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The Art of Asking: or, How to Ask and Get What You Want

Updated on May 22, 2020
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Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink, or use drugs when stressed; I write.

We are all aware of what it is like to feel resentful, angry, and even have powerful feelings of hate towards someone. Have you ever experienced the feeling of resentment toward someone or something in life? Maybe it’s a co-worker who’s always over-stepped your boundaries or your boss who have unreasonable expectations of you.

Perhaps it’s your mate who seems oblivious to your efforts at home. Forgiving someone and ‘caught off-guard’ moments may be hard. But by holding resentment towards another person, you are shifting the blame onto someone else that you should face up to. Whatever the case, feelings of anger, overwhelm, and frustration is usually the symptoms of a lack of control in life.

These feelings you are holding may only last a short time, or you may have been carrying these feelings for years. So, if you have combatted by any of those emotions, chances are you aren’t asking enough of those around you or are asking ineffectually. If you are wondering what does it take to ask for what you want — and then get it?

Indeed, you can’t always get what you want in life, but you won’t get it if you don’t ask. Some people are better than others at asking for what they want. A person who focuses on what he/she wants in life, rather than questioning whether worthy to receive will know how to ask for what they want.

There is a magical art behind the art of asking how to ask and have anything you want. There are many impressive stories of people who seem to obtain exactly what they want whenever they ask because they know the art of asking. Some Magicians can influence and will the world to their ways. Ever wondered what they do that you or others seem to do differently and how they ask for what they want and take it every time?

One thing they do differently is, they are specific about what they want, how someone can assist them, and get it. Whereas, instead of us specifying what we want, articulating our message, we hem and haw about ideas, walking away from great conversations and don’t verbalize what we hope to achieve, and cannot share how the other person can directly help us.

Asking for something can make you feel vulnerable, and that can be very scary. To get what you want requires to request it. Learning to ask for what you want means you must be clear in asking because the way you ask will influence the outcome of whether you get what you want.

If you want to discover the art of asking and get what you want there are two skills you must manage to build which is the creating a great ‘ask’ and gaining the ability to say no. These two skills are abilities tat successful people learn how to do really well. When you know how to ask well, you can get what you want more promptly — saving you time and energy. The saying goes: if you don't ask, you don't get! Here are three tips on how to liven up your confidence and make you feel empowered to ask for what you want.

1. First, knowing the right time: knowing the right time is the secret to making sure your request will be heard. The importance of knowing the right time is the clarity that creates an essential ingredient to get what you want.

2. Then, know what you want. Often it’s not always clear to people what they want or what it is, exactly, that they are in need of. Take the time to achieve clarity and learn, figure out or discover what exactly you want.

3. Be confident and ASK for what you want. It may sound fabricated to write this, but some people do not know how to ask for what they want. They talk in circles about their idea, hedge, and hum about a faint aspect of their idea—and they speak as if people should be able to figure out what it is they want and help them solve their problem.

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