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Why Deny What We Are?

Updated on February 19, 2012

God Doesn't Want You To Cry... Really?

Thank you for the question albertsj in regards to what phrase annoys me. This is my answer.

The saying that annoys me the most is "Don't worry, put it in God's hands"... If you cry, don't cry because if you believe in God and you trust Him you should know everything will work out fine (easy to say when one is not really going through the situation of another). "Is God's will" when something have gone wrong. So, God wants us to be happy but allows suffering... A never ending, sterile debate. Just saying oftentimes one human being has a lot to help another human being with, but rather advice the other to put it all in God's hands and sends him off his way.

I'm especially annoyed when it comes to dealing with grief. Crying is a sin or sign of lack of faith. If God didn't want people to cry or feel sorrow, He would've built us with everything but emotions. Is a sin to be human. But humans are emotional creatures. I find very irritating any intention to repress or deny our human condition. We fear, we get angry, we cry, and we can laugh out loud.

All welcome in my kingdom. I'll cry with you and laugh with you.

We Are Entitled To Feel and Be Alive

This constant repression sadly extends to all areas of our lives, including sex and intimacy. The main reason why 1 in 3 women have trouble in reaching orgasm is God, or what they have in their minds in regards to God expectations from them as spouses or sexual partners.

In 1995, Kenneth Davidson PhD, and other scholars published the study Religiosity and the sexuality of women: Sexual Behavior and Sexual Satisfaction Revisited in which they surveyed 868 women in regards to their religion and their attitudes towards sex. Religion portray sexual pleasures to be avoided. Virgin Mary didn't really have sex in order to give birth to baby Jesus. So who knows maybe poor Joseph better wished to be a eunuch. Probably she wanted to have sex more than he did. By the way, ladies, if you can't reach your orgasm, don't blame your partner, he still got his in spite of you. Get on and get on the go. I tell you, "Get up and walk, get busy, the water is great, play!" If God created our bodies to have such pleasure, isn't this like going against His will?

Why is it that women sexual drive loosely defines her as a slut, easy, promiscuous, or a whore? To keep them tamed, where men can find them. Real men know better though. They know that by allowing their partner to blossom and accepting her as the beautiful and intelligent divinity that she is, makes him a winner.

But most men no... why they even came up with studies that women are better at dealing with men infidelities than men. So, what is the implication? That because women can put up with it they should keep at it, with devoted resignation?

Studies and Religion Devoted to Prolong the Math Myth

Women are not good at Math. Women are just not good at Math. Studies show that women's brain or their hormones impede them from excelling in math or sciences. Apostle Paul said women are not allowed to speak in public.

I know I can't be the only one who finds this annoying.

Throughout history women has proven up to par with men when it comes to learning. Any kind of learning, including math and sciences.

2354 BCE- En Heduanna. Astronomer priest first recorded in history. She is credited with the observations that gave way to the calendars pertaining to Easter and Passover. Yet there is no abundance evidence of her scientific work, some of her poems survived:
"The true woman who possesses exceeding wisdom
She consults a tablet of lapiz lazuli
She gives advices to all lands
She measures off the heavens
She places the measuring cords off the earth"

1878BCE- Aganice. Member of the Court in Egypt it is credited with computing the position of the planets.

ca. 400 CE- Hypatia. Daughter of Theon of Alexandria, she was in charge of the school here. Teaching men. Wrote many books on subjects that included math and astronomy.

born 1098 CE- Hildegard. A nun that reported, 300 years before Copernicus, the heliocentric world system.

ca. 1600 CE- Elena Piscopia. Not only she mastered six languages, like Spanish, Greek and Hebrew, and was an expert musician, she studied mathematics and astronomy along with philosophy and theology.

These are just very brief examples of some, not all women that have excelled in what is obviously not a field reserved for any gender in particular.

Last January, some reports appeared in prestigious scientific magazines in regards to actress Hedy Lamarr. The silver screen star is credited with the co-patent that led to the creation of cell-phones, WiFis and GPS during the 1930s. She also earned a Pulitzer for her voluminous book on "The Making of the Atomic Bomb".

According to recent studies, is not hormones or genitalia, but stereotype what prevents more women to excel in these fields like they historically have, according to the National Center for Educational Statistics (2009). "The fear of confirming the stereotype leads to behavior that confirms it".

Studies show that those not threat by stereotype performed better in math tests than those that were. Boys might be more confident at math, it doesn't necessarily mean they are any better.

Please repeat to your daughters that Math is Easy and there's nothing to it.

The Renewed Uncivilization

So it annoys me that generation after generations, centuries come and go and it doesn't matter what technology or latest gadget we are after now, superstitions, double standards and prejudices abound.

And since they are so engrained in the mind of the many, society behaves convinced they are not in error. So when these luminaries, these great women come in by every generation screaming equality, intelligence and common sense, we bury them again, crucify them again, hide their story under the rug... Burn the books, start anew and call it progress.

Hedy Lamarr: Award-winning Actress and Awarded Physicist


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    • Cyndi10 profile image

      Cynthia B Turner 

      6 years ago from Georgia

      You gave some really interesting statistics and facts in this hub, especially the info about contributions of women, particularly when it comes to math. I had no idea Hedy Lamar had developed something that was patented. Thanks for giving us such an intriguing article. It has inspired me to do more research on the women you mention here.

      As for saying "it's in God's hands" when there is a tragedy, especially for someone grieving, often there is nothing else anyone can say that will console another. I hope when people say it to someone they don't interpret "it's in God's hands" to mean don't cry. I've never thought of it that way, but others may mean it differently. Crying is healthy and cathartic.

      Ultimately, it may all be in God's hands and we are meant to feel our emotions. Just my thoughts. Loved your article.

    • reikieffect profile image


      6 years ago

      CrazyGata for some of us God is that last ray of hope. Being human is a difficult experience; we go through so many emotions, experiences and issues that we need to believe there is a higher purpose. I respect you for having the guts to voice your opininions.

    • CrazyGata profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Puerto Rico

      Thank you ib radmasters, for the inspiration.

      I started answering, but it became a hub... You can find it here, if you have the time. Thank you again for picking my brain!

    • ib radmasters profile image

      ib radmasters 

      6 years ago from Southern California

      Crazy Gata

      The paranoia was a general comment about seeing things that others cannot see. It wasn't directed to you or about you per se.

      True paranoia is a delusion, but if someone is really following you, it is neither paranoia nor delusional it is a fact.

      But until there is undeniable proof, it is hard to tell delusion from fact.


    • CrazyGata profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Puerto Rico

      Maybe you can reread it some other time.

      At least now you can feel better after labeling me.

      All the same.

      I hope paranoia is included in Crazy. :)

      (Isn't it paranoia the one that doesn't trust anyone, that suspects and questions everything? Maybe the word you are looking for is delusional).

      In any event, I feel much obliged!

      Gosh, I love Alice in Wonderland!

    • ib radmasters profile image

      ib radmasters 

      6 years ago from Southern California

      Crazy Gata

      Not sure I understood your answer, but thanks for your reply.

      BTW, seeing things that no one else sees is a classic definition of Paranoia.

    • CrazyGata profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Puerto Rico

      Dear Ib radmasters,

      You will not find a contender here. I agree with you. You know what they say, "according to your faith it will be done".

      I am not contending the existence or non-existence. The gospel that I am spreading here (gospel for lack of a better term) is that, whatever one's beliefs, make sure they don't detract from your true self.

      For me it is absolutely irrelevant the individual convictions or conceptions. In fact, it should be added to the list of sterile or unproductive debates.

      Blessed are those that truly believe in what they believe for their very good reasons.

      Sad is the life of those that professing to believe in one thing, long to do another.

      That is the purpose of this present writing. It is not my quest to find Jesus. I don't think he's lost anyhow... Those that believe in him see him everyday I'm sure. Or maybe you'd feel inspired to write a bit about it.

      Thank you for your comment.

    • ib radmasters profile image

      ib radmasters 

      6 years ago from Southern California

      Where has the biblical God or Jesus given us any reason to trust him.

      Hundreds of millions of people die or are inflicted with pain and suffering.

      Don't go back to the old days, tell me where you see it today, in real life.

      God or Jesus haven't heard or seen in two thousand years.

    • CrazyGata profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Puerto Rico

      To each its own my dear Friend.

      It makes me very happy inside to think of myself as a feminine divine, and be treated likewise. :D

      Is the least I could ask for!

      Rationalization and science has little to do with emotions, but if some logical justification satisfies you more than a mythical incantation, or religion, or belief, or support system, by all means, help yourself.

      You'll find me howling at the moon for no reason, just because... or maybe karaoke just to set free a song. You'll find others faithfully going to church, truly believing.

      Praising the many Gods I wish to create in my psyche in order to have an object upon which to direct my gratitude and appreciation not only for Creation but my divine self allows me to feel whole. Because that is what I decided.

      There are rational and irrational numbers commingling peacefully. Golden Ratio... The oldest disciplines, like Geometry and Astronomy emerged to explain Philosophies and Mysteries... All connected... The Rational and The Irrational.

      This article is intended to those that are convinced of their belief in such a way it coerces their natural psyches.

      Their divine selves are unaligned, and that is why they define as a sin their desires.

      But thinking that rationalization is the cure for any mental ailment or the key to anybody's freedom, would be like fitting everything into a square.

      And I'm not even all that irrational. :D

    • f_hruz profile image


      6 years ago from Toronto, Ontario, Canada

      Why would you even think it's rational to make super natural gods part of your own reality when nature never had any use for gods, ever ... not before humans evolved as a life form on earth, nor any time there after ...

      A much more rational understanding is, all life has nature as a universal support system ... and no gods had ever any part in it!


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