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Why Is It So Hard Staying Clean And Sober

Updated on February 12, 2012


Many people that have been addicted to alcohol and are in recovery often say, "why is it so hard staying clean and sober?"

I for one have sad this so many times, but I never broke down and picked up that drink, and the reason that I didn't is because I worked so hard to get where I was in my road to recovery and I wasn't about to start back at day number one.

Everyone that wants to be clean and sober needs to stay strong while they are in recovery and that means for the rest of your life. There will be so many things that come into your life throughout the time you are sober, but you need to stay strong and be stronger than the addiction that tried to ruin your life.

Yes, it is very hard I admit, but it always requires hard work to have any good come out of your work. I shouldn't have to tell you that nothing in life comes easy. Anything good requires hard work and that includes getting sober and staying sober.

For myself, I thought and I thought about getting clean and sober, but just kept on prolonging things in hope that I could just cut down on my drinking, but I had found that it was impossible to do.

When I mentioned that many things in life could drive you right back to drinking and could make you relapse, I mean it. There will always be ups and down in all of our lives, but we need to be strong and not let anything drive us back to where we were in live being addicted to alcohol.

Even though you have that urge to pick up that drink, stop and think of what you will be doing to yourself before you take that sip of alcohol. Think before you drink.



There are so many reasons I can think of as to why it is so hard to stay sober and one of the main ones for those that just are having a tough time is being around your old drinking buddies. You really have to have some strong determination to stay sober when you are looking at your buddies drinking one drink after the other. The only way to escape that urge, is to stay clear from them until you think you can handle watching them drink. For some, you may never be able to be around those that drink alcohol.

For myself, I am fortunate that I can go into bars and be around those that are drinking alcohol such as parties and different functions that gave alcohol served. I truly believe, at least for me is this urge to drink is all in your mind.

You tend to think of all the so called great times you have had while drinking and getting drunk and think to your self that you may be missing out on those so called fun times. Believe me you can have just as much fun being sober and that is right from the horses mouth, which is me.

When I quit drinking alcohol my first thoughts were, " I am never going to be able to have a great time again being clean and sober. I sure did fool myself because I am having the time of my life now and I never have to worry about saying the wrong thing or worrying about how I am going to get to certain places because I have been drinking alcohol.

I am a free man now and I can come and go as I please without dragging along my crutch everywhere I go. You also can be a free person. Free of your demons. The only thing you have to do is to want sobriety back into your life and if you want it bad enough it will happen.


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    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      3 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Hi Rolly and thank you for your comment, for reading and your years of support and friendship to me. Hugs to you my friend.

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      Rolly A Chabot 

      3 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Mark... stand tall and be proud of what you have accomplished... well done and I for one know and understand where you have been and where you are today.

      Ex Drunk... appears to be a very bitter writer. I have no idea where the comment comes from or for that matter what it is suppose to accomplish. Opinions and comments such as those below in the forums not here where you have shared from the heart.

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      3 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      EX Drunk- what the hell is that comment is about. I don't appreciate your words in this comment. I have been sober for 6 years and living sober as you would put it. If you don't have anything to say good don't comment on people hubs. I write to help others and either you are an alcoholic or don't drink at all. I have no idea what you are.

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ starting a new life- Thank you for commenting although I am saddened that you did relapsed. It' okay those things happen sometimes so now you must get back up and start again and this time continue to tell yourself that it will never happen again. That the demons will never tease and torture you ever again. Just keep staying positive and don't let anything or anyone stand in your way to get and stay sober. You can do it !!!! Just keep telling yourself that and if you believe you will achieved. I did it and so can you !!!

      God Bless you and stay strong!!!

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      starting a new life 

      6 years ago

      thank you so much for your words of wisdom. It really helped me late a night, I relapsed for the first time yesterday and I know I have a long road ahead but I really appreciate you sharing your experience. Thanks again and keep enjoying life

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      7 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Bicycleheart Thank you for commenting and the information. It sure does matter when a mother does drink or does drugs regarding the fetus. I hope all mothers realize this.

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      7 years ago from Rockford, Illinois

      Why Me?

      There are many reasons, biologically, why people can't stay "clean". For one thing, "It's in the blood"; it is scientifically proven. It' snot to say, an individual cannot sustain from drinking alcohol, however, because of the fact it is in your blood line, resistence is the key factor in doing so. COuld it be that, her mother drank alcohol while pregnant? Eben though physicians will allow 1-2 drinks of an alcoholic beverage per day, remember this; what you eat the baby eats. And so it just goes to show, that, it does matter. In fact, Just think, while the fetus is developing, the alcohol is giving great performances in setting your baby up for degenerative diseases, deformaties, and all sorts of health related issues before it is born. All a person has to do is go on the internet and search for "babies born from alcoholic mothers"-and you can see all the facts on realted issues.


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