keep the house up. How did you lift it in the first place? Amazing. :)

      Glad to see you're so positive. I know it must be difficult some days. It seems like you're keeping your sense of humor- that's a must!

      Nice article!

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