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how much are you worth

Updated on April 26, 2010

How do you see yourself?

One of the biggest struggles people have is to do with self esteem, or self worth. I have not met too many people who don't struggle with this issue at some point in their lifetime. Every one of us has a skewed view of themselves. No-one can have an anbsolutely perfect self esteem, but it is possible to have a really healthy one. If you read on, I have a clue for you, that will be a great way to help heal you if you are "suffering".

Do you suffer from low self esteem? Are you mostly OK, but really touchy, or insecure, in some areas? You are not alone. So many people go through life wounded. Emotionally scarred. Defeated. Bad attitudes. These can all manifest themselves in many ways, including addictions. Now I don't limit addictions to just substance abuse. It can be such things as negativity, anger, depression, obesity, fear etc. You may not even make the connection between them.

Origins of self esteem

We all develop a value system for our lives as we grow up. It comes from many sources like parents, siblings, environment, teachers, friends, bosses, work collegues etc. The list is almost endless. It seems that we draw perspectives and conclusions from these sources that are built up in stages untill an effective "image" is attained within our deepest souls. This self image, is then implemented as a filter, through which we examine everything in our daily life, and respond accordingly.

If you have a good, strong self esteem, you will not fall apart if someone criticises you for any reason. Alternatively, if you have a low, or unhealthy self worth, you will dismiss a compliment, no matter how genuinely it was intended, or given. I remember my wife, for years, could not accept compliments I gave her. She'd shrug it off as patronising or flattery (both perceived negatively). It was so hard for her to just accept it, and say "thank you." It is not a problem today, but this didn't happen overnight. You see, she never got that growing up. She was always told how she did this wrong, or that wrong. The words "I love you" were absent in the family. Positive affirmations were foreign concepts to her.

Now, I don't pick on her, pretending I was all together myself. I was weak in other areas. I had a reasonable amount of affirmation growing up, but I felt more intimidated by others abilities. Whenever someone did things better than what I could do, I felt a failure, or inferior. It has taken years to figure this out, and be confident enough to change. But change is possible. It is also known as "growing" as a person. We all want to grow, don't we? Trouble is, many of us don't know how, or are not willing to do the (hard) work. It takes effort to undo, or should I say RE-do all those years worth of wrong image building.

But just as it took many, many small situations to put together the composite we now live with, it will take many steps to replace those image components. It's a bit like removing one brick at a time, and replacing it with another, untill the whole wall is made up of new bricks. Now, don't blame anyone for your current inner image. Yes others had a part to play. Yes they may have hurt you. Yes they may have done terrible wrong. But, it was, and is still, your response to these that made you what you are, and what you will be.

The foundation must be good.

 For any new house to stand the weathering, it has to have a good foundation. Many will have heard of the parable Jesus taught on this very topic. The house I am referring to is the NEW self image you will build of yourself. It is NOT Mission, Impossible. It is Mission POSSIBLE. BUT th foundatio must be strong. What is that foundation? It is a core belief you must hold FIRST. I say first, because if you try to build without this being established, you will spend a lot of time and energy, only to lose ground when adversity comes. So, what is this foundation?

It is the REAL value that you have. Do you remember the great Westerns of old? Often they would have a poster with a price on ones head. "WANTED. Dead or Alive" and then a sum of money. In effect, that's what these people were "worth". That's the value society, or the justice system, placed on these individuals. So what price would your "head" fetch? That depends on who's wanting you, and how badly they want you.

You know what I found out in life?  An item for sale is not worth what the seller thinks it is, but what the buyer is willing to pay. In this instance, you are the item, and who is the buyer? Society is. They determine what you are worth. But are you worth more? I believe you are, and so am I. I found out ages ago what my real wroth is, and it may surprise you to know what it is. Society is not usually willing to pay very much for you or me, but God is. He, as the buyer, knows exactly what you are worth to Him, and it is nothing short of IMMESURABLE.

The Bible tells me that I have been "bought (redeemed) with a PRICE". 1 Peter 1;18-19 tells me what that price is. It is the "Blood of Jesus Christ". The life of the etrenal Son, was shed for the "mortal" or lost son. God could have used silver and gold, but we are worth much more to Him that that.If you have trouble believing that, remember the parable of the pearl fo great price, or the treasure found in the field. In both cases the merchant (a picture of God) sold all that he had, in order to "redeem" the treasure/pearl.

Friend, if God puts that value on my (head) life, who am I to de-value myself? Who are you to de-value yourself? At this point I could go on and on about the Gospel message, but I want you to absorb just this one point. It will revolutionise your life. This foundation will be so strong in your life that you can confidently build on it, with full assurance that what you build will not fall down. Nor will it be torn down by anyone.

How to build

It may take some time to come to gripswith the implications of the above truth. For some it will be a concept that blows your mind (at first). I suggest you take it in, accept it, and "own" it. By that I mean, make it a part of who you are. If ever you are challenged about your self worth, just remind yourself that youe are worth "the blood of Jesus". In other words, you are worth as much as Jesus is worth to God. That was the price He paid FOR you. I hope you are getting this.

The next step(s) from here are incremental. By that I mean, you can start to pinpoint areas of weakness in your self image,and proceed to discover what God has to say about it (about you). Then take what He says, and replace what "they" said with what HE says. I highly recommend that you find every scripture that states in one way or another "who, or what you are IN Chris Jesus". It is easy to look these up if you have a software version of the Bible. Or you can go to a website that has the Bible available, with searchable features. Just type in the words "in Christ" or "in Jesus" or "in Him". If you have never done this, it will blow your mind.

Just one example is, if you feel you have an "I can't do..." attitude, you would find where the Bible says that "I (you) can do ALL things through Christ Jesus Who strengthens me" Phil.4;13

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    • The Demon Writer profile image

      The Demon Writer 

      9 years ago from The Real World.

      I decided to check this out and I'm glad I did. My self esteem isn't so bad these days but I do still feel a paranoid a bit about what others think of me and I feel at times like I am being constantly judged and talked about. With the amazing friends and family I have now though that is slowly changing.

      Thank you for this. I got a lot out of it.

    • LeslieAdrienne profile image

      Leslie A. Shields 

      9 years ago from Georgia

      Absolutely loving this hub...The truth will make you free.

      Thanks Aka

    • Lady_E profile image


      9 years ago from London, UK

      A solid foundation is extremely important, otherwise there'd be a lot of instability.

      A very thought provoking Hub. Thanks.

    • profile image


      10 years ago

      Thanks for the reminder of how we can help ourselves feel better by living what was taught to us through the Bible. I sometimes forget those things I learned as a child. I appreciate your hub and the efforts to help those who need it...I know I often do.

    • Eileen Hughes profile image

      Eileen Hughes 

      10 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      Great hub. Actully I think it is all about confidence, I had none at all as a kid (like a walflower) I used to listen and not speak, thinking I didnt have anything interesting to say.

      But then I went the opposite got courage and saying what I thought. That was wrong too as you can hurt people that way but at the same time I covered how I was hurting.

      Now as anold lady I do a bit of both I am me, and try to always be honest with people If something looks wrong I will say I think the other dress looks the best or blue suits you better. I do not say thats great if it isnt. To me its better to say nothing. Anyway what you say I think it also comes from our childhood and lack of confidence.

    • RevLady profile image


      10 years ago from Lantana, Florida

      How much am I worth? I am worth the price Jesus Christ paid going to the cross in my stead. I am everything in Christ Jesus from whom I my self-image and self-esteem is derived.

      The Christian self-esteem in intrinsically connected with God through Jesus Christ. Jesus thought of man as a being of infinite value and worth. We are God's children. We feel good about ourselves because God feels good about His creature. We know we are valuable because of the high price God paid by sending His only Son to Calvary to redeem our souls.

      We attain our self-image, esteem and so forth through our maintaining a right relationship with God. How we feel about ourselves is not dependent on the the world's standard that facilitates self-centered-ness and haughty spirits.

      We are what we are in Christ Jesus our Lord and rejoice in it. All glory to God!

      Forever His,

    • aka-dj profile imageAUTHOR


      10 years ago from Australia

      Thanx guys. Appreciate the comments.

    • heart4theword profile image


      10 years ago from hub

      Yes the area of self-esteem, that is a hard one. Some grow up with a low self image because, of programming...beyond their control.

      Your right, accepting God's love and forgiveness, helps tremendously with our self-esteem:) Another Great Hub! DJ

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      10 years ago

      I see so many hurting people, who have no idea of their worth - and so many of these people are Christian people. How is it that the enemy can still keep a child of God down? I think for many it is truly the foundational piece. I know that after being saved, I still did not understand who Jesus was totally in my life. It took mentoring and discipling and much time in His word for me to get it. The foundation is vital - to know in whom I believe and to be persuaded that He is able...


    • Judah's Daughter profile image

      Judah's Daughter 

      10 years ago from Roseville, CA

      So often people think of "love your neighbor" and forget "as yourself". So often I've heard psychologists accuse or label someone as narcissistic if he/she takes "too good of care" of oneself. For someone who wishes to eat right, exercise, and get rid of unhealthy habits the "voice" inside might accuse such a thing; for it takes a lot of discipline and dedication to do these things. It's truly not a spirit of "religion", but the motive to be healthy. The world does put a lot of value upon a person's appearance and abilities, so I suppose we need to make sure our motives are right before God.

      I often wondered why I didn't remember many affirming words of my parents while growing up. I was told, "we didn't want you get a big head". Sometimes people are reserved to give compliments or affirming words for this reason. There truly is a balance. Dr. Stanley taught on humility and said that true humility is accepting the truth about oneself (good and not-so-good), while pride can go two ways: to think of oneself higher than the truth or to think of oneself lower than the truth (reverse pride). For instance, someone who purposely takes on the martyr mentality or self-abasement to feel better about themselves suffers from reverse pride.

      Thank you for this hub. The Lord is dealing with me on these issues even now. Very timely ~ God bless you!!

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      10 years ago

      Life has a way of beating up on people, it starts at an early age in school and far to often in the home. Children are so susceptible to wounded self esteem. Tell a child often enough they are stupid, fat or ugly and guess what they become what they are called.

      Advertising we see on TV and magazines are a huge culprit as well as the media, they affect people and their self esteem in a negative way as well.

      Can we change, of course we can but first we need to love ourselves just as we are.



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