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Learning to Love Yourself: Finding Your Self-Worth!

Updated on June 30, 2018
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Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink or use drugs when stress, I write.

Loving myself has not always been something I put as a priority because I find myself putting others over myself. In fact, loving myself is something I need to be educated on, but as a human being who desires to make herself an advantage over others, I begin searching for the real role of education in the purpose of this true self — self-love as my self-worth is on the line. How I learn to love myself, I’m sure is different from how some learn, but what is essential I learn. Learning to love yourself takes a lot of dedication, and the obligation doesn't stop once you learn you will need to nourish your self-love every day if you want it to remain with you. Most importantly, you will need to find the best way to cultivate your self-love, but for self-love, beginners read on.

Anyone who knew me recognizes that loving myself has not always been something I know how to do, in actuality, I was finding ways to sabotage myself and to tell the truth if I had written this article a couple of years ago, I would have shared that I knew nothing about self-love. The reason I say I knew nothing about self-love because I felt putting myself first over another was selfish, and all my focus was on others. But then one day I was having a conversation with a friend at this restaurant for lunch as we sit and wait for the waitress to bring us our food when this tall, loving, handsome guy with a smile that lights up the room walks over to the table and introduce himself to me. I didn’t know that then, but that was the beginning stage for me to be a vast “Love Yourself"! Person.

It was easy for me to see and fixate on the things I didn't like about myself, and to find self-love because I connected with a guy who is understanding and seems as if He been educated to love me the same way I learn how to love myself. The guy whose big, bright smile lightens the room, turn my head and stole my heart help me learn the essential things in life — is to “Love Yourself!” and it is just as easy as loving another person. Although I must admit I sat there and stared at him for a few minutes with butterflies in the mid of my stomach and a fuzzy warm feeling around my heart, and I knew then I loved him upon him introducing himself to me. I was completely lost how to love at that moment because I had given up on love, but He refuses to give up on “LOVE” or me.

The truth is it was hard to believe what was happening to me. After all, the way my life was going with mostly bad things coming my way, I didn't know how to rest my care upon Him and to love myself. But as we begin to date, he saw all the beautiful things about me, and suddenly, it hits me if I want to “Love Myself,” I have to get in touch with who I am and learn how to love myself. I realize then I truly do love myself and this wonderful guy. He has torn down all my walls, and my hidden layers of protection were removed, and we found “LOVE” like none I would have ever imagined.

It wasn’t until I began dating the love of my life that I learn although he loved me no one is ever going to love me more than I love myself. Moreover, the essential thing I learned from this good-looking man is he made me love myself more. If you are waiting for someone to love you when you don't know how to love yourself, you are wasting your time. There is a lot of love to be shared in this world, therefore, make sure to remember always to love God, love your life, love another person, and most of all, love yourself.

I learned the importance of loving myself as I connect and date the love of my life. After finding love with Him, he offered to me what is related to the Chinese proverb, give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime because he knew the people I considered as friends were taking advantage of me because I put them first over myself. However, He encouraged me and provided a love of a lifetime by helping to give me self-reliance and to ensure discipline, and then He placed the obligation entirely on me to put a stop to them and learn to love my self. Also, he did share with me the beauty he sees in my loving heart and what an excellent quality it was, and from that conversation, I knew I needed to raise the bar and my opinion of yourself. That very day I truly understood the meaning of the song the beautiful late Legacy, Ms. Whitney Houston, echoed in a song, “The Greatest Love of All.” You can love yourself and share it with all when you learn to love yourself; it is the greatest love of all.

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    • Robsthe1 profile image

      Robert Walker 

      15 months ago from Atlanta, GA.

      I always enjoy your articles Pam and... DITTO!! ;-)

    • Pam Morris profile imageAUTHOR

      Pam Morris 

      15 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Hi, Robert, long time since I heard from you. Good to hear from you. I especially love hearing Yes! I love myself and you, Robert Thank you for stopping by.

    • Robsthe1 profile image

      Robert Walker 

      15 months ago from Atlanta, GA.

      Yes Pam, Yes!!!

    • Pam Morris profile imageAUTHOR

      Pam Morris 

      15 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Thank you so much, Shyron, for your reply. I am happy to know you love yourself and you are your best friend. It may sound strange, but many do not know how to love themselves. It is important to love yourself before you can love someone else.

    • Shyron E Shenko profile image

      Shyron E Shenko 

      15 months ago from Texas

      Pam, interesting article and yes, I do love myself. I am my best friend.

      Blessings my friend


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