Why Be A Nice Guy? Is It Worth It?
Nice Guys Come Last.
Nice guys come last. That's an old saying but is it true? Yes I think it is. I know that nice guys are admired by many but in the race of life they are usually at the back. Some men are leaders, others are followers this of course applies to women as well. Nice guys make the coffee, they run the errands and help where they can. The problem is that so many people take kindness for weakness, this of course is wrong. Some look down on the nice guy and exploit him, bully him and make his life in their presence a misery. When it comes to the ladies, he might desire a particular girl but she knows him as 'Jimmy' that nice guy from across the street. Jimmy will not tell her how he feels because he knows she sees him just as that nice guy.
The Winner Not Such A Nice Guy.
The winner or natural leader in life, generally sees the nice guy as someone who is useful for the menial tasks. They can be relied upon to perform background support but not to be involved in decision making and managing. Again we see a kind man seen as a weak man. I offer here a line by President J.F.Kennedy ' Do not pray for easy lives, pray to be stronger men ' Very good advice I feel. At the risk of being considered to cynical of life and men. Might I offer a Quote from one of our Hollywood greats, Kirk Douglas ' Virtue is not photogenic. What is it to be a nice guy, to be nothing that's what. A big fat zero with a smile for everybody ' I feel that sums it up really. We just have to be the best we can be to others. We are better to treat people as we would want to be treated ourselves.
There is a verse which I read every day of my life, yes that's every day. It is called ' The Guy In The Glass ' Please take the trouble to read it, you'll be better for it I feel. You will find it here. www.theguyintheglass.com I have found that this verse made me a better person.
© 2014 Graham Lee