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Why You Lack Confidence!

Updated on August 16, 2020
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Imran is an anthropologist who researches and writes on self-improvement.

Hard to Gain

Simply put, giving information is the process of passing knowledge from one person to another.

When you convince your listeners with your information. Well done, you have shown good confidence.

Convincing is not easy. You have to gain the approval and trust of your target through efforts. It's a grueling task and a test you must pass.

Your confidence becomes the deciding factor. Its absence or inadequacy may cause damage, and even failures.

You lack confidence because while showing it, you multitask. Numerous points run in your mind, namely:

  • Remembering the content
  • Using the right words
  • Matching your tone and body language
  • Not making faults
  • Answering questions
  • Clearing doubts
  • Most imperative of all, Convincing the other party.

The simultaneous conduct of the above actions carries the possibility to break your morale.

Through this article, you will understand the reasons that affect your level of confidence.

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Needs Exposure and Strength

Only with real-life scenarios you grow confident.

Example:
You cannot combat your nervousness if you speak in an empty room with no audience.

Secondly, you have to allow people to analyse and study you. Their judgments, opinions, feedback, ratings, and scores will throw light and communicate clearly about your confidence level.

Sadly, majority of the people are not comfortable with being judged. Under pressure they fumble or make mistakes. At times, their egoes come in between. So, they deliberately stunt their growth when they should not. What they desperately need is exposure.

Thirdly, you must exhibit courage, knowledge, and wisdom while communicating. Thus, it becomes challenging and strenuous to perform confidently.

Note: it is possible that instead of judging people might misjudge. In such a case you have to be strong. If you lose your strength, you will step towards failure.

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12 Reasons to Lack Confidence

  • 1) Lack of interest:

A significant point. Without interest, you will manage poorly. Your attitude won't be positive resulting in an unsatisfactory performance.

Disinterest, along with the absence of internal motivation, gravely affect your confidence level.

  • 2) Poor communication:

Ineffective communication will doom your ability to convince and will cripple your knowledge, experience, and profile. Whether you have to speak good or bad, always use the right words. Besides, keep your verbal and written communication clear and to the point.

  • 3) Inadequate knowledge:

If your knowledge on the subject matter is incomplete, you won't be sure about your concepts. Consequently, you might stutter and not sound confident, increasing suspicions and doubts. It could also put you in a precarious position to answer questions. And, if you fail to clear doubts, your image will go for a toss.
Therefore, to captivate successfully, be well-equipped with complete and accurate information.

  • 4) Your subject matter is bogus and has flaws:

Objectionable matters, weak topics, and poor content already carry a risk of failure. Even if you show immense confidence, that won't be enough as your information is fake and has disadvantages.

  • 5) Inexperience:

Your personality and profile grow powerful with experience. The more inexperienced you are, the less confident you will seem. The best solution is to learn as much as possible as quickly as you can.
An open mind, a good spirit, dexterity, and diligence help in boosting your aplomb.

  • 6) Cold feet:

Fear and anxiety can bitterly weaken your morale no matter how knowledgeable or competent you appear. Your nervousness will multiply if you are pessimistic, and you think excessively.

If you are purely nervous, you might get lucky if you have an understanding listeners who believe you. But you will miss a reward because of the lack of confidence.

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  • 7) Competition:

In competition, you strive to be above your competitors. Because you have to work harder than everybody else, your fortitude and determination need to be very high and intense. Meeting expectations might become challenging, and your confidence might not be sufficient.

  • 8) You are not credible:

The source of information plays a vital role in gaining trust. If people don't trust you, your confidence has no value and is meaningless.
Your past, your work, and your principles reveal the truth about you.
It is, therefore, necessary to be a trustworthy source.
Points below determine your credibility:

  • Your honesty and transparency
  • Being true to your words.
  • Fulfilling your promises and expectations.

Don't lack these if you intend to woo your spectators and listeners.

  • 9) Not in the mood:

If your mind is not in the right frame, you will not attract attention.
The following points affect your mood:

  • A bad day at home/work.
  • Setbacks of personal or professional life.
  • If you are angry, sad, or unhappy.
  • Heavy workload and pressure.
  • Exhaustion.
  • No appreciation from fellows.


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  • 10) Distractions:

You lose focus when you face distractions. Your communication and body language pass hints that your mind is flickering elsewhere.
Following their instincts, people won't consider you reliable.

  • 11) Basic nature

Extroverts are more cheerful, talkative, and compelling than introverts. Shy guys attract little attention as compared to bold and fearless guys.
Your manners, behavior, reactions, and the way you represent yourself carry much significance in revealing your convincing ability.

  • 12) Mundane tasks:

When you do tasks repetitively, you might start to dislike doing them after a while out of boredom. Subsequently, that might affect your caliber and your ability to persuade.
You form a casual and careless attitude.

loss is Yours!

Lack of confidence will complicate even the simplest of matters which you can easily handle otherwise. To not turn into that incapable person, keep in mind the twelve reasons highlighted in the article.

Remember, you lack confidence when you are not ready or prepared, so be capable and apt.

Warning: When you have a casual and reckless attitude, you are unready and unprepared.

Most importantly, avoid presuming. Assumptions and wishful thinking make you unrealistic and presumptuous.
Beware, that's a sign of overconfidence!

© 2019 Imran khan

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