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Sticks and Stones May Break Me, Words.

Updated on May 17, 2015
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Words and What They Mean

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Sticks and Stones...

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me"; Lies told to children.

Words are the most powerful tools we as human beings own. People use words to communicate. Words are the catalysis of speech, writing, and reading.

Any person who has read, heard or repeated a quote from wise leaders, such as Buddha, Moses, Chief Seattle, or Mohammed, has become a part of the power of those wise words. As a partaker in these ancient words, many humans have been transended, using words quoted by great leaders.

Their words once published, or spoken, will live as long as the last human is around to cipher them.

Whenever I listen to the wording used during conversation, I tune in to what the speakers are saying. If there is a phrase or grouping of words used; and it is something that does not sit well with me, I cannot help, but put my detective cap on.

We humans are heavily influenced by what language communicates to us, and others. In a period of conversation, when me or loved ones, use the words; die, murder, kill and death more than once in a conversation, I make note that me, or my loved ones are being influenced in a negative way, and bringing possible negative energy into their lives.

Humans are able to discern when there are warning signals, of negative movement or energy bombarding them, but humans have become desensitized, ignoring instinct and that inner voice. Listening instinctually, has become such a low priority, that It has gotten to the point where many two-leggeds would not move out of the way if they were standing on a train track, and felt the rails vibrate. This goes for the torrents of positive and negative words and phrases swirling around them.

There is a newer phrase that has been in use for the last couple of year, that stops me in my tracks, every time I hear it: “Ooh, I love her/him to death”.

I have a friend; "Ray". Raymond's Mother tells him,“I’ll kill you” . She smiles, and laughs, saying it several times throughout each conversation. It makes me cringe after the first half dozen times. Ray's Mother is really is killing him, his dreams and aspirations. She has done this his whole life.

Every good thing, and opportunity he has attempted in his life, has been undone by her manipulation, and meanness disguised as love.

Different Words Leave Lasting Effects

There are different reasons why one speakers’ statement can cause physical or emotional discomfort to others. Oddly, words used by a speaker, can cause the orator themselves emotional, and physical distress.

Two common reasons are familiarity and creative power. Familiarity can come from family relationships, structures, sayings, chants, curses, blessings, love, hate, nurturing, or abuse. Creative power is what all creatures with a voice or imagination have.

Familiarity comes from the root word, familial. Familial has its origin in the word, family. Those who bring us the most happiness and contentment can be the ones who hurt us the most. Strangers, or acquaintances, may use words of love, and adoration, but they have little impact on our emotional state. An acquaintance can use words that cut, but not like words used by a familial person. One of the definitions of the word sarcasm is, gnashing


The Combination of Familial and Creative Words

When we combine, familial and creative words, there are felt- affects of powerful words on generations of families, tribes, villages and individuals. These can be blessed meaning words, or curses.

Humans' ability to create is a physical reality, proven every day. Very few realize the power they hold in thought and speech. “I am lucky”, “I feel lucky”, “good things always happen to me”. We know these people, and they are.

In every group, there are those who insist on being sick, ill. They are the ill-mannered person. “I know I will catch the flu”, “You make me sick”. “You are going to catch your death of cold”. These speakers have a love for everything medical. They are frequently in the doctor’s office for themselves, their children or others.

These types of curses and blessings rule the path before us. Ever heard of a person who has real ailments and they are reeling in pain. They go to the doctor, and after weeks of expensive tests. Even with the wonders of modern medicine, the doctors cannot find the cause of the malady.

The brokenness and sickness are very real. This type of sickness and dying is via homemade curses. Homemade includes familial and creative. The cure…is an undoing of the curses.

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Words Hurt

Leaders Can Cause Blessings or Curses

Leaders, those who have authority, or charge over others, have the power to bless or curse. Mothers, Fathers, Grandparents, priests, pastors, bosses and teachers, have familial and creative ability to affect those under them, in lineage, for a few minutes, or many generations. Words, formed to mold, are powerful. Some speakers, machine-gun-spray words and intention like Chinese throwing stars.

Powerful Patriarchal and Matriarchal figures know to use words. They home in like heat seeking missiles making sure those who come after them will be blessed and powerful. These are aggressive in making sure their prodigy gets first, and the best of everything. Their children and heirs have self-assurance, and begin life with a solid foundation. The kids of the blessing usually do well, and are decent people.

A Leader's Words, More Powerful Than Actions

The words of a Nation's Leader can bring life or death, poverty or prosperity.
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The Person in the Mirror, is the One Whose Words Have the Most Power For You

Mirror, mirror on the wall. The person reflecting back at you is the one with the most power of word. The words spoken by an individual about himself or herself are self-creation words. “I am an idiot, I always mess ________ up”. “I am the luckiest girl in the world, everything always works out for the best, I love you, you are pretty, handsome, smart, courageous, brave, strong, kind, successful, happy, a loving person, a sweetheart”.

Words spoken are the building blocks of who a person is. Thoughts are only thoughts. Like clouds, they come bounding in all shapes, sizes and color, but they are not all rain clouds. Words and intention do make a person. [Do not be sad, we can change the words we use about ourselves, and campaign for a better life.]

No matter what mean or misguided words have broken your bones, given you heart disease, obesity, poverty, solitude, barrenness. Words used against you, can be undone. It starts with you.

Speak only positives about yourself, and those you love. It may take some little time to change the way you talk about yourself, but each time you start to say, “I am… complete it with positive truths.” Get into the habit of speaking well about yourself and all you love. You will notice a positive change.

The very best to you all.

© 2011 Lori J Latimer


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    • LillyGrillzit profile imageAUTHOR

      Lori J Latimer 

      6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas

      marwan what a compliment! Thank you

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      Marwan Asmar 

      6 years ago from Amman, Jordan


    • LillyGrillzit profile imageAUTHOR

      Lori J Latimer 

      7 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas

      Thanks Ms Patty, I think so too. Peace.

    • Patty Inglish, MS profile image

      Patty Inglish MS 

      7 years ago from USA. Member of Asgardia, the first space nation, since October 2016

      Lots of Up ratings for this Hub! - I always thought it easier to be hit than to hear cruel lies and abusive phrases.

    • LillyGrillzit profile imageAUTHOR

      Lori J Latimer 

      7 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas

      tom, thanks for sharing the wisdom! :0)

      gr82bme, thank you for the true words! Peace

    • gr82bme profile image


      7 years ago from USA

      Bones can mend. Hurtful, mean words stay forever

    • tom hellert profile image

      tom hellert 

      7 years ago from home


      A wise fellow said to me "If words did NOT matter then why should we talk?"


    • LillyGrillzit profile imageAUTHOR

      Lori J Latimer 

      7 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas

      Tankadin thank you for the good words!

      Martie, thank you for the nice words and well wishes. :0) Miss you guys!

    • MartieCoetser profile image

      Martie Coetser 

      7 years ago from South Africa

      We can build or break each others with words. Your words always inspire me, Lily. I hope you are well and happy. Take care!

    • Tankadin profile image


      7 years ago

      Great hub with a very important message. Thanks

    • LillyGrillzit profile imageAUTHOR

      Lori J Latimer 

      7 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas

      Susie, 50 Caliber, Judy, Lisa,Tom, AE, thank you for Your good words and read. Hugs

    • always exploring profile image

      Ruby Jean Richert 

      7 years ago from Southern Illinois

      The video brought your hub to life for me. Words can hurt so much. Thank you for this wonderful reminder. You are a blessing my friend.


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      Lisa HW 

      7 years ago from Massachusetts

      Lilly, nicely said. Personally, I could be a little less critical of myself, but I'm used to it and don't take it too seriously (as long as it's coming from me - and not anyone else). LOL A whole lot of people really ought to think a little, though, before they use some words with/on children. :/

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      Christina Lornemark 

      7 years ago from Sweden

      You have done a great job with this hub Lilly! Words are powerful and can get stuck on you if the same message is repeated enough times. I so agree on your description of the ones who insists on being sick, and sadly, I think the number of people feeling and acting like that is increasing. And they must feel terrible inside. Imagine the damage done to create that sort of endless search.

      We would benefit if we just said some positive words to our selves as well as to others.

      I like your wisdom and your view of life. Thanks for sharing and remind me of the importance of words.


    • tom hellert profile image

      tom hellert 

      7 years ago from home


      Great points attitude is half (or more) of the battle-

      if only all of us could find the strength to do something however small.


    • 50 Caliber profile image

      50 Caliber 

      7 years ago from Arizona

      Well done and a great point that holds much truth. Many have a razor tongue and have learned to use it well. The worst are the children falling victim or taking lessons from it, peace 50

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      7 years ago from Michigan

      Lilly - Girl you have a way with words!! I wore a button for a few years attached to my purse that said "Words Hurt", just to remind me (as I was raising my children) that MY words would have a powerful impact on them.

      What a good reminder for all!! Thank you for sharing!!


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