Do you ever sabatoge yourself by creating failure or unneccesary conflict?

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   Anne-Marie Yerksposted 12 years ago

   Do you ever sabatoge yourself by creating failure or unneccesary conflict?
   
   I am writing an article about self-sabatoge for a fitness site and would appreciate any insight you have to offer. Thanks!

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   Mr.NGRposted 12 years ago

   Well pertaing to the site you are writing for, self sabotage is the main reason people fail at dieting. we constantly tell ourselves no to what we are accustomed to (concerning bad foods and exercise) and therefore we want more of what's bad and nothing to do with what's good for us. By doing this we first create a recipe fot unnecessary conflict (internal conflict) and secondly sabotage any chance of success.
   
   Now on the other hand personally I sabotage myself on a consistent basis, just this weekend I did something that my almost could not forgive for. I won't go into details but lets just say I had misspoken to someone that I had no right to be speaking with in the first place, even though my intentions were good it was wrong of me to do. It is a bad habit that has caused me a great deal of loss in my life. What makes it worse is that I know I am doing it yet do nothing to stop it at times. No one likes to be told no, for most of us it makes us want whatever it is or to do whatever that much more. The only way to overcome it is to learn through self discovery how to recognise and deal wih it in an appropriate manner, ultimately to practice self discipline. 
   
   I hope this helps a  little bit and good luck.

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      Anne-Marie Yerksposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks so much for this insightful response, Mr. NGR. I think we all sabotage ourselves to some extent, especially with dieting and exercise. Sometimes I "accidentally" forget my workout clothes when I leave the house. ; )

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      Mr.NGRposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Glad I could be of help and I agree we all sabotage ourselves to some extent. I believe the key is to recognize and attempt to change this behavior. Send me a link to the article when it's done.

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   Not that I am aware of. I think self-sabotage is something that a person is not always conscious of doing to themselves.  So to my knowledge, not I haven't.

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   JimTxMillerposted 12 years ago

   No. Self-defeating behavior is counter productive.

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   Abby Campbellposted 12 years ago

   Self-sabatoge can be eliminated by determining current behaviors and what those behaviors can be replaced with. A "plan" is the key to anything (i.e., vacation, business, etc.). It should also be the key to fitness and nutrition.

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