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Why We Should Help Others: A Moment With Bill Reflection

Updated on March 3, 2014

What’s in It for Me?

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King, Jr.


I actually had a student ask me that question once. I had just asked him if he would be so kind as to empty the classroom wastebasket. Now most students would jump at the chance to help out a teacher, if not for humanitarian reasons then at least for brown-nose points, but this little wiseass wanted to know how he was going to profit from helping me out.

“What’s in it for you?” I asked. “How about your continued good health?” I said.

He emptied the wastebasket immediately without any other bartering necessary.

Now I was actually shocked twenty years ago when that student asked that question. If I hear those words today I am not shocked. Why? Simply because our society is becoming more self-possessed by the day. Our society responds to greed and self-interest, and the concept of actually doing something for someone without pay is a foreign one for many of our fellow citizens.

Sad, but you know it to be true.

How are you doing on this whole “helping others” topic? Are you a giver? Are you a taker? Or are you a lump of meaningless flesh and bone that is too complacent and apathetic to get involved with any give and take whatsoever?

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A Lesson from My Mother

There I was, reclining on the couch one rainy Saturday afternoon, fifteen years old and terribly full of myself. I had put in a grueling week of school (or so I believed) and I was enjoying the fruits of my labor. In other words, I was sitting on my butt not doing a damn thing.

A voice is heard from the other room. I ignore it. The voice is heard again, a little bit louder. I ignore it again. Finally my mother steps into the living room and asks me if I heard her calling me. I proclaim ignorance, something I was naturally good at. “I’m sorry, Mom, I didn’t hear you,” I said.

Undeterred, she notifies me that she needs my help loading some old clothes and household items into the car, and then she needs my help taking the items down to the Church and distributing them to the poor.

“But Mom,” I whine. “It’s my day off. I just wanted to relax today and besides, it’s raining out.”

She mentioned something about getting my lazy ass off of the sofa before she told my father. I immediately sprang into “willing humanitarian mode” and started to help her.

As we were driving the load down to the church I decided to get it all off of my chest. “Mom, why are we giving our stuff away? You and Dad worked hard for our things. I don’t see why we would just give this stuff away without getting something in return. Why are we doing it?”

And here is her answer, an answer that has stayed with me for fifty years. Are you ready for it? She looked at me, smiled, and said: “Because it’s the right thing to do, Bill.”

Damn!

Because It’s the Right Thing to Do

Well who says it is the right thing to do? I know someone reading this is asking that question right now. According to whom, they are saying, is it the right thing to do?

And I would answer: according to anyone who has any compassion or empathy in their body.

I know today where my mother was coming from. Remember that my mom was a teen during the Great Depression. She was raised fully understanding the value of neighbors helping neighbors, because for those who lived during that time, it was a matter of survival. Reaching out a hand of help to a struggling neighbor was as natural as breathing for people of that generation, and quite often it was the people with the least who gave the most.

Fast forward seventy-five years and we seem to have lost that message, and yet I would submit to you that it is as important today as it was during the days of bread lines and the WWW.

I’m not sure if you have noticed, but times are tough in the year 2014. The middle class is literally disappearing. Full-time jobs are being replaced with part-time jobs and somehow our political leaders call that growth. Families have less disposable income than at any time since the Flower Power Generation. Homelessness has increased steadily, as has hunger. In the Land of Plenty there are plenty without.

So, just as my parents had to learn a valuable lesson, that during tough times people need to come together to help one another, I suspect we will be learning that same lesson in the very near future.

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Where Is Our Sense of Community?

This concept of helping one another begins in the home. From there is spreads to the community, and from the community to the national level. Obviously, in today’s world, that spreading thing has ground to a halt. Where, then, has the message stopped? Is it being taught in the homes? If so, then why hasn’t that message spread to the communities?

I will tell you a truth that is as valid today as it was 100 years ago: a community is only as strong as its weakest link. In a true community, the common good is the guiding light. I did not say the common good of the corporations, nor did I say the common good of the political hacks who are bought and paid for. No, I said the common good as in everyone within the community.

Where Is Our Sense of Right and Wrong?

I had a rare philosophical discussion with my dad when I was about twelve or thirteen. He was trying to impress upon me the importance of doing what is right, and I brilliantly argued that what is right for one person may not be considered right for another. In other words, the actions of a millionaire may seem right to him or her, but may not seem right to a poor person. So if that is true, how do we determine right or wrong?

At that point my dad introduced me to the K.I.S.S. Principle…..Keep It Simple Stupid! He explained that if people treat others as they want to be treated, then that is right. If people treat others in a way they themselves would not like to be treated, then that is wrong.

Oh!

I call on you all to be more humane
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Where Is Our Sense of Humanity?

An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.

Martin Luther King, Jr.


Human beings are capable of incredible acts of kindness and sacrifice, and when they act upon those capabilities they finally approach the true meaning of humanity. When they do not, when they concern themselves only with what they can gain by their actions, then they return to the primordial ooze from which they came.

Why should we help others?

Because it is our calling as humane individuals to do so; we were born to fly among the angels, and helping others for the sake of helping others gives us our wings. Helping others for the sake of gaining something from the act clips those wings and leaves us floundering on the ground.

What’s in it for you?

Good vibes!

End of story!

2014 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Robert Elias Ballard 3 years ago from Zirconia, North Carolina

      A great one, vote up and sharing.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Fiddleman, I thank you very much.

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      Janine Huldie 3 years ago from New York, New York

      Bill, your parents sounded so much like my own and probably why we are always donating whenever we can and I for one always try to treat others the way I know I would like to be treated. As you said, it is truly very simple and do very much agree with you on this. Have a wonderful day now, too!

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      Mary Craig 3 years ago from New York

      Voted all but funny. This message cannot be told enough Bill. The "me" society we live in is still punctuated with generous and caring people. Let's keep spreading the word so that "me" worries more about them!

      Shared and pinned.

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      breakfastpop 3 years ago

      Your Dad was right, of course. I have always tried to live by that principle. Up, useful and awesome.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Janine! I know you do; perhaps that's why we are friends. :) Have a great Monday, Janine!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      We can always hope, Mary! Sooner or later we'll just wear them down by sheer numbers. :) You keep on and I'll do the same.

      Thank you Mary!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you breakfastpop...let's keep doing our thing and see if we can't change the world.

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 3 years ago from Norfolk

      Hello Billy

      I do it because it is the right thing to do. This is what my folks taught me to do and that is what I taught my children to do, not only that, it just gives me a nice warm feeling inside.

      Have a lovely Monday,

      Sally

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      At this point in time I'm rebelling, I'm the consummate giver and some of my family members think that is my role in life, so I'm saying enough is enough. However; I do believe we should help each other and I live my life by that old axiom, as you said " do unto others as you would have them do unto you" If more of us lived by this golden rule of reciprocity, and really grasp the concept of it, this world would be an incredible place. Another great write. Hope you're well, I can see you're in good form, my best as always.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sally, so nice to see you stop by. Thank you and yes, I love that nice, warm feeling inside.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jo, there are times when we have to step back for our own welfare. Good for you for recognizing that fact and taking care of yourself.

      Have a wonderful week my friend and thank you!

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      Liz Davis 3 years ago from Hudson, FL

      Science has proven that compassionate people are happier than those who are selfish. And someone just honked at a school bus letting kids off at the stop. How timely. Anyway, in light of that fact, it's no wonder people struggle with depression and unhappiness these days.

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      DJ Anderson 3 years ago

      Very nice article, Bill.

      It is easy to forget that young people have to be taught simple acts

      of kindness. A few children are born with an empathizing nature,

      but more excel in the "me culture".

      Thanks for reminding us of some simple truths that we tend to forget from time to time.

      Happy Monday!

      DJ.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzy, I believe that completely...I have seen evidence of it...and I refuse to let it happen to me. :) Thanks my dear friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Heck, DJ, I know I forget them from time to time....I just write this stuff as a reminder for myself. :)

      Have a great day, DJ, and thank you!

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      mathira 3 years ago from chennai

      My mother always tells me that when we help others, god helps us. Your hub was a reminder of sorts billy. It inspired me.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Mathira! I would like your mother. :)

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      breakfastpop 3 years ago

      I'm in!!!

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      Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      And to your inspirational words, brother bill, I say, "Amen." I believe the concept as sure as I breathe. From the same Boomer generation as you and many of our fellow-writers, there is no doubt we were brought up in this way....TAUGHT, not only by word, but by example.

      We then passed this down to our children in the hopes that along with all we taught them, they would follow suit. Some do, some don't, but none of us can ever stop doing and teaching by example.

      We can see a lot of the results from the beliefs of the "me" generation. Because I refuse to group all individuals in the same light, I intentionally look for those who walk the "right" path...and I am proud and hopeful.

      Thanks for a wonderful read and powerful reminder.... UP++++tweeted & pinned...........

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      Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

      Fortunately I was raised by parents who believe in doing unto others as you would have them do unto you. I have instilled that mindset in my son also. It does my heart proud to see him voluntarily help a friend in need, whether it be to work on a car, help with yard work or simply being a shoulder to lean on. Giving to others, helping others is one of the greatest gifts we humans possess. The gift of giving never runs dry. Hopefully, we've instilled that in our children and they will pass it on and on and on.

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      Jennifer Arnett 3 years ago from California

      It's such a waste of a life to use up space on this planet in self-serving pursuits. We were created to live in community, to pull each other up, and to love one another.

      Leaving a legacy can often be seen as a noble thing, but it too is self-serving. Honestly, when you're dead, you won't know or care what people thought of you. The best humanitarian heroes are the ones who slip silently off of the radar, but leave behind lives that are changed for the better.

      The type of community you speak of does exist. I have seen it. I was helping harvest a friend's vineyard up in Shasta, California and saw it first hand. The area had a huge fire sweep through, creating a drought, and cutting off water to several of the ranches. I met an incredible 8 year old whose father had to back out of grape picking because he was restoring water to his neighbors. This little boy bucked it up and took his father's place, having the a work ethic I have never seen in someone his age. What was incredible, was that he didn't know anyone, but showed up because his father had said he's be there, and he intended to keep his word. All of the harvesters, at the end of the day, met at the grange to feast, like family.

      How you give and love others tells the most about the things you value yourself.

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      Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

      Give me good vibes any day, bill!

      My parents brought me up like that too and we had a great little community in Hurst (the place in my last hub). It's sad that people want a 'reward' for everything they do today. However, I've noticed that when you give hugs and praise to the grandchildren they like that reward much better and it makes them feel valued, wanted and 'all fuzzy-warm inside'!

      I was sitting chatting to my partner yesterday about how awful it must be for those whose homes are ruined down on the Somerset Levels, how slow, unthinking and ignorant the powers that be are to do something to help them. Then I realised that I'd said that so often during the past couple of weeks, so why wasn't I actually doing something to voice the concern, to make the government wake up, to save our valuable countryside, farmlands and wildlife? We said in unison, well let's do something then!

      I immediately put pen to paper (well ok, print to email) and offered my services, primarily writing 'wake up' letters to anyone relevant, or general correspondence, but basically asking how I could help. Why didn't I do that before? I feel guilty now that I didn't. Put my money where my mouth is and all that.

      So once again, you're on the same wavelength, bill - how do you do it?!

      Great hub - I like your friendly way of forcing people to ask themselves the right questions and I hope many reading this will do just that.

      Hope you had a great weekend and great to have you back! Ann

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      kerlund74 3 years ago from Sweden

      Incredible impotant subject here. Just to bad it's needed. But people tend to just care for themselves, more and more. My daughter was mad at me when I passed a beggar without giving her some coins. I realized she is right, ofcourse.... My daughter have a big heart, she stands up on the bus when someone old needs to sit. Not many children do that, I hope she continue as an adult, I think I made some impression as well;) I like the saying "treat others like you want to be treated", like you father said. Always true, we should definitely think about that.

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      kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      I think that when we give we receive even more; it's strange but it's how I feel. I remember that when my younger son was around 10 years old he was frustrated with me because around Christmas time I was baking a lot of Christmas bread that I would give to friends, neighbours or people that helped us for one thing or another. He asked me "why to you give so many?" I don't remember exactly my answer but I tried to explain to him that it was important to be kind and generous. Giving was not just about money, it could be time or things we prepared ourselves. I told him also that when he would not be living at home anymore, he would appreciate to receive one of my special Christmas bread.... and believe me... he does. I reminded him of the story not so long ago :-)

      Helping other can make such a big difference in the life of others. It doesn't take a lot and if we all do a little; the difference will be huge!

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      Rebecca Furtado 3 years ago from Anderson, Indiana

      fortunately the need to be helpful and kind needs to be taught to a large number of children these days. Your sort of rational explanation I think will work.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sweet, breakfastpop. Thanks!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      And Paula, I'm right there with you...proud and hopeful. From small acorns my friend. I can influence some, and they will influence others, and we start a ripple and the ripple grows...that is my hope...that is my belief...and I will keep on doing it until I can't write any longer.

      Thanks Sis! You are appreciated.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Sha and I agree with everything you said. Maybe that's why I like you so much. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Availisvision, thanks for sharing that story. It warms my heart when I hear of such events. Yes, these communities do exist, and I believe they are growing in number, and that gives me great hope.

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      Marvin Parke 3 years ago from Jamaica

      Capitalism runs of selfishness. The resources are scarce. There are a lot of competitors for those resources. The rich will get richer and the poor will get poorer. Charity is the right thing to do but carries a risk in today's society.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann...my friendly way of forcing people??? My goodness, do I have that ability? LOL

      Don't be so hard on yourself. We do what we can, and you eventually realized what all writers should....we have power in the written word, and we can affect change. Bravo to you for doing what you can....and I have no doubt that you will continue to do so. Thank you my friend, and I hope your week is blessed.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well, kerlund, if that was your daughter's reaction then you have done a great job of raising her. Well done and thanks for sharing that.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Joelle, I agree completely. I love the feeling I get when I have helped someone. It is priceless and it keeps me warm at night....your son, I'm sure, knows how lucky he is to have you as his mother.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rebecca, I hope so and yes, it needs to be a part of parenting in every household. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rasta, we are up against some huge obstacles in this capitalistic world...but I have to believe our only chance is to increase our humanity.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Yes, you are so right, dear Bill, this questions should not have to be asked! However, unfortunately, this message seems to need pounding into our heads over and over until maybe all get it! I am glad you get it!

      Your mother sounds lovely. I know I would have loved her and your dad too, of course!

      Thank you for this powerful reminder why we are still on this planet, to love others ... what else is there?

      Up and more and sharing

      Blessings always,

      Faith Reaper

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      Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

      Hi bill, your family definitely had their heads screwed on right as my mum used to say, her family were the same, taking in evacuees in the war, helping each other out in the streets, and passing round lots of clothes etc between the neighbors, they helped then, why not now as you say?

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Thank you, Bill, for another call to the real purpose of life--to love and help one another. Like you, I just have to think back to the memory of some of my ancestors to see help illustrated. As I get older, I see the value of these lessons.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith, in answer to your question....there is no other reason why we are here...we are here to love and help one another....that may sound altruistic but I can live with that label. :)

      hugs coming your way my dear

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nell, I wish I had a definite answer to the question why not now, but I don't. Things have changed and society has lost its way. I'm just trying to wake a few people up to some truths that have no expiration date. :) Thank you Nell and have a great week.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dora, I know you do; that's one reason I consider you a friend.....you have compassion and love. :)

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      Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

      You too bill!

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      manatita44 3 years ago from london

      Our past mothers and grandmothers and the community. What have they left behind? Good vibes!

      Thanks for the encouragement, Bill. Higher thoughts and much peace.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

      When we are taught to give as a child, it never leaves you. My mother was as poor as a church mouse, but she gave. Food to the railroad bums who hopped off in front of our house. She never invited them in but fed them on the front porch. She could never throw any food items in the garbage, she fed the animals. I am just like her. How anyone could pass a homeless man on the street and not give is inconceivable to me. This was another beautiful piece Bill. Loved the line, ' willing humanitarian mode.' Hee

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Nell!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Manatita....peace be with you as well my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, I would have liked your mother very much. We can't give up the fight my friend; humanity is counting on us. :) Thank you for all that you do for others.

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      You, and your mom were so right billy. What gets me today though is most places you can take your extras to sell it in the name of Good Will. Not only that; they are way above yard sale prices. Oh I am sure people find great values at low prices and maybe a collectable now and then but I am talking about I want my stuff to go to the needy, not sold to pay some salaries, which in itself is not a bad thing but still...and even your church wants to sell it...not give it away, for new carpet or something. Sorry billy, I just get so mad at the loop holes that make life never quite as good. Great article.

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      Marlene Bertrand 3 years ago from Northern California, USA

      There is a special kind of "high" that comes from helping people just to help them. I don't understand why more people don't do it.

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      Mary 3 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      I love this one Billy..and the second video moved me to tears..so provocative and emotive this one but touches the heart..beautiful..your mamma was a good mamma for sure..VUUABI & shared, will tweet & pin to get this so important message out to others..thank you..cheers

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      Brian Prickril 3 years ago from Savannah, GA

      I get a lump in my throat anytime I see a stranger help another stranger. Especially when they think no one is watching and the act is done for the pure sake of kindness. Those people are still out there. They haven't disappeared, they're everywhere. The grumpy ogres who don't get it usually just haven't been knocked down enough. They'll come around eventually.

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      Cecile Portilla 3 years ago from West Orange, New Jersey

      Well said billybuc just like all your other great hubs. That first video was inspiring. So happy that I grew up in a christian home with parents who instilled good values in me that I have also tried to instill in my own children. Wish I could do more for others! Be prepared to keep getting comments on this hub for the next two years!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jackie, I have seen the same thing and I agree with you....that's why I won't do that any longer. I just give my stuff away on the street corner. :) Thanks for your thoughts which are right on and valid.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm with you Marlene and I don't understand it either....but I aim to inform as many people as I can of that high. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carter, thank you my friend. I hope all is well with you down under. Any sharing will be greatly appreciated. Let's all do our part to spread the message.

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      sheilamyers 3 years ago

      BRAVO! Like some of the other people said, I live by the teaching of do unto others as you'd have them do unto you. Sure, I could be a pessimist and think maybe no one will give me a hand when I really need it so why help them now. The thing is, I can't think that way.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I've seen it too, Brian, and that is where my hope comes from. Grumpy ogres need not apply...the only people allowed in my clubhouse are givers.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cecileportilla, if I get comments for two years on this one I will be quite satisfied. This is a message that needs to stay alive, as you well know. Help me do that!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sheila, you can't think that way and it is not true. I believe you would be helped...I know I was when I needed people the most....keep being who you are and I'll keep standing in your corner.

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      Nadine May 3 years ago from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa

      I was really glad you read your hub, after I just had received a rather unkind email from my son in New Zealand. He was angry with me that I bothered him with 2 emails asking if he was OK, since the last I heard from him was early January. He just does not reply to my emails or sms. I try to keep in contact with my family who all live far away, and after reading your hub I realized that indeed our community is changing. If I would not have contacted my mother for a week she would wonder what was wrong. I wait for almost 2 month and get my head snapped off because I worried! I have more connection with friends and followers over the internet than I have with my own family. That is truly sad.

      It's a good thing that I'm a really happy person and love my work, my partner and were I live. I'm healthy and always keen to encourage others to be the best they can be, but the boy I remember as my son is no more. He left us for New Zealand when he was 23 and he is now 43. I've seen him twice in those years. I visited him, which took me 6 month to pay off the trip, and he visited us 8 years ago which again took us a year to recover financially from. How sad. Life is very hard for many people these days and I suspect he is unhappy and I'm the nearest he can snap to, I'm only his mother! Oh well I will always be there for him and maybe one day he might remember that. Thank you Billy

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nadine, I am very sorry about your son. I don't hear from mine unless he wants something and he lives two miles away. I simply don't understand it but I have accepted it. That's all I can do to maintain my sanity as a parent. :) We never stop worrying about them, do we? Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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      Victoria Van Ness 3 years ago from Prescott Valley

      Hear hear! It's just giving help to those that want to believe that they can be self-sufficient, but truly need the help, or accepting help when it means accepting that you can't do it yourself, that's difficult.

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Here here Bill! We all have important lessons that our parents and grandparents try to instil into us. We just have to take note. My grandmother on my mother's side was such a generous woman who would welcome anyone into her home and feed them. One young woman moved in with her as a border just after WWII and was still there 40 years later until she passed away. To us Nellie was like part of the family. It is too easy to just think about yourself in today's society. We are often giving our unwanted clothes to charity, and actually ran a charity that made and donated items to cancer sufferers for five years. Anyway you give to others through your hubs and great advice. Well done.

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      Judy Specht 3 years ago from California

      Bill, I just heard about paying it forward for the first time this morning. Then say it again in your hub. The Ann Frank quote is dead on. No pun intended.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Victoria. I think this is vitally important in our society today. We need to band together and help the weakest links or we will all fall. I want to see a grassroots movement where each community supports their own and quits relying on the federal government to do it.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      John, Bravo my friend. I love that you started a charity to give clothes to cancer sufferers. Way to go, buddy. My respect for you just increased exponentially, and it was already quite high. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      tireless, there was a movie by that name....great message....and no pun taken. :) Thank you!

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      Ruchira 3 years ago from United States

      I am with ya, Bill.

      Great thoughts and Amen to them!

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      Randi Benlulu 3 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      A great addition for H.O.W., Bill! Your dad was right. Keep it simple, stupid! Unfortunately, we live in too much of a "what's in it for me?" society. Will share, in hopes that your message will spread! Thank you, Bill!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Ruchira; let's hope it makes a difference.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you for sharing Randi. I don't understand, and never will, the "what's in it for me" group, but I guess it's not important that I understand. All I can do is what I believe to be right.

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      Audrey Hunt 3 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      Your list of fans continues to grow. I'm going to have to get my comments in earlier. :) Ya' know Bill, I am continually surprised at the 'right of entitlement' so many young people have. They appear to have never heard the word 'grateful' or know it's meaning. I'm glad I was raised in such a way that helping others was something we just did. No big deal.

      This hub is just waiting to be read by the people who need it. I'll do my part by sharing all over the place. Society isn't going to get any better unless the word is spread and action is taken. A big thanks to you, my friend. ~ Love, Audrey

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Audrey, it's interesting that you mentioned entitlement. My blog tomorrow is on that, and in particular a teenage girl in New Jersey who is suing her parents.....maybe I have outlived common sense. LOL...thank you dear friend. You are a blessing.

      love,

      bill

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is a useful and very important reminder about the need to help others, Bill. Your hubs for writers are great, but I'm so happy that you are continuing to write H.O.W. hubs.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      lessons learned always makes us want to go ahead and help others it is a great thought.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Alicia! I'm just trying to do my part to help others.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much DDE!

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      Richard Ricky Hale 3 years ago from West Virginia

      Bill, powerful article my friend. You can't truly embrace the situation unless you've walked in those shoes. For myself, being homeless was the bottom. Blessed am I when a complete stranger takes me in and it's the very reason I now own my own business and I'm doing great. If it wasn't for that innocent act of kindness, I wouldn't be here. I'm blessed for finding God. Loved your story with you mom Bill. It is the right thing to do. I note it, when you do great things from the kindness of your heart, good things come back to you. You get what you put in. Powerful words of wisdom my friend. Best wishes always Bill. I don't get around like I use too, it's always great catching up though. Take care Bill.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      lyric, it's always great having you stop by, and I love the fact that you speak from personal experience. Being homeless puts things in perspective real fast, doesn't it? Thank you my friend and blessings to you always.

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      Victor W. Kwok 3 years ago from Hawaii

      We should help because we can. Thanks for sharing this insightful and deep hub, Bill.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      yes we should, vkwok! Right on my friend.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Bill, the feeling of helping others, I feel, does not come to most of us as children. Only when we mature in age, and of course in wisdom by then,because of life's experiences, we learn.

      Parents will always inculcate good values in children but the capacity to absorb in most is not developed.

      Great hub, my friend.

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      carol stanley 3 years ago from Arizona

      We are living in a very entitled society today. There are many people with their hands out..and I do know many of these people really need help. But there are lots of lazies out there not wanting to do anything. And getting to those who have their hands out to help--I still think there needs to be caution here in who we share and give.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Wonderful points made, Rajan, and I thank you for them.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, most definitely, caution is always called for. Thank you for your perspective and I really appreciate you taking the time from your business to comment.

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      Damn straight it's the right thing to do, and that should be a good enough reason. But you also gotta give to get. I hope that student recalls the conversation these two decades later. The little wise cracker was brave to have asked it. I'll never forget how grateful a poor woman was when I offered to pay for spaying & neutering of her 20-25 cats. They were overpopulating her neighborhood and causing a lot of grief. You woulda thought she had won the lottery she was so happy. I sure don't have that kind of money to throw around, but I found a way to do it because she needed it and she was motivated to do her part.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Great example, Flourish. We all have the ability to help others; some are just more motivated than others I guess. Thank you for sharing with us.

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      Denise W Anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I may not be as old as your mother, but I remember the days of receiving handouts for our growing family from those who cared about us and loved us. We vowed that one day, we would be in a position to do the same for others. That day has come. Move over, Mother Teresa!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Denise, I love it! A perfect comment my friend. Thank you!

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      Michael-Milec 3 years ago

      Good evening Bill.

      As naturally you're pouring out your soul helping others since being shown by example, so are most of the human beings. Helping those in need is an art written on the heart of every human being by the Creator. Interestingly enough it's " casting your bread upon the waters " which is after many days- when you need it coming back to you… My memories take me back where the community lived as a huge family, building a house often more people came to help as there was a work for the day…needy accepted help only to return the favor as soon as there was an opportunity for… It could be thought the times are slightly different : our youngest son has unusually generous heart to help even sacrificially,- often being asked "Why are you doing this?"-- There is a message in these words, let's continue in words and deeds to teach present generation the most noble art to do help where the help is needed -- not being turn down.

      Voted up, beautiful and useful.

      Blessed weekend my friend.Good night.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michael my friend, that was beautiful. The community lived as a huge family....yes, I have experienced that to a lesser degree here in the States when I was a teen....the needy accepted help only to return the favor....I remember. Yes, we must teach those who follow us. Very wise my friend.

      blessings today and always

      bill

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      The times we grew up in taught us much about giving and caring, Bill. I love your story. Your mom was so right: it's just the right thing to do. I wasn't always so giving, but my roots resurfaced as I aged to remind me that I am so blessed -- why not bless others as well. Thanks for the reminder. Blessings, dear friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Dianna! There is a certain amount of wisdom that comes with age...and I'm glad I lived long enough to find it. :)

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      Deb Hirt 3 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      As the old saying goes, history always repeats itself. Need I say more? Thanks for opening everyone's eyes, Billy.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I think that says it all, Deb! Thank you!

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