Am I the only one who has in-depth issues with smokers?

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   Penny Gposted 9 years ago

   Am I the only one who has in-depth issues with smokers?
   
   These are many: throwing cigarette butts down in other peoples yards, throwing them out the windows, littering, stand too close to you while smoking, causing you to breath their smoke, getting your hair and clothes smelly,getting into your car and smelling like smoke, they are allowed to take more breaks than non smokers,they leave a meal at a restaurant to go out and smoke while others are still eating,smoke before you go in delaying the others from ordering, try to light up in your car or home without asking, assuming it's OK?

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   Express10posted 9 years ago

   Of course you are not Penny G.  That's what I really hate, their bad choices can harm and eventually kill others. Now the efforts to legalize marijuana add to the smoking health concern. I don't like being forced to hold my breath when walking into buildings because smokers want to stand at the main entrance instead of being more courteous and staying away from passers by.
   I also hated an apartment neighbor who smoked cigarettes and marijuana which came into my apartment. I raised hell over a two month period and moved ASAP. It's a slow death that harms the health of those around them as well. I get angry when the smoker refuses to be considerate of this FACT.

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      Penny Gposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, it seems they forget we have a right to be smoke free and healthy. I just filed a formal complaint at work for people not following the policy on smoking I filed it a day after it was updated. I demand my rights as a life long non smoker

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      Express10posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Kudos for standing up for your health! Smokers are are getting sued for damaging other people's health and homes in multi-unit condo and apartment communities. Smokers are not a protected class and do not have the right to harm others.

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   Aime Fposted 9 years ago

   Nope, not at all. I try not to judge when they are making an effort to be respectful, but I have no patience for people who smoke in close proximity to others.
   
   I do think it's annoying when smokers leave a social situation to smoke. I recently went out for drinks with 4 coworkers and all of them smoked. I was left alone at our table repeatedly. Totally rude, but I wasn't terribly bothered. I'm more bothered in situations where a smoker forces me to breathe in their fumes. Or when someone sits beside you and just REEKS of cigarette smoke. Blech.

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   tsadjatkoposted 9 years ago

   
   
   In depth issues? Well yeah, you should feel that way, but you haven't mentioned the worst of it.
   What about the fact that they smoke despite the knowledge and warnings THAT IT CAN KILL THEM and those around them.
   How can anyone marry a smoker?  They care so little about their own health, life and death, how could a spouse be secure that they would even care about his/her health let alone their children.
   For the last 50 years no one can say they started smoking not knowing the possible consequences to their health. What does that say about anyone who tries it let alone chooses to smoke in the first place? Do they have a death wish? Are they so insecure that they willingly risk their life just to be cool? Do they have a screw loose?
   And what about the burden they put on society - how much of our tax dollars go right down the drain to pay for the consequences of their smoking? Smoking, willfully choosing to slowly poison yourself to death without regard for the effects it has on your fellow human beings, your family and friends...yes that is the smart thing to do. In depth issues? I'm with you on this Penny G.

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      Penny Gposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I was really impressed by your answer. You are so right. It seems sometimes their rights to impose their bad decision to smoke on others overrides our rights not to. I would not marry a smoker. Period. It would even be a term of dating even.

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      Aime Fposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I think that's a bit harsh. Nicotine is the most addictive drug on the planet and it's readily available. I'm not surprised in the least so many people are addicted. My dad was a smoker and was a wonderful husband and father.

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      tsadjatkoposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I merely said their behavior raises serious questions. So cince your dad wasn't these things you'd marry a smoker without concern for the things I mentioned? That is A LOT naive. Guess you wouldn't think twice about marrying an addict either?

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   peeplesposted 9 years ago

   I'm a smoker and I do none of the things you mentioned. I have three children so I don't smoke in my home or in my car. I don't stand close to non smokers when I do smoke. I always even step away from friends homes when I smoke so that I don't get smoke in their home. I know what I am doing is bad for me, but just like tanning in the sun, I'm going to keep doing it. I don't care if others like it or not, as long as I keep my idiotic addiction to myself it's no issue for any one else. So don't feel bad about how you feel. No one's addictions should affect others.

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      Penny Gposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Unfortunately you are not the majority. Wow, that's surprises me you said I don't care if others like it, I know it's bad for me I'm going to keep doing it. That's like saying to your children, don't care if I cut my life short, or set a bad example.

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      peeplesposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I have a higher chance of dying from driving my car than from smoking, yet we still drive. I could die from cancer caused from the sun, but I still go out in it constantly. I don't say it ugly like. Fast food is bad but should anyone care if I eat it

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      tsadjatkoposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Most people need to drive to participate in society, nobody needs to smoke and to do so hurts yourself and everyone around you. My father smoked and would have lived 20 more years if he didn't. Knowing he killed himself was not consoling to us.

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   M. T. Dremerposted 9 years ago

   I used to have a bigger problem with smokers in the past. But not as much after marrying into a family with smokers. It's very easy to de-humanize someone who smokes. If we think of them as rude and selfish, then it becomes too easy to indiscriminately hate them. But, when you get to know them, you realize they aren't a villain. If anything, I feel sorry for them. They're slaves to the addiction, even when they know it is hurting them. There is a bravado attached to a lot of smokers; they put on a show that no one can tell them what to do or how to live. But I think all smokers secretly wish they could quit. And, the fact that many can't is very sad to me.

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      peeplesposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Agreed, on the part about all smokers wishing they could quit. As a smoker I know that I think about it at least once a day. Even with that, complete strangers shouldn't be telling me how to behave unless it is affecting them in some way.

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