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Why Live & How to Beat Depression When You're Totally Alone With No Friends

Updated on March 19, 2012

Why Live?

If you found your way to this article, chances are you have gotten to the point where you are so miserable that you honestly no longer have any idea why you should live. First of all, I want to make it clear that you are completely normal for asking this question. There are a lot of really unhappy people out there today who have been asking this question just like you have.

My goal here is to help you not only find a reason worth living for, but help you turn your life into an exciting, enjoyable experience so you look forward to waking up and living each day. I've been in your boat before. I was diagnosed with clinical depression when I was in middle school and have suffered with it for many, many years -- until about 2 years ago when I found the cure which I am about to share with you.

Why live?
Why live?

Why live when you are always feeling miserable?

This question alone begs two more questions: 1) "What is the point of life?" as well as 2) "What is actually making you feel miserable?" We'll start off by answering the former.

What is the purpose of life? What is the point of living? Why live? That's the million dollar question in the world today, with clinical depression at an all time high. Fortunately, I have the answer right here. The main purpose of life is to BE HAPPY. That's all there is to it. We were born to experience happiness and that's the main reason we're here. So if we're all here to be happy, then why are so many people miserable?

Well, different people believe they are unhappy for different reasons. Maybe they feel they are too fat or too ugly or don't look good enough. Perhaps they feel rejected by their own family and have no friends. Maybe their boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife left them. Maybe they are in a serious stressful financial bind that they don't see how they'll ever get out of. There are tons of different MASKS for the main reason everyone is unhappy. However, there is one underlying reason for everyone -- despair.

What's despair? Despair is simply the lack of hope. It's the feeling that there is nothing to look forward to in the future and that all that's good is slowly disappearing. Webster's dictionary defines despair as "to lose all hope or confidence." I believe the root of 90% of the cases of depression, my own included, are due to severe despair.

How to overcome despair and find a reason worth living:

Knowing that the reason you feel miserable is due simply to an overwhelming amount of despair, the path to overcome it becomes clear. No matter what your reason for feeling miserable and asking yourself "why live?" is, know that if you are able to dispel the despair, you will find yourself feeling happier and more upbeat again.

Now, let's review exactly what Webster's definition of despair is one more time, cause I feel they hit it right on the head. "To lose all hope or confidence." So how do you get rid of despair? Regain hope.

"Well, duh, Jared, but how am I supposed to do that?", you may be asking. Simple! Set a goal so profound that it makes you feel hope when you just think about succeeding at it. If possible, choose a goal that counters the reason why you are feeling the despair. Do you think you are too overweight? Did your boyfriend or girlfriend leave you? Did you lose your job? Set a goal to lose weight, get out and get dating new people, start putting in applications like mad to a new place of employment.

You'll find that by setting a goal, and by succeeding at it, your despair and misery will wash away like dirt being power washed off the side walk!

Why live?
Why live?

Choosing a goal you are bound to succeed at:

So what goal should you choose? Let me answer that question by asking you another question. What ONE thing, if you had it right now, would you find completely eliminated any despair or depression you have? If you had a perfect, sexy beach body would that help? If you had the ideal boyfriend or girlfriend, would you feel any better? How about the love and companionship of a group of friends who would always be there for you? Having your own dream home? Making X amount of dollars a month doing something that you LOVE doing?

The truth is, no matter which one you choose, the act of simply having SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO will conquer your despair and answer your question of "why live?"

I want you to look ahead in your future right now, six months down the road, and ask yourself "What do I want my life to be like by then?" Well, what would you like your life to be like six months down the road? What would your perfect dream life be like? Close your eyes for a few moments and vividly imagine what it would be like. Really get into it. Allow yourself to feel the positive emotions that you'd feel if you were actually experiencing it.

Once you decide what your ideal dream life would be like, bust out a pen and paper and start writing out a step by step plan to get there. Set mini-goals to make up that huge goal. For example, if your goal is to lose weight, set a realistic amount of weight you can expect yourself to lose each month and then write down, in detail, how you are going to reach that mini goal each month.

Set a date that you are going to start working towards this goal and set a finishing date as well.  If you have the dedication, feel free to keep a journal or log of your progress.  It's exciting to see how much things change so rapidly with this technique.

Whatever you decided your goal is, STICK WITH IT and in six months you'll look back and remember reading this article and thank yourself for taking this advice. 

You can create your dream life at ease with dedicated goal setting and answer the question "why live?"  Start today. Good luck.

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    • schoolgirlforreal profile image

      schoolgirlforreal 

      4 years ago

      Great hub, I found it after writing my own. I think this is good advice. There's always something we feel we're missing or want, when we get down. Things will change when effort is put in, so since that fact is established, then why not get cracking, right?

      Hmmm good food for thought.

    • mkrandhawa profile image

      mkrandhawa 

      7 years ago from India

      I really like your hub thanks for sharing Jaredbangerter

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