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Gifts for menopausal women

Updated on September 19, 2014

Menopause is proof that God has a sense of humor...

First off, let me introduce myself and don't even think about interrupting; I am a 54 year old woman who is starting into menopause. How the heck did I get so old and still be just starting into menopause, you might ask? Beats me but it's where I am (don't question me).

The idea for this article Gifts for menopausal women came to me because gifts are cheery and what does a woman going through menopause want (beside a good air conditioner)? Gifts! That's right. Remember that. There will be a test later.

I've searched high and low and have identified some really good gifts for menopausal women which you'll find below. Note to readers: you've gotten this far. Don't even consider skipping out now before reading the whole article. I know where you live....

Note: That's me in the picture. I don't look real mean, do I? The proper answer is "No, miss..." Note: never ever say "No ma'am" - that's like calling us "old."

Speaking of old, here's another article I wrote about Good gifts for senior citizens. Reading that article is technically a follow up to Gifts for menopausal women...

menopause / change of life / women health / peri menopause / perimenopause / aging

Update: On 12Dec12, I was way amused to find that someone had bought a set of pots and pens off of this article. All I could think of was 'he's going to be in trouble...'

Update: On 15Dec12, i was even more amused (and a bit chagrined) to find that someone purchased a 10" carving knife from this article. I knew he was going to be in trouble...

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A Cooling Mattress Pad Topper

Although I dearly love sleeping on my thermupedic mattress (and have for the last 7 years), the thing might as well be an oven at night - my hot flashes and night sweats were out of control. Until....

I found and purchased the Cooling Mattress Pad Topper you see there to the right. The thing is a miracle! It wicks the heat right from my body and puts it....where, I don't care where it puts it but I remain cool at night and that's what matters the most to me.

I love it SO much that I started an entire website about it and other products that are great gifts for menopausal women. Come see that cooling mattress pad and a bunch of others at HotFlashMattressPad.com. You won't be sorry.


The best gift EVER for a menopausal woman...

..A portable fan AND air conditioner!

Ok, this is my absolute favorite gift for a woman going through menopause. This portable fan and air conditioner chills the air to 30F and works on electric or batteries so your warm hearted (and heat flashed) loved one can be more comfortable. Hold it in your hand or place on any flat surface for an instant cooling effect. I would keep it by my bed to stave off hot flashes at night.

Small Fan & Mini-Air Conditioner: The Original Handy Cooler in BlueCHECK PRICE

Small desk fans will make a menopausal woman smile... - ...for about a second.

When I worked in an office, I had to have some airflow. These little desk fans work perfectly to soothe those tears or to dry out our armpits.

Ozeri Brezza Oscillating 10" High Velocity Desk Fan
Ozeri Brezza Oscillating 10" High Velocity Desk Fan

I have this cool little fan in my new travel trailer. It blows on me all night. I'm much more comfortable that way!

 

Cooling bandanas will help with hot flashes.

I was introduced to the concept of chilling bandanas when I went to Thailand on business. To those who have never been to Thailand, it's HOT - I mean, really really really hot! I took 2 of these ice bandanas with me and wore them even when I was teaching in front of a class. I got some funny looks but at least I was cool. These are a great gift for a woman going through the change of life.

LIght-hearted gifts for the change of life

Let's face it - menopause is no joke but that doesn't mean that we still can't have some fun with the change of life situation. These two gifts would certainly lighten my load.

Deluxe Menopause Gift Basket for WomenCHECK PRICE

Menopause - the Musical (really???!)CHECK PRICE

Menopause for Dummies - Really? Menopause for Dummies!

Ok, it's fairly obvious that this book was probably written by a (stupid) man. I know this because only a(n) (idiotic) man would call menopausal women dummies....

Menopause For Dummies
Menopause For Dummies

Eh, glancing through the book does show it hasa a bit of merit (must have been women editors). It has some good information about osteoporosis, strokes and other health issues for those of us facing menopause.

 

Cool down a menopausal friend with cooling nightwear!

Now, why the heck didn't I think of this?! "Wicking" nightwear wicks sweat away from the skin, much like athletic wear does for athletes. I love these nightshirts and am guessing that any woman suffering hot flashes will love them too.

Hot flashes at night? No more with the use of the Chillow Comfort Device

Menopause doesn't have to interrupt sleep.

Place the Chillow on top of our underneath your pillowcase and you'll sleep like a baby. It holds its cool all night - actually, reviewers noted that the area where you're sleeping looses its cool after a bit but they just move over a few inches and the rest of the pillow is still cool. Regardless, this sounds like the perfect gift for a menopausal woman - pregnant women loved it too to relive hot flashes.

Prevent hot flashes with the Chillow pillow deviceCHECK PRICE

Moisture Wicking Sheets

Let's face it - these moisture wicking sheets are expensive but, darnit, I'm worth it! I love the idea that these sheets, coupled with my moisture wicking nightshirt will keep me more comfortable at night. Night sweats are no fun and I'll try anything to sleep more comfortably. In fact, I'm picking up two sets so that, when I have to strip the bed at 2 am, I'll have a fresh set to put on....

Also, I looked at the reviews. I'm still going to try them but here's a quick synopsis:

10 reviews gave these sheets a 4 or 5 out of 5 star rating. The best thing from the reviews was that these sheets do, indeed, seem to keep people cooler and they also are very very soft.

6 reviewers gave them a 1 or 2 out of 5 star rating - the main complain was pilling of the sheet fabric after washing.

Cool Sensations Moisture Wicking Sheet Set, Queen
Cool Sensations Moisture Wicking Sheet Set, Queen

Note: the product information that comes with these cooling sheets says NOT to use fabric softener as it disrupts the moisture wicking properties. So, wash gently...

 

Common symptoms of menopause

Some of the below are simply my experiences (so take those as you wish) and others are actually researched and seem to happen to most women sometime along the way.

My Mom had me when she was 42; she never went through menopause. She claimed that I shook her straight....

  1. Memory loss is a real symptom of menopause. My short term memory was really going downhill when I turned 50. I was thinking "uh oh, I've got a real problem here." And, since I was taking care of my elderly Mom, I needed to be on top of my game. I saw the doctor - yep, he confirmed it. A lot of women suffer short term memory loss during menopause. Now, I've been doing some thinking on this; perhaps it's God's way of allowing us to forget all the hurtful things said about us by those not going through menopause....See #3 below.
  2. Hot flashes are the trademark of menopause. I'll be in bed (night sweats are documented later) and will throw the cover off with what John's says is "real abandon." The next minute, I'll be grabbing all of the covers and piling them on top of me. These maneuvers really throw my littlest dog, Gizmo for a loop - literally. She's only 9 lbs and she tends to sleep on top of the covers. As I grab said blankets, she might very well go rolling off.
  3. Hatred; pure unadulterated hatred. Of everything. Of everyone. Mood swings are probably the roughest part of menopause for me. I'll be laughing and having a jolly old time and then forget what I was laughing at (see #1 above) and think everyone is laughing at me! Then I get mad. I don't like being laughed at...
  4. Night sweats. Oh joy. You might wake up in a pool of water - don't worry, you didn't pee yourself - yet. Give that a few years.
  5. Loss of libido. This one if just God being mean if you ask me. After all, look at all the irony - I spent all my life making sure I didn't breed and now, when I can't, I don't even want to try. Sucks.
  6. Unexplained weight gain. Yep, everything settles - everything. This means that, if it can droop, it will, including your belly. The fact that you might be overcompensating your menopause misery with a chocolate fudge ice cream a few times a week has nothing to do with it.

    Gentlemen, when she asks if these pants make her butt look big, your only response is "are you losing weight?!"

Your chance to have your say

I'm so nice right now that I've even hit the little button that lets you tell me what you think in a comment. Now, don't get all up in that - I have the ability to delete your comment...

Menopause is just a normal part of life. Live it, cherish it, remember it.

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Black Cohosh - Herbal supplement to help with menopause symptoms

I've been a Data Manager for Clinical Trials for the past 25 years so I know all about "natural" herbs and supplements - what I know about them the most is that they don't have to pass through FDA testing so there is no proof that the things work. But, if you're looking for something to take besides hormones (like I am - I'm against hormone replacement therapy - HRT), Black Cohosh might be your new best friend.

Black Cohosh was one of only two natural herbs that was judged to help meopause symptoms when run through some informal tests through the Good Housekeeping Institute.

Now, I just started to take this stuff this week so the jury is out as to whether or not it really works. I will say this - I seem to have fewer hot flashes at night. I don't seem to notice a change in my sleep pattern though.

AND the Black Cohosh on Amazon.com was a whole lot cheaper than buying it at my local health food store.

Nature's Bounty Natural Whole Herb Black Cohosh 540mg, 100 Capsules   (Pack of 2)
Nature's Bounty Natural Whole Herb Black Cohosh 540mg, 100 Capsules (Pack of 2)

This stuff is made up of a bunch of herbs. Now, I'm not a huge believer in all natural cures, but I also don't want to start in on hormones if I have to.

You get two bottles of the stuff when you order this product. Claims are that black cohash helps with PMS, stress, or menopause. I can tell you this - I was stressed over how to figure out to get the capsules out of the bottle.

 

Let's cut to the chase - here's some good articles about menopause

When I started into menopause (called, "perimenopause", btw), I started exploring the natural herbs and remedies to fight menopause symptoms - I just didn't like the idea of taking hormones. What I found was that there's quite a group of crappy menopause "cures" in the health food store. Why waste money? Anyway, during my quest for information about how my body was revolting against itself, I found these helpful links.

Tweezers you say? Why would tweezers be spotlighted in an article about gifts for menopausal women?

BECAUSE WE NEED THEM, THAT'S WHY!

It's a little secret among women but chin hairs are not for men any more. A dark haired beauty could, perhaps, be battling chin hairs from the early 20s but, with the bye-bye of estrogen in menopausal women, chin hairs sprout. A good set of tweezers is out best friend. And, while you're at it, get us a magnifying mirror as our eyesight is starting to go just as we need it the most.

Tweezerman Stainless Steel Slant Tweezer, Midnight Sky

Every once in a while, he runs for the hills. But, he always comes back.

Every once in a while, he runs for the hills. But, he always comes back.
Every once in a while, he runs for the hills. But, he always comes back.

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      Evelyn Saenz 3 years ago from Royalton

      I wish someone had told me that it could take years to get through menopause. So glad to be beyond it now. I never knew life could be so wonderful.

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      Meganhere 4 years ago

      Great lens. Dare I say 'fun'? I'm fast approaching so I've bookmarked this lens.

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      Lorelei Cohen 5 years ago from Canada

      My illness sent me through menopause early (kind of a good thing) but I can remember wanting to strip out of my skin I would get so hot. The one day I was so hot that I walked right into a doctor's office and said, " This is insane. Cool me off!"

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      Onemargaret LM 5 years ago

      I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how you must have felt. My mom is 84 and I dread the day when I will lose her. God bless you and yours!

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      Onemargaret LM 5 years ago

      I hate to say it, but I am one of those menopausal women. Those hot flashes are no joke! Great lens. Happy 4th of July!

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      AgingIntoDisabi 5 years ago

      Some great recommendations - menopause is an ordeal.

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      Joan Haines 5 years ago

      You have not only elucidated the topic of menopause with hilarity, but you've managed to recommend some helpful things that just may really actually help. I'm right behind you with all this menopause weirdness. What I really want to know is when do all the symptoms end? "Squid Angel blessed."

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      Terrie_Schultz 5 years ago

      I'm 55 and just starting to get symptoms. Those cooling mattress pads are looking good.

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      AlleyCatLane 5 years ago

      Been there, done that, thank God I am past it! Hope yours doesn't last as long as mine did.

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      gottaloveit2 5 years ago

      @Virginia Allain: I knew before I even dialed up this squidoo article that this was your comment. Off to add those fans NOW!

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      Virginia Allain 5 years ago from Central Florida

      Also I recommend those pretty folding fans (Japanese style or lacy ones or paper ones). They fit easily into your purse and can be pulled out to furiously fan your face while in a meeting or lecture.

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      grannysage 5 years ago

      Well I went from severe PMS, the type that can get you off death row if you kill someone to chemically induced menopause. Hot flashes are not funny! (I used to think they were when they happened to someone else). Go ahead, vent your rage.

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      Bobski606 5 years ago

      Fantastic lens! Just like tokyonights 7 I haven't reached there yet but suffer from stupidly painful cramps and terrible PMS.

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      Bobski606 5 years ago

      Fantastic lens! Just like tokyonights 7 I haven't reached there yet but suffer from stupidly painful cramps and terrible PMS.

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      bossypants 5 years ago from America's Dairyland

      This lens is proof that among the best of women, menopause also causes an increase in humor.

      Please don't hate me, but I offer hope from the other side. It will get better. The memory loss was horrible for me. (I'm professional development trainer and I couldn't find words!) Fortunately, it (along with the other crap) was temporary. Among my greatest joys is feeling smug in the feminine products aisle. I'm savoring it, since tampons are usually just up the shelf from incontinence supplies and I'm sure I'll be filling my cart there again, all too soon.

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      Heather B 5 years ago

      I'm thanking my lucky stars I haven't reached that stage yet. For now, killer menstrual cycles are enough for me!

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      Frischy 5 years ago from Kentucky, USA

      I really enjoyed this lens. I am right there with you. My doctor recommended melatonin and it is making a huge difference. I haven't tried the black cohosh. I can tell a huge difference with the melatonin. I also got a window a/c for my bedroom & between these two things I now sleep like a baby. It has helped my mood. I don't think it has helped my memory & I'm just starting the hot flashes. I think if I just sit in a chair & don't move, but just sip cold drinks, I might be able to stave off the hot flashes for the most part. Do you think anyone would mind?

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      Peggy Hazelwood 5 years ago from Desert Southwest, U.S.A.

      You hit all the nails on the heads here. I am sick of this stuff. The black cohosh works great for me. I've found sometimes when my internal furnace keeps revving up, I take two does a day and that helps a lot. One dose about an hour before bedtime helps me sleep much better. Good luck, Lori!