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The Art of Asking: or, How to Ask and Get What You Want

Updated on June 29, 2017
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Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink or use drugs when stress, I write.

We are all aware what it is like to feel resentful, angry and even have strong feelings of hate towards someone. Have you ever experienced the feeling of resentment toward someone or something in life, maybe it’s a co-worker who’s always over-stepped your boundaries or your boss who has unreasonable expectations of you,

Perhaps it’s your mate who seems oblivious to your efforts at home. Forgiving for all these 'caught off-guard' moments may be hard. But by holding resentment towards other people, you are shifting the blame onto someone else that you should face up to. Whatever the case, feelings of resentment, overwhelm, and frustration is usually the symptoms of a lack of requests.

These feelings you are holding may only last a short time, or you may have been carrying these feelings for years. So, if you have found yourself fighting with any of those emotions, chances are you aren’t effectively asking enough of those around you or are asking ineffectually. If you are wondering what does it take to ask for what you want —and then get it?

There is a magical art behind the art of asking, how to ask and get what you want. There are many great stories of people who seem to get exactly what they want, whenever they ask because they know the art of asking. Some Magicians can influence and will the world to their ways. Ever wondered what they are doing that you or others seem to be doing differently and how they ask for what they want and get it every time?

There is a magical art behind the art of asking, how to ask and get what you want. There are many great stories of people who seem to get exactly what they want whenever they ask because they know the art of asking. Some Magicians can influence and will the world to their ways. Ever wondered what they are doing that you or others seem to be doing differently and how they ask for what they want and get it every time?

One thing they do differently is, they are specific about what they want, how someone can assist them and get it. Whereas, instead of us specifying what we want, articulating our message, we hem and haw about ideas, walking away from great conversations and don't verbalize what we hope to achieve, and fail to share how the other person can directly help us.

If you want to discover the art of asking and get what you want there are two skills you must manage to build which is the creating a great ‘ask’ and gaining the ability to say no. These two skills are abilities tat successful people learn how to do really well. When you know how to ask well, you can get what you want more promptly — saving you time and energy. The saying goes: if you don't ask, you don't get! Here are three tips on how to liven up your confidence and make you feel empowered to ask for what you want.

1. First, knowing the right time: knowing the right time is the secret to making sure your request will be heard. The importance of knowing the right time is the clarity that creates an essential ingredient to get what you want.

2. Then, know what you want. Often it’s not always clear to people what they want or what it is, exactly, that they are in need of. Take the time to achieve clarity and learn, figure out or discover what exactly you want.

3. Be confident and ASK for what you want. It may sound fabricated to write this, but some people do not know how to ask for what they want. They talk in circles about their idea, hedge, and hum about a faint aspect of their idea—and they speak as if people should be able to figure out what it is they want and help them solve their problem.

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