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Learning to Love Yourself: Finding Your self-Worth!

Updated on May 4, 2018
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Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink or use drugs when stress, I write.

There are times in everybody life when they must love themselves enough to let go of the people or anything that is depleting them their identity, and self-worth. Thus we can move on to a place where we can raise our value to find our worth and love ourselves. I am sure most of us have heard the saying, 'you must learn to love yourself before you can love another.' The question is, did it resonate with you? I must admit it did not register with me at first, but when the depth of those words suddenly hit me, I learn to love myself.

But for most of my life, I've been confusing the idea of loving myself with something that's difficult. Although self-love is something I have struggled with I am sure I am not alone. And even though, I fought to love myself, I learn it was my understanding of self-love. Moreover, to be honest, here, there are still things about myself I am still learning to love myself genuinely. Self-love doesn’t happen overnight; it is a long journey to discovery. For starters, self-love requires different steps and several approaches to reach the destination, and it takes everyone different amount of time to reach the ending point.

If I am to learn to love myself truly, I must be precise about self-exploring a soul effort journey. And on this journey, I will come across many aspects and traits about myself that will be difficult – some will be confusing if not wholly discouraging – to accept. We all are born whole and complete, but slowly as we mature some of us devote too much time trying to discover 'Who We Are,' and it turns into our “Shadow Self.” The “Shadow Self” is a frightening thought that consisting not just of little weaknesses- but turns into a split state that has overpowered the person through dark desires and ends up manifesting into inner 'Monsters.'

The most significant struggle in life is many of us were raised by parents who were victims themselves, but the good news is regardless of all of our faults and imperfections we can still learn to fall in love again..with ourselves. And we can embrace, and accept the roller coaster journey that leads to how fabulous we can be, how much we can love ourselves, what we can accomplish, and ensure we know our self-worth.

Finding yourself in this evil world is difficult, yet, you have to build yourself, create your morals, and discover how to be that person that is deserving of love. Still, no matter where you fall in your journey to self-love, know that it can only be led by one person, and that is YOU. Do not let other people create the trail to the path that leads to your discovery of self-love because if they do, it will become impossible to obtain the love you are deserving of.

I hope that one day everyone will learn to accept and love themselves for who they are. Self-love is a journey of constant learning, and it doesn’t come with instruction or direction. It is more than just one little puzzle piece; it a combination of many and each unique piece represents a part of 'Who You Are' so, you can learn to love yourself every single day.

You cannot let somebody else obtain the power to walk in and out of your lives to take so much of you. You need to know how damaging it can be to have your happiness and well-being depending on external circumstances or are in someone's else hands. Know that until you decide to get to know your self; take responsibility for your decisions you will never be able to love yourself.

If you're currently allowing yourself to encounter an existence less than what you deserve, know that until you learned to embrace self-love, and understand your value, stop living less than you earn, your life will be like building a house with no foundation. It is essential to recognize and appreciate 'Who you are,' embrace your beautiful qualities and love your imperfections and find the beauty in loving your self.

"Love yourself." means you have the choice to do what you love or to live your life your way. You can live-your-life, love-yourself and say yes to the possibilities even though other people may not approve of your decisions.

To truly love yourself — inside and out, you must learn to love the skin you in, accept and take advantage of the limitless opportunities available to you and believe in your vision.

"Love" is a potent drug. When you feel it, it can hit you really hard. It can give you the feeling it is delaying time, making it seem like the entire world is still except for you two.

If you heard of this self-help proverb: We need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. Consequently, the first step to loving yourself is to let yourself become disconnected from the world and know what you deserve and like what you do.

On my journey to learning about myself and work on self-love, I realized I am a constant work in progress and several significant truths that still resonate with me and support my particular effort.

To assist you to gain more perspective and have a territory on which to begin your journey of self-love, here are five truths to remember:

1. Never compare yourself to another person. People gain success and fail at different rates.

2. It's okay to spend time alone. Sometimes it's better to be alone well worth time spent to learn to love yourself

3. Enjoy life, smile more. The happier you are, and the more you laugh and enjoy life, it's easier to learn to love yourself.

4. Find something in life at, which makes you feel complete and you can excel. Knowing what makes you feel whole help you to love yourself.

5. Take care of you and your body, exercise because it is good for your soul and will assist you to appreciate your body. When you look and feel good, you can love who you are inside and out.

The beautiful late Legend, Ms. Whitney Houston echoed in a song, “The Greatest Love of All” sharing with all when you learn to love yourself, it is the greatest love of all.

Learning to Love Yourself!

I love myself as much as I want my soulmate to love me, and you should do the same, do you agree?

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    • Robsthe1 profile image

      Robert Walker 12 months ago from Atlanta, GA.

      I always enjoy your articles Pam and... DITTO!! ;-)

    • Pam Morris profile image

      Pam Morris 12 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Hi, Robert, long time since I heard from you. Good to hear from you. I especially love hearing Yes! I love myself and you, Robert Thank you for stopping by.

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      Robert Walker 12 months ago from Atlanta, GA.

      Yes Pam, Yes!!!

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      Pam Morris 12 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Thank you so much, Shyron, for your reply. I am happy to know you love yourself and you are your best friend. It may sound strange, but many do not know how to love themselves. It is important to love yourself before you can love someone else.

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      Shyron E Shenko 12 months ago from Texas

      Pam, interesting article and yes, I do love myself. I am my best friend.

      Blessings my friend


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